So in middle and high school I used to have this “trans phase” I guess, but I decided I didn’t care enough and tried harder to be womanly? idk it hasn’t really bothered me until I went to visit my parents, my mom decorated the basement like my childhood bedroom and set out a bunch of clothes I might want and one of those things was my chest binder. I put it on just for shits and giggles, but I really really liked how I looked with a flat chest. But then I was kinda upset when I took it off. Now when I look in the mirror I just wanna cry.

I’m 23 now and it’s been 8 years since I detransitioned. I’ve tried so hard to forget those feelings, but I’m not even sure why. I was my happiest despite not even being fully out. I’m feeling 8 years of dysphoria all at once. It feels so completely awful but freeing? At least I have adult money and don’t have to hide from my family anymore.

I’ve been living a 3sizes too small binder for almost a week. I’ve also bought some masculine clothes at goodwill yesterday and haven’t taken off one of the sweaters since I washed it. I just got my haircut three weeks ago and now I want it even shorter.

I feel so stupid for delaying something that could’ve been great.

It’s been a rough few days and I’m not feeling great. Is there any way yall could give me some ggd or just use fem pronouns? (Emma)
Love you

So I’m working on the steps to get my vagina, but I keep thinking about what is it like to pee with a vagina? I mean I know conceptually but I just want to hear other girls opinions on this because embarrassingly I’m kind of excited to pee with a vagina.

I'm going in for some grippy socks to make sure the world isn't 1 trans woman less. If you're struggling, please reach out. We can't afford to lose a single one of us. I'm only here because of my friends but I'm staying to keep up the fight.

You're all loved and wanted here. Stay safe everyone

I can't say it here even though i'm not the one with blood on my hands, but comedian Bill Hicks already said what needed to be said about people who work in marketing and advertising. Yes marketing and advertising people at Reddit that is for you for being complicit in genocide. Reddit has blood on their hands.

For context: cyberpunk 2077 has a trans character in it. And the moderators of r/cyberpunkgame decided to ban posts about said trans character and trans folk in general so they wouldn’t have to filter out hate speech. Aka: so they wouldn’t have to do the job they volunteered to do. They then walked back the rule after huge backlash from the subreddit… and then removed and banned the one mod that spoke out against the rule for “going against them” and they’re still removing trans-related posts and posts talking about the incident. And they changed the banner and sub icon to pander to LGBTQ+ folk and pretend that nothing happened. Like absolute cowards.

In an age where media about trans folk and trans people in general are censored. I think it’s understandable why people like myself were so pissed… well… some gonks flooded the comment sections and told us to “shut up” “ugh this so annoying!” “It’s not that deep bro” “they’re mods they should be allowed to regulate the subreddit how ever they want!” “Go touch some grass!” “Both sides are cringe lol” “you’re making this about yourselves” “such virtue signaling”!

Those gonks, the ones who are telling us to shut up… are the reason we should be loud.

I know that it may sound so strange but the fact that I realised that I am a girl, and started planning my future as one makes me feel happy, despite the fact that I haven't come out of the closet yet. Have you experienced the same thing?

I was talking to a friend who said that her company moved her from sales to a pre sales support role after her transition. She suspects it's because of her transition and that many of the company's clients are based in the Middle East or conservative Asian countries.

Her role was client facing, meeting face to face, going on teams calls with the camera on. The reduced role is an indication that they want her to leave. So she's been searching for a way to get out but without much luck.

I'm just thinking back like we see trans girls in internal/support/non delivery roles like HR, Payroll, Compliance, Project support, IT but it's rare to hear about them being the ones travelling in business class to drive client engagement or securing deals.

I don’t know how to say it or who to talk to, but I’m ready to admit to myself that I am not the man I’ve been pretending to be my whole life. I’ve had to copy men for years and imitate their styles and habits. I’ve masked for so long it feels like it’s too late. The only place I allowed myself to be me was in video games, I always chose a female character and would use every excuse under the book, smaller hit box, nicer avatar to look at, etc. But I’m tired of hiding and pretending to be anything that I’m not. I’m a woman and I want to begin HRT and become the woman that I’ve always had hiding within.

I started estrogen a day ago, I take the spray specifically.

I have to do 2 sprays per 12 hours, so twice a day to be exact. I have this odd feeling of feeling...a bit more bigger on the stomach? It's like noticeably slighter more bigger.

When does it stop becoming bloated? How do I make it normal again? I'm starting to drink a good amount of water and eat potassium foods such as banana.

Hopefully I didnt do a mistake. I'm starting to panic a bit. 😵‍💫

I (14 mtf) don't want my jaw to look masculine, please tell me it stays the same.

I already feel horrible about my body hair and shoulders, I don't want my jaw to be masculine.

This is moreso a copy from the r/lgbtq subreddit because i already posted this there. Im posting it here too, i guess im just hoping someone comments sooner. I dont want any of you to go over there or anything, just wanted to post this here too.

Heres the rest:

I told my family I'm trans. I feel so much dread. I need help to calm down.

Apologies in advance. Im just very distressed. I want someone with more experience with this stuff to help me.

I wanted to add a content flair but i dont know how to edit them, so HUGE trigger warning:

Confessing the want to transition and it not going well.

Basically, yesturday i finally burst after 20 years on this earth and confessed i am probably a trans man. If you look at my past posts I usually potray myself as a woman, but thats not entirely true. I never felt like one.

I made two posts on a few lgbtq+ and ftm subreddits but i deleted them for some privacy reasons.

My dad doesnt know (thank god) but my mom and brother know everything now. My brother said he would support me.

He told me that i dont know what its like to be a man and that he will help me. He said he'd help get me a job with some manual work so i can get the idea of being a man and, after 3 working years, if i still wanted to transition, he would support me and go with me to appointments if im scared. Ive never been more greatful for him in my life. Im so unbelievably happy for that.

Im not happy about my mother. For her it went badly. She wouldn't believe me, she doesn't understand.

She kept talking about how i have 'complexes' in my head and how she doesnt understand becaude im a 'healthy girl as god made me.'

She first tried to push that i had 'complexes' in my head.

Then called it deranged.

Then told me i was wrong.

Then she told me she felt like she was sgonna keel over (she has a lot of health and heart problems so this isn't that unusual)

Then said she hoped i go through with a transition just so i will regret it later. (I cried hardest at that)

Then cried and went "where did i go wrong?"

My brother calmed her down and told her that its not the end of the world and how 'she(aka me) didn't confess she was a drug dealer or anything'.

After that she started asking me questions, if i was 'sure', to i guess understand how i felt. Then she started doing hypotheticals.

"What if we went to a psychiatrist and he told you this is because of your complexes?"

"What if we went there and he told you to take girl hormones instead?" (English is not either of our first language. You get the picture)

"I know you said you denied it thinking youre a masculine woman, i want you to deny it saying youre a WOMAN, period. It might work"

I got upset and begged her to stop and accept that what im saying might be true. She got mad and told me i wasnt accepting the possibility that it might not be because i have a 'huge ego' and 'always push for me-me-me'.

I will admit, i do have a huge ego. Im as stubborn as a mule. But im tired of this. I can see it in her eyes that shes desperately begging for this to be a phase, for this to just be because of my hormone imbalance. Ive felt this way as far as i can remember and i highly doubt it. I will admit shes right about everything else, but not this. This is a hill i will die on.

I slept beside her that night (my dad works night shifts) because she was stressed and i didnt want her to be alone. She only slept two hours and she said she was fine, but i doubt it.

I thought i would finally feel relief telling her. I know she loves me and i know shes just worried, but i feel nothing but dread.

As im typing this, and for the last few minutes, ive just been pacing around the room. I want my big brother here but hes at work. I havent eaten anything and i dont have the appetite to. I dont know what to do. I feel such a sense of dread and doom and dispair, even knowing that my confession went over a lot better than other peoples confessions would have.

Please someone help me or comfort me or do something. I dont know if this is the sub for this. I just feel so alone right now. Im a recluse but now i feel such a strong urge to leave the house and never return, but i know thats stupid.

I mean really, is it even possible to get a job, as trans? I recently discovered that I am a trans woman, and I am afraid that I will end up on the street. I have always had big plans in my life, and I was making a great effort to achieve them, but now I wonder if it is even possible, especially in this transphobic world. So is it possible to get a job as a trans woman? I am scared. I would love to hear some stories from more experienced trans people.

My religious parents are gonna let me socially transition! They have a lot of reservations especially around hrt (i don’t qualify for it yet where I live anyways) so I want know how I can maximize looking feminine or androgynous without hrt. Thanks in advance!

Really? Really? in 2026, your system has no mechanism to change my name from Estelle to James? It's been shocking how many companies - big ones! - either don't have a simple process for it or can't make the change at all.

I don't want to casually out myself at the gym - is that too much to ask for? apparently.

eta 1: before this post, I replied to the LA Fitness agent and told them "that will be an issue" and offered a copy of the court order. Idk what Washington state law is about this but I'll be looking that up. I'll edit again when I have an update.

Their system (at the level of basic support) will only allow them to change the last name.

I can't create a new account for myself. When my local gym closed, they sold all our accounts to LA Fitness with the stipulation that our membership fee doesn't change and we get no annual fee. $20/mo in Seattle, y'all, at a gym I can easily reach by bus/walk to because I don't have a car.

This name change is 2 years old, and it's not my first or even second legal name change. I am familiar with the process and the headache of updating it everywhere.

This was a vent, not a request for help. See the flair.

I 18m. Am planning on expirementing with my gender and whatnot and I'm probably some variation of trans fem or nonbinary or gender fluid or something. I just told my sister and as she's like the one person I could go to to help with this sort of thing (my mom is conservative Christian) and I'm not sure how to ask. I just got off the phone with my sister and I wanted to ask but also was worried? She accepted me of course but also I just don't know how to ask her for help.

So this is my intro so yall can know me!

My pronouns are he/they!

My trans name is Adrian!

Please respect that or I'll kindly ask you not to interact with me..

Have a good day/night/morning/evening!! <3

So I recently got a GP referral to the above and was wondering what people’s experiences of it have been? I know the wait times are long and I will likely head down the private route to get myself started. I am NB so I plan not to conform to a solid this or that in my presentation, though I am seeking feminising HRT in terms of how I need my body to look and feel.

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Hi, I want to share something I’m dealing with. My roommate is outing me to people in the asylum center as gossip.

All three of us (me, my roommate, and the other guy) are asylum seekers. I’m 23M, my roommate is 27M, and the other guy is 42M.

A guy on my floor messaged me on Grindr. I ignored him because I’m not interested, and I didn’t block him because I was afraid he’d confront me in person. 

Then my roommate told this guy that I like him, “as a joke.” I don’t.

My roommate also outed me as trans to him, even though I had asked him not to out me to anyone.

After that, the guy told my roommate that since I am very young and small, sex is going to be very good. He also asked for my number from him.

The next morning I asked my roommate, and he said he hadn’t told anyone. But that night he admitted he told him. I think he told others too. He lies a lot, then says he’s joking.

He apologized a few days later, but then said he sometimes calls himself trans, and posted a WhatsApp story titled “Trans.” He says outing is not a big deal, and that he’s not a real trans person, he just likes to call himself that sometimes. I feel like he is mocking my gender identity. He calls himself trans to make it look like I am being a bad person here.

Am I overreacting? What would you do?

So, this is a tough post to write. I’m 25, officially graduated from college and was in the midst of learning how to be trans outside of the safety net of the college bubble where I felt I was in a environment of acceptance with other trans folks. I have my own apartment and was excited and finally learning how to be independent in a really fun queer-friendly city.

However, my mom has Multiple Myeloma (a blood cancer) and is at a point where she is choosing to go into hospice. I have a complex relationship with her, the older I get the more I understand her choices and fears regarding my identity and she has done so much for me especially as a single mother. But she has also said a lot of things throughout the years that have hurt me deeply and I tried to have a conversation with her to help her be able to see me for who I am, especially considering the circumstance. But, she‘s informed me she’s never changing her mind.

She has days to weeks to live. I know I just need to give her as much support and comfort as possible. I shouldn’t have even brought it up, considering everything. She wants me to break my lease and move back home to be her caregiver along with my stepdad. Considering my current financial situation, it would be a huge relief. My student loans are through the roof and I can’t even afford health insurance.

But through it all both her and my stepdad are deadnaming and misgendering me. I also will have to get rid of my cat as she doesn’t get along with my childhood cats and if I can’t afford her, it’s better for her to be with someone who can take care of her. I know I need to grow up and take on these responsibilities, mostly because I still love my mom so much. She can still be so kind as she’s offering to take on the finances of helping get out of my apartment. But, I’m afraid of the environment I’ll inherit once she’s gone. it’ll just be me and my stepdad of 2 years who I barely know in this house once she’s gone. I want to be there for her and my own issues feel a little selfish, I need this chance to be able to get back on my feet financially and I want to remain true to myself through it all. I just hate how complicated this all is.

TLDR; How do you deal with caring for and still loving a transphobic parent who’s dying?

(M?23)

Sometimes I wonder if I'm pretending to be Trans just so I can feel special or maybe I'm just a perv because I wish I could fit into certain clothes. I can't confidently say I'm trans to others because I don't look nor have I voiced frustration and discomfort about it. I'm technically a male since that's what my family got and wanted me to be a best example of a man ever, but I'm changing. I feel like I always had a niche for wanting to be another person, someone beautiful and cute, but I don't pass as such.

I don't know enough people who are trans to help me, and I rather not mention this phase with my friends and family who might mistake me for delusional.

I could be crazy, maybe stupid for trying. I have weight I need to drop; I’m not incredibly fat but still chubby I can't fit into anything feminine. I don't put enough effort to shave and even managing my body, besides the gym. I can't consider HRT out of fear and non-negotiable circumstances. I do wanna come off as spelling disaster, just I'm confused with myself and my feelings.

One of my friends convinced me to transition online first due to my real life situation (explained in my previous post). I want to do that, I know my friends wont mind, but it just feels strange? I guess, im not sure how to properly word it. I feel like I want to be a woman, not that I currently am I woman. I really want to transition and I know starting online is best for me, but, I dont know. I just wanted to know if anyone else felt like this and has some advice

So im not at a weight that I want to be at and iv been losing weight almost 30lbs now. But Im realizing that this probably going against some of the hrt stuff I want like breast growth? I keep seeing general advice for boob growth to be eat protein rich and fatty foods while on prog. And like makes sense but like I cant do that often when being in a cal deficit. So like would my best course of action to be getting down to what first then doing that kind of advice??