Ive been sat here thinking of all the things i have/want to pay for simply for being transgender.
Needs such as; £30 a month on trans tape, £50 every 5-6 months on hrt, £50 for new binders etc. and wants such as; £102 for a name change to passport, £80 on packers and harnesses, etc. Its so draining having to pay for these when cis people dont, especially when sometimes i cant afford tape which means i avoid going out or ill get told off for wearing jumpers in lessons at college. Im paying for these things to make my life easier because i have a medical condition. isnt that what pip is for? having autism i used to get dla and that’s exactly what it was for, for my mum to use for things i needed to make our lives easier because i was born with a mental disability. im wondering why trans people aren’t allowed to claim such things ? obviously i know why with how trans people are treated by government and society but ive just thought it seems like something that should be allowed. And i know ill have people reply saying but being trans isnt a disability, its not, however it is a medical condition and that is what pip is for according to the gov.uk website.

just a thought but was also wondering has anyone heard of anyone who tried to claim for this?

I dont know why, i feel some kind of indifference to trans women. And i want to change. I speculate because I have seen some hate towards trans mascs from them (not all of them, very few) and because all the statistics are on them. In a way, that they get all the hate, and we’re left in the dark, kind of a weird feeling that i don’t quite understand. Maybe its because I know a trans girl who i am quite indifferent towards due to the way she acts. I’m not quite sure. Probably the erasure of trans men, that they say to protect trans women and leave us in the dark like we don’t get hate too.

Anyway, whatever it might be, i dont want to feel this way, i dont want to be divided. I love y’all.

How do i stop feeling this way

Ps. Please do not come at me calling me an asshole for this, i did not ask to feel this way, this feeling pisses me off, i want to be more compassionate not self absorbed.

Rececntly my egg broke. It hurts saying it because it feels like parts of me r lagging behind. I rmr since i was a kid i was very into desires of dyeing my hair or piercings or tattoos, to the point where it hurt that i couldnt be like that. Also obsessed with like js my body changing in general. I rmr crying because it wasnt possible and then from there on avoiding it.

Then I came to the conclusion that I am non binary, and the same INSANE joy and amazing floaty feeling came with it, and I tried out a new name which ik ive wanted since b4 and They/Them pronouns. It felt so good i cried once or twice.

But now the feelings gone and everything hurts. Its like for a brief moment sm1 dangled the like secret to life in front of my face and now every second feels like torture. My mental healths gotten worse. All in the span of one month. I have no one to talk to. I really don't. For most things in my life. I really want sm1 to talk to so badly. I wanna be able to live outside of my dreams so badly.

So if any1 has any tips on how to last (Im 18) and how to get on hrt or find ppl that genuinely care id love it pls. Esp communities that r active like discord. Im closeted and a dropout in a conservative muslim family. So anything would help. Please.

I’ve been male presenting my whole life. When I was around 11 or 12, I started wanting to wear women’s clothes. Around that time I also started coming up with imaginary stories about myself, in which I’d always be female. I even started drawing pictures of myself as a female at one point (I cant remember how old I was)

For the past few years, I’ve started becoming attracted to transgender women, which has been confusing, as I’ve always thought of myself as straight. This week, I went out and started shopping for women’s clothing, and I found it incredibly exciting. I’m still confused about what it means. I’m not sure if I’m just a man who is attracted to crossdressing, of if I need to be asking more serious questions about my sexuality. Any advice is welcome!

So my mom asked me after a long day at work so I was already exhausted if I was going to vote, im not big on politics (dont ask which side I am I dont care) and asked her what believes the sides have, she said some things but the thing that still stuck was trans was a mental illness, so later I in the night I made a list on experiments I did to see if i was trans or not, I like to feel data when doing things, if I dont see data I dont believe so I listed put my experiments, like skirt, bras, breast forms, pronouns, etc, i have no idea if ill need to use it, but ill add more, and to be fair ill try to make a list on whu in not trams (there are none, why i dont know normal emotions, adhd, autism, and repression), just needed it out, also my mom is the same person who said no judgment when she found my panties, so theres slightly confusing messages, alright, have a good night you pretty and handsome people

Where I live for a very long time the age for hrt was 16 and I turned 16 recently so I obviously wanted to get on testosterone but they've fucking changed the rules and you have to be 18 now. I'm so pissed.

Hey, so I (19 MtF) am at a hard decision, and I could use some advice. I'm currently in college (trying to graduate this year, but I've been so sick this semester I don't know if that's happening) in Los Angeles, and I met someone in June. One thing led to another, and we've been happily dating since then. They're such a lovely person, really into geology, and such a sweetheart too. I love them with every fiber of my being. I've met their parents and I really got along with them. Overall, I'm happy about our relationship. However, there's something I really want to do and I don't know what to do about it. I want to take them to meet my parents.

Problem is that I'm from Idaho (and not even Boise -- about 25 miles west of it in the boonies.) If you've even lightly been following the state of trans rights in this country these past 6 years, that should tell you what exactly the problem is. Idaho is about as much of a conservative shithole as there is in this damn country, and there are legal and safety risks coming here. Boise itself has non-discrimination ordinances, but anywhere outside of it is a no-man's land. I kinda don't have a choice in going back, but being a binary trans woman with everything legally changed (and a good degree of passability, even if not beauty) does grant me some more security in terms of this stuff actually effecting me. My partner is transfeminine non-binary with a name-changed Californian ID and an X marker. Furthermore, they're a lot physically weaker than me, so I don't know if they could protect themselves in the places I can't be should shit go south.

My family is (relatively) accepting, if slightly uneducated. Mom's about the most informed and Dad hasn't given me shit for being trans. Grandpa's also been decent to me, but my Grandma's still deep in the cult. She can't really do much of anything though because she's too old and she tends to hold her mouth around guests to my knowledge. My family can't come down to LA though -- my dad's got too many health issues to fly, and the highways (US 95, US 93, and I-15) are all snow-filled nightmares that either require chains or are closed at that time of year.

There's just so much I want to do with them in Idaho, but I don't know how or if it's even safe enough to take the risk. I want to take them to all the local restaurants, to see the Caldwell Christmas Lights, to meet my family, maybe celebrate my birthday in January, all of it. It's just... all in Idaho. I was thinking of trying to have them visit during Christmas Break (although not for Christmas itself) so that they could see me during that big 5-week gap, should they be willing.

Is it worth it? How do I keep them safe if they do decide to come?

i watched a tikky tokky about monster being a bad drink but i thought, hmm, i like monster. But the thing is, i havent drunk all that many monster flavours, EXCEPT mango loco, white, and the pink ones. I got reminded of that when i opened the comments to see a pic of the monster flavours i have drank arranged as a pride flag, and ive dressed up before and regularly shave body hair. soo am i trans?

I am AMAB. Whenever I wear female items (dress/heels), I feel sexually excited.
I have a similar reaction when I see females wearing heels/dresses that I would find nice to wear.
On social media, whenever I see certain body shapes (ex: slim arms,etc) that I don’t have, I really wish I had them.
I also would want to act like a girl (ex: feminine behaviors) in a social setting but I don’t want to be that forever? IDK.

It’s been a rough few days and I’m not feeling great. Is there any way yall could give me some ggd or just use fem pronouns? (Emma)
Love you

So in middle and high school I used to have this “trans phase” I guess, but I decided I didn’t care enough and tried harder to be womanly? idk it hasn’t really bothered me until I went to visit my parents, my mom decorated the basement like my childhood bedroom and set out a bunch of clothes I might want and one of those things was my chest binder. I put it on just for shits and giggles, but I really really liked how I looked with a flat chest. But then I was kinda upset when I took it off. Now when I look in the mirror I just wanna cry.

I’m 23 now and it’s been 8 years since I detransitioned. I’ve tried so hard to forget those feelings, but I’m not even sure why. I was my happiest despite not even being fully out. I’m feeling 8 years of dysphoria all at once. It feels so completely awful but freeing? At least I have adult money and don’t have to hide from my family anymore.

I’ve been living a 3sizes too small binder for almost a week. I’ve also bought some masculine clothes at goodwill yesterday and haven’t taken off one of the sweaters since I washed it. I just got my haircut three weeks ago and now I want it even shorter.

I feel so stupid for delaying something that could’ve been great.

So I’m working on the steps to get my vagina, but I keep thinking about what is it like to pee with a vagina? I mean I know conceptually but I just want to hear other girls opinions on this because embarrassingly I’m kind of excited to pee with a vagina.

For context: cyberpunk 2077 has a trans character in it. And the moderators of r/cyberpunkgame decided to ban posts about said trans character and trans folk in general so they wouldn’t have to filter out hate speech. Aka: so they wouldn’t have to do the job they volunteered to do. They then walked back the rule after huge backlash from the subreddit… and then removed and banned the one mod that spoke out against the rule for “going against them” and they’re still removing trans-related posts and posts talking about the incident. And they changed the banner and sub icon to pander to LGBTQ+ folk and pretend that nothing happened. Like absolute cowards.

In an age where media about trans folk and trans people in general are censored. I think it’s understandable why people like myself were so pissed… well… some gonks flooded the comment sections and told us to “shut up” “ugh this so annoying!” “It’s not that deep bro” “they’re mods they should be allowed to regulate the subreddit how ever they want!” “Go touch some grass!” “Both sides are cringe lol” “you’re making this about yourselves” “such virtue signaling”!

Those gonks, the ones who are telling us to shut up… are the reason we should be loud.

I can't say it here even though i'm not the one with blood on my hands, but comedian Bill Hicks already said what needed to be said about people who work in marketing and advertising. Yes marketing and advertising people at Reddit that is for you for being complicit in genocide. Reddit has blood on their hands.

My religious parents are gonna let me socially transition! They have a lot of reservations especially around hrt (i don’t qualify for it yet where I live anyways) so I want know how I can maximize looking feminine or androgynous without hrt. Thanks in advance!

I mean really, is it even possible to get a job, as trans? I recently discovered that I am a trans woman, and I am afraid that I will end up on the street. I have always had big plans in my life, and I was making a great effort to achieve them, but now I wonder if it is even possible, especially in this transphobic world. So is it possible to get a job as a trans woman? I am scared. I would love to hear some stories from more experienced trans people.

I'm going in for some grippy socks to make sure the world isn't 1 trans woman less. If you're struggling, please reach out. We can't afford to lose a single one of us. I'm only here because of my friends but I'm staying to keep up the fight.

You're all loved and wanted here. Stay safe everyone

So, this is a tough post to write. I’m 25, officially graduated from college and was in the midst of learning how to be trans outside of the safety net of the college bubble where I felt I was in a environment of acceptance with other trans folks. I have my own apartment and was excited and finally learning how to be independent in a really fun queer-friendly city.

However, my mom has Multiple Myeloma (a blood cancer) and is at a point where she is choosing to go into hospice. I have a complex relationship with her, the older I get the more I understand her choices and fears regarding my identity and she has done so much for me especially as a single mother. But she has also said a lot of things throughout the years that have hurt me deeply and I tried to have a conversation with her to help her be able to see me for who I am, especially considering the circumstance. But, she‘s informed me she’s never changing her mind.

She has days to weeks to live. I know I just need to give her as much support and comfort as possible. I shouldn’t have even brought it up, considering everything. She wants me to break my lease and move back home to be her caregiver along with my stepdad. Considering my current financial situation, it would be a huge relief. My student loans are through the roof and I can’t even afford health insurance.

But through it all both her and my stepdad are deadnaming and misgendering me. I also will have to get rid of my cat as she doesn’t get along with my childhood cats and if I can’t afford her, it’s better for her to be with someone who can take care of her. I know I need to grow up and take on these responsibilities, mostly because I still love my mom so much. She can still be so kind as she’s offering to take on the finances of helping get out of my apartment. But, I’m afraid of the environment I’ll inherit once she’s gone. it’ll just be me and my stepdad of 2 years who I barely know in this house once she’s gone. I want to be there for her and my own issues feel a little selfish, I need this chance to be able to get back on my feet financially and I want to remain true to myself through it all. I just hate how complicated this all is.

TLDR; How do you deal with caring for and still loving a transphobic parent who’s dying?

I was talking to a friend who said that her company moved her from sales to a pre sales support role after her transition. She suspects it's because of her transition and that many of the company's clients are based in the Middle East or conservative Asian countries.

Her role was client facing, meeting face to face, going on teams calls with the camera on. The reduced role is an indication that they want her to leave. So she's been searching for a way to get out but without much luck.

I'm just thinking back like we see trans girls in internal/support/non delivery roles like HR, Payroll, Compliance, Project support, IT but it's rare to hear about them being the ones travelling in business class to drive client engagement or securing deals.

I 18m. Am planning on expirementing with my gender and whatnot and I'm probably some variation of trans fem or nonbinary or gender fluid or something. I just told my sister and as she's like the one person I could go to to help with this sort of thing (my mom is conservative Christian) and I'm not sure how to ask. I just got off the phone with my sister and I wanted to ask but also was worried? She accepted me of course but also I just don't know how to ask her for help.

So im not at a weight that I want to be at and iv been losing weight almost 30lbs now. But Im realizing that this probably going against some of the hrt stuff I want like breast growth? I keep seeing general advice for boob growth to be eat protein rich and fatty foods while on prog. And like makes sense but like I cant do that often when being in a cal deficit. So like would my best course of action to be getting down to what first then doing that kind of advice??