I LOVE oral sex, it's the best thing ever! but I broke up with my boyfriend 2 weeks ago, and he was a REAL EATER he would make me finish so good and he loved being down there, and I don't know what im gonna do without my oral sex, like I need that to fucking live, but I don't want to have sex, I just want my pussy to be eaten :(. I always have been with eaters, but now I want to take my time from another relationship because I did really love my ex boyfriend, but I love more oral sex, so what do I do???

I love going down on my wife and no matter what we do when we have sex cunnilingus is always part of it. Sometimes it's all we do. It's the only way I can make her cum and I love making her and her orgasm the focus when we have sex. I get so into going down on her that sometimes I feel like I'm going to cum just from eating her pussy without any stimulation on my dick. I've come really close but never been able to get all the way there.

But a few days ago it finally happened... Sort of. I felt kind of overwhelmed and this really intense feeling build as I was going down on her and eventually my body started trembling and I was moaning... While still licking... Like I was having the best orgasm ever. I like felt it in my entire body more than in my dick. It definitely felt like an orgasm but not like any orgasm I was used to... If that makes sense. But the weird thing is I didn't actually cum. There was no ejaculation. So it felt like an orgasm, but the feeling wasn't in my dick, and there was no actual cum, so did I actually have an orgasm?

So me M(20) and my partner F(26) have been dating for a while, around 3 months. I've only had a previous relationship and we were both virgins (it was a messy first time)+it wasnt a very deep connection.

The issue that im having is that she is way to "active", at first it wasn't a big issue, since i really enjoyed but I could tell she wasn't really satisfied. So the next time I wanked it before and I broke the 20 mins barrier with her.

Im having issues writing this since english isn't my first language and its a weird topic to talk about at least for me.

The issue is that im not really enjoying our encounters. I wouldn't have a problem if it weren't a recurrent issue, but wenever we do it I have to do my best to satisfy her. I dont know anything about girls sex drive, but I think her cuming 6 times in a row is a lot? Idk.

Every single day we end up doing it, if not physically, then we do it via call. It honestly feels like a job rn, i never thought I would be in this situation. She is really hot and turns me on, but I just cannot keep up with her.

I just want to know if this is normal girl behavior or she just has a really big libido. I feel drained and exhausted but I really love her. Should I tell her or maybe its just bc we are on a 'honeymoon' phase.

I‘ve (29,F) been with my bf (27, M) for three months now and the sex is just … disappointing for most of the time.

Sex is very important for me and I have a very high libido but after a toxic long-term relationship based on amazing sex, I‘ve realized that there are far more important things to look for in a guy.

Anyway, everything with this guy is great except the sex. He knows that he‘s not the best, he wants to communicate and asks me all the time what l like. The problem is that I feel like he just can‘t feel my body and can‘t figure out what I like except if I don‘t specifically tell him. I‘ve never been in such a situation and I‘m getting tired of being asked “what do you wanna do now“ while having sex. We’re at the point where I keep explaining how I want to be fingered and try to put a normal rhythm to thrusts. I want to just be finally fucked properly without having to orchestrate the whole thing. A couple of times we have had great sex that I‘d be okay to live with but he can‘t seem to do this every time.

He‘d been in two long term relationships before me and has slept around while being single (he‘s pretty handsome) and I‘m thinking that someone before me must have also tried to teach him some things but failed.

So my question for y‘all - have any of you managed to teach a partner how to be good in bed through communication?

So I've recently become sexually active with my girlfriend, and after we do it every time it gets super messy, especially down there. First off it makes me like literally soaked down there, as well as on other parts since she squirts a lot, and she also is on bc and doesn't want me pulling out and so it gets us both messy in that regard too.

How do I clean up without having a shower like ready on standby? Because sometimes I have to just like put clothes back on even when I'm super messy

Basically I bought a dildo cause I wanted to go a step further from fingering but the issue is that I can only get it in when sitting and with my knees bent. And that’s literally the only way, I’ve tried trying to sit on it I can’t, lying on my back knees bent I can’t, sideways can’t, like literally nothing but sitting down on my butt with my knees bent.

And what I don’t understand is that it doesn’t hurt at all, it doesn’t feel tense or nothinggg when I’m sitting, like it literally slides in and out easily. Zero issue since the first time I tried it.

HOWEVER, as soon as I try to do anything else like laying down it’s impossible, like there’s a wall blocking and the pain is SHARP and horrible.

If anyone has any help I would be so thankful lol

Hi!

Me and my bf have been together for 3 yrs. For the first 1.5yrs something, the sex was vanilla. After that we had a dry patch and the sexual intimacy was dead for good 7-8 months because we both were going through something.

Now, we started rejuvenating our sexual intimacy.. we tried roleplays, different positions, etc and it's been going good.

I always had this kink of being someone's submissive and we have tried some of it like he slapping me, spanking me, taking it rough but it's not giving it. I mean I do enjoy it but, it's not close to what I want. I feel he's hesitant to do it.. I asked him couple of times do you want to do this and he said yes but, he says that I become a bit hesitant because you're my gf

I asked him to talk to me dirty, humiliate me through his words and actions, tease me but, he says he doesn't know how to do that.. he is trying though..

My question was how do you actually start this submissive thing? How to start soft bdsm?

Please give some ideas and inspirations.

so im shy when it comes to initiate sex with my bf, i dont really start by kissing or touching him because im too embarrassed to do this even tho in the act itself we are kinky and not shy. the way i start it or more like signaling it is by zoomies, i get all hyperactive and start to bite him, tickle and etc, at this point he knows what i want and he mentioned ways to start it without the zoomies and im still shy. so im not sure how to do it without feeling goofy by trying to look sexy..

A little under a year ago, I asked for advice here on how to reach an orgasm. I’m a 21 (almost 22) year-old woman. I have a boyfriend, and we are in a long-term, trusting relationship. We’ve been sexually active together for about a year and a half to two years. I really enjoy having sex and doing other intimate things with him, and he feels the same.

But around that time, we ran into an issue: I have never had an orgasm. Not by myself, and not with him. This wasn't a problem for me before. I would just masturbate as much as I wanted until I got tired or felt more or less satisfied. But then he brought the topic up, and gradually, I started wanting to experience it too.

I’ve read and watched a lot of information. I realized that I can only reach peak sensations with my boyfriend, usually when he stimulates me both internally and externally (clitoris) at the same time. Over this past year, my sensations have gone up to a 9/10 (if 10 is an orgasm). Before, it was around a 7 or 8.

I feel something incredible building up inside. I feel an intense desire. (For me, the peak is also associated with a feeling like something is right about to gush or spill out of my vagina). But I just can't finish. Always, right at the moment of the most intense sensation, I ask him to stop or I stop him myself.

We tried a mutually agreed-upon scenario where he would keep going until I finished, even if I asked him to stop or tried to pull away. But that didn't work either. Even then, right at the peak, I somehow managed to squirm away and move his hands. I just don't understand how to remove this block and learn how to cum.

The block happens at the exact moments when it feels overwhelmingly good. It feels so good that I can't take it, I can't help but stop such intense pleasure. Mentally, it seems I just can't step over this barrier. We are trying to help me overcome this, but it worries me a bit that almost a year has passed and little has changed.

I was also advised to monitor my breathing, as we figured out that during peak moments I was holding my breath and running out of air. I seem to have handled that now and I don't hold my breath anymore :)

The options we have left are: just keep trying the same way so I learn to push this boundary further, alcohol, or maybe bondage. We did try tying my hands once, but from the sensory overload and not knowing what to do with myself, I ended up scratching my arms with my nails and biting my lips.

I really don’t want to resort to alcohol because I’m afraid that if I can only do it drunk, I won’t be able to do it sober. With bondage, I don't know how to release all that physical tension. Moaning and crying out just aren't enough (plus, I feel bad for his neighbors). I have learned to get more pleasure from masturbating on my own, but it's still nowhere near the level I get with my boyfriend.

I don't want to buy toys because storing them at my place isn't an option, and I want to learn how to achieve this without them. Also, I think it would be difficult for me because I might get scared of even newer, more intense sensations.

What can I do to get past this block? Has anyone experienced this?

I (21f) and my partner (21m) have been together for many years, and have an amazing relationship, I really can’t complain at all, he’s a wonderful partner and also my best friend. I’ve known this for so long but generally I realize that I don’t do much during our intimacy. When it comes down to sex, I just lay there and let him do the work, always. He tells me that it’s enough and he enjoys that, and so do I, but I am afraid that I’m not putting effort into it because I don’t know how. I don’t think I’m horrible at sex, I’m flexible, I know how to position myself for him and myself, and I would say we both enjoy it, but when it comes down to effort, I think he does most of the work. Ladies and men, any tips or suggestions are welcome! 🤗

I (22M) don't even know where to begin, when I was a teen, I used to masturbate quite frequently without an issue, thinking that the urge to do it was normal at my age and that it would eventually fade away with age or that I would reach sexual satisfaction through actual sex with another person, but that didn't happen.

I'm currently 22 and I still have a very high libido. I was in a relationship when I was 19, but my ex used to shame me a lot for my body and my sexual desire, which ended up making me lock it up and bury it not only with them but with anyone else, turning over to masturbation to relief myself, only now, I feel deeply ashamed of my masturbation habits and my desires.

I've been trying to stop myself and resist the "urge" to masturbate, but it only makes my libido worse and I end up going back to it and entering a spiral of shame and guilt. I'm afraid that if I get into a relationship with someone else, the anxiety that surrounds my sexuality will cause issues between me and my future partner. I get anxious when I get sexually aroused because it is a reminder of my issues.

Has anyone else been through this? How did you get over it? Is this something that I can only get over if I work it over with a partner like some kind of exposure therapy?

helloo! so i recently got into a relationship and am a person that pretty much only enjoys touching my partner, i don't really like being touched, but love giving head, for instance.

that said, I would like to be able to properly do those. Any tips besides just getting to know what my partner likes?

also, i do have some (little) experience, but never have been with someone with phimosis, which my current partner does...so there's that too :P

My husband and I have been together 4 years. Last night for the first time oral on me was not enjoyable at all. It's like he was going to sleep. I swear he was purposefully trying to be bad. This has never happened before but I really needed this and I felt sad afterwards like I had asked for too much. Since it's the first time this has happened should I just let it go?

Im not sure what to do.

I've never experienced an orgasm with another person before.

I meg my husband many years ago at the beginning of my sexual journey. He's tried everything with me to bring me over the edge but nothing works.

Early into the relationship I wasn't even able to do it myself. But with a vibrator I eventually learned how. However it's never been from internal stimulation.

See also hurts alot

I've visited Dr's before and they said after having a baby things may change, orgasm and pain wise.

Well years after nothings worked and worse of all I ended up having an episiotomy during birth and the dr snipped away some of my girly bits. Like I lost a good chunk,

Now my orgasms with my vibrators have reduced tremendously and it's all just so frustrating. 🥲

I feel so weird, different and so left out of all the pleasures I could be having with my husband.

Any recommendations?

So me and my ex tried to have sex a couple of months ago.

We tried twice.

The first time was him he couldn’t get it up and I was completely understanding because it was both our first time. So I wasn’t angry or anything i just told him it’s okay we can do it another time and he was so embarrassed.

I completely reassured him that it’s completely normal for that to happen.

The second time was my fault as we just couldn’t get it in.

And he tried fingering me and it hurt so much.
I wasn’t embarrassed I was just more confused on why it hurt so much compared to when I do it myself.

We got into a little argument because he wasn’t understanding about why it wasn’t working and I just felt so down because he was sexually frustrated and I couldn’t do anything about it.

Can someone tell me what it might have been and why it hurt so much compared to when I do sexual stuff by myself?
And has anyone ever had this happen before?

My partner (22M) and I (23F) have been together for over a year and were both each other’s firsts. We have a pretty good sex life, with us being intimate at least once or twice a week. Almost always after we finish, I have horrible postcoital dysphoria. I always end up feeling like I’m doing something wrong, I’m not doing enough, or that I’m disgusting for even having or wanting sex in the first place. (I know that is not true, it’s the religious guilt)

I want to make it clear that I love my partner and the reason as to why I get in my head afterwards does not have anything to do with him. I struggle a lot with mental health issues and so I’m constantly overthinking every little thing that happens in my life (but am finding ways to manage). I don’t want my boyfriend to feel guilty or feel bad whenever I get into these moods because he’s also prone to having those strong feelings afterwards.

How can I manage these feelings in a healthy and productive way?

I’ve been addicted to porn, hentai and masturbation for pretty long time, started since I was about 13 years old and do it basically every day, and it completely ruined my sexual life, I can’t cum when im having penetrative or oral sex with my gf, I told her about my problem. But still I feel really guilty about it, because im afraid she thinks she is not attractive to me. The biggest issue is that our relationship is mostly distant (she lives in a different city) and we see each other pretty rarely. She says she is completely satisfied with me and our sexual life and that i bring her pleasure. But i really want to show her that sex with her brings me pleasure too. Also due to my porn and hentai addiction, i have some really bad fantasies (kinks) in sex which turn me on when im masturbating, but trying something like that or even speaking about that in real life for me is taboo. And i want to get rid of them. Any advice on how to fix this? I understand that i have to quit porn and masturbate less. But maybe there is something more i can do to help fix this problem?

I'm a male in my 30's. My lady is in her late 20's. We've been together for a few years now. The first two years I felt like she desired me more, she would initiate things more, was more receptive to me initiating, etc. It slowed down as relationships do, but it also slowed down to a point in some areas where I started questioning if she still found me attractive. I realize this is most likely due to birth control as well, but there were some aspects before she started her new pill where she just stopped being sexual with me like she used to be.

To preface this, I love everything about her. She is the love of my life. I really don't see myself sacrificing this relationship over sex; however, it can sometimes be hard for me to understand from her perspective. I do my best to try.

We are strong in our communication and have talked in depth multiple times. She noticed her libido tanked as well. I generally have a high libido. I could go just about every other day. We did go every other day for basically two years. She said she could now go weeks without it. We learned she has developed responsive desire and have tried to adapt. We also settled on scheduling sex at least two times a week. This allows her to think about it throughout the week and she can get herself mentally ready for it. It's not a set schedule. Sometimes we will skip the week and that is okay.

I guess my issue is that before her BC, which she does not want to change and I don't want her to either, we used to be more spontaneous and she used to desire me more. I went from getting a surprise blowjob every few months to having to ask for one if I want one (which I hate doing). I ask her quite often (maybe 3 times a week) if I can go down on her because I absolutely love it. She only asks to go down on me if she rejects me when I try to initiate sex. Most of the time she doesn't want me to, but sometimes she will let me go down on her and it will lead to sex. We had a long talk one time because we went on a trip and stayed in a hotel for 4 days. I tried to initiated and she didn't want to. I tried again a couple days later and it was a no. I don't know about you, but I get horny when I'm in a hotel for some reason. It felt bad, but I sucked it up. She asked if I would rather have a blowjob one night. I just wanted to be intimate with her, not get off, so I said no. She pressed it again and I said yes. She wanted me to get some stuff from the car and then after I came back she basically forgot about it. That felt bad too. It can be difficult because I would do anything in a heartbeat to please her if she wanted me to. I always put her pleasure above mine.

Its not like she isn't a sexual person. Or at least she used to be. She has had more sexual partners than me by a lot and has talked about stuff she has done. I have only ever had 6 versus her 20. I'm pretty kinky and she is vanilla. I don't mind that because she doesn't mind some of my kinks but some are off limits for her (anal). Not a huge deal to me.

I also ensure that I am doing my fair share around the house and make sure I am available to her. I go out of my way to do the small things in life for her because I love her. So there isn't anything for her to be stressed about or worry about at home or even in general. I'll make sure I go out and get groceries and shit like that so she can do her thing, which I don't mind doing. Just wanted to clear that up because I know most people say the man isn't doing his part around the house. I also love cuddling her. We cuddle every day and are intimate/close without sex. Her presence is enough for me. Although, we could probably makeout more often. That is something that has dwindled over time.

I don't know if I am overthinking this or being selfish because at times it feels like it even though it probably isn't. It makes me feel like a sex addict sometimes. I have testosterone coursing through my blood and I love my woman dearly and am hopelessly attracted to her. Any good book recommendations for this stuff? Should I look into counseling? Any supplements to help her with her libido since her discontinuing her BC is off the table? Sorry for the long rant. Feels good to get off my chest though.

TL,DR: Is it safe to make my own lube with organic ingredients?

(please i don't need lube recommendations, its not the point of the post)

I won't bother you with the ups and downs so: after a lot of searching i found that xlube is the closest to perfection for me and my lady. It only has 2 ingredients (lube and water) and it has no urticant ingredients like glicerin and so on. Now, while it's very safe, as a waterbased lube it dries up relatively fast, and also the consistency makes it a bit hard to "stay on" as after some movement it ends up everywhere outside and needs more reapplications.

I was looking for alternatives and i found out that in lubes other ingredients are often used to perfect the consistency, of these two in particular caught my attention: guar gum and hyaluronic acid (i will leave the chemistry and physics down for those who are interested). I want to make a lube that also has these insides but then I noticed a problem. Unlike xlube, both are organic ingredients and, without any additives/preservatives inside the risk for bacteria and fungi arises.

So i wanted to ask, does anybody have any experience in this and can give his opinion? Is it feasible or should i just give up in the idea?

For the sciency guys, a rough explanation goes like this: xlube molecule has a stringy shape and when hydrated, it basically forms a huge spaghetti ball that clumps together. This makes it very smooth and very resilient as a lube so that it doesnt thin out, but it also tends to just clump together and doesn't stick to surfaces (your dingdong and her kitty). This leads to it slowly being pushed out during ins and outs as it doesn't grip properly. Guar gum on the other hand has a "tree shape", giving it more volume and overall an almost jello texture, so very thick but not the best for l'ubication. If you use both essentially the two molecules get stuck inside eachother giving you a sleek but thick lube that sticks to surfaces. Hyaluronic acid just has the function of helping retaining moisture and slowing down the drying.

Me (32M) and wife (30F) have been together for 6 years. We always had a regular sex like (3-4 times a week) but at times I've felt a bit inadequate for her. Though she has never mentioned such a thing but I ejaculate pretty quickly (1-2 mins). I have tried to make up for it by going down on her but she isn't too much into oral (giving or receiving). Partly the inadequacy feeling originates from the fact that she have had multiple partners in the past but she is my first.

Thinking that she is not able to open up with me, recently I bought a small vibrator for her. Though she was skeptical at start, she started to love using it very quickly. So much so that we rarely have sex without it. I found it hot in the start as I was able to see how pleasurable it was for her. But soon she started to ignore me while using it (like putting my hand away if I am touching her). I communicated this to her and she was understanding. But even now our sex life is basically kissing -> her fetching the toy -> me performing cunnilingus and rimming while she uses it -> waiting for her to finish -> having sex when she is done with it.

I've started to go to gym in hope that it helps but I am not sure what else to do here as I've already talked to her multiple times and dont really want to ask her to stop using the vibrator.

TLDR: As a very staunch feminist I believe in women coming during sex every time. It has become nonnegotiable for me but now I'm afraid its disrupting the intimacy with my partner. Should I forgo orgasms for the sake of increasing our connection in sex? How can I increase our presence and connection in sex?

Hey everyone,

I want to start this by saying that I have neither known, nor heard of, any other woman that has had a problem at all similar to this one. I am posting on here because I feel genuinely lost and would like to hear everyone's diverse perspective. This is NOT the typical "my boyfriend can't/doesn't make me come and I don't know how to talk to him about that/fix that" question. I actually have somewhat of an opposite problem. I genuinely feel like I'm in the first generation of women that could have this problem, or at least discuss it with other women, and because of that I feel very alone and my question carries a lot of baggage.

My entire life, I have been staunchly pro-female sex empowerment. I began masturbating at a very young age, had a couple of very healthy conversations with my mother about it. I have never felt shame about masturbating. I have even gone out of my way to advocate learning self pleasure to a myriad of female friends who had never experienced any pleasure/orgasm before. I've given instructions, references to sources, sex toy recommendations, etc. I truly believe that this is something all women deserve to have access to and thinking about how many sexually unfulfilling marriages/relationships there are because men are pigs is a topic that could bring me to tears if I thought about it too hard.

As a result of all this: I've really figured out how to make myself orgasm. I have my couple of techniques down PAT and taught myself how to expertly communicate them to men via trial and error. This was really empowering in previous, less serious relationships: if he couldn't make me come, I sure could. I even felt morally righteous/vindicated in humiliating inept men by doing it myself / taking over for them / ending the encounter/date if they were not interested in making me come. This isn't a kink of mine, I'm just a really passionate feminist and see any individual action I take as potentially impactful on the men in my life. I know, I am a sort of intense person, that's an important part of this problem.

I have been privileged enough that orgasms are now NON-NEGOTIABLE for me in sexual encounters (which, granted, I haven't had THAT many of). The only time I don't come in a sexual encounter is when I have gone out of my way to decide that for myself, usually in circumstances when I wasn't comfortable with the man touching me at all for whatever reason. In these situations, I usually didn't even let myself get turned on: I basically went into a sort of "work mode" (I'm not a sex worker I just mean I get intensely focused on the act with a real emotional detachment) and preform the blowjob (emphasis on performance). In college, this was actually how I first got into having sex because it made me feel so in control and so safe. Again, I found this to be incredibly empowering, and to this day I am deeply grateful for even having had the opportunity to be so fully in control of my initial sexual experiences. I know the majority of women do not have this privilege and can end up having terrible experiences because of it.

But now: I'm in THE serious relationship. We've been together for almost 2 years. I mean, I know he's bought a ring and we're starting to talk specific about wedding/children, etc. Important context: we are religious, but we do participate in intimacy together more than you'd expect, we've never had intercourse. That being said, both of us have had intercourse with other partners when we were younger, we've just become more religious since then and want to save it to be special with each other on the wedding night. I am positive he is my soulmate in all of the ways. We have never had sex during which he did not make sure I came, or I did not chip in at the end to help him get me there. He understands and respects the importance of my position and has gone out of his way to demonstrate his commitment to my feminist beliefs in sex. When we first started being intimate with one another, it was three months of him ONLY pleasing me; he never even asked me to touch him. Even when he inadvertently comes first, he'll lay with me until he recovers enough to ensure I come too. Whenever I try to help him out and do it myself, he even finds a way to make it "sexy" (talking me through it, touching me, etc.)

However, I'm genuinely starting to feel like this is interrupting our intimacy. Our sex follows a very similar pattern every time; he always immediately resorts to the tried and true methods I communicated. I've also noticed him slip into a sort of "work mode," and he has admitted that he gets mechanical because he knows what needs to happen. This takes us both out of the moment; I feel him disconnect, he is not trying anything new for fear of failing. I feel bad that he doesn't find any pleasure or creativity in going down on me. It has honestly only felt like we are TRULY connecting and fully present with each other once or twice, because of this looming expectation. If I get scared that he's not going to make me come, then I have a bad habit of immediately stepping in. Which, yes, obviously I'm still orgasming, and he is helping, but it doesn't feel nearly as good and it doesn't feel like its bringing us closer as a couple.

But here's the problem: I know in order for our sex life to improve and be as mind blowing as I know it can be, I need to relinquish control. And that's so difficult for me because its something I have been so proud and appreciative of. I am a control freak and a very intense person in other parts of my life. When I was younger, I was into submissive / BDSM dynamics (likely because it seemed like a way to relinquish control) - but every time we've tried to play out anything in real life with bondage or the like, it always fizzles out and I get too distracted focusing on the performance and become more dissociative, too.

I want him to touch me in new ways; I want us to properly explore each other and make surprising and enjoyable discoveries. I want us to connect in a way that I just can't when I'm masturbating, or helping him. I want to feel surprised by the way he touches me sometimes, like he has cracked some code that I haven't. Obviously, these weren't desirable with the partners I didn't properly trust, or whom I doubted, but now, things are different.

I'm anxious that if I tell him, "That's alright, you don't have to make me come anymore," then I will be taking the pressure off so we can more present, yes, but also that he will never try to make me come ever again. It also feels like compromising on my feminist beliefs: if he's going to come every time, I want to come every time. I don't want him to think its somehow less important than his coming, or not relevant to the main act of sex. When I think about having intercourse with him in our marriage, I also fret: ideally, the first time at least, I'd like to come at or around the same time he does. I know that's a bit unrealistic, but as a feminist I HATE that that's unrealistic. In my religion, intercourse/conception is a really intimate big deal, and I resent that he'll be feeling ecstasy in that moment and I'll either feel like my orgasm is ruined/denied, or exhausted and overstimulated because I already came from oral 5 minutes ago. I hate that women just say "thats how it goes" and have accepted lackluster sexual experiences and I want to defy that/avenge them. But then again, by putting so much pressure on this moment and hanging on to my orgasm expectations/precedence so strongly practically ensures that I'll be so obsessed with trying to control the moment perfectly that I won't be present, or emotionally connected with him the way I want to be.

I've talked about this some with him but he doesn't fully understand the feminist link because he is a man and obviously orgasms and sex have always been intrinsically tied for him. So what do you guys think I should do? Should I stop offering him any help?

Should I accept having sex without orgasms, where he isn't overly focusing on making me come so that we can just enjoy each other? Is accepting that a critical error/a feminist failing? How can I better connect with my partner?

I NADE A MISTAKE ON TITLE I NEVER WOULD “MAKE MY GF” DO ANYTHING I LOVE HER TO DEATH!!

22M dating 21F, we’ve been together for 2 years. I’ve had past sexual experiences while she has not. I’m not super freaky at all but she really isn’t a sexual person. She just isn’t a sexual person and that’s really hard for me to deal with. She wants to be a more sexual person but isn’t sure how to be comfortable with it all. Do any of you (female) have any advice for her?

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I’m not a freak but have plenty of sexual experiences. With her though she can only do it for like 5 min until she gets tired or it’s uncomfortable, and she rarely ever starts the act she doesn’t ever seem “into it.” She wants to be a more sexual person but it’s hard for her.