I’m a Bumble Premium member, and the app is showing me ZERO women! 😂

I’ve set my preferences to women aged 20–80 and the maximum distance, but still nothing.

What the hell is going on? Is Bumble broken, or am I missing something? 🤣

All those ugly and fat dudes you see constantly in relationships? They're neurotypical. That's the magic sauce.

They instinctively learn who is attracted to them by noticing how their body reacts to social feedback, and in turn, their standards and attraction adjustion accordingly.

They can make friends naturally at work or practically anywhere, and naturally some of those friends will be women or will introduce them to women who naturally have chemistry with them, regardless of their looks.

Even on dating apps, they'll have some success at least because their vibe is good. Like actually. Not memeing. Neurodivergent vibe is palpable and will turn off many neurotypical people. Which is most of the world.

The fact that this isn't you should be a sign you can't coast in the same way and need to stand out in other ways.

Literally that's the reason. Unless you look like a deformed toenail, anyone can get into a relationship...if they're neurotypical. Otherwise, you need to be a tryhard neurodivergent and look better or play the algorithm game better.

I am a 23M and I have been on dating apps consistently since the moment I turned 18. Despite that, I have never been in a long-term relationship. Lately I have been feeling like if it hasn't happened by now it's not going to happen. That attitude is making me less attracted to women overall too. It's been a long time since I saw a profile I was legitimately interested in and wanted to match with. I used to see tons of super cool women on there that I'd be dying to match with but now I don't feels anything. Even in real life I noticed that I stopped feeling attracted to other women I see out and about. And no, I don't feel attracted to men at all.

I still send out my likes every day but I care less and less each time. In the past week or so, a few of my matches have unmatched after my first message. I wasn't saying anything strange to them, only asking a question about something they had in their prompts or bio. Normally I'd feel disappointed when I'd get unmatched or ghosted but lately I've felt relieved as it meant I didn't have to waste time trying to force myself to like them.

I'm not sure why I'm posting this or what I'm looking for but if anybody has felt the same I'd love to hear about it.

This should be more common for us dudes who want to enjoy some real nice food. I’m not really a coffee person and currently avoiding alcohol due to being a lifter. Like we gonna get to connect and eat some good ass chicken and fries 🦧

After years of using Bumble without any issues, my account was randomly blocked a month ago. I recently created a new account and paid ¥7,000 for a 3-month Premium plan, only to have the new account automatically blocked within hours.

Apple rejected my refund requests twice, even though I was given zero access to the service I paid for. Taking payment for a subscription and immediately locking the account without providing a refund feels completely unacceptable. Is anyone else experiencing this with Bumble?

I hear all this talk about incels mainly when a woman hears something that she dislikes but I never ever hear the word femcel being thrown around here.

I asked here a few weeks ago about my photos. I’ve taken the plunge and signed up to Hinge (I know this is Bumble but I feel like there’s more traffic here). What do you guys think of this profile? I didn’t want to come across too full on or too serious, but I am looking for something serious, potentially a life partner. A life shared is a life well lived! All feedback welcome, good and bad. I picked photos that I think look nice but I always include a “no make-up” photo to avoid nasty surprises!

I am a male and recently decided to run a little experiment on Bumble to see how much height actually matters.

I had been using Bumble for about 4 months with my height listed (6 feet / 1.83 m), which is tall for my country. I requested my data from Bumble and found that my match rate was around 9%.

Then I decided to hide my height and kept using the app for another 2 months without changing anything else. Same pictures, same bio, same location.

After those 2 months, I requested my data again and calculated my match rate for that period. It had dropped to around 6%, which is a 33% decrease. (6% only those 2 months)

Obviously, this isn’t a controlled scientific experiment, and other factors could be involved, but I thought the difference was pretty interesting, I really wanted to know if people liked me more by my personality and not “physical attributes”.

Has anyone else tried something similar? Curious to hear your experiences.

31M Australia - 2.5 years of Bumble stats with a 6 month relationship in the middle where I had the app deleted. I didn’t think I was this picky. Roughly 20 matches in this time but most just never responded. I have a feeling the last photo is too much but it was at the end of a competition prep and a personal goal I was super proud of.

I get that dating apps can be frustrating. Ghosting sucks, getting no matches sucks, and sometimes you have a genuinely good conversation that just goes nowhere.

But I feel like some people get so used to being disappointed that they start every new interaction expecting it to fail. Every slow reply means she's not interested, every awkward conversation means dating is hopeless, and every rejection becomes proof that the whole app is broken.

I understand where the frustration comes from, but that mindset must make dating even more exhausting than it already is.

You don't have to be unrealistically positive about dating, but going into every interaction expecting disappointment can't help either.

How do you keep a decent attitude toward dating when you've had a run of bad experiences?

Also what order to put them? I appreciate your response.

Hey everyone! I’m looking for a little advice on my profile. I’d say I’m pretty average-looking, but I feel like I’m getting overlooked a bit more than I expected.

I got out of a 6-year relationship about 2 years ago and only recently decided to dip my toes back into the dating pool. I’ve been on the apps for about 1.5–2 months, gotten a handful of likes, and gone on a few dates, but nothing has really gone anywhere so far.

I know dating apps can be a bit of a circus, so I’m curious if this is pretty normal or if my profile could use some serious help. Any feedback or advice is appreciated!

I know a few apps hand this issue. And that's when. Someone sends you a message then unmatches.

The apps should still keep the messages up so you can see what was said.

I am currently living in South Korea. I have no idea if this a Korean thing or a Bumble thing. But why are there so many men in the date side in their 30s and 40s looking for friends only?!? It’s a dating app… is there a reason I’m missing here? I have the free version, so I can’t filter them out. And there are so many.

I know shrinkflation is hitting the grocery stores, but this is basically ridiculous. That was the one reason I was actually subscribed to this level.

Honestly, I wish people on dating apps would stop acting like basic communication is some huge responsibility. I'm not expecting constant replies or someone to be available 24/7, but there's a difference between being busy and disappearing right when a conversation starts getting interesting.

What annoys me most is when someone puts effort into matching, asks questions, seems genuinely interested, and then suddenly turns into a completely different person. If you've changed your mind, that's fine. If you met someone else, that's fine too. Nobody owes a stranger a relationship, but a little honesty shouldn't be that difficult.

And please stop sending mixed signals just because you enjoy the attention. Some people are actually on Bumble hoping to meet someone, not collect matches they'll occasionally message whenever they're bored.

You don't have to be interested in everyone, but you should at least be honest about your intentions. Dating is already uncertain enough without people making it unnecessarily confusing.

I'd genuinely respect someone more for saying they're not feeling a connection than for keeping a conversation alive with one-word replies until the other person finally gives up.

This is probably the longest shot of my life, but Reddit, please do your thing.

I was recently talking to a guy named David on Bumble, somewhere around the St. Louis/St. Peters area. He’s in his late 20s/early 30s, works in the conveyor belt industry (and apparently really loves conveyor belts 😂), and has an older female golden retriever.

He also enjoys hockey and traveling!

We were having a genuinely great conversation, but Bumble decided to block my account out of nowhere, right after I verified my newer phone number. We unfortunately hadn’t exchanged numbers or social media yet, so I have absolutely no way to reconnect with him.

David, if you’re somehow reading this, I promise I didn’t ghost you! Bumble just decided our conversation needed an unexpected finale.

If this sounds like you, please message me and mention something we talked about so I know it’s actually you.

And if you’re not David, please send some good luck my way because apparently I’m out here searching for Cinderella, except instead of a glass slipper, I’ve got conveyor belts and a golden retriever!

random but never realized how bad my stats were 😬

It's been several days since I see this error and basically cannot use the app. I've tried reinstalling, rebooting... But no luck.

Just need a quick vent because modern dating is cray cray.

Matched with a handsome guy today and we genuinely clicked, great banter, proper flirting aand we’d been chatting pretty much all day. He was honestly the only person I’ve swiped right on recently who I was actually excited to talk to.

I went back to check tonight and his whole account is gone. Not even just an unmatch, full-on deleted.

I know people delete apps on a whim for all sorts of reasons (cold feet, overwhelm, ex drama or just realising they aren't ready) but the sudden ghost stings when you finally feel a genuine spark with someone.

I don't deal brilliantly with sudden rejection/disappearance so it's left me feeling proper deflated tonight.. lol.

TL;DR -Matched with a nice guy, chatted and had good chemistry all day and then ghosted me.

Please tell me your best (or weirdest) sudden vanishing stories so I don't feel so alone! ☕✨