Not even because they CAN'T succeed but rather because they're too stubborn.

Almost any time a guy complains about not doing well online, I look at his profile, KNOW the issue, suggest a change or will even make the change for them, and then they either won't apply it or will super half-ass it.

It's like they care more to be right in their shitty worldview than actually dating women.

Also selfish as fuck behavior when someone takes the time to help you out and you're too egotistical to even try it because you think you're smarter than everyone.

In a sense, this might be a good thing. The trash is taking itself out. Imagine a woman having to deal with them in a relationship.

Hey everyone! I’m looking for a little advice on my profile. I’d say I’m pretty average-looking, but I feel like I’m getting overlooked a bit more than I expected.

I got out of a 6-year relationship about 2 years ago and only recently decided to dip my toes back into the dating pool. I’ve been on the apps for about 1.5–2 months, gotten a handful of likes, and gone on a few dates, but nothing has really gone anywhere so far.

I know dating apps can be a bit of a circus, so I’m curious if this is pretty normal or if my profile could use some serious help. Any feedback or advice is appreciated!

I've recently reopened Bumble and would like to know in your opinion, are these considered good pics

Everytime a woman complains about a creepy interaction on a dating app, men on Reddit love to respond that this is a self-inflicted issue, bc women only swipe on good looking men who know they can get away with being creepy, if we were to swipe on ugly men they would be too scared of offending women since they don’t have any options.

First off, as a woman I have first hand knowledge this isn’t true. However, it would be too much to ask these men to take a woman’s word for it. So here are some thought experiments:

In real life, all sorts of men, including below average men are creepy. Why would it be different on a dating app? Why do ugly men in real life not seem to have gotten this scarcity mindset memo?

Further, it’s the same type of guy who believes this also often believes only ugly men get labelled as creepy. Queue the famous flirting v harassment meme. If the men on dating apps are so good looking why are women getting so offended at their approaches?

Which 2 pictures should I remove if any. Thanks again guys.

This is probably the longest shot of my life, but Reddit, please do your thing.

I was recently talking to a guy named David on Bumble, somewhere around the St. Louis/St. Peters area. He’s in his late 20s/early 30s, works in the conveyor belt industry (and apparently really loves conveyor belts 😂), and has an older female golden retriever.

He also enjoys hockey and traveling!

We were having a genuinely great conversation, but Bumble decided to block my account out of nowhere, right after I verified my newer phone number. We unfortunately hadn’t exchanged numbers or social media yet, so I have absolutely no way to reconnect with him.

David, if you’re somehow reading this, I promise I didn’t ghost you! Bumble just decided our conversation needed an unexpected finale.

If this sounds like you, please message me and mention something we talked about so I know it’s actually you.

And if you’re not David, please send some good luck my way because apparently I’m out here searching for Cinderella, except instead of a glass slipper, I’ve got conveyor belts and a golden retriever!

At this point, I don't think it's possible for me to get into a relationship with someone if we haven't hooked up within three dates and at least kissed by the end of the first date.

I've been on almost 200 dates at this point and I'm starting to see patterns. Also, this is assuming I'm always leading the date and making moves, while also respecting boundaries.

If we don't at least kiss on the first date or hook up within three-ish dates , the dynamic is usually cooked because she's typically overly conservative or religious, asexual somewhat, has trauma around trusting men, or is just not that physically or emotionally attracted to me.

On the other hand, any time we did hook up fast, outside of the usual ghosting that happens in dating and incompatability, my dates would be a lot more into me and would also respect me more overall.

I'm unable to date in a different way. I don't even know how I would begin to.

Basically a guy's profile saying that he's a soon-to-be dad 💀 Insane enough, that you got someone pregnant and the both of you couldn't stay together for the duration of the pregnancy. He also wants a woman who's ready to start a family soon and have multiple children.

Who in his right mind would swipe right on this profile?!?! 😭 Also why the hell are you on bumble, shouldn't you concentrate on your child and supporting the mother even though you're not together anymore? Is this a breeding fetish?? 😭

All those ugly and fat dudes you see constantly in relationships? They're neurotypical. That's the magic sauce.

They instinctively learn who is attracted to them by noticing how their body reacts to social feedback, and in turn, their standards and attraction adjustion accordingly.

They can make friends naturally at work or practically anywhere, and naturally some of those friends will be women or will introduce them to women who naturally have chemistry with them, regardless of their looks.

Even on dating apps, they'll have some success at least because their vibe is good. Like actually. Not memeing. Neurodivergent vibe is palpable and will turn off many neurotypical people. Which is most of the world.

The fact that this isn't you should be a sign you can't coast in the same way and need to stand out in other ways.

Literally that's the reason. Unless you look like a deformed toenail, anyone can get into a relationship...if they're neurotypical. Otherwise, you need to be a tryhard neurodivergent and look better or play the algorithm game better.

I hear all this talk about incels mainly when a woman hears something that she dislikes but I never ever hear the word femcel being thrown around here.

I was a monthly subscriber for a year. Took a break.. and then when I came back, it’s either $300 for lifetime or 3 months for $205. No other options. wtf?! You’d think they’d want old members back!

Just need a quick vent because modern dating is cray cray.

Matched with a handsome guy today and we genuinely clicked, great banter, proper flirting aand we’d been chatting pretty much all day. He was honestly the only person I’ve swiped right on recently who I was actually excited to talk to.

I went back to check tonight and his whole account is gone. Not even just an unmatch, full-on deleted.

I know people delete apps on a whim for all sorts of reasons (cold feet, overwhelm, ex drama or just realising they aren't ready) but the sudden ghost stings when you finally feel a genuine spark with someone.

I don't deal brilliantly with sudden rejection/disappearance so it's left me feeling proper deflated tonight.. lol.

TL;DR -Matched with a nice guy, chatted and had good chemistry all day and then ghosted me.

Please tell me your best (or weirdest) sudden vanishing stories so I don't feel so alone! ☕✨

31M Australia - 2.5 years of Bumble stats with a 6 month relationship in the middle where I had the app deleted. I didn’t think I was this picky. Roughly 20 matches in this time but most just never responded. I have a feeling the last photo is too much but it was at the end of a competition prep and a personal goal I was super proud of.

Alot of you need to binge watch this man's page and copy the photo style and outfits he puts his clients in.

I am a male and recently decided to run a little experiment on Bumble to see how much height actually matters.

I had been using Bumble for about 4 months with my height listed (6 feet / 1.83 m), which is tall for my country. I requested my data from Bumble and found that my match rate was around 9%.

Then I decided to hide my height and kept using the app for another 2 months without changing anything else. Same pictures, same bio, same location.

After those 2 months, I requested my data again and calculated my match rate for that period. It had dropped to around 6%, which is a 33% decrease. (6% only those 2 months)

Obviously, this isn’t a controlled scientific experiment, and other factors could be involved, but I thought the difference was pretty interesting, I really wanted to know if people liked me more by my personality and not “physical attributes”.

Has anyone else tried something similar? Curious to hear your experiences.

What do you guys think of a guy not texting me? Is that an indication that he doesn’t like me? I matched with this guy 2 weeks ago, texting has been extremely poorly, I was the one who always texted first and I always initiated bc he’s very attractive. Then he asked me out, but he said that he wanted to call first bc he was worried we might not vibe together. We called for 3 hours and the conversations were amazing, he was attentive, asked me a bunch of questions, remembered small details about myself. Then he disappeared again, so I asked him if he still wanted to get get to know each other more, he said yes and finally asked me out officially. We didn’t talk again until the date. It was very good, it was a cute date where we went for pottery painting and coffee, we only stayed for 2 hours though, because he had to leave because he’s from out of town. I told him to let me know once he got home. He messaged me once he got home and he said that he had a good time, but he didn’t say anything about wanting to see me again. I told him that he’s very cute, and asked him if he had fun but I’ve been on delivered for 2 days. Like I know he doesn’t text at all, but idk what to think, like he didn’t like me? Or he’s just gonna text me to arrange another date. Has anyone gone through this? Like a guy who doesn’t text at all, but is amazing over the phone and in person? What are your thoughts?

got both HingeX and Bumble premium and started liking.. just tried for a month thinking I'll at least get 1 match.. but literally none.. idk what is wrong.. my profile is decent ig but literally no like no matches.. is it the hypergamy bs?

Just wanted to share a crazy perspective shift I had recently.

I matched with this really cute girl on Bumble a bit ago. The texting was super slow from the start. At one point, she literally took 10 days to reply to a message. I didn’t double text or freak out, I just let it sit and replied at my own pace whenever she finally got back to me.

We eventually set up a first date and the in person vibe was great. We ended up losing track of time and just talking about random things for 3 hours and cafe hopping.

During the date, we got on the topic of dating apps. She casually mentioned her experience, opened her phone, and showed me her profile, she had over 5,000 likes sitting in her queue 😂. I usually get around 20 to 30 likes max, the sheer volume of guys was crazy to comprehend like she handpicked me out of thousands of guys. Like winning the sperm race ?