Have you noticed the difference or have at least felt the swelling and throbbing?

I don’t know why, but sometimes I find it hotter to just stare at my face in my phone screen reflection rather than watch porn, I don’t think I’m particularly the prettiest but something about it makes me really appreciate my appearance, and I think I look really hot 😭 Does anyone else do it? i don’t think about my body really, more just my expressions and admiring myself I suppose.

I used to struggle with self image a lot so I’m happy I’ve gotten to this point HAHA!

I recently ended a nine-year relationship. The last year had been really difficult, and although I tried everything I could to make things work, I eventually reached a point where I had lost hope and knew I needed to move on. I found it really hard to let go, but I feel like I had already grieved the relationship while I was still in it, and my therapist agrees.

It's only been four days since the breakup, so I'm obviously sad, but I also feel relieved. The situation had become painful for both of us, and we seemed to be stuck in a place where nothing was changing and we weren't moving forward in any direction. As much as it hurts to end a relationship after so long, I think part of me is relieved that we're no longer stuck in that cycle.

We got together when I was 19, so I've never really experienced adult life outside of a relationship. I've never been with anyone else or had sex with anyone else, and now I'm curious about exploring that side of life.

I'm not necessarily looking for another relationship right now. I think I'd like to meet new people, experience new things, and figure out what I like and want outside of the relationship I've been in for so long. But I honestly have no idea where to start or how to navigate dating and casual relationships, especially after being with the same person for so many years.

I'd love to hear from people who've been in a similar situation. How did you approach dating or exploring your sexuality after a long-term relationship? Did you find it better to take some time for yourself first, or did you just put yourself out there and see what happened? I know there's no right or wrong way to do this, but I'd really appreciate hearing about other people's experiences and advice.

My relationship with my body makes it nearly impossible to truly enjoy sex. I (26f) hate my vulvas appearance, hyperpigmentation, and now I've put on a little weight to make matters worse. I've been having sex with the same person (first piv sex and second ever partner) for a year now. I haven't had an orgasm yet. Even when I try to rub my clit during I just psyche myself out of it or it doesn't feel pleasurable in that moment. And I think it's mainly because I'm preoccupied with how I look and am being perceived during sex. He says that I'm hot, but I personally don't feel that way. He has also slipped up three different times in regards to my appearance, which we've talked about plenty of times before, which I still believe he feels negative about.

Given that we're not romantically involved, I'm thinking of seeing someone else. I'm talking to another guy who is sexually interested, but I'm lowkey turning him down because I am terrified of how he'll view my body. I'd be just his second partner with an outie. He has a desire to go down on me, but I feel very apprehensive about it. I think overall he'll be disappointed, and just thinking about the act in reality is making me sick. I don't wanna be someone's experiment.He mentioned wanting to see how pretty it is. Some women have pretty outies. I wouldn't consider mine pretty. If I wasn't insecure about my body, I know that I would enjoy sex. I desire sex but when someone shows interest, it scares me. I don't understand how people can just easily have sex without having to consider all these things. I'm jealous.

Do you just schedule time for fun, in and out?

Or do you actually hang around, talk about life, and go out doing friend stuff?

Do you all hang out together with other people? Do they know about your FWB activities?

I have been in dire need of some physical intimacy. I’m 27 and the last time I was intimate with someone was when I was 19. Never been much of a dater and honestly have no desire to marry or have kids so it just never took priority for me but lately I’ve really missed it. I finally feel comfortable enough to pursue a casual relationship on my own terms but my god, what the fuck is going on 😭. No one has been rude but like damn would it hurt to at least ask what my goddamn favorite color is? Every fucking conversation is me asking them about their jobs and interests and hobbies. And its radio silence on their end. They could honestly care less about what I do in my free time or what kind of music I like. But are quick to ask what i’m wearing or what I smell like. Every fucking day its do you want help me jack off. Motherfucker I’m seeing you on SATURDAY. I’m not even asking to be taken on a date but like woah would it hurt to have some normal fucking conversation for a few days??? I’m not asking for a relationship but just because I want to fuck you doesn’t mean I’m in the mood 24/7 and willing to drop everything to help you get off when I’m not even in the mood.

hi! i always feel awkward starting a post lol..

i have issues with masturbation as a whole anyway (never being able to orgasm or feel much pleasure) but a big contributior to that in my opinion is the lack of wetness during. i drink a lot of water (around 3L per day sometimes more) and i never really seem to get wet no matter the foreplay or circumstance. even when i use spit. it just dries up super quick and i don’t know why or what to do about this issue or if it’s really even a issue?? please lmk any info you do have cause it kinda worrying me!! thank you

We've been dating for a little over a year. His personality outside the bedroom is just a big softie, and at first that's how he was in bed as well. I get really turned on by being submissive and letting a man sort of take charge, but his personality just isn't naturally that way and I don't think he'd ever been with a woman like that.

But he's getting more confident! Last night I told him I wanted him to get on top of me, grab my head and stuff his dick as far down my throat as he can. The first couple times he got towards the back and pulled out. I told him I'd tap him on the side when I wanted him to stop but to please keep going until I do. Finally he did what I actually wanted and grabbed my head and forcefully stuffed in it as deep as it would go, thrusted a few times, and held my head firmly until I tapped out.

I was so ridiculously turned on by how forceful it was. I don't know why I'm like this but few things turn me on more than submitting to my partner like that. The sex is already good but if he's gonna be less shy and more forceful...🤤🤤🤤

Good morning. I’m curious how many other women keep their bra on during sex? I don’t do it all the time, but sometimes it just feels more comfortable to support the girls, especially if I expect we’re going to be a bit more energetic. If it’s just a quickie I usually take it off - depending on my mood lol

Hi, I'm looking for some advice or to hear from anyone who's experienced something similar.

I'm on the 3rd day of experiencing a faint throbbing ache on the right side of my inner labia, right beside my clit.

During the last few days of my period, I was grinding against a pillow while wearing a sanitary pad. I was doing it quite frequently throughout the day and having multiple orgasms. I didn't experience any pain during those days. But on the 7th day of my period, when my bleeding had become very light, I suddenly noticed a heartbeat-like pulsing ache on the right side beside my clit

It happens when I become aroused or when I grind, but I don't feel it when I'm walking around or resting. The area looks normal, and I haven't noticed any swelling, lump, or tenderness when gently touching it. It's now the 3rd day since it started. The ache is gradually getting fainter, but I can still feel it when I grind. When I'm aroused without grinding, it's only faint. I'm wondering if I irritated the vulvar tissue from repeated friction or pressure from the pad, or if it could be pelvic floor muscle soreness from having multiple orgasms.

I'm a little embarrassed to ask this, but I'm worried about what's happening. Has anyone experienced something similar? Did it go away on its own, or did you need to see a doctor?

I injured my knee on the weekend and have been limping around. I love being on top but at the moment I dont think I can put full weight on it. Any suggestions of a modified on top position I can do with a bad knee?

Let me start by saying I (26F) absolutely adore my boyfriend (28M). We have a loving relationship, we’ve grown a lot together and individually, and we are compatible. We moved in together about 6 months ago, which has been great but an adjustment. Previously, we would see each other 2-3 times a week, and have sex 1-3 of those days. This made sense because we weren’t seeing each other everyday and could naturally take care of ourselves when we were apart. He was also doing a lot of the initiating during this time.

Since moving in, we’re now having sex 1, maybe 2 times a week which has been a challenge for me. I am a very sexual person, and would love sex 5+ times a week (not a must - just sharing insight into my sex drive). I have expressed this to my partner, and he always seems receptive, and will provide affection and physical touch in the moment, but nothing has changed more broadly. When we have sex, it’s great. But I continue to find myself being the only one initiating sex and getting rejected, or at times, him reacting as if it’s a chore. And more broadly speaking, he has felt emotionally disconnected in our relationship - making less effort, being checked out, not feeling like he’s committed to our partnership. We’ve also discussed this and it’s something he’s working on. I feel like I’ve tried everything, and have let myself be vulnerable by trying to discuss masturbation habits, ways we can be intimate without intercourse per se, even me just pleasing him (which I really enjoy doing).

At this point, I’m beginning to feel very insecure and undesired in our relationship. I feel like his head is elsewhere and don’t feel connected to him physically speaking. It’s also causing me to overthink situations, worry that he’s masturbating and watching porn when I’m away and passing up opportunities for us to be intimate. I have no issues with masturbation, and I also do it, but I can’t shake the feeling that he might be choosing that over me. OR there is something else going on. I feel stuck and I feel like he’s shutting me out but I don’t know how else to communicate with him about this.

Clitoral or G Spot

I’ve been talking to this guy for the last few months and we’ve had sex a few times and I just think he’s too big for the sex to be good. Like I’m the past I can feel a guy hitting my g spot but with this guy I can’t really feel much satisfaction wise. Like it feels good but I feel like I’m feeling it more on the sides of my insides more than anything.

Can being too big effect the sex?

Some background. My husband (30M) and I (30F) have been together for 8 years. Although his sexual technique has definitely improved in all of the best ways, I have a very difficult time trying to have an orgasm from sex or from any sort of activity that doesn’t involve me also putting in some work. Which is totally fine, I’m not necessarily complaining. I’m very pleased with my sex life but would just LOVE some advice on what recommendations anyone may have on how to make it easier to cum during sex?
Any recommendations for arrousal creams/gels?
Certain positions? When’re open minded. Opening our marriage is not on the table at this time in our lives.
Maybe it’s just my antidepressant making it difficult for me but nonetheless, We’d like to try some things!

Thanks in advance !

Hi! I want to learn how to arch my back but I just don't know how, I have a weak core from two surgeries a few years ago but I really want to feel sexy... Please help a girl out, LOL!

I really need help, idk if there is something wrong with my body or my technique sucks but i just can’t feel a single thing when masturbating. I get aroused and i also get really really wet but i just can’t feel a single thing when masturbating. I feel nothing touching my clit. I feel nothing sticking a finger in. I feel nothing using water pressure and only time i feel something is while grinding really hard like the corner of my bed but i can only feel it for 2 mins max and its never enough. I don’t know why this happens or if it could be related to my childhood? (When i was like 4 i was hypersexual for some reason and used to grind stuff a lot,I got teached it was wrong at stopped doing it) im desperate because i really want to feel something. Another hypotesis i had was that maybe it has to do with some religion guilt(? Whenever i masturbate (or well try to) i immediately ask for forgiveness and get horrible luck the next day. Please help a girl out 😭 could this be some sort of illness? Is there a correct way to do it?

Any of you ladies dealt with passing your partner’s libido levels? Just when I start to feel sexy again as the kids are getting older and find myself needing sex more often, he seems to have lost all interest.

Hey, so i even bought small dildo to practice deep throating but it is soo stressful, is not there some sort of tutorial or anything someone can recommend me to make practice more appealing ?

Do you think a man can develop a deeper emotional attachment to a woman through suckling? Because i genuinely think so

Basically, you know how breastfeeding is believed to help create a bond between a mother & her baby? I’m curious whether something similar could happen between two adults? Like, if a man in a romantic relationship regularly & passionately sucks on a woman’s breasts during intimacy, could that stimulate some kind of emotional bonding or attachment to her over time? & her to him as well..

Especially in a situation where she occasionally produces breast milk cause she’s stimulated even though she isn’t actually nursing a baby but because that man suckles on her so good..

I’d especially love to hear from people who have experienced something similar or anyone who has actual knowledge of the psychology or biology behind it.

During penetration I feel like there's no space left inside, and there's this sensation like something is pushing against the penis, like my body is involuntarily trying to push it out. I do feel pleasure, that's not the issue. The issue is that I can't really be on top, I feel completely blocked, and I can't move properly until the penis is out. There's also a bit of pain deep in my lower belly.

I'm asking because it's affecting how I can have sex, and I'd like to know if other women experience this too. It's not linked to one specific partner either, I've felt it before with someone else, then went years without sex, and it came back recently with someone new.

I genuinely want to know if this happens to other people, if anyone has felt this with multiple partners, and what helped. Any answer is welcome, I'm just trying to understand.

I’m 34F, and I honestly feel like I’m going through some kind of sexual awakening that I should’ve experienced 15 years ago. 😂
For years, I was stuck in a really unhealthy situationship that I felt like I couldn’t escape. Somewhere along the way, I became this watered-down, squished-down version of myself. I stopped dressing up, wearing nice clothes, or even trying to look attractive because I didn’t want to turn this person on or encourage any sexual attention from him.
That’s how uncomfortable I had become.
I’ve always considered myself someone who just didn’t really like sex. Looking back, I think a lot of that had to do with never having particularly good sexual experiences, especially with this person. Eventually, I just convinced myself that sex wasn’t something I enjoyed or needed.
I’ve also been living like a complete hermit for YEARS. I haven’t really dated, flirted, met new people, or had much of a sex life at all. I’ve basically been existing in my own little bubble.
Well, recently I’ve finally started feeling free to live my own life again, and I ended up spending time with someone new.
And HOLY SHIT. 😂
For the first time in what feels like forever, I actually enjoyed sex. I felt wanted, comfortable, excited, and genuinely attracted to the person I was with. It wasn’t something I was just doing because someone else wanted it.
And now I swear I’m a walking fucking horn dog. LMAO.
But here’s where things get embarrassing and confusing.
I’m 34 years old and feel like I know absolutely nothing about my own body or sexuality.
For the longest time, I genuinely thought squirting WAS having an orgasm. Like, I thought that was what was supposed to happen when a woman climaxed. I didn’t realize they were two separate things or that you could experience one without the other.
Now I’m questioning whether I’ve actually been having orgasms, whether I’ve just experienced really intense pleasure, or whether I’ve been misunderstanding my body’s responses this entire time.
How do you actually KNOW when you’ve had an orgasm? Is it always obvious? Can orgasms feel completely different depending on the experience? And what’s the difference between an orgasm, squirting, and female ejaculation?
I feel ridiculous asking these questions at my age, but I’m genuinely curious.
I’m also ridiculously shy and nervous about trying new things sexually. I want to explore, experiment, and learn what I enjoy, but I get so caught up worrying about whether I’m doing something wrong, whether I’m good at it, or whether I’m going to embarrass myself.
And then there’s the whole dating thing.
For the first time in years, I actually WANT to meet people. I want to flirt, go on dates, dress up, feel attractive, have fun, and maybe even sleep around a little. Safely and responsibly, obviously.
But I don’t necessarily want a boyfriend or a serious relationship right now.
I just want to experience things I feel like I’ve missed out on for so long.
And yet there’s this little voice in the back of my head making me feel guilty about it. Like wanting casual sex somehow makes me a slut, or like I’m too old to be acting this way.
Which is ridiculous because I’m a grown-ass woman. 😂
I think the hardest part is that I genuinely don’t know how to act anymore. When you’ve spent years suppressing your personality, your confidence, your sexuality, and even the way you dress because of another person, how do you suddenly become comfortable being yourself again?
I feel like I’m finally meeting a version of myself that I haven’t been able to be for years, and I don’t even know what to do with her.
So I guess I have a few questions for the women here:
Has anyone else experienced a sexual awakening in their 30s or later, especially after years in an unhealthy relationship or having little to no sex life?
How did you learn to recognize your orgasms and understand your body’s sexual responses? Did anyone else grow up confusing squirting with orgasming?
How did you become more comfortable and confident sexually, especially when trying new things with someone?
How do you get over the guilt or shame associated with wanting casual sex or multiple partners?
And for anyone who spent years feeling like they couldn’t be themselves around a partner, how did you rediscover who you were afterward?
I’m excited, nervous, confused, horny, and honestly a little overwhelmed by all of it. 😂
I don’t want to jump straight into another relationship. I just want to enjoy being single, discover what I like, and finally feel comfortable in my own skin.
I guess I’m wondering if anyone else has gone through something similar and what helped you navigate it.
Because right now I feel like a 34-year-old woman with the sexual confidence and experience of someone who’s just discovering sex for the first time. LOL.
Please tell me I’m not the only one.