Met her last year during a trip. I have to go back to France and now I definitely move in Malaysia so we can stay together! 6 months feels sooo long. The distance is so hard and so many challenges. I was so afraid that we would lose this spark that I ended up coding a little shared voice alarm app just so we could wake each other up

Keep your hopes up, guys!

Finally met after 8 months of video calls.

Definitely worth the wait

It’s my birthday. I told him I was free all day until dinner time. I asked for a couple hours of his time to be with me, play a game together or hang out, and he disappears and messages back hours later “I fell asleep” “sowwy” like what???? And when I tell him im upset and sad that we didn’t get to spend time together, I said this is like the one day a year where it’s really shitty to fall asleep when you should be with your partner, he says “Ok next time I’ll peel my fucking eyes open” and hasn’t comforted me or felt nice to me at all. I’ve spent the day crying and trying to be happy around my family but this feels so horrible

Editing to add: I’ve read all your comments and they mean so much to me and I truly thank you. There is definitely going to be a conversation about this.

I am F24 and I am finally meeting my boyfriend after many months because he was away for business and I am so happy but I keep on seeing these couple videos once in a while where women post stuff like "A day before meeting my boyfriend, wish me luck" and she shows a whole bunch of skincare, body care and even shows body waxing appointments, get their nails done, you get the whole idea.

Do all of you do this?

I am conflicted because on one hand my man has seen me in my absolute disgusting self and still loves me but also other part of me sees this as a good excuse to pamper myself and plus point is something little extra treat for him because even my man does the same.

Before meeting me he also does the whole nine yards of skincare, nail care everything you name it.

The thing is that him and I both do self care before meeting each other but his routine is more intense than mine, he says he wants to look best for me, which is cute but makes me think should I up my self-care game as well?

Do men also do this or is this more of just women doing this stuff? When I talked to my friends irl about how my man also does the same they were shocked and said "My man doesn't even wash his face, you are so lucky!"

Is over the top self care necessary to keep the spark in long distance relationship alive?

Hey everyone! So, I'm about to meet my girlfriend this weekend after a long time, and we've been talking about and looking forward to finally getting that moment together. I'm honestly really excited but also kinda nervous because, well, it's a first for us, and I have absolutely no idea what to expect haha.

I've been curious about this for a while, so I'd love to hear how it was for you guys!

For those of you who had your first kiss during or after long distance, how did it actually happen? Was it something you planned beforehand, or did it just happen naturally in the moment? Who made the first move? Was it awkward at first, or did it feel natural?

And more than just how it happened, I'm really curious about how it felt. Like, what was going through your mind right before it happened? What did it physically and emotionally feel like in that moment? Did it feel surreal after spending so much time apart and finally getting to be together in person? What was it like immediately afterward? Did you get shy, laugh, hug each other, or just sit there taking it all in? Did it change anything between you two, or was it just a sweet moment that you kept thinking about afterward?

I know everyone's experience is different, but I'd genuinely love to hear the little details too, even the awkward or unexpected ones. I guess I'm just trying to get a glimpse of what that moment might be like for us.

So yeah, tell me your stories! I'm all ears :))

...distance is honestly the hardest part of loving someone deeply. Every single day, I wish I could wrap my arms around you after a long day, kiss your forehead without needing a screen between us, hold your hand while we walk with no destination, and just stare into your eyes while forgetting about the rest of the world.

I miss hearing your real laugh in person instead of through a phone speaker, and I miss seeing your smile right in front of me instead of through photos and videos. There are nights when I wish I could simply sit next to you in silence, because even silence feels peaceful when it's shared with the person you love.

No matter how many miles separate us, my heart still chooses you every single time. You are the place where I feel safe, understood, loved, and complete. Even from far away, you still feel like home to me. And no matter how difficult this distance becomes, my love for you only grows stronger because loving you is the most real feeling I have ever known.

I finally had the courage to remove my situationship of 7 months off my friend list after 20 days of no contact…
It’s a wired feeling even tho he made me feel so confused at the end and i was like “I’m better off alone” but now that i ended it i kinda miss the honeymoon phase 🥲
but if we were meant to be together it would’ve happen no matter what and I don’t want my days to pass by waiting for his message and him trying to actually do something other than apologizing over and over again every time.

Hi everyone!

I'd really appreciate some advice, especially from people who have been in a similar situation.

I'm 24F from Italy, and my boyfriend is 21M from the UK.

We've been together for 2 years, although we've known each other for 3. We started out as online friends, and after a year, we met in person and decided to pursue a relationship.

So far, things have been going really well.

Since we're both university students and I don't have mandatory attendance, I've been the one travelling most of the time. I've even stayed at his house for up to 3 weeks at a time! For the past two years, we've generally managed to see each other every 2 months.

Unfortunately, things are changing.

I'm in the final year of my degree, and due to the costs of travelling, I'll only be able to afford visiting him every 4 months from now on.

I don't want to keep relying on my parents financially, so this is something I'll have to accept for the time being.

We both love each other very much and want to build a future together once we've finished university.

My boyfriend is quite optimistic about the situation because he sees it as temporary: once he finishes university, he plans to help me move to the UK so we can finally live together.

I want to be able to look at things the same way, but honestly, I'm struggling with the thought of going 4 months without seeing him.

Even though we talk every day and our relationship is otherwise healthy, I'm worried that such long gaps between visits might eventually affect our connection or make us feel more distant.

For those of you in long-distance relationships who only get to see your partner rarely, how do you cope with it?

Does having such long gaps between visits affect your bond over time, or have you found ways to maintain the same level of closeness?

I'd also love to hear from couples who used to see each other more frequently but had to reduce their visits because of university, finances, or other circumstances.

I know every relationship is different, but hearing about other people's experiences would really help me feel less anxious about this. ❤️

I 26f have been dating (long distance) my 29m bf for 3.5 years now. We live in different continents but have met 4 times before. Lately since 4 months he has been extremely depressed to the point he ghosts me for days or weeks and a month. It's a very weird situation because we are basically engaged.
We were planning to marry in Denmark last year for legal and visa related reason but I was refused to enter his country. I am form a 3rd world country and my passport is very weak...
We planned to apply for another visa but for that I need some documents from him. We had planned what we were going to handle this.
Everything was going ok but suddenly his depression hit all time high(he had always been a depressed person but never ghosted me. Infact he would get terrified if I didn't text him back within a day).
He sends me money even when he is ghosting me and last time we talk I asked him if he still loves me and wants a family with me to which he said yes but that he needs time.
The thing is, this is all taking a toll on my health, I have lost multiple kgs and my my hair is falling like never before because of stress. My parents know something is wrong but they can't tell and I can't tell them because they won't approve of this relationship and probably take away all my freedom if they knew.
We had planned our lives together and we love each other, this happened so suddenly. Idk what to do.
I hate that I have a weak passport and I hate that I am poor.
Depression sucks

I have been in this ldr relationship with my Girlfriend for a 1 month now and its been going really bad she always disappears on me and leave me hanging and her excuses is that she is busy with family and I know she is not cheating but she says everything will be fixed when she returns to live alone and im scared of what if it doesnt change and im trapping myself in this relationship

And the more I stay the harder it is to break up but I also say to myself what if it will actually get better when she lives alone again like when we first met

Hi, in just about 12 hours ago I broke things off with my long distance girlfriend in Philippines of 21 months.

Summarize, I met her when I was broke traveler 20 years old with no job, and little college experience when visiting family in Philippines for the first time. Then I met her, loving, family-oriented, her playing a guitar and singing to me late at night, the karaoke dates, food dates, love of film and walking down the local roads early in the morning terrified that I was gonna get mugged (haha) I was even being welcomed by her family as a Filipino-American and even doing group hangouts with her siblings and their significant others. It was time to leave to head back to US and with my 1-2 months with her, plus her history and her telling me I was her first real love after she had an abusive boyfriend who god-forbid if I were ever to see him, pointed a gun at her and only used her. With everything I told myself “I’d do anything to be with this girl, I need to find a way.” It was also my first real relationship and first time experiencing love.

I ended up joining the military, now almost halfway of a four year contract, thinking of it for a while to not only plan for me financially, educationally, and as a stepping stone, but to hopefully plan how we can close the gap. She stuck by me when doing paperwork to apply, during boot camp, and even during training and schooling, and now in which it did test our relationship which ended. She applied to college and took on a different job in her hopes to see me again. Throughout the time from early 2025 to now there were a lot of things we learned about eachother and ourselves. Things such as porn use, navigating time gaps and long hours, making the boundary that taking a break is breaking up, weeks without facetime, among other normal LDR things.

I ended up seeing her again in summer 2026 Philippines in which there were definitely changes. Compared to before I had been shaped by a whole new different culture, with her also being on summer break from College, but still a working student. We were different, but I had brought my own issues such as lust and tendency to shut down when ignoring problem in a relationship that i eventually overcame, but did affect the visit. But the biggest notable issue was compatibility, I knew about distance in LDR, I knew about honeymoon phases in LDR, I did not take into account logistics, apathy, or compatability. When one of my family was giving her a heart to heart and asked her straight up when I was next to her “do you want to move to the US.” In which we did talk prior and she said yes, but in front of my family member she said no. In which was surprise to me that ended up having both of us leave the party later on and us almost breaking up that night when we addressed our communication issues in which we learned from afterwards, but i’ll get to that later. I talked with her and we nearly broke up that night. We stayed together due to attachment moving forward since I was bound to leave so we stayed together with us even sharing a kiss, hug, and long hours at the airport before I left.

I overcame my communication issues, my lust, my unfair comparisons, but the compatability and logistics is what affected us the most. I ended up making a detailed roadmap of what I want in life after we got moved to my hometown in which I realized I don’t want to do another contract and I’d rather rebuild my life as a civilian since military is actively dulling who I am as a person. I made investments, saving money, seeing what hobbies I like, what careers I like in which I am a very fast-paced person that loves things like surfing, snowboarding, travel videography, raves/parties on a responsible level. Whereas my girlfriend is my Philippines-oriented, working, college student who doesnt have the capacity to think about closing the gap in which I couldn’t blame her, it happens. But then questions got brought up for me throughout the months. How does she feel about wanting kids? How does she feem about marriage? How does she feel about moving to the US? And would she even be happy if she did so?

As the man in the relationship, I really wanted to keep planning for us. Thats where I found my security. Where with her she plans day to day. In which this is where the logistics and compatability issues came up. I asked her if she ever thought about how we’d close the gap and how and she was still unsure in which I did feel hurt. I did not blame her for it though, nor did i resent it. I’d be leaving military in summer of 2029, and she wouldn’t be done with college until maybe 2030 and she mentioned still figuring out her life.

I cant ask her or have her ask me to move to each others country’s at this time and if we did, we’d resent each other.

I wanted to live a life full of fun, security, and use the finances that I saved to fund hobbies, education, or goals in the US and hopefully get her here. She wanted to take life day by day, already dealing with her life responsibilities, plus a relationship with a 12+ hr time gap.

After those topics dropped we tried talking more kind of for the next two weeks I mentioned that I still felt down and that I was genuinely happy shes doing college, in which she responded shes not trying to avoid it or try ignoring it but be more normal in text rather than being cold. She was putting more effort into trying to text

For me it just felt like I grown apathetic in the relationship as days gone which hurt that it didn’t hurt me because she can tell that I was obviously pulling back. To me it felt hard to fathom still being in LDR by the time i was 25-26, and her 24-25.

(I hate that even though its recent some things are a blur because I feel like the bad guy even though I broke things off. I had to take a second to just try to remember why we broke up.)

I wanted a life with her in the US. She wanted a life with me but was ultimately tied down to Philippines, college, her career, and finding herself, shes not a big traveler, and with my hobbies I feel like I shouldve instead asked her “Would you love to do these hobbies with me?” rather than “Would she be able to keep up?”

I called her and broke things off but we felt a weight off our shoulders but at the same time, maybe I don’t know if I broke things off prematurely. She had to leave 10 mins for college during our facetime in which I left off saying “I love you” with her being surprised and said “Huh?” In a jokingly funny way and me saying “You know what I mean” in which she left if off with “I love you more.” and us waving back to eachother. We are or were a strange relationship, we liked making jokes about situations that were too real sometimes.

I don’t know, I never had plans in mind to visit Philippines anytime soon but maybe I shouldnt have ended things off when there was no real pressure, or maybe ask myself if I should have questioned my apathy more.

Unsure of what to do. Theres probably a bit more details but right now I’m a bit all over the place.

My ex (27M) broke up with me (29F) on September 2, after almost three years together. We've been in complete no contact ever since, and lately I've been wondering whether I should reach out.

For some context, we were in a long-distance relationship from the beginning. I moved to a different country for my career around the time we started dating, while he remained in my home country. Despite the distance, we were serious about each other, discussed marriage, and had plans for a future together.

Our relationship wasn't perfect, but I genuinely loved him and invested a lot in making it work.

One recurring issue was that we had different expectations regarding boundaries, priorities, and what was acceptable in a committed relationship. Certain things he did, particularly involving drinking, partying, and interactions with other women, made me uncomfortable. He generally considered these activities harmless and felt I was trying to restrict his freedom. From my perspective, I wasn't asking him to stop enjoying his life. I wanted him to acknowledge my feelings and occasionally make compromises, just as I was willing to do for him.

Over time, I increasingly felt that I was the one making adjustments to preserve the relationship. He would often say that I was prioritizing my own happiness over his, while I felt that my emotional needs were becoming less and less important.

Things became particularly difficult during the weeks leading up to his breakup with me.

On September 1, I wanted to have an important conversation with him. He told me he would talk after dinner, playing PUBG for a couple of hours, and sleeping. I ended up waiting for around two and a half hours, only to be met with a rather dismissive response when we finally spoke.

The following day, he decided to end the relationship.

He told me that our differences were irreconcilable, that he didn't believe we could build a happy life together, and that he didn't want relationship problems interfering with his upcoming professional examinations and career.

During our final video call, I cried, pleaded, and tried to convince him that we could work things out. I even told him I was willing to make changes. But he remained firm in his decision.

Eventually, while I was still crying, he said he needed to sleep and that we could talk the following day if I had anything more to say.

I never called him again.

Instead, I sent him a final message saying that I would respect his decision and wouldn't contact him unless he initiated communication.

He had also told me during our last conversation that I could reach out if I ever needed to talk to him. I don't remember the exact wording, but that was the essence of what he said.

And that's where things have remained.

It's now been almost two months of complete no contact.

Neither of us has reached out.

What makes this more confusing is his behavior after the breakup.

Within approximately a week, he returned to Instagram and started posting again, including photographs from an older vacation. A few weeks later, he removed the photographs of us from his profile, despite previously saying he would keep them.

He didn't wish me on my birthday, which was just two weeks after the breakup, although he continued publicly wishing other people on their birthdays.

I know social media doesn't necessarily reflect someone's emotional state, and I'm not claiming that any of his posts are directed at me. But seeing him resume his life while we've become complete strangers after almost three years together has been a strange experience.

Here's my dilemma.

Part of me wonders whether I should text him, especially because he explicitly left that door open by saying I could reach out if I needed to.

I also wonder whether he might be expecting me to initiate contact, considering that during previous disagreements, I was often the one who tried to repair things.

So I want to ask people here, particularly those who have been the dumper or have experienced something similar:

\- When someone breaks up with you but says you can reach out if you need to, is that a genuine invitation to communicate, or simply something people say to soften the breakup?

\- After almost two months of complete silence, is there any point in the dumpee reaching out when they already tried everything during the breakup?

\- Have any of you reached out after a prolonged period of no contact? Did it bring clarity, or did you regret it?

\- Is it possible that a dumper who previously relied on their partner to repair conflicts might be waiting for them to make the first move again?

I'm not necessarily asking whether we'll reconcile. I'm trying to understand whether initiating a conversation at this point would serve any meaningful purpose.

I'd genuinely appreciate different perspectives, including from people who initiated their breakups.

TL;DR: My ex dumped me after almost three years together, citing incompatibility and recurring conflicts. I pleaded during our final call but ultimately respected his decision and have maintained no contact for almost two months. He said I could reach out if I needed to, but hasn't contacted me himself. He's since resumed posting actively on social media and removed our photos. I'm torn between reaching out for a conversation and accepting that I've already done everything I could.

he was gonna come see me and we were gonna go to disneyland but they denied any pto for the remainder of the year :( his job works him a lot but jobs are important so i understand its just really frustrating i havent seen him at all this semester.

We've been dating for about 2 months now. Our original plan was for her to come to me in February since we thought that was the only time we would both be free. But then last week we realised we would both be free during autumn break. The problem was that she didn't have her passport so she couldn't travel yet but I remember id traveled outside of Europe a few years ago and luckily my passport was still valid. So now I'm going to see her in 6 days and I can't wait to hug her >//<

I do not see many posts where people talk about one or both partners having children from a previous relationship. I have two adult children and one child who is 11 years old, and he has one adult child. I take my son with me when I visit where he lives, and sometimes when it is my weekend with my son, I take him along for a long weekend. What does everyone else do? We are long-distance because I cannot move with my son right now. My son absolutely loves the adventures and even has a room at his house for which we let him pick out the paint colors and bedding to make it feel like his space.

its been 2 days since i left my baby at the airport and oh my god i feel so miserable 😞.we cried together before i had to go and it was such a painful experience

i cried the while time at the airport and seeing the flight taking off and seeing the city that my baby is in being further away js breaks my heart.how do you guys navigate this?

Yes we have an age gap but most days don’t feel it. I’m not here to exactly discuss age, but moreso the distance aspect maybe or general relationship. We love each other deeply and naturally click and all that. We have the same values and religion and home country, yet are both progressive free thinkers.

We’re both bonded in that way where you feel you’re both on another plane and the rest of the world is kinda somewhere below. Like a creative or cerebral bond? Anyway, point is we gel. As enriching as our relationship is, we’re both not rich and are struggling to find a way to actually come together.

I went through a simultaneous divorce and career transition a couple years ago and have since been trying to do something more creative instead of 9-5, while he moved countries for higher education. We aren’t established and now after 2 years of long distance it’s starting to turn stale or depressing. I tend to whine and complain more often than him while he holds it down since he’s naturally just more stable. He has started criticizing me like never before over nothing in particular.

It’s not that I can’t handle him being moody. I just don’t know what’s happening. He can’t exactly tell me because he barely understands himself because…. He’s 25? He doesn’t reflect on himself much.
I don’t know if he’s lonely and can’t say it. If he sees hot girls in the new country and wants to hook up. If he’s mad at my work schedule. He thinks he isn’t rocking the boat but I’m the boat is sinking.

I’ve been pretty pessimistic about our relationship because I want a future and real partner and full life. Ldr is exhausting and sometimes I wonder if I’m just hiding or something. I do really love the guy but don’t know if it’s a good idea to consider him as husband material. Plus trying to be together just looks like such a huge struggle and I learned long ago that the struggle story is a myth. It can be easy if you want it to be, just pick someone that meets your criteria.

This was a rebound connection after my marriage fell through but it became much more along the way. What now? I’m pretty attached to this and we both still show up everyday. But we’re not really talking anymore it’s really painful and depressing being on the phone with him. He’s checked out shortly after being in the new country. I want to understand but don’t want to be stuck in that horrible dynamic of overgiving and raising someone who’s supposed to be my man.

I’m still not where I want to be in life and need the support. I’m not sure what I’ll do without my person.

Hi guys! First time poster here
Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years and we have always lived 30 mins away from each other. In a few weeks he is moving to Hawaii with his best friend. For context his best friend is moving bc his gf lives down there and my bf wants to follow along as he is in his mid twenties and honestly feels stuck in life. He wants something different and he always tells me how much he loves Hawaii since he grew up traveling there often with his family. I am supportive as I am a person who believes you should travel in your twenties and I would do the same right now if I wasn’t in school. I was originally worried abt the potential thoughts of girls and him being weird since I tend to overthink but then knowing him he never had that pursue tendencies as we have bonded a lot over that as I am the same. This next year of his life is his version of living through Anthony Bourdain. We both love his show and have read his book so I can see how he wants to travel. But I feel selfish for feeling sad that he’s leaving as the closest thing we’ve done to long distance was when I went on a month long family trip to my homeland where there was a bigger time difference than Hawaii and we did fine back then. For travel wise-I have no issues traveling and want to plan as soon as possible but right now he has me on pause for it as he isn’t there yet but also he doesn’t know what job he will end up getting and how their hours will be and finances will look. I just want to know is it okay to feel sad that he’s leaving for a while and that I am worried about our relationship but I’m also looking for overall advice,anything is greatly appreciated 🩶 thank you all🦋

My boyfriend and I have been together for around 8 months, long-distance. In the beginning, he was genuinely everything I could’ve wanted. He was incredibly affectionate, attentive, reassuring, and made me feel loved in ways I hadn’t experienced before. We talked on the phone every single day, and he made me feel safe enough to finally let my guard down after years of struggling with vulnerability.

Over the past couple of months, things have changed. We still had our daily calls for much of that time, but the affection and emotional warmth gradually decreased. More importantly, there have been multiple occasions where he’d suddenly stop texting and calling for several days, sometimes even an entire week.

I’ve repeatedly explained how much this hurts me, especially because I don’t expect constant communication. Even a short message letting me know he needs space or is busy would be enough. He knows this, yet it keeps happening.

During one conversation about the lack of affection, he told me: “I can understand that the absence of such softness may make you feel less cherished but continuously asking, begging for it won’t make it come back.”

That honestly broke my heart. I wasn’t trying to force affection out of him. I was trying to explain how much I missed feeling loved the way I used to. Hearing him describe my attempts to communicate as “begging” made me feel ashamed for even asking.

Whenever I bring up something that hurts me, he tends to defend his efforts by reminding me of everything he’s done for me. I then spend half the conversation reassuring him that I appreciate everything and don’t take him for granted. It feels like my feelings get pushed aside because I end up comforting him instead of being heard.

For context, I have severe depression, which he’s fully aware of. I’m receiving professional treatment, and he’s known how badly I’ve been struggling. Last week, I went through an extremely serious mental health crisis. Despite knowing I was already in a very difficult place, he hadn’t called me in an entire week. When I asked why, he said, “I just didn’t have the opportunity.”

I understand he couldn’t have known exactly what was happening, and I don’t blame him for my crisis. But it hurt knowing that someone who once made so much effort to be there for me now couldn’t find a moment to call, especially when he knew I was struggling.

To be fair, he works, has responsibilities, and may be emotionally overwhelmed himself. He’s done so much for me throughout our relationship, and I genuinely believe he loves me. I don’t think he’s intentionally hurting me, and I recognize that supporting someone with severe depression can be difficult. I don’t expect him to fix my mental health or act as my therapist. I'm not even a person that likes to talk about it so that's not even what I want from him.

But I’ve spent months communicating the same needs, and I’m exhausted. I don’t want to keep telling him how to love me, and I don’t want him to feel like everything he does is wrong either.

Lately, I’ve noticed myself emotionally withdrawing without even trying. I don’t open up the way I used to, I hold back my tears, and I’m starting to bottle everything up again. He was the first person who made me feel safe enough to stop doing that, and now I feel myself becoming the emotionally closed-off and avoidant person I used to be.

I still love him deeply, and I miss how things were. I love this man so much I wrote him an entire book man lmao. But I’m scared that every time I feel disappointed, a little more of that emotional connection disappears.

Am I being unfair by expecting the same emotional warmth and consistency he showed in the beginning? Or is it reasonable to feel hurt after repeatedly communicating my needs without seeing lasting changes?

So my girlfriend and I (both 18) are currently in high school and have been dating for about a year. We will be leaving our hometown for college in a few months’ time. When we started dating, we told ourselves that we won't let a future probability of not working out as a couple ruin what we can have in the present but as that reality inches closer, there are serious considerations to be made. I believe that a long distance relationship might work out between us, but she doesn't think so. I have always been confident and optimistic about our future while she remains a little bit more sceptical and in her words “realistic”. 

She says that statistically LDRs don't work; proximity is important in a relationship; we will grow apart and get busy with our own lives, engrossed in our academics, extracurriculars, internships, friends, and just in navigating a brand new city for both of us; eventually building resentment and hate. She says that she's seen her friends’ relationships fall apart after they moved out to college. Tbf, she isn't entirely wrong in thinking this way. A very close friend of mine had been dating this guy since high school and even did a year of LDR. She was dumped by him during their second year of LDR and the manner in which he did it made it feel like it came from a place of disdain, frustration, and bitterness built over the years. 

She said that she isn't willing to sacrifice her sanity over this relationship if it ends up going into an LDR, and does not want to lose herself over it and I fully respect that mindset.

This one time, a few months back, we were high on marijuana and she ended up blabbering to me about breaking up to “enjoy our college lives”. When I asked her about this once we were sober, she told me to ignore what she said and that what she had said in an intoxicated stupor was bullshit and didn't mean anything. I had forgotten about that until today when we had this conversation about our future and us being together or not. 

We have always handled conflict in a mature and smart manner. She is brilliant and I love her with every fiber of my being. I respect her and her decisions and I am really proud of the way we've handled problems in the past. We have never felt insecure about the other being unfaithful and have trusted each other since the day we got together. She is really special to me. Being with her, I've learnt and grown so much as a person. I've never been as close to someone as I am with her, be it emotionally or physically. The way she's shown me affection and respect is unlike anything I've ever experienced before. She has gone out of her way to make me feel loved and cared for. She's handled criticism that I've given her and she's also grown since we've got together and continues to improve and strives to be a better person and pushes me to do the same. We're truly perfect for each other but I feel like it's coming to an end. 

Now, we still have a few months before we actually move out and there is still a probability, albeit a rather infinitesimal one, that we end up in the same city. She says that we should enjoy the months that we are together at the same place and even if we end up in an LDR she is going to try to make it work with me. However, I can't seem to shake off all the things she said to me and considering what she's said to me as well as her slightly avoidant nature, that it's not going to work. I remain heavily optimistic however, pragmatically speaking, I don't think it's going far. I’d absolutely hate to be clinging on to something that probably won't exist in the near future and hold her back from being happy. I am facing an internal turmoil in my mind at 3:00am and can't fall asleep, hence this post. 

What should I do? I want to make the most out of these last few months together but the thought of breaking up terrifies me and stops me from doing so. Am I being too optimistic and not rational enough? How do I deal with this? 

Please feel free to ask me further questions for further clarity on my end and I'll answer them if I'm comfortable enough in doing so. 

A few days back I made a post about ending a LDR I had for around 2 years.

During last week I told her how angry and upset it made me feel how she keeps ghosting me and expecting me to stay checked in and committed throughout.

I can't cope because her last message to me was 9 days ago. She didn't even respond to my messages telling her how I felt.

That makes me even more upset and angry, it's like I meant nothing to her whatsoever.

I don't know if I can even cope with this. It's two years of my life wasted for someone else's fantasy. I feel so sick to the stomach that I meant so little to her after this much time.

I told her my feelings are justified, we had been "together" for two years not two weeks. And she has just gone..poof... vanished. What the actual fuck.

I know she hasn't blocked me because my messages to her are still two ticking on WhatsApp. She is just collecting my messages to her.

Hey everyone, I’m in a long-distance relationship, and I’m getting really worried about my girlfriend.

Two days ago, she told me, “I’ll explain some thing later,” but since then, she hasn’t responded to any of my messages, and her phone is switched off. I don’t know what’s happening, and the uncertainty is making me anxious.

What makes this harder is that today is our 1-year anniversary. I was looking forward to this day, hoping we could spend some time together, even if it was just through a call or messages.

Being in different countries makes this so difficult because I can’t physically check on her. I keep wondering if she’s okay, and I just wish I could hear from her.

I don’t want to jump to conclusions or assume anything bad about her. I just miss her and hope she’s safe.

Has anyone experienced something similar? I could really use some advice really. Im really worried rn.

Update - she came just now, but told me that her mom beat her cause she talked back and took her phone. Now she's having s*cidal thoughts.

I (16F) need advice for teenagers (16F, 17M) who are having struggles of maintaining relationsship. Having a relationship with only talking is hard, but we've been together for a year and half and i really want this to work out so i need advice on how to handle such relationships when the only thing you can do is talking and sometimes playing games together? How did you manage to stay so long in LDR?