r/LongDistance • u/Moist_Revenue_3845 • 8h ago
Breakup Should I just breakup
I have been in this ldr relationship with my Girlfriend for a 1 month now and its been going really bad she always disappears on me and leave me hanging and her excuses is that she is busy with family and I know she is not cheating but she says everything will be fixed when she returns to live alone and im scared of what if it doesnt change and im trapping myself in this relationship
And the more I stay the harder it is to break up but I also say to myself what if it will actually get better when she lives alone again like when we first met
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u/Marburglar 7h ago
In a LDR both people have to actively work to keep the connection solid. It requires communication, honesty, self-sacrifice. If she can't do that now she won't be able to do that later. Like you said, the more you stay the harder it is to break up. Don't continue to suffer. You need to protect yourself, sometimes even from people you love.
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u/Quiet_Butterscotch17 5h ago
She said it will be normal when she’s alone, you need to trust her if you want it to work
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u/GargantuanComplexity 8h ago
this early on if shes already going ghost on you thats a massive red flag, a month in should still be the honeymoon phase where she actually wants to talk to you
the whole "itll be better when i live alone" thing is just kicking the can down the road, what happens next time shes busy or stressed, is she just gonna vanish again
youre not trapping yourself by staying but you already know this dynamic feels bad, trust that instinct, if youre this anxious after four weeks imagine six months from now and nothing has changed