Hi guys, tonight I will have two Tops over. I know both of them already. I had separate dates with them. Tonight we decided to do a threesome with me being the only bottom. How do i prepare the best way so I can go as long as I need and everyone has a good time?

***Stopping comments as to avoid additional bigoted comments

I’ve had this young 24yo Israeli guy hitting me up on Grindr last few months. Very sexy and obviously has a daddy thing which is totally fine by me. Schedules finally aligned last week. When it came time for him to bottom I asked if he had lube and he said no but in a way that lead me to think it was no big deal especially with his fuck me eyes. Can’t remember last time I used spit tbh. So I lube up his hole and my cock with spit and slowly started to enter. He was tight and took my time. Got in and let him get use to me. We fucked in a few positions for about 10 mins before I bred him. I’m well endowed and while he was a tight twink he took it very well and his reaction was obviously more than satisfied as was I. He hmu this morning wanting to plan another meet.

I came away after the first time with a question in my mind and perhaps maybe even a bit naive to some aspects of our community in other places.

Does lube use or lack there of vary in some cultures and countries?

Perhaps not and this guy just prefers not to use it.

Curious as to others experience.

I think younger me assumed that if I ever got to have a boyfriend, the big moments would be the ones that mattered. First kiss, meeting the parents, all that stuff.

But the other day my boyfriend texted me to pick up dish soap, and I stood in the supermarket for five minutes trying to remember which scent he hates.

On the way home it randomly hit me that 16-year-old me would've been absolutely floored by this. Not the fact that I have a boyfriend, exactly. The fact that having one has become so normal that we can have a minor domestic disagreement about lemon-scented dish soap.

I spent years imagining what being with another guy might look like. Somehow I never pictured the boring parts, and those are turning out to be some of my favorites.

Anyone else have a completely ordinary moment that younger you would've found unbelievable?

26M, 5’10 and 240 lbs, I am trying to lose weight and just started this week with dieting. I’m on a strict 2000 calories a day diet to maintain a caloric deficit and just by dieting alone, attempting to lose 4-8lbs monthly.

I am also buying a basic exercise bike so I can do cardio at home 5 times a week and actually stick to it since it’s easy, therapeutic and convenient since I’m at home.

Is there anything else that helped with your weight loss? My goal is to be 177 by spring of 2027. Like April ish. My main focus is losing weight, then after shedding the pounds doing more muscle exercises

I like muscular guys and turns out I'm muscular. Ever since i got big I cant stop jerking off to myself... i see my pumped muscles in the mirror and just gotta rub one out everytime. I often just do a bunch of push ups and curls just to look at myself..

My IG algorithm is just muscular guys and its getting to the point where all I have on my mind is to get bigger. Feels like im getting brainwashed

Im so obsessed and its getting worse the bigger i get but i love it so much... anyone else like this?

Legit question, how do you guys pee with morning wood/morning glory? I don’t bend that way…

So recently got a job on a remote station in Australia teaching 3 kids. The divorced father hired me for a 3 month contract. Problem is, he is gay and we ended up together in his bed. To make things worse i dressed as a cd for a month in his ex wife's clothes. I acted as his wife. It was amazing. I thought it was just a kink and move on. Now he has asked me back using my female name he gave me. I think hes in love. Not sure what to do. This is not what they taught me in teachers college.

What's something you discovered you liked while exploring your intimate side that you never expected to be into? maybe a particular kink, fetish, dynamic, or type of affection that caught you off guard. How did you discover it, and what made you realize it was something you genuinely enjoyed?

I'm in my exploring phase and I'm curious to hear your experiences and stories, especially the unexpected discoveries lol

I had a thing for Ian Ziering in Beverly Hills 90210. Beefy men do it for me.

Grant Show in Melrose Place, especially when on Season 4 when he cut his hair and was wearing designer clothes.

Darren Star knew how to pick hot guys.

Can be any type of animation whether it is Western animation or anime

While solo. What gets you off fast when you’re in a bit of a time crunch. How fast?

Pretty sure the guy next to me in the gym showers was jerking off the way he was moaning and panting, there were stalls so I didn't see him, it did give me a hard on. My question is can you get in trouble for it? Even though it is a business, technically nobody can see you right?

As the title states it was horrible. I cum EXTREMELY hard to the point it looks like I’m having a seizure. I told the guy I cum really hard and that I can’t control what I do/noises. He had me sneak in through his window which happened to be on the second floor since his parents were asleep which was funny. Anyways we do the deed and I told him I was about to cum and I latched onto him similarly how people act when being tased and my nails made him bleed. I also farted which has never happened before whilst finishing. Anyways after he told me to get out which was whatever and he texted me and said he thought I was dying since I was convulsing and that it was super weird to see and me farting was disgusting. I never hookup because of how embarrassing it is when I finish and this experience literally solidified it even more.

Idek why I’m posting this I just feel like never meeting up again because every guy I get with says it sounds hot but then bashes me for it. I guess my question is how do I finish so I don’t scare people or get talked down upon.

EDIT I BITE MY NAILS THEY HAVE NO LENGTH

Someone posted in the r/hatethissmug subreddit that they dont like the term "gay" being used as an insult.

https://www.reddit.com/r/hatethissmug/s/shJodUfHyG

The comment section is pretty much filled with people defending it, using it as an insult and other pick me gays saying they let everyone use it as an insult. Its supposedly a progressive liberal subreddit.

So I wanna know the general concensus here.

And why was it the best ?

He's 19 and I'm 24. Is the age gap concerning? It was my first time to try a relationship with someone younger than me because most of my past relationship are older guys. Honestly, we kinda hit it off like we had a lot in common. I'm just worrying if I'm too predatory about the age gap that I even asked him about it lol. He said he was cool with it and we're both consenting adults.

Hey bros, I’m sure this has been asked before but I’m curious what everyone’s opinions are on water based vs silicone based lubes?

I’m a top and cannot stand silicone based lubes especially with a tight bottom as I feel it adds so much more friction and a tacky sensation to the skin. I wind up having to use spit on top of the silicone lube to make it feel remotely enjoyable. Water based lubes are much more lubricating in my opinion have got to be 10x more pleasurable. The sensation is drastically better and is legit night and day for me.

However lube choice tends to be something you leave up to the bottom in most scenarios and the preference for most bottoms I know is silicone based lubes. They love the damn gun oil brand and I legit can’t stand the tacky sensation on my skin. Curious what’s people’s thoughts are? Any other tops that drastically prefer water based?

Need some feedback (good or bad).

Training in gym. Not that it’s important but i am 26. One day I asked a guy to spot and since then every time we cross paths in gym we train together. We also text each other so now and then outside gym. Funny and sometimes a bit spicey talks.

After a while, I discovered via X / Twitter my new gymbuddy has some ´naugthy’ side activities. Bumped into some shorts with him and other ´actors’´as publicity for their onlyfans channel(s). He does not know I know (or at least i guess) and honestly I did not care (see below) as that part is part of his life - not mine.

But now it comes: he texted me last night that from the beginning he thought I was a nice guy, completely his type and asked me to go on a date with him to get known each other better and outside gym.

That feeling is mutual, but I already know i could never date someone active in porn. How would you react? (Personally I think i am just going to be honest to him about it).

EDIT : First of all thanks to all contributors for sharing their opinion (good and bad). So what I did: I called him up this morning (instead of texting). Told him I was flattered when receiving his text - apologized I did not react immediately. Told him I do not see any harm in doing something together outside gym, but as two people who might become friends instead of pure gym buddies & instead of two guys going on a date - so we decided to go for a drink and some tapas, to watch The Odyssey in theaters (still on both our list) and maybe go clubbing afterwards if we feel like it (like people do over here on a Friday). Might have to slip in that message again on the moment itself, but if he can cope with it, this could be the start of a good friendship (and I don't have the intention to talk about OF, unless he spontaneously starts about it)

i’ve (31 M) been dating this guy (also 31 M) for about 1.5 years almost. but now it’s getting to the stages where it’s serious. he has proposed, we are moving in together, met each other’s families, etc.

i’m gonna be honest, i love him. A LOT. i haven’t felt this way about somebody since my ex who passed away in 2017. there’s a few issues though. 1 is that i met him in a rehab facility. 2 is that he did 9 years in prison, and has only been out since right before we met in rehab. 3 he has been living in a halfway house/three quarter house since we got out of rehab last august. and 4 he has never dated a man before (and has only dated/slept with 2 women because he’s spent most of his adult life incarcerated)

initially, when we got together, it wasn’t going to be anything serious just like friends with benefits, and he told me he still was going to sleep with women. however, very quickly, we both caught pretty significant feelings. so he has recanted the thing about him sleeping with women. he proposed to me over the weekend, and we are also moving in together on the first of november.

i’m legitimately over the moon happy. i don’t care about the baggage with his parole, he has maintained his sobriety since he entered rehab in june of last year, and i have almost maintained mine since january of this year (aside from a slip up on memorial day). however there is just one thing that’s making me have anxiety. he has only ever been sexually active with one other man, for a period of about 3 months, while he was in the middle of a 9 year prison bid. he never comments about finding other men attractive, on tv or in person, but he has made a couple comments about women he found attractive on one of the reality shows i force him to watch.

to meet him, you would not think he was gay at all in terms of looks or appearance. he’s very much so a redneck through & through. with prison tattoos, and he shaved his head recently despite him not being balding. so i just get paranoid and scared sometimes like, what if he’s not actually gay at all? FWIW, he makes significantly more money than i do & is a licensed tradesman in a field that pays well. however he’s not good at domestics, like finding us a place to live together all came to me, along with getting electricity etc. set up. so i think “is he straight and using me?” but then i think “but i don’t really have much to offer..”

i don’t have many friends IRL, and i have one gay friend but he is an ex, so i don’t really want to make him privy to my relationship issues. would you feel comfortable in continuing this relationship? i have borderline personality disorder, along with a severe anxiety problem, as well as substance abuse (crack & fentanyl), so my decisions aren’t always the best. i can never tell if im standing up for myself & setting boundaries, and making “safe choices”; OR if im setting good, positive relationships ablaze because of my own paranoia and insecurity.

TL;DR- *insert a lot of background info/context* would you feel safe being engaged to a 31 year old man who has only ever been with one other man, and seems straight in almost all aspects of life?

I (M29) have never been in a relationship or had much dating experience. Two years ago I moved out of my mid-sized city to a major city in the United States. I didn't come out until I was 22, and there wasn't much of a dating scene for me to dive into while I was out of the closet in my hometown. I think I met a few men online while I lived there, but it always fizzled out.

Fast forward to now and I'm experiencing the same issue but to a greater magnitude and frequency: I'm really into the guy when I meet him, and then I'm bored out of my mind after three or four dates.

I'll admit two things:
1) I do have intimacy issues (I know I'm into men, but I'm unable to get hard or even feel aroused a lot of the time). It's the double-edged sword where I won't get off if it's a one-night stand and if we try to build a connection first, and
2) I don't think I really have a lot to offer--I go to work and I hang out with friends a lot, and I don't think my interests (architecture, collecting albums, walking, reading, running) are conversation starters or even that interesting. I do like the idea of being in a secure relationship and sharing my life with someone.

Currently I've been seeing someone the past few weeks that I've enjoyed getting to know, but again, it really feels like a friendship where we make out and sleep in the same bed as each other and watch television all day. I've tried to make a move but it hasn't really gone anywhere. And this isn't just an isolated incident: it feels repetitive where I'm unable to build a connection (he goes out of town, I go out town, I live too far away, he has family staying with him for a month, etc.).

I also feel like I'm not meshing with anyone due to my lack of experience and because I feel like a get-off-my-lawn type of boomer in terms of my personality and how I approach the world. It's been good to date around and see what I like (which has been helpful), but it feels exhausting and not fair to the guys I've been meeting. I will note that most of the men I meet are from online, but my couple in-person first time experiences also fizzled. Maybe I should take a break and reevaluate, or just come to terms I shouldn't really be dating at all.

Any thoughts or advice would be appreciated. Hopefully I got my point across coherently.

I (21) have had a massive crush on this guy im studying with for the last while, and we’ve been getting closer and closer etc for the last like 2 weeks. He’s slept over some nights, we’ve just cuddled and that’s genuinely all.

Last night I finally made a move on him, we were getting intimate and it was all consensual etc, felt good, was making sure he felt good, and all of a sudden I just had to stop. I couldn’t see him. When I looked at him I saw someone else. 

It freaked me the fuck out. I immediately said sorry etc and could we just rest for a bit to which he was like of course.

The person I saw was a person my ex pretended to be. A cat fish basically. And the pic that I had associated with him for a long time. Now I’ve not even see that person/ photo in over 18 months so I don’t know why it came back into my head at all. I feel incredibly uncomfortable and tonight is the first night in 2 weeks I’ve asked we not sleep in the same room. 

I feel awful about it on my part and his. I have no physical desire or attachment whatsoever to that person in the photo.

What the fuck is this? 

So, i am a top, 21. The thing is i have only had anal sex like really long time ago, I was naive did it without any condom or anything, it was spontaneous, it didn't get exactly that dirty but there was a lil bit mess, i was okay with it.

But recently i somehow got so much into the anal hygiene issue so much, i stay a lot of overthinking around it, i literally checked my anal part quite a times to see how much mess it usually stays, sometimes it comes out clean, i can see a little trace of poop, a lot of times, i could also apparently feel something in my rectum once, i think that's rare though.

But because of this, I don't wanna loose interest in topping, I like it , but I feel like I am loosing interest. Everytime, I think about some ass, I feel like I will be shoving my dick into poophole, I feel like it's always gonna be dirty.

So basically, I wanna ask,

how normally people enjoy anal sex??

Is feeling like you are loosing interest in topping, normal? How do one recover from this?

What mindset should i have to go anxiety free towards sex?

Is anal sex always dirty?

Do people ever have spontaneous anal sex ever?

What should i do and keep in mind as a top?

(I really wanna enjoy sex, i really don't wanna be weird and wanna stay cool about it, i really don't wanna make my bottom feel weird, i know its all natural, but i just wanna know how, some tips from fellow tops?)

My anxiety increased when i noticed apparent stool in rectum area, so yeah how to basically deal with stuffs like that. Idk imm clueless.