I'm (21) from my dad's first marriage. He and my mom divorced and then she died when I was 6. My dad remarried a few months after my mom's death but again they were divorced. My half sister's mom was always just my dad's wife and then my half sister's mom. I never really liked her. She was jealous of my ongoing contact with my mom's side of the family and she was jealous of the fact I would make Mother's Day pictures and cards for my mom's grave in school but I didn't make any for her. And she was jealous that I corrected when she told my teacher she was my mom because she felt like mom being dead should make it no big deal.

She also wanted me to start calling her mom when my half sister was born so there would be no confusion. I think I told her to go to hell which I was punished for. But it added more strain between us.

Then when I was 14 she planned to go to her family's place for several days before and after Mother's Day which was out of town. She insisted I needed to be there to celebrate her with dad and my half sister. I didn't want to miss out on visiting my mom's grave on Mother's Day so I ran away to my grandparents house and I kicked up a fuss not to go back with my dad until they came back from his wife's house. After that his wife was pissed the whole time and she dropped the rope in some ways but there was always tension when we're alone together or in the same conversation because she is waiting for the day I apologize for embarrassing her in front of her family by not coming and I have no intention of ever doing that.

My half sister notices the issues with me and her mom. She also notices we hardly ever interact now and her mom is never invited to my home. So when my dad comes by once or twice a week and brings her she will question me on it and she will tell me I should be nicer to her mom and I should treat her mom like she's mine because mine's dead and everyone needs a mom and it's not fair if I don't like her mom because then we're not real sister's because she loves her mom. She has called me a bitch and she has tried to mess with my photos because her mom is never in any of them. The last time they came over (last week) she yelled at me for putting up a photo of me and my parents before their divorce and she tried to pull it down.

I made my dad leave with her. We talked and he said he'll get her to apologize next time and I told him I don't want her in my home. He said she's my sister and he's doing all the work I should be doing to have a relationship with her. We argued and I am seriously considering telling him not to come if he insist on bringing her.

But I don't know if that's the right move.

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I 25F found my Engagement ring box while cleaning a week before an anniversary trip with my now Fiance. Immediately after I found it I called my girlfriends and I was so upset i had ruined such a big surprise, we agreed I shouldnt tell my Fiance what happened since I didn't open the box and since my Fiance had worked so hard planning the proposal, that night when they got home I thought something was off with them but i assumed it was my own nerves. Flash forward to the end of our trip the most perfect proposal happened and I couldn't be happier. On the plane ride home my Fiance confided in me that they knew I found the ring THE DAY IT HAPPENED and told me what friend said something. I went through what felt like the 5 stages of grief, apparently my other friends were angry that she put it upon herself to tell but my fiance was more grateful since it had taken some weight off their shoulders. Should I confront my Friend for crossing a line? And do you thing she crossed a line?

Hi all. My daughter is 12 and we live in the UK. She is on the waiting list for CBT therapy in relation to social anxiety and is on the waiting list for an autism assessment. This is all for info and context in the sense that we are trying to address areas already.

My daughter is a good kid, she's bright, doesn't get into trouble and is doing well in school, my concern lies in her obsession with the lead singer of a band.

She has thousands of photos on her phone of him, all appropriate ones, and will send them to me from time to time saying "look how cute my husband is" or "isn't he so cute". This all started at the beginning of the year as what appeared to be a harmless teen crush on a band member, as we've all had at one point in our lives, and has snowballed to what it is now.

My daughter knows everything about this man and talks about him a lot, she owns all of his music, both on vinyl and CD, which me and dad encouraged as music is a massive outlet for her and we were happy she'd connected with a genre of music we always grew up loving.

Now the reason I have come to reddit is because I just don't know what to do, she spends all of her spare time holed up in her bedroom, not wanting to do anything, she has lost interest in most things and will barely leave the house unless it's for school. She came to me tonight crying, I was worried as she can be quite guarded with her emotions, although will talk to me about any problems she may have, so to see her openly crying was a shock for me. She told me, after some coaxing, that she is so upset because of the singers wife, not because she's done anything, but simply because she exists.

I have no idea how to navigate this, I am at a loss of how to help her with these emotions, feelings and the obsession.

Extra info in case it comes up in comments, she has a smartphone, yes. She does not have access to social media, she has YouTube and Whatsapp, there are no groupchats where there may be bullying occuring, she has one best friend who she video calls with a lot and who comes over to the house frequently. She has time limits on the phone and it sits on my dresser from 9pm so she can wind down without it.

EDIT: I have received some amazing advice and wonderful insights here, thank you all so much. It's been great having this be a place for people to share their teen crushes and I've had a few laughs. I'll be doing some research into hyperfixation and ruminating and bring these up at her first CBT session.

I'll also add, as it's being asked a lot, the singer is Oli Sykes from Bring Me The Horizon, I know some people were annoyed I didn't add it in the original post, but I didn't think it was all that important to the advice I was seeking.

Hi this is so embarrassing but what’s not better than asking a bunch of strangers.
I’m in my late 20s and my boyfriend is in his early 30s. We are only a few years apart and he’s always out of town due to work. Like months at a time.

Well.. he’s coming home like today after not seeing him for awhile and I just started my period. And he’s only home for a few days 🙃 I could bury myself right now. I’m super self conscious when I’m on my period like I won’t even let him touch my butt 😂

Yes we’ve done it while on my period but it’s like on the shower you know? I’m so uncomfortable with myself when I’m on my period. He doesn’t care at all. But we do things my way to keep me comfortable.

I need advice, tips idk maybe Jesus?

I don’t want to just do it in the shower after him being gone for so long but I get so embarrassed. I had a bad experience in my early 20s and my boyfriend at the time told me I was disgusting because we did it while I was on my period and of course you can only imagine what it looked like after. But being called disgusting really stuck with me.

But a girl just needs to be brave.

If you’re a guy, would you care?
Of you’re a girl, what would you do?

EDIT: Thank you for the kind replies! Pls no furry hating, that is not the intention of this post. I care deeply about my friendships, so pls be mindful— thank you! 🙏🏻

I (23f) have this friend (21f) and from the beginning I knew she was a furry, and I made it clear that I’m happy for her and anyway that she wants to express herself is cool with me. I truly do not judge her for being a furry, and she often brings up she’s a furry whenever I bring her around other people. I have no problem with her openly vocalizing that information, that itself doesn’t embarrass me. That doesn’t change the fact I’m personally not really into furries, it just isn’t for me, but I would never want my friend to feel bad or like she can’t talk to me about her interests. I’m sure there’s things I’m into that others would look down upon or be confused by.

Recently I invited her to the local fair with me, and she asked if we could go with her boyfriend so me and him could finally meet. I said yes, because I was genuinely happy to finally meet him. After saying yes she then springs the question on me— “he’s thinking about going in full-fursuit, but doesn’t want to make you uncomfortable” Clearly baiting me to assure them and say yes (which I didn’t do, I just left it on delivered) I wouldn’t have agreed to go in the first place if I knew him being in full-fursuit was in the equation 😭

I kind of feel furry-trapped. 1) I say no and look like a jerk 2) I say yes and have an awful night… Being cool with her being a furry is very different from going with them while they’re in full fursuit + getting stared and laughed at by a bunch of teenagers! I don’t want to be stared at all night (we live in the DEEP SOUTH)! I was just trying to have a casual fun time. Am I embarrassed by her and her man being furries? No. But I am embarrassed to be seen in a tight public setting with full-fursuits on, I’ll admit it, and I don’t think that’s a crazy thing to feel. I would never say that to them though, because that is mean.

I tried to tell them in a nice way “I don’t like a lot of intention on me, but I also want you guys to have fun and dress however you want” and it seemed like she got the point up until she said— “I totally get it, he totally gets it—He probably won’t wear it” PROBABLY? WHAT DO YOU MEAN PROBABLY! I will be mortified honestly. How do I make it crystal clear, in the nicest non friendship destroying way that I don’t want to be around them full-fursuit?

I am 34F. I met the grandson in a family I spend a lot of time with. He’s 24. He asked me to hang out and I went on a couple hikes with him. He now has a huge crush on me and is asking to hang out all the time.

I have a bit of a crush on him back, but I also just went through a breakup and am feeling some rebound energy. I’m finding myself wanting to spend time with him and I get a little flustered when he’s in the room.

This would all be fine, except his family talks, and they all know some of my friends. I know it would come out to all of them if I actually kissed him or had a fling with him. I can’t see myself in a serious relationship with him at all, so it would have to be established that this is a fling only… I’d be kind of embarrassed if everyone found out I had anything with him though, especially because I know I can’t be serious with him.

Should I just cut it off now?

My girlfriend (29F) and I (31M) have been living together for about six months in a high-cost-of-living city. I own a paid-off car that I use mostly to commute to work a few days a week. She doesn't own a car and usually relies on public transit or rideshares.

When we first moved in, I told her she was welcome to borrow the car for big grocery runs or occasional errands. In the beginning, it worked out well—she’d use it for household trips, which benefited both of us.

However, over the last few months, her usage has escalated significantly. She now takes the car almost every weekend for personal outings (brunch, visiting friends across town, solo errands) and sometimes during the week while I’m working from home. It’s reached a point where I often have to check if my own car is available before making weekend plans, and a few times she’s taken it without letting me know beforehand.

She replaces the gas she uses, but I cover all maintenance, insurance, registration, and wear-and-tear.

The issue is that I tried to address this last night, but I think I handled it poorly. Out of frustration, I told her the car was strictly off-limits moving forward unless it was a shared household task or a genuine emergency.

She was deeply hurt and accused me of being cold and transactional. She pointed out that she uses the car for shared household errands and brought up that when she was doing better financially last year, she covered a larger share of a joint vacation without tracking costs. She feels like I’m treating her like a temporary roommate rather than a partner we’re building a future with.

I realize now that I created this problem by being too passive at first and then jumping straight to a total ban rather than setting realistic rules earlier on. At the same time, I feel taken advantage of and need my space and property respected.

How can I walk back my total ban without backing down on my need for boundaries? What’s a fair way to structure car sharing with a partner so both people feel respected?

Long story short my gf’s iCloud got hacked by someone and they got nudes of her boobs with her face in them and posted them online. I think it was either someone she knows or a phone repair store person stole them because she had gotten her phone fixed some time before. Someone sent the pictures to me and they’ve already been viral for months on 100s of sites. Is there anything we can do at this point?

I’m really struggling with what to do, and I could use some outside perspective.

Hi all, someone who assaulted me last year will be at my family’s home for Halloween. Since the assault, I’ve gone no contact with this person and haven’t interacted with them. I would like to add that this person is a family friend, and he grew up together with my siblings, they’ve known each other since high school. Which makes the situation even more complicated.

My family means a lot to me, and I go to their home for every holiday. Spending time with them is important to me, which is why this situation is frustrating to me. I don’t want to miss out on time with my family or give up traditions that matter to me because of what someone else did. But the thought of being in the same space as the person who assaulted me makes me question whether going is worth it.

I haven’t told my family what happened. One of my siblings knows that something happened between us, but they don’t know the details or how serious it actually was.
The person hasn’t gone trick-or-treating in that area for a while, so this was unexpected. Now I’m left trying to decide whether I should go as usual or stay away to protect my own peace of mind.

What makes this even harder is that I’m afraid my family will blame me for what happened if I tell them the truth. I want to believe they would support me, but I’m scared of being questioned, judged, or having to defend myself over something that was done to me. Because of that fear, I haven’t felt comfortable opening up to them about it.

I feel stuck between wanting to be with my family and wanting to protect myself emotionally. Part of me feels like I shouldn’t have to be the one who stays away, especially when I’m the one who was hurt. Another part of me wonders if going would put me in a situation that I’m not ready to handle, particularly when my family doesn’t know why this person’s presence affects me so much.

I don’t know if I should just go and not say anything, or if I should simply stay away without explaining why, even though it’ll suck to miss a family gathering.

I’ve also wondered whether I should text my assaulter and ask them to stay away, but I don’t know if contacting them would make things worse or put me in an even more uncomfortable position.

What should I do in this situation?

I would really appreciate honest advice, especially from anyone who has experienced something similar.

EDIT TO ADD*\\

First, I just wanted to thank everyone for the quick feedback. I’m reading each and every comment, and I genuinely appreciate everyone taking the time to share their thoughts and experiences.

With that said, I wanted to add some details because I realize some people may be curious about what happened and why this situation is so complicated for me.

1. I was physically assaulted by him.

At first I wanted to keep the post simple but it wouldn’t have made sense if I didn’t give the whole picture of the situation.
Before telling this story he (assaulter) woke up next to his wife and his 1-year-old got out of bed, walked past his best friend (my fiancé) to do all of this.

My fiancé and I spent the night at their place after having a couple of drinks (we hung out a lot and this wasn’t the first time we spent the night). We also didn’t want to drive all the way home because they lived far away.

Before going to bed, I mentioned that I had something to do early the next morning and that we would probably leave without saying goodbye since they might still be sleeping. I didn’t want to wake anyone up. He asked what time we needed to get up, and I told him. He then said he would also be waking up early to work out and would wake us up if we weren’t already awake. I said that was fine.

My fiancé ended up falling asleep on the couch, so I slept in the guest bedroom.

The next morning, he knocked on the guest bedroom door, let himself in, and stared at me. He then straddled me and began choking me while making a comment implying that his wife liked being choked during sex.

He only stopped when his phone, which he had left on the kitchen counter, started going off. Only then he got off me to turn off the alarm.

Throughout the entire incident, I froze. I didn’t fight back or know how to react. Even now, I sometimes struggle with the fact that I didn’t do anything to stop him, although I’m learning that freezing was a response to what was happening, not a choice I made.

By this point, my fiancé was awake and was heading toward the guest bedroom. I managed to collect myself and, regrettably, told my fiancé in a joking manner that he had woken me up by choking me.

I now recognize that was stupid by trying to downplay what had happened , but I was experiencing a freeze and fawn response, and did not know how to process the situation in that moment.

I know some people might wonder, “Did your fiancé beat him up?”

No, he didn’t. This person was a childhood friend of mine. We used to roughhouse with each other growing up, so grappling and physical play were normal between us. Because I presented the incident as a joke instead of explaining what had actually happened, my fiancé initially understood it as playful behavior.

I regret not telling him the truth immediately, but I was in shock and didn’t know how to articulate what had happened. Once we got home and I had time to calm down, I told my fiancé the full story, and he understood the seriousness of the situation.

2. The wife knows the situation.

But she is complacent (not sure if that’s the right word) she is reliant on her husband and now that they have a child together it’s harder for her to leave even if she wanted to. She’s been very quiet and pretends that nothing happened, so I just left it at that.

3. I am an Asian woman, although I live in America, I grew up with the same strict traditional values. There is a lot of shame and prejudice that comes along with this situation. It is also ingrained that family is absolute and that outward appearance is everything.

I grew up with strict, traditional values, and there is a lot of shame and prejudice associated with situations like this in the environment I was raised in.

Family is often treated as absolute, and maintaining appearances can feel just as important as what happens behind closed doors. There can be immense pressure to keep the peace, avoid bringing shame to the family, and not disrupt relationships, even when someone has done something deeply hurtful.

I know that, logically, I’m not responsible for what he did. But knowing that and feeling safe enough to tell my family are two very different things.

Thank you again to everyone who has offered advice and shared their experiences. It means more than you know.

So just for abit of context, I (28M) am currently a musician and have been since I was 8 years old, my wife is a teacher and we recently welcomed 2 twin boys in June and we couldn’t of been happier.

I love being a musician but I have always wanted to be a firefighter and I’m able to do so as I can pass all the fitness tests to a high standard. I have always kept fit and try to go to the gym 4 times a week to maintain that fitness standard of a firefighter. It has always been my end goal and I finally want to take the step and apply when my local service next opens up its applications but my wife doesn’t want me too.

Once a week I make her a home cooked meal and we have a date night with candles and I buy her flowers. I decided I would talk to her about it then and tell her that’s what I was planning on doing and asking her if she would support me. I assumed she would be happy for me because she knows this has always been a dream of mine.

To my surprise she told me she didn’t want me to and told me I was selfish for wanting to and got up from the table and went to our room. I went up about 5 minutes later and brought her a cup of tea and asked her what she was worried about if I joined.

She told me that I would be risking our families stability and happiness because of it being a high risk job with possibilities of injuries and even death. I replied and told her that the gear is safe and you are always in pairs and the risks were a lot lower nowadays. She didn’t reply and we both went to sleep.

The next morning we followed our same routine, I wake up and deal with the twins and then make her breakfast. Well she came downstairs and told me that if I become a firefighter she would have to consider leaving me.

I will admit how I responded was out of anger and I’am ashamed, I just saw red and lost my shit. I shouted at her and told her that she was being a selfish bitch and that I had always supported her throughout all her choices and the unfair decisions she made for our wedding was selfish but I still supported her. We got into a massive argument probably the biggest we have ever had and it ended with her telling me if I pursued this then she would leave me and take the boys.

My wife and I have never had issues before, we have a great social life, lots of friends have Atleast one date a week if not more, our sex life is great and all of a sudden she threatens to divorce me because I want to change career.

Am I being selfish for wanting to change career?

I love my wife, and the twins and her mean the world to me and so much more and I don’t want to lose them but I don’t see myself being a musician forever and this is a job I know I can get and one that I really want.

What should I do?

Edit: I know this is soon but I want to make clear it would be as a firefighter in England

My husband and I, recently married and are expecting our first child when my mom suddenly got a new job in a new city and sprung divorce on my dad (we all think she has a lover) they’ve been married 30+ years. My mom I can only describe as bitter, vindictive and selfish especially over the years.

When I announced my pregnancy my mom announced her divorce shortly after and everything went downhill from there. My dad’s health dramatically declined, he lost his job, has no income and has never navigated state assistance in his life. He’s looking at open heart surgery in the next few weeks and is getting evicted from the home him and my mom were renting after my mom moved for her new job. Now don’t get me wrong, my dad is not a saint either. He was emotionally abusive, yelled a ton, and manipulated situations using guilt as a way to get his way. BOTH of my parents aren’t the best people, I’ll admit. I love them regardless but in my new marriage, and my starting a new family I’m concerned, because my mom basically wiped her hands clean of my dad. Refuses to help him get an apartment so he can get back on his feet after surgery, and is telling me that I need to move him in with me. Which I’m obviously going to do…but I don’t want that same yelling, and guilt that I grew up with taking root in my home, I don’t want my husband to see that, certainly not my child…and I’m worried this room I’m opening up for my dad to stay in is going to be anything but temporary. My dad is just going to do odd jobs. Save money. And sit on it while living rent free and putting strain on me.

Obviously these are just fears but I’m unsure how I can articulate clear boundaries and make sure my dad understands that I am trying to start a new life and a family. And I don’t want my root family drama to follow me into my developing family. I feel like an asshole for feeling this way….but I also want to protect myself, my family and my marriage. Rarely any good comes from having an in-law moving in. Especially a toxic one. This is likely going to be a temporary 6-8 months, max a year hopefully.

My brother just texted me “ what time is your engagement party on X day? I was unaware I was being proposed to on this day. I knew he was going to at some point. I have thought on what I should do but want to hear other opinions.

My sister was sexually and physically assault at the beginning of the year and it's change her a lot.

Which of course i understand, she is traumatized and i wasn't expecting her to be back to her old self soon or even ever actually.

But being around her, no matter how much i love her, is really really hard. She barely talk anymore. She has anger outbrust or just start crying. She haven't left the house since it happened beside to go to the hospital. There’s day when she doesn't left her bed...she doesn't do anything anymore.

And i love her so so much but i can't bare to be around her for more than 10 minutes and it's breaking my heart. It's just too hard to sit next to her and watch how miserable she is.

I'd love to have advices on what to do. I know it's a job i have to do on myself not her.

I only really think of this because she’s lied about things I’ve done to her physically that were specifically meant for her; about a week ago I asked if she wanted a massage(not under the pretense that it would lead to sex she had been stressed to the point of tears and thought it’d be relaxing) I prefaced the massage by telling her when something hurt to say stop or tell me and she agreed. I got to a spot on her thigh with some very light pressure and had made about three or four passes along the muscle before I looked up at her just to see her biting her lip in discomfort, I apologized and asked why she’s didn’t tell me and she kind of smiled and said “I don’t know”. And in a more sexual context 2 months ago we got into a disagreement/argument and she confessed that she didn’t enjoy when I asked to or gave her oral, she said it felt like nothing and really only did it because I liked it. To give more of a scope of we had been having sex for 9 months by that point and had been giving her head as a part of our foreplay routine, she would moan and give other physical signifiers that she was enjoying it and if I asked if she liked it she would say yes.

I (19M) have been overthinking a little about me and my gf’s (19F) sex life. As the title says I’m worried that she’s only having sex with me for my sake but can’t tell; I’ve started to think this way because she has never had an orgasm with me. I understand it’s much harder for women to have an orgasm and I also may just be unskilled at sex but the thought of her having sex for the sole reason of me liking it makes me feel dirty.

So what I would like to know is there any signs that I can look for that may show she’s not truly into our sex or if not any advice on how to go about starting a conversation without being lied to? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

My mom has four kids. Me (16), my sister (11), brother (9) and sister (8). Our dad died two years ago from an OD. He and my mom both had the same problem. My mom is kinda sober right now. At least I think she is. She got married a few weeks ago and has been living with her husband for over a year. He has five kids and three that live with him full time and they are (8, 7 and 5). The oldest and youngest are boys and the middle is a girl.

My mom and her husband are poor and they can only afford a two bedroom apartment to rent. The second bedroom is the kids room and we're all supposed to share a bed. I was never cool with that so since we have started living together I sleep on the couch. My mom doesn't like it and she has always told me to go to my actual bed and I always refuse. When she doesn't get her way she will yell and curse at me.

CPS were called because of her yelling and they know what the living situation is but they never helped. We're still stuck in the apartment. There are some nights I sleep at a friends house (where I am right now) and she doesn't like that either but will sometimes take it over me on the couch.

I'm tired of the same shit over and over but I'm not sure if I can do anything to fix it. I don't have extended family to turn to. My friends parents don't mind a sleepover but would never agree to anything more frequent than sometimes. I'm also behind on schoolwork so I'm staying up late at my friends house to work on that and posting here for advice while I can access it.

I don't know if anyone can give me advice but I wanted to check. I have a part time job and I have my own savings that my mom can't touch since I opened my own bank account recently. But I don't make enough to emancipate myself. And I don't see us moving while I'm still under 18. Sorry this is such a rambling mess.

My boyfriend and I have been together for about 8 months. He lived with his ex girlfriend in a different city and moved back to our hometown. He left his phone unlocked last night and I went through it (I know I’m in the wrong here) and saw she had texted him one week ago asking about something missing from their place and if he had taken it. I then found his conversation on chat gpt asking if he should reply. Then I saw he was telling chat gpt that he thinks about her from time to time and that he realizes now what he lost and that going back to the relationship would be hard after moving 1600 miles away and us being together, he also said she’s more financially stable (lol). Am I crazy for being hurt? How do I go about this?

I have a close female friend whom I genuinely trusted like a sister. I don’t have a big support system where I live, so she became one of the few people I could confide in.

She knows practically everything about my relationship, my insecurities, my personal struggles, and things I’ve never shared with anyone else. I’ve always been very open and vulnerable with her, although looking back, I realize she rarely shared much about her own life. I know it was a mistake.

Recently, I discovered that she and my boyfriend had become much closer than I realized.
They are texting daily, sending each other things on social media, and independently arranging meetups and social plans, calling him at 3am on a night out.

At the same time I was repeatedly reaching out to her and trying to make plans and see her, but she never replied nor met me, while she is in touch daily with my bf and going out with him and his friends.

I met her on a night out and she kept asking me why my bf didn’t invite me to events where everyone else was invited and repeated a rather dismissive comment my boyfriend had supposedly made about me on a night out. I dismissed her comment and she asked me if I hated my bf, which made me think she was fishing for drama (I don’t have proof though, that’s my feeling).

What confuses me is that she was comfortable sharing things that made my boyfriend look bad, yet never acknowledged how close they’d become themselves, texting everyday, sharing videos (not of sexual natures just parties), making plans where I am not involved.

The problem is I was in a very dark spot last year and had nobody in the country I live in, no family nor friends support, got laid off and broke up with my ex of 8 years. So i treated her like a friend and someone to talk to but I disclosed too much.

She knows an enormous amount about my private life, including sensitive things I’ve told her about my relationship (just at the start before we became official but it wasn’t a long time ago).

I’m afraid that she will start discussing everything I’ve told her with my boyfriend or our mutual social circle, especially because they drink a lot and when she’s drunk she changes personality, she becomes aggressive and confrontational and starts overhearing.

I want to drop her completely and disappear from the picture, I’m also dropping my bf because he had been lying about meeting his best friend while he was actually making plans with my “bf” and kept bringing her up in every conversation with me or his friends on the phone as if she was the woman on earth.

However I’m scared that she will share my personal stuff to make fun of me, I don’t know how to handle this.

I have a very long-time friend who has a history of bad decisions. I love them, growing up they were like family to me, and I have helped them out many times in the past as I have a stable career and my financial situation is a lot better than theirs (although I'm definitely not rich or anything.) Over the past few years we don't talk nearly as much, and don't really see each other in person very often because we live a couple hours apart. We maybe shoot one another a quick text every few months, sometimes going as long as 6-8 months or so, and I'd say about half the texts I get from them are asking for money. Sometimes $20, sometimes a couple hundred, sometimes just asking for it and sometimes saying they'll pay it back (they don't.) They have a toddler now and are with an on-again-off-again partner who I know does drugs and just crashes at their apartment (I don't think my friend does drugs but I honestly can't say for sure at this point.) They texted me again today asking for a few hundred dollars because their rent is due on the 1st and they won't have enough for that plus food, diapers and gas and as soon as I read it I felt so much resentment, but then I felt like such an asshole for feeling that way. I don't want their kid to go without. I gave them half of what they asked for, as I've had some big expenses lately with my car needing a repair. I would have felt bad turning them down completely, but I don't feel good after giving them money at this point, either. I feel like I barely even know them anymore but our long history and the fact that they have a young kid keeps me from turning them down. They don't really have anyone else. My boyfriend says it isn't my responsibility to take care of them, and that I need to establish some boundaries. Should I feel bad if I turn them down next time? At what point do I just say sorry, I can't help anymore?

I (F29), and my ex is 26M. We have a 7-year-old daughter together. We haven't been together for a while, but we've always tried to do what's best for her, and he's been an important part of her life.

A few days ago, he got into a serious motorcycle accident. I got the call and went straight to the hospital. When I got there, I found out he was in really bad shape. He's currently on life support, and the doctors aren't sure if he's going to make it.

Honestly, I still haven't really processed any of this. No matter how things ended between us, I never wanted anything bad to happen to him. He's only 26, and the thought of our daughter possibly losing her father is something I can't wrap my head around.

Our daughter knows her dad was in an accident, but she doesn't understand how serious it is. She keeps asking when he's coming home, and I don't know what to tell her. I've been telling her that he's in the hospital and the doctors are helping him, because I don't want to scare her. But I also don't want to keep giving her the impression that everything is going to be okay when I honestly don't know if it will be.

I want to let her see him, but he's hooked up to machines, and I'm worried about how she'll react. She's only seven. I don't want her to be frightened or have that be the image she remembers of her dad, but I also don't want to keep her away from him if there's a chance she could see him again.

His family has been at the hospital, and I've been trying to be there as much as possible while still taking care of our daughter. It's hard because I have to keep going about my day and make sure she's okay, even though I'm scared myself.

I never thought I'd be in this position. We aren't together anymore, but he's still someone I care about, and he's the father of my child. I don't want him to die. I don't want our daughter to grow up without him, and I don't even know how I'd begin to explain something like that to her.

I feel terrible even thinking about the possibility that he might not recover, but I can't help it. The doctors haven't given us any real answers yet, and waiting without knowing what's going to happen is probably the hardest part.

Would it be better to let her visit him in the hospital, or should I wait until we know more? And how do I prepare myself for the possibility of losing him while he's still fighting for his life?

Hey there guys! I (22F) have been dating my boyfriend (26M) for almost a year, and our sex life was always good, no complaints. A bit over 2 weeks ago, we got super in the mood and were doing our thing but he couldn’t get hard at all. All good, that’s no problem. I know these things can happen so we brushed it off and went on either out night. Then a couple of days ago, I’ll say maybe 3-4 days, we tried again (after 2 weeks of no sex) and again, he couldn’t get hard. He was getting frustrated and I tried to reassure him it was “okay” and I won’t be mad at him (that’s what he was scared of). Then, a couple more days of no sex go by and yesterday, again, we tried and nothing. At this point he’s worried and almost crying. He’s been pretty stressed lately with so much stuff going on and I believe that could be causing some of it. I’m not a man so I don’t know how normal all of this is so that’s why I’m here asking. Is it “normal” to happen 3x in a row? Should I recommend seeking a doctor to see if there’s anything more serious? I’m trying to help him and reassure him the best I can.

My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 months, we broke up twice and got back together anyway. I've always loved him since the beggining of our relationship but lately I feel like I've been too obsessed. I think about him constantly and the thoughts that circle around my mind are... Idk.. like "I love him so much, I cant live without him" and that just repeats for like 10 minutes until I realize I've been daydreaming about it. I get extremely jealous whenever he talks to his other female friends except for the ones I trust, and I miss him so much whenever he goes away for a few hours that when he comes back Im upset and demand affection. I feel like I can't live without him and I feel like I would spiral if he ever broke up with me.

There was this one time I saw a reel about someones bf dying and I deadass thought about if that happened and cried for like 30 minutes.

I know it sounds cringe but I seriously don't know what to do, the feeling is overwhelming and I can't ignore it. Im scared hes gonna think Im insane and break up with me. I want to be close to him all the time. I want to feel him all the time. I would drop everything and run away with him if he told me to.

All my friends say that I have some sort of issue I need to fix but I dont know how or where to start.

Is a wandering eye a deal breaker for you?
It really seems like I’m starting to lose affection for my partner over it. I don’t trust him and I’m extremely paranoid

Me (F18) and my boyfriend (M18) have been together for almost 3 years. I love him so much and don’t know what i would do without him. I recently found out that he was interested in his cross country coach (F22), around our 1 year mark. For context he would always be in her office and would text her, which i told him constantly made me uncomfortable. I found out about this because he had just texted her again a few weeks ago. We graduated and she is no longer his coach.

So my question is how do i confront this? I don’t think it’s worth breaking up ove, but imo it was emotional cheating. Thank you in advance for any tips! 🙏

I’m a 23 year old female. I’m a married college student with no kids and I want to make friends. I live in salt lake county I’m into reading, cozy video games, painting, bedazzling, coloring. I love coffee, shopping (especially thrifting), and I’m down for pretty much everything. Any advice on how to make some friends?

This is probably a stupid thing to ask advice about but it has now been over a year and I still haven’t figured out what I should do. To start I am a 34 year old single woman, and I am currently living with my parents. I bought a fixer upper about 15 minutes away from my parents over three years ago. I put blood, sweat and tears into the house. It took two years of labor from my dad and myself and we finally finished it the summer of 2025.

That summer my dog died, I started have regular anaphylactic reactions to something unknown and fell into a deep depression. Upped my meds, did Transcranial magnetic stimulation, did multiple months of IV ketamine to treat my treatment resistant depression. I still struggle with depression and anxiety, but it is not as severe as it was 8 months ago. I am still having health issues. But I am taking allergy injections to lessen the severity.

The house has been done for over a year now, and I still have not moved in. I go up to get the mail, and mow the grass, thats about it. The longer I stay away from the house the more I do not want to be there. At the same time, I don’t want to be a single woman living with my parents for the rest of my life. The house does have a lot of issues still. Will likely need a new roof and furnace in the next few years, that’s also been really stressful to think about. I do often think I made a huge mistake with the home. It’s in a very good area. Safe, good schools, lower taxes, and walkable. That’s what originally drew me to the house, but i often think the problems outweigh the benefits.

So my options are to keep the house as is. Stay at my parent, keep paying the bills and taking care of it, and continue to worry about what I should do. I could move in. I would likely be extremely uncomfortable, and wish I wasn’t there. I could sell it, stay with my parent, buy a storage unit for all my stuff (the house is fully furnished), and give up the idea of living independently and pursuing a family of my own. Or I could sell it move somewhere else (an apartment or another house, although it’s terrible time to buy and the options in my budget are limited) and try to pursue my goals. But like living at my current house, I would likely be very uncomfortable living in another home or apartment. I am really not sure what to do, as all the options sounds bad to me right now. Please be kind… I am already struggling enough.