r/gay • • 8h ago

Slo mo vs regular

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When it comes to watching cumshots do you prefer them in slo mo or regular speed? Personally I prefer regular speed but I see a lot of slo mo ones online. But I’m curious what everyone else’s thoughts are?


r/gay • • 11h ago

26M I don't like men but I'm gay

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Hey guys,

I've been feeling really conflicted about something for a while now and I honestly don't know how to put it into words without sounding rude or judgmental.

I'm a gay guy (at least, I think I am), and I've been comfortable with my sexuality for as long as I can remember. I've moved around a lot, travelled extensively and lived in several countries, including the US, the UK, Germany, Romania, Italy, and now France. I've been in serious relationships that I thought would lead to something very long-term (my longest relationship with a man was 2 years, but I broke up with him.) I've met all kinds of people from different backgrounds, but there's one feeling I just can't seem to shake.

The thing is, I really struggle to like men. Not necessarily in a sexual sense, because I'm physically attracted to them, but on a deeper, emotional level. I find it incredibly difficult to connect with them, to genuinely enjoy their company, or even to find them interesting. I know there are wonderful, kind, emotionally intelligent men out there, and I don't want to generalize, but so many of my experiences have left me feeling exhausted, disappointed or simply uninterested. And it's frustrating because these are the very people I'm supposed to be attracted to.

With women, it's almost the complete opposite. I absolutely adore the women in my life. I find them fascinating, emotionally engaging, intelligent and so much easier to connect with. Some of my closest female friends mean the world to me and the love I feel for them is incredibly deep. I feel understood, comfortable and genuinely happy around them in a way I rarely experience with men.

And that's where my confusion comes in. I sometimes wish I could be sexually attracted to women, too, because emotionally, they seem to offer so much of what I'm looking for in a partner. It's almost as though my emotional and sexual attractions are pulling me in completely different directions.

I don't know if anyone else has experienced something similar. I don't even know what I'm hoping to hear. I just find it incredibly lonely and frustrating to be attracted to people I so rarely feel emotionally connected to.

I hope none of this comes across as hateful toward men. That's really not my intention. I'm just trying to make sense of something that's been weighing on me for a long time.


r/gay • • 10h ago

Ace Meme Reposted

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I remade this meme because I didn’t know the new flag was controversial…


r/gay • • 22h ago

M21 profile review

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r/gay • • 18h ago

I wrote a song about erasure and self-abandonment set to country music. Looking for feedback.

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I wrote this song last year so I'm just sharing it. Let me know what you think.

Thanks for reading it.

Title: I'll Sell Me.

I ain’t got a halo, I ain’t got a home

Just this borrowed skin I learned to crawl in alone

Kept my voice quiet, kept my truth hid

Put a lock on my soul like my daddy did

If I dress it up right, will you see me then?

If I smile like I mean it, will I be worth a second glance?

I’ll bleach out the scars, I’ll bite back the shame

Put your name on the hurt, I’ll shoulder the blame

I’ll sell me, piece by piece

Wrap me in ribbon, lay me at your feet

Say the word, I’ll be your sin, your silence, your need

I’ll be the lie you believe

I’ll fold who I am ‘til the edges bleed

Don’t want the truth, just take what you see

If that’s what it takes to be loved

Then I’ll sell me

Had a name once, soft as a prayer

Before the world told me it wasn’t welcome there

I carved out my heart to make more space

For the man you want, in my rightful place

God, I’d give up the parts I still don’t understand

Just to hear your voice say, “I want that man”

Paint me holy, or paint me used

I’ll be anything that you don’t have to choose

I’ll sell me, soul and skin

Break me down just to let you in

Call it love, call it lust, call it anything

Just don't let me be nothing

I’ll choke back truth, I’ll swallow him

Hide every kiss like original sin

Just don’t leave me here like this again

I’ll sell me

He said there ain’t no price on his love…

But I got debts he don’t know of

He don’t know the cost to be seen,

When the mirror hates the man I’ve been

I ain’t asking him to save me

Just to choose me

Even if the “me” he sees is a lie

Even if he kisses me just to say goodbye

I’ll sell me, threadbare and bare

For a place in your arms, or a piece of your stare

I’ll be hollow, I’ll be hollow if it makes me seen

I’ll be anyone, I’ll be anything

God, I’ll even be clean

If that’s what it takes to be loved…

Then I’ll sell me

Ain’t no price too steep

Ain’t no lie too deep

If love’s the cost

Then let me be cheap

I’ll sell me.


r/gay • • 13h ago

(M30) I caught my boyfriend (M27) cheating 3 times, and I don't know what I feel or whether to stay

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I (30M) caught my boyfriend (27M) having sex with another man. When I looked into it, I found out it wasn't once, it was three times. He never told me, I found out by catching him.

From what I can tell, it was only physical, and I truly believe he loves me. I love him too. What confuses me is that I wasn't shocked, and I don't know if that's because I'm numb, in denial, or if part of me already accepts it.
I've even thought about suggesting an open relationship, but when I'm honest with myself, I'm not sure I want that.

I think I might just be trying to find a way to keep him.
Right now I don't know whether to stay or leave. I haven't confronted him yet. I plan to talk to him in person in the next day or two, after I've slept and calmed down.
For anyone who has been through this:

How did you know whether to stay or go?

* Did an open relationship ever work after cheating, or did it make things worse?

* What should I ask him when we talk?

* Thank you for reading. I'm just trying to think clearly.


r/gay • • 5h ago

Gay type of trauma

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Hey, so i might have posted a little about this before, however i wanted to ask of others who might be going through or have made it out the other side what advice they would give me.

So over the last few years i really battled with my sexual orientation, my religion(Christian). I was taught growing up thats its wrong, and i wasn’t just taught, it was often beat into me by my school peers. I’ll avoid going into details to spar you the long story. But as someone struggling with these aspects of life. Is there anyone who would offer their advice, especially those of you in the Christian faith as well?


r/gay • • 13h ago

Wer kennt ihn noch?Marcus Schenkenberg

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Marcus Schenkenberg - Starporträt, News, Bilder | GALA.de


r/gay • • 6h ago

Yeah...

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Guys... I can't believe I'm saying this but... I'm gay... I fell in love with someone at a bus stop yesterday and now we've started hanging out. He seems chill but not a lot of people know that I'm gay so I just have to express it in someway, y'know? (Image attached isn't related but it's cute)


r/gay • • 2h ago

Please explain me this. I am genuinely asking

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So, I have accepted a long long time ago that people have a right to be gay. That's fine as long as someone doesn't shove it in my face by attacking me for it. But I ask as normal as possible, I really do, why must straights accept gays having a freedom of speech but gays (not all of them I'm sure) do not accept that the heterosexuals all have a right to express their dislike? And I am not talking about fanatics or violent people. Recently, I watched a Marvel show called - Agatha all along. I express at least in 20 sentences how great the show is and that it is 9/10 for me. And in a single sentence I said that I found it unnecessary for the story for the boy main character to be gay. (The actor was great btw)
And when I tried to post this I got a waaaaaaave of hate calling me homophobic. What?
So if they make some new movie where all the characters are gay and there is a single couple that is heterosexual and someone says "That is stupid. A heterosexual couple in a full gay movie?" by that logic that does mean that person is heterophobic?

In the past, I had few gay coworkers and had no problem with them. But such hate and censorship is giving gays a bad rap. The funny thing is sometimes if you dislike something gay, heterosexual people are more triggered than homosexuals which I find super weird.

So please, I really do want your opinion, why some people are so triggered when you publish your opinion that you don't like something gay or lgbt character in a movie or show, without even being disrespectful?


r/gay • • 19h ago

I need... something, probably a hug

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So, hi everyone

I don't know what I need, but I think sharing this with some strangers could help me somehow.

I'm not happy with who I am, and I'm not sure I know why. I still can't find the courage to tell my therapist about this (I did, partially, some time ago when I was feeling way worse than now, but we solved that problem and kinda went on with other stuff).

I can't really see myself as lovable.

Being gay, an introvert, insecure and also kinda picky means I have few friends, like maybe one who lives quite far, and I'm unable to make more, cause I've never practiced social skills in person. I work with people and I know I'm not bad at interacting, but I still feel insecure af when I have to interact with people I find attractive or interesting, or when the context is not "set". I feel out of my comfort, as if everything I do or say was some kind of play, not spontaneous.

I don't like what I look like, I've been balding since I was like 16, my BMI is good but I'm not tonic nor skinny (genetics aren't helpful here), I'm sure I'll find it difficult to find someone who likes me. I'm 23. I see boys my age out there who look so cute, and I... just don't. I could exercise, but I sure can't exercise my hair to grow it back, and it's a heavy load to bear through adolescence.

I'm not dumb, I can do interesting stuff, I think I'm also kinda funny, but I'm not attractive and I know people care a lot about what you look like - because I do too! I notice I prefer talking to people who look good, trying to get them to like me, maybe it's because I need approval and I find it more valuable if it comes from someone I see as "unreachable".

When I see someone who looks good (my standards aren't even that high) I feel attracted and want to just tell them, but then I also feel sad cause I know they'll never want me. They could be straight, but they would probably be unreachable even if they were actually gay.


r/gay • • 14h ago

For the married couples, when did you realize you wanted to spend the rest of your life with your man?

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r/gay • • 22h ago

"Dissociation" Acrylic on canvas (2026) + process

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First painting of 2026 and it still feel like this, unfortunatey. Dissociating to cope with all the absurdity of the news.

But I love this painting very very much !


r/gay • • 16h ago

The fight to preserve queer history is happening one Wikipedia edit at a time

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r/gay • • 12h ago

Be safe y'all. 18-year-old charged in hate-motivated attack after luring victim through dating app, police say

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r/gay • • 13h ago

Siesta — Antonin Ivanovich Sungurov

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