Hello!

My husband and I (both 27) have been trying to conceive for going on 3.5 years now. We got our referral from our OB/GYN for the fertility clinic and now the first appointment is right around the corner.

I know it’s been a long time coming, but while I’m very excited and optimistic, I’m equally filled with sadness and dread that maybe we won’t get the answers we’re looking for or we won’t be able to afford the treatments.

I would love some words of wisdom/encouragement/ personal anecdotes about how everything might work. I know it’ll all depend on my personal health situation, but how has it been for you or are you in the same boat as me?

I’ve already been to the clinic for an HSG which cost almost $900 which may be why I’m a little anxious about it. I don’t want money to be the reason I can’t work towards building a family, but maybe that’s just what we’re going to have to deal with? We’re comfortable financially but I’m sure the bills could all add up pretty quickly.

Thank you in advance for your words of encouragement and knowledge. 🤍

Feeling anxious and disappointed. I’ve wanted to be a mother more than anything my entire life and I am starting to worry this may be a much more difficult journey for us than we anticipated. My husband and I are both 28 and are now at 1 year of TTC — And 3 years prior of withdrawal as our only protection— with zero positive pregnancy tests. We had full work ups with fertility and were given the diagnosis of Unexplained Infertility. I am feeling crushed. On paper everything is normal for both of us. I have regular cycles and adequate luteal phases. We have tried OPKs, timed intercourse, BBT, even Mucinex lol. Have also tried doing nothing at all to see if “relaxing” would help. I am the only person in my circle of family and friends who has never been pregnant. All of my friends have had multiple accidental pregnancies and I can’t even have one on purpose. Both friends who I had confided in about TTC began trying after my husband and I did, and one was pregnant on her first cycle after her partners vasectomy was reversed, and the other just announced her pregnancy to me this month. I’m exhausted mentally and emotionally. I had to start therapy as this process has been so mentally draining on me as well. I know this isn’t a unique situation, but I just need to vent to people who get what we are going through because the amount of “just relax and it will happen” comments from people who are wildly fertile are driving me mad.

My husband (37) and I (32) have been trying for a baby for a few months now without success. This cycle I have just had a CP and my period arrived today.

I have a ski trip planned for next month, which initially was going to coincide with my period (if not pregnant) and if pregnant I was planning to cancel and that's it. So now, with the chemical, my period has been delayed for a full week and hence the ski trip will now for sure land in my lutheal phase. I am sitting in the fence as to whether I should just skip a cycle of TTC and go and have fun, as I do not know when will I be able to ski again, or if I should just cancel and just continue TTC.

I am also not sure if my odds for pregnancy are any different this cycle because the last was a CP? What would you guys do?

Hello,

I've had low ferritin (<30) for years and recently started really trying hard to improve them because I am worried about a possible (albeit small) small correlation with our struggles to conceive. Within the last 4 weeks I managed to get my levels from 26 to 36 which I am thrilled about.

However, I noticed that my PMS symptoms were less last month and completely gone this month. As someone who always gets very swollen and sore breasts, this made me worried something might be wrong with my hormones and chances to conceive. It could be just normal fluctuations I suppose but since I noticed that my PMS symptoms didn't occur when my ferritin was improved, I wonder if there is an actual correlation.

Has anyone else here noticed a correlation between their ferritin levels and how strong their PMS symptoms were?

Many thanks in advance!

Are you in the dreaded two-week wait, or waiting to ovulate? What have you done to ease the stress?

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