We had an awesome trip in Xi’an. Wearing Hanfu with her was such a fantastic experience, many people said we matched well. And we also attended a friend’s wedding. It was my first time to met her best friends and got their sweet blessings.

Can’t wait for our 1st anniversary on Jan 1! Hopefully we’ll go traveling again. Love you!!!😊

Made it for fun✋️🤚

there’s so much racism within the LGBT community. i’m a lesbian, pakistani and i’m very obviously visually south asian. where i am the lgbt community is litro all white. there’s a couple of queer poc groups but theyre basically non existent. i’ve been to the gay bars but i tend to be the only woc there and nobody ever rly speaks to me. when i speak to people there they say hi then ignore me

it’s so so mf isolating. i get the double sock to the face bc im both a lezzie in a muslim house and a poc in a white city. im so so sad. i’m 22 now and it doesn’t get less lonely

i had a ww i hooked up with ask if its normal for my vag to be so dark because she’d only been w other ww. i don’t think she meant it in a bad way bc she apologised once i explained why it was so fucked up to ask but it hurt so bad. another time i was asked if i was kinky just because i ‘look exotic’. like hello i am not a fetish ?? i think it’s worse bc i have pink hair and piercings which always has people thinking i’m a freak in the sheets. i am but you can’t assume that based off my appearance … fuck me it’s so gross

i feel like my body is ugly and undesirable to ww because i’m brown. poc lesbians are non existent where i am so it’s deal w that typa shit or be lonely af

thing is i actually don’t mind dating a ww, i think they’re STUNNING. but the above experience has scared me off. it makes me so upset. i literally just want someone to luv me. am i rly that ugly and undesirable lol

like what the fuck? you’d think that minorities would be kind to other minorities but instead there’s just racism and hate all over the community. sue me for thinking i was going to be treated like a person

That's the post. I've been on this sub for nearly a year, and the "do I look gay?" posts are among the most frequent. Lesbians don't have a specific look. I recently met up with the most stunning woman who is super feminine and looks like a 90s supermodel, but she came out as a lesbian at 15. Men might be interested in her, but she has a "don't fuck with me" vibe that chases them off pretty quickly. No carabiner required.

You don't need to completely change up your style if it doesn't feel natural to you. I have the most basic fem style to ever exist and have no intention of changing that.

I’m also concerned about people engaging with obvious bot content. Some of you lot need a refresher on e-safety because I worry about what seeing an attractive woman will lead you to do.

i just love girls/girlygirls but trying to hint interest at beautiful girly girls makes me wanna puke from fear!!!
LIKE GIRLLL I LOVE UR FRILLY SKIRT let’s share THEMMM it’s so awkward. like yes okay let’s compliment each others outfits over and over and make eyes at each other and then never talk again thanks yes yup!!! anyone else ???

I've gotten a few likes, but no bites, is it something I'm doing? I've got 6 pics, some prompts and a bio. Got my age set to 18 to 99, 100 plus miles.

Disclaimer: This is meant to be a funny vent about the state of my love life. No TERFs allowed.

I (31F) am cis have had four long-term relationships. All of my exes have come out as trans. I keep dating different people/personality types, but they keep coming out!

Relationship 1: He had a blue-collar job while I was finishing college and "figuring it out". He always had a very masculine presentation. We had a lot of talks about his identity and how I am not attracted to men. I did not want to date a man.

Relationship 2: Huge fumble for me. Crazy smart, outdoor sportsman with an androgynous style. Best sex of my life. Really great listener. After we broke up, I saw them at a community event with different pronouns and a very nice (surprisingly gray) haircut.

Relationship 3: A long-term-situationship throughout most of grad school. NGO Worker. More feminine than I am. I taught him how to strap and he used that information (and equipment) to cheat on me with a man. (Triple ouch.) He said it gave him the biggest gender euphoria moment of his life and immediately ghosted/blocked me everywhere. He is now a very happy gay man.

Relationship 4: A very feminine scientist who rocked my world. Talented, sexy, and beautiful. His personal style changed a lot during those 4 years, but I always admired his fashion sense. We always supported each other and slowly built a life together. Eventually he hit me with, "I think I actually never loved you, but our relationship was beautiful. Thank you for loving me until I was ready to love my true self." and promptly came out on social media about 6 months ago.

Gals and Pals, where do I go from here? Is it me? Is it the local water? I don't want them to not be trans, but at this point my only options seem to be:

1. Start charging a modest fee for my services.
   
2. Give a disclaimer on all first dates that they may be trans.
   
3. Get over feeling like I'm, "A lesbian who has never dated a woman." (See disclaimer.)

I found myself trying to refer to my fiancée as my girlfriend rather than fiancée to other people purely because everyone jumps to 'he' 'he' 'he' and they make it awkward as hell once i correct them. They usually pause for so long while processing the fact I'm engaged, and to a woman at that. I'm gonna continue just explaining, no, not to a man, to a woman, because the fact everyone assumes pisses me off, and i feel like it's disingenous of me to just refer to her as my girlfriend. Just wanted to share some thoughts of annoyance.

My personal favourite has always been Glee (RIP Naya) but am curious to hear what you think!

I feel like looking back at my past dating life is just a series of missed hints and facepalms. 💀I’m convinced we are collectively some of the most oblivious people on the planet when it comes to realizing someone actually likes us.

I proposed to my girlfriend. she didn't say yes, she said "of course"

I'm so happy. I can't wait to marry her :3

sorry, shameless selfie. Just very dedicated to a futch thing rn, and I just picked up near everything here thrift shopping yesterday.

Hey everyone, to add some history I (25F, lesbian), met a girl, we will call Kay (20F, bi), at work. I’ll be honest the age gap did freak me out a bit, but thats kind of beside the point.

Kay and I recently met at work, and we instantly hit it off. When we first made eye contact, I just knew she’d be different. After a bit of getting to know one another, she told me she was super into me, and we went on a couple dates, but we would mainly hangout at work, when our shifts were together (due to timing restraints).

After one day at work, I walked her to her car, and she grabbed my hands and said “I have to admit something, and it unfortunately sucks a lot to say because I like you so much, but I could never marry a woman.” I asked her if it was due to her parents, or due to religious restraints. She said “No, I would rather just have a man to take care of me. It just feels more comfortable to me.” She said that maybe past religious experiences do influence these thoughts, but it’s just how she feels.

I instantly felt tears in my eyes, and I just told her I need to think about things for a bit, and ran to my car.

A couple of hours later, I eventually texted her saying, “If there is no future, we need to stop things here.”

I know it was the right move, but it just sucks so hard. I just keep thinking of what could have been, and working with her feels so different and awkward now. It sucks to see her, and it sounds like she was already starting to talk to someone else. So I just feel like I meant nothing to her. My heart, by any means, isn’t broken, but I definitely am feeling pretty empty inside.

No advice is really needed, just feeling this pain more than usual today.

despite knowing i’m queer for several years now, i still have terrible gaydar and am incredibly oblivious to flirting (that last part i suspect is due to a touch of ‘tism). for some reason i can only spot flirting when it’s coming from men 😞 in any other circumstance i never realize it’s happening until someone else points it out, but by then the moment has passed and i feel silly for being so dense lol. on the rare occasions i do get the courage up to flirt, i get so nervous that i actually start to shake a little. not noticeably, at least i hope not, i know it’s happening and that’s embarrassing enough. what’s are the signs you look for to tell if someone is flirting or just being nice? how do you get over your nerves when approaching someone?

My girlfriend and I are very much in love, but we have a slight problem: we are both incredibly awkward when it comes to physical affection or love in general Neither of us are naturally touchy-feely people, so our default dynamic is often more like two best friends who occasionally remember we’re actually dating how do i fix this i want advice we been dating for 8 months now plus we live in a very homophobic country

hey girls! up to now i’ve been pretty satisfied with the few toys i have (vibe, assortment of dildos, and a couple cute plugs) but i’ve been wanting a good clit pleaser but not sure which one to get! lmk if there’s any standout ones any of you personally own and why you’d recommend it! thank youuu and love you allll! 🥰🫶🏻

I’ve not long turned 50, was married to a man for 15 years was emotionally abusive. Was single then for 7 years and wasn’t attracted to any other men in that time but did find myself drawn to women but nothing further. Then 2 years ago I started seeing a man from work, it lasted about 8 months, I ended it because I wasn’t attracted to him and he felt totally alien to me.
My mum asked me a couple of months ago if I was lesbian because “you get on with women better and have never really been comfortable with men”. I did get abit upset and told mum that I didn’t think my dad would accept me if I was and she said course he would be ok with you being lesbian. I have 3 daughters aged 25,22 and 21 and they would be ok with it aswell but I want to make sure before I involve them.
Growing up in my teens I experimented with a female friend but moved away and I’ve never been with a woman fully. I don’t even know where to start, all I do know is that when I think of being with a women my heart skips a beat and I feel that it feels right.
At my age now, I really don’t know where to go and how to meet someone, I don’t want the woman I go with to think that I’m just testing the waters, I want it to be passionate and comfortable. I’ve had a brief look on Facebook dating but that’s as far as I’ve gone.
Any advice would be gratefully received

I need a good laugh.