So, I have been living with my girlfriend for 5 years now.

I am 31, she is 38.

When I first started dating her, she had a big sex drive, one that matched mine! (I'm horny a fair amount 😂)

We would be out on dates, and she would be dieing to get home to... well y'know 😏... she constantly complimented my figure and turned on...

After about a year, I noticed she stopped wanting sex as much, but I persisted and kept trying... but then it ended up being the dreaded "im too tired", "I need a shower" or "darling no, I need to be up early"...

She then stopped kissing like we used too, no more proper kissing...just pecks and quick kisses...

Nowadays she is still the same, I still try for two weeks every month...before defeat overcomes me, and it genuinely makes me numb, so I have to stop...I literally will get ontop of her, try get her to kiss me seductively ( I get a peck kiss back), I kiss her neck? ...she then laughs and makes everything into a joke and ruins any sort of mood.

I don't know what to do now, I think I've given up?

Am I just her housemate at this point?

I also pay into her mortgage, and I'm not even on it... the lads in work (my best mates) are telling me this is a red flag and I shouldn't contribute to her mortgage, the other bills yes, but her mortgage? No? (They only know about this, not the lack of sex parts)

She just sits on her phone every night, and is oblivious to me 😂😂

Gosh I just need some leabian friends to help me through this 😂 she won't even answer me when I ask her "why don't you want sex anymore?" Its always just " I dunno"

I am on TikTok quite a bit and have seen several videos from the founder of a new lesbian app, Found. I downloaded and joined, it allows you to see who else is going to events so you can just tell people you’re going too rather than have to match individually, which I think is a great idea. Or would be if more people were on it. It started in LA so maybe that’s the problem, I’m in Boston.
I’m sure the dating app thing has been discussed to death, but just throwing it out there again.

For lesbians aged 28 and up, how did you find your partners in a world built for straight people? I wanna hear how you did it.

I’m mid 40’s and definitely not looking for hookups or anything like that, just seeking casual chitchat with some likeminded people or person. Going through the dreaded perimenopause which gets me up at 2am most days and I just sit here, so I figure why not chat to others in similar circumstances.

I’m from, Australia. Gamer (also if anyone is into that) and a myriad of other things. Feel free to message me, just no weird stuff please…

I just finished a new-to-me series on Prime called High School. It's about two twin sisters growing up in the 90s and working on forming their own separate identities while discovering new ways to connect (writing and playing music together). They are also discovering separately that they are into girls not boys.

Lots of good 90s music and fashion. I used to rock the long sleeve shirt under a band tshirt/snarky tshirt. I recognized a lot of my younger self (not just fashion wise) in these girls.

Also the twins are based on young Tegan and Sara Quin.

Sadly, there is only one season bc it got canceled. I really enjoyed it. Has anyone else seen it?

Lonely in Owings Mills
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It's not that I don't exude my own kind of confidence, I do. I'm a rock musician, I get in front of audiences. I've learned how to act confident, I've learned how to command a room's attention. I'm anything but meek or awkward; I've been called intimidating. I get lots of attention (mostly from men, mostly unwanted). But mine is a different kind of confidence. It's effortful confidence, gained hard after painfully lacking it. The confidence of these women who get to me, it seems so natural. Like they know attention just flows to them like water downhill and it's theirs to play with.

I think this thing that happens to me is specific to being a woman who loves women. Because women are both social and sexual for me--like this woman, whoever she might be: I want to be friends with her, I want to be like her, I want to kiss her and date her and go to bed with her, these feelings come all at once and for whatever reason come with a twinge of pain. It's like having a secret crush on your more popular friend in grade school--you can't confess it, much less hope it's reciprocated, and that makes you feel so alone, so pining, so invisible.

And this feeling, I don't really take it 100% seriously when it happens but it kind of gives me despair that I'll find someone. All the confidence I've built up over the years temporarily dissolves and I'm just that 14 year old with a crush on her straight friend, slumped against the window on the bus ride home, feeling like no one will ever understand.

Hello to all of you who gave me some advices to overcome my fear of making love with a 32 year old as a 58 year old...

I promised i would keep you posted, so here i am 😊

Thank you ! As advised, I tried to let go and it wonderfully worked 😊. Her and I had an amazing first week-end together at her place. A very romantic, cuddly and sexy time. We held hands while falling asleep and when driving, like teenagers in love. We made plans to be together for the next 3 week-ends. I can't wait to be with her again. I feel so lucky to experience this kind of love again at my age...

Thanks again to the community for helping me to get over my fear. I wish you all the best !

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Hi loves, my name is Aracelly,, 48 single and settled in my life but definitely crave female friendships and connections. I work for myself as a housekeeper/organizer in Astoria and Manhattan so my schedule is flexible! I love working out, music, good food , trying new things this fall like archery made me realize I'd love to do something every other week or even month if possible that I've never done before to expand interests and circles. We can all agree that making friends as an adult who decided to not marry or have kids is not the easiest but I feel most of us crave it. If interested reply and let's meet up before the winter hits or send me recs on where to go if any are available. Enjoy the rainy Sunday!!!

About two weeks ago, I posted about a 32-year-old woman I’d met at a van rally over the weekend. I’m 58. After we each went home, we texted and talked on the phone a lot for 15 days. I was unsure about her intentions, but now they’re clear. We saw each other again this weekend and grew closer. We hugged and kissed. I’m supposed to visit her at her place next week. I’m terrified of having sex with her because I don’t have a great body. I’m overweight, and my skin is pale and saggy. I’m ashamed of myself. I really want her, but my lack of self-confidence could ruin everything. Any advice please ? Thank you !

Any L7 punk music fans out there. Im 63 but still love LOUD feminist music. And live shows!!!

Sono una ragazza giovane (25 anni), ho avuto varie relazioni, maggiormente con le mie coetanee, ho anche avuto relazioni o piccole frequentazioni con donne più grandi di me, divario di 20 anni circa, adesso mi piacciono solo le donne mature, ed è un problema perché è così difficile anche solo restaurare un piccola conversazione con donne più grandi di me, perché ok ci sta, penso sia chiaro che loro preferiscono le loro coetanee, ma io non riesco a farmi piacere le mie coetanee, mi chiedo se esistono donne mature a cui piacciono le donne più giovani, o se magari esiste una community di Age gap anche solo per fare amicizia.

Hey ladies, my friendship pool is very small these days. It would be great to get to know some women out there who feel the same way and are open to new connections. I'm UK based, 34, studying to become a specialised engineer. If you have a background in tech or engineering, i'd love to have more people to talk to about those subjects, but it's not a necessity.

I keep pretty busy, but I need my down days too. I have 3 cats (typical lesbian) and one "creepy" pet, I read a lot of non-fiction, I'm a little unhinged if you can tolerate that (haha), single as a pringle, adore and worked with vulnerable animals and very attune to nature.

I'd like to learn about you. Tell me about why you care about the the things you fill your days with, what you value in friendships and relationships, come at me with your most controversial opinion. However you'd like to say hello is welcome by me. Lets get chatting.

Hey all!! This might sound random, but I'm doing a final fundraising push for the Indie lesbian horror comedy I'm producing and directing next month. We have $ 40k left to raise.

It's Bodies, Bodies, Bodies if it were directed by Wes Craven.

If you are looking for a fun way to get involved in the arts and film, connect with the lesbian and queer community, and get invited to an NYC movie premiere, please reach out!

I'd be happy to send the pitch deck and talk more about what it means to invest in the project. :)

Just wondering if there are some lovely ladies in the Toronto area or like myself about 3 hours north of Toronto, but will travel to the big city. just looking for friends. More people to go on excursions or hiking nearby.

Anyone going to Women’s Week in PTown this year? It’s my first time going, so excited. Any tips on good places to eat and recs for events would be greatly appreciated 😁. Sober but ok with going to bars/clubs for dancing. Any good djs coming out for the week?

55 GenX’er 😁

Estou num relacionamento há quase 10 anos. Minha parceira sempre foi bastante controladora, mas eu também vinha de um histórico bem complicado de quase alcoolismo e relacionamentos complicados, devido ao excesso de intensidade (meu e de outra pessoa). Eu "sosseguei", como dizem. Como mudei de estado, não considerava atípico só ter minha companheira como referência pra tudo. Porém, com quase 10 anos morando aqui onde estou agora, já tenho família (que felizmente se mudaram pra perto de mim) e amigos. Enfim, não tem como resumir 10 anos em um único e minúsculo post. Mas o fato é que uma grande amiga, que conheço há 20 anos, veio final de semana retrasado pra cá e acolhemos ela em casa. Não, não sou casada com minha companheira. Como tivemos um hiato de 1 ano, nos separamos e moro com minha mãe desde então. Minha mãe e eu acolhemos essa amiga, que foi minha primeira namorada. Agora vem a parte na qual preciso da opinião de vocês: o primeiro problema veio quando essa minha amiga começou a beber dentro de casa. Minha mulher não suporta que eu beba. Como isso realmente me faz mal, eu não me importei de parar, já era algo que eu queria fazer. Mas ela não está gostando que essa minha amiga beba na minha casa. Hoje, no caminho do trabalho, minha companheira me sugeriu treinarmos em outra academia mais distante (é uma rede), com a desculpa de que o cheiro nessa onde estamos lhe incomoda. Detalhe: nessa eu consigo ir e voltar a pé de casa, meu ônibus pára na entrada, tem pessoas que conheço treinando lá, inclusive essa minha amiga. E eu me pergunto até que ponto é pelo cheiro ou ela está querendo me afastar da minha amiga o máximo que conseguir. Desconfio principalmente porque ela disse que a academia era algo nosso e agora é algo meu e dessa minha amiga. Como se uma coisa anulasse a outra. Eu a amo muito, mas sinto que ela quer mandar em mim e isso eu jamais vou permitir, nem pelo maior amor do mundo. Qual a opinião de vocês? Considerando que em um único POST não caberia nem 10% da nossa vida... Sei que é muito difícil perceber quando estamos vivendo um relacionamento abusivo. Então, tenho muito medo de estar em um. Isso acabaria comigo, pois a amo muito 🥺

Hi friends! Please join our sapphic online book club! This month, we are reading Metal From Heaven by August Clarke. Comment or message me for an invite

Hello.

I am almost 50. Late in lifer. I have dabbled in some little flings, but never been in a serious committed relationship with a woman..

My question is what resources would you recommend to help a new lesbian be comfortable with dating and intimacy. I was rejected and shamed horribly for not having experience once. It's almost made me never want to try again, but I guess my question is how did you figure things out or become comfortable with things prior to your first time?