After months and months I'm happy to report I signed an offer letter. This was a long road that started off optimistic- someone with a law degree from prestigious school and 20 plus years of experience should have no problem finding a job.
Wrong.
I got plenty of interviews. I mostly worked with recruiters. I always advanced to the final round but came up short with offer.
45 interviews which is a lot for my profession. Our jobs take 4-5 interviews before a final decision. I spent so much time in airports, I never want to see another carry on suitcase.
Three of the jobs required 7-10 interviews.
Here is what's broken in my opinion:
-It used to be that a person could do 1-3 interviews and get a decision fast. The culture of virtual interviews has made it too easy and financially affordable to schedule virtual interviews with candidates from all over - candidates they have no intention of flying in or relocating. It also makes it too easy to schedule multiple unnecessary interviews with anyone from the CEO to the mail room clerk. I was in interviews with people who said to me they have no say in the hiring decision. I thought, then why are we meeting?
-Recruiters are not honest with employers or candidates and waste people's time. I stopped dealing with large recruitment firms and concentrated on jobs that were either handled by the company or smaller boutique recruiters. That was what got me a job.
-Companies are positing job ads without little idea of who they want and what skills are best for the job. They are hiring based on who they like- which is also skewed because virtual interviews IMO give far greater advantage to people who can finesse their way through them without being able to do the job. I was in several interviews where the hiring manager was clueless on what the job ad asked for. "Why do we need someone with a law degree?"
I responded the posting prospectus said JD preferred...(shrug).
-Interviewing is a skill that interviewers need to develop. Too many bad interviewers who have no idea how to interview and many are rude. One kept his camera off during my interview and said they needed to concentrate. Didn't turn it on to say good bye. Same person admitted having no qualifications to interview for the position. "I'm standing in for X but will ket them know who I like."
Game changers that helped me:
-Use AI software to help refine your resumes and cover letters. Let it customize your resume to every job you apply for. I got more interviews that way.
- I decided to get another degree four months into my job search period. It gives you something to do that you feel you can control and is productive. It adds skills to your experience and you can list the degree as "expected" which gets your foot in the door. Being a student also taps you into discounts and resources for stuff when you are low on money. You can also use the university career services.
- Find a hobby, exercise, meditate, treat yourself - do something that makes you feel valuable and worthy of a great opportunity. I don't care if it's an espresso or watching a movie. Every Tuesday, my local deli did $2 subs. I was there. It was cheap and a treat.
-Dedicate one day a week to job hunting. I kept my sanity this way. It was a scheduled day for applications, follow ups. Yes I checked for jobs daily but limited that to one hour a day.
Don't make your very waking existence about the hunt.
- Don't complain to friends/family. It makes it worse. Don't tell them about every interview. It makes it worse when you don't get the job and embarrassing. I waited until I signed the final paperwork to tell anyone about the new job.
- If a job doesn't meet your pay range but seems like a good fit, don't rule it out. I did that the first six months and regret it. I found a job I liked - it was 40K lower than what I wanted. I got the offer and negotiated the salary to almost what I was looking to make and it has less travel than the higher paying jobs. Another friend took a $70K payout but is in a higher position with more autonomy. There are trade-offs to salary.
- Once your interview is done, be done with it and move on. I stopped sending thank you letters. They never mattered and the job I got, I didn't send any. I never contacted the recruiter again. If I heard from them fine. If not I moved on. One job took three months to let me know I didn't make it to the next step. I never responded. When I got a rejection, I never responded. Until they hire you, they are not invested in you. Why give them more time than needed? They know how to find you. Go on to the next position and never stop applying no matter how good you feel you did or how much they praise you. I had a job all but say I was the best candidate and they chose someone else.
-Never lower your self-respect or basic standards because you are unemployed. If a place or boss looks toxic don't hold your nose and take the job. Rejection can be a good thing sometimes.
Good luck everyone. Thanks for supporting me. Your posts kept me going.
For those of you still looking, this bump in the road will end. I promise you. This was my 2nd time dealing with this in my career. This period was shorter than the last time it happened.
If you are in a job you hate, don't quit it unless you are at your mental wits end That was my situation. I don't regret it because it gave me more time to dedicate to my own well being and a search for a better job.