My neighbors have a weiner dog mix. We live out in the country so we don’t have a ton of traffic. But my neighbors live back in the woods, far from the road. We live basically right next to the road. They have this little dog who is at our house constantly. He’s cute for a bit but we don’t have dogs and we don’t want dogs. This dog likes to lay in the middle of the road right in front of our house and in the past month we’ve had 6 people stop to tell us about him being in the road. We always tell people he’s not ours but I’ll let the owners know. I’ve messaged the owners and half the time she reads it and doesn’t respond. Now tonight I just had an angry lady drive by and yell at me “YOUR DOG IS IN THE ROADDDD”. AITAH for putting a sign in the yard stating “the little white dog in the road is not ours”. The owners would make our lives hell if we called animal control. I’m surprised someone hasn’t done it already.

So I’m a RN in a state where breaks are not mandatory and are rare. My department is pretty good about getting us our 30 minute lunch break during our 13 hour shifts but no other breaks. While sitting at lunch today one of my colleagues comes up to me and starts yammering on and on. I’m just trying to enjoy my food and some legit quiet to reduce overstimulation. I don’t respond hoping she will get the hint. Then she says ‘well aren’t you a barrel of joy to talk to’. I respond ‘I get 30 minutes to eat and relax. I don’t want to socialize. Please respect my 30 minutes’. My coworker was miffed to say the least. I don’t know if it was because I am normally bubbly and chatty/friendly and it threw her off or what. I value my 30 minutes to enjoy my food and get away from the monitor alas etc. AITAH?

I'm a bridesmaid in my friend Gina's wedding and she asked me to host a get together at my place since it was the most central location for all the bridesmaids (8 people total) to get together for the first time and start planning events. G took care of most of the party planning but I offered to get pizza for everyone, Gina asked me to make sure I got one vegetarian pizza for her sister Maggie as she does not eat meat. I did so and when the pizza arrived I made sure to announce that the one vegetarian pizza was meant for Gina's sister and told her which pizza was hers.

After awhile I noticed that despite my announcement people had been taking slices of the vegetarian pizza and there were only two slices left meanwhile Maggie was occupied and hadn't had any yet. I went up to Maggie and reminded her the pizza was there but she brushed me off saying she'd get some later. After that I went and closed up that pizza box and put it to the side to make sure Maggie would still have enough to eat. There were still other pizzas on the table available for everyone else.

Another hour passed and I noticed another girl Bea was eating one of the remaining slices of the vegetarian pizza. Shocked, I asked her if she was vegetarian and she said no but said she had tried all of the pizzas earlier and that one tasted the best so she was having another slice. I told her that was supposed to be for Maggie, but she shrugged and said there was still one left for her. Later Maggie finally went to eat her pizza and seeing that there was only one slice left complained there wasn't enough for her to eat. Gina commented to me later she thought i'd get enough for everyone.

There were still other pizzas left on the table mind you, I didn't expect other people to be eating the vegetarian pizza when it was made clear that was the only pizza Maggie could eat and there were still other slices there that everyone else could have. Gina only specified to me to order one vegetarian pizza so that's what i did. But I still feel bad that Maggie didn't end up having enough to eat. AITAH?

EDIT: Wow I didn't expect this post to get so many responses. More info below

The party was an afternoon gathering (2-4pm) and initially I wasn't even expected to provide food, Gina had asked if I could book my condo's party room for us to use solely because of the location convenience and never said anything to me about food other than saying she would bring some chips and other snacks for us. I offered to get the pizzas when she asked me about using my place as I assumed the group would want something more to munch on and I felt like providing something more substantial was simply the polite thing to do as the location host. 

Before I ordered the pizzas I asked the group what everyone wanted and everyone said they didn't care, this is also when Gina asked me to make sure I got one vegetarian option, Maggie didn't even say anything. I also brought down a pineapple and cut up other fruits for everyone along with providing drinks.

For the pizzas I simply chose the 4 most popular options that were listed at the top of the app (one of which was the veggie option which was cheese with vodka sauce and pesto) since everyone said they didn't care. They were large size with 8 slices each so 32 slices total. I assumed everyone would have 2-3 slices each so thought that would be enough for the vegetarian girl to have along with a few others to try a slice if they wanted. 

Yes this is my first time ordering pizza for a group and I honestly have never noticed that the veggie/cheese options were popular at other pizza gatherings i've been to. I had always seen those ones being leftover and unwanted so figured one was enough. To everyone saying I am TA I am sorry and I will order more veggie options next time.

I lost my baby and after his passing, I purchased a cemetery plot for him with enough space for additional caskets. It’s an incredibly personal place to me.

My grandfather recently passed away and my family hadn’t made any burial arrangements. They asked if he could be buried next to my baby, and I agreed without hesitation.

However, my family has now told me that I’m not welcome at my grandfather’s funeral because my cousin will be attending. This cousin sexually abused me when I was a child and my family thinks having both of us there would make things too uncomfortable(they have always favorited him and excluded me even though I was a child and him an adult)

I’m honestly devastated. I feel like I’m being punished for something that was done to me, while the person who hurt me is allowed to attend.

Now I’m seriously considering telling my family that I’ve changed my mind about allowing my grandfather to be buried in my plot.

It’s not because I don’t love my grandfather. But this whole situation has made me realize that my cousin might eventually visit his grave, which means he would also be visiting the place where my baby is resting.

The thought of the person who abused me being anywhere near my baby’s resting place makes me sick. That is supposed to be my safe and peaceful place, and I don’t want him anywhere near it.

Part of me wants to tell my family they need to find somewhere else to bury my grandfather. But I also feel incredibly guilty because I already agreed, and I know changing my mind would make an already difficult situation worse.

I don’t know if I’m letting my emotions get the best of me or if I’m justified in feeling this way.

So, AITA for wanting to withdraw my permission, or am I overreacting because I’m hurt about being excluded from the funeral?

Hi.

My fiancée (30F) and I (32M) live in a 1-bedroom apartment, about 52 sqm (~560 sq ft). Her brother moved in with us in February. The plan was for him to stay with their other sister, but they didn't get along, so he ended up with us instead. We helped because he had nowhere to go, and I have no problem with him. He's moving out next week.

That sister (call her S) now wants to move in right after he leaves, so she can rent out her own apartment and save up to move to another country (not out of necessity, but out of choice). She says that she is tired of our country and has nothing here (she has a lease, a job, and most importantly, absolutely no savings). S told me it would be "a few weeks." I later found out she had told my fiancée January or February. By my math it would realistically take longer: she would need a deposit plus a few months of buffer, and she won't hear back on her job applications until somewhere between December and February.

The plan also depends on three things all going right: she gets a job, her tenant works out, and her savings are enough. If any of them fail, our home is the fallback. S also tends to make big decisions very quickly and the details of her plans change a lot, so I didn't trust the timeline nor the robustness of her “plan”. She has other options (her dad lives in the country she wants to move to, though she doesn't want to live "in the woods"), and I've helped her financially several times before.

I just want my home back with me and my fiance. No more people. I messaged S directly about this and told her that I want to have my home back with my fiance, in a way that was clear and polite, explaining that it was affecting my relationship with her sister.

Now she is angry at me for going back on my word (it’s a matter of principle, she says). I honestly don’t care much that I did go back and I know she didn’t give me the full information and that’s why I said no, but I honestly do not wish to go tit for tat with her. She is also hung up on it being wrong that I did it over text “since we’re family” but honestly I felt so tired that I just wanted to send a text and forget. So I rescinded the offer and wished her good luck.

Honestly, I feel so gaslighted.

Long story short, my girlfriend 24F grew up in a verbal and sometimes physically abusive home with her mom. She’s one of 5 siblings and they all have cut her off except for my gf since she still lives there.

Every time I’ve been over her house, her mom and her boyfriend fight all night. It’s screaming, glass breaking, hitting each other, and it goes on all night so we’re both exhausted the next day. I’ve had enough of it so I’ve stopped going over about 2 months ago and she just comes over my house to get away from it all.

Her mom texted me asking why I haven’t come over in months, and I asked my girlfriend how she’d like me to answer as I don’t want any trouble. I’ve been telling her mom I was busy, unavailable, etc. She told me tell her the truth and maybe it will get through to her if I say it, so I did - I replied back both politely and honest, explaining that I understand she wants me to come over, however I do not like being around screaming all night. I told her it keeps us up all night, and that if there isn’t any fighting I will gladly come over.

Sure enough, she blew up on my girlfriend saying I’m a POS, I’m never invited over again, etc, and now my girlfriend feels bad. She thinks we ruined my relationship with her mom, even though I responded how she told me to.

Personally, I don’t think there’s any value in building a relationship with an emotionally/physically abusive person, and I also don’t think it’s an unreasonable request to not want to be around that toxic behavior that keeps you up all night. AITA for telling my girlfriend’s mom the truth about why I don’t spend time at their place?

I (F27) received a Lego set for my birthday. It was a joint gift from two of my best friends, Harry (M29) and Alice (F27). It’s a big Lego set of a tuxedo cat, and it cost them almost £100, which is way more expensive of a gift than I’ve ever received from those two - usually we spend at most £25 on each other.

I don’t want this Lego cat. I hate saying that because it’s a really cool gift. The box sits in the corner, unopened, taunting me. Don’t get me wrong - I have lots of free time where I could be assembling this thing - but it’s 1700 pieces! This summer I bought myself a tiny Lego set at a supermarket, it was 160 pieces and that took me over an hour! I hated it! I’m just not built (haha) for Lego. I don’t have the patience. This god damn Lego cat would take me at least 10 hours. I don’t want to spend 10 hours to build this creepy looking cat that will just sit in the corner of my lounge and gather dust.

Here’s the really stupid part of this dilemma that makes me feel like an ungrateful brat…

Just before my birthday Alice (amateur filmmaker) used my house as a film set. In doing so one of her team broke one of my lamps. Not a problem! It happens! Alice said “that makes your birthday present easy - I’ll just buy you a new lamp”. Perfect. She even sent over a couple of examples to gauge what sort of lamps I liked. So I was really expecting a replacement lamp. My birthday rolls around, I get given this bloody massive box, and… it’s a Lego cat. From both Harry and Alice. So it’s not like I was going to get a separate lamp from Alice. I dread to think how confused I must’ve looked opening that box.

And now every time my friends come over (which is at least twice a month) one or both will point out that I haven’t made a start on the cat. I always want to say “I can’t, my lounge is too dark”.

Would I be an asshole for selling the Lego set online, and using the money to buy myself a replacement lamp? I don’t want to hurt Harry and Alice’s feelings but I just have absolutely no interest in Lego!

Edit: The box 100% has Lego in and isn’t a fake out.

I (21F) am currently in college, studying for my degree, and I have a partner (20F). We known each other for months and haven't even been together officially for a month yet.

Recently, we've had disagreements about priorities, particularly when it comes to my education, career, and future.

For context, I'm someone who likes planning ahead. I want to graduate, get a stable job, save money, travel, and eventually build a comfortable life for myself. I'm not expecting to become rich, but I don't want to spend my adult life constantly worrying about bills or struggling financially.

My partner and I have different perspectives on this. Sometimes, it feels like prioritizing my career is being treated as though I'm choosing my future over our relationship. I don't really understand this because, to me, building a career and becoming financially stable should ultimately benefit both of us if we're planning a future together.

I'm also concerned about our financial future. My partner doesn't currently have a job(nor does she have any skills or higher education than high school) I understand that everyone has their own circumstances and timeline, and I'm not expecting someone to have their entire life figured out at 20. However, I also have to think about whether our long-term goals and expectations are compatible.

I don't want to end up being the sole breadwinner or feeling like I have to sacrifice career opportunities to accommodate a relationship. I want a partner who has her own goals and is willing to build a future alongside me, even if we don't earn the same amount.

But we're still at the beginning of this relationship, and I don't think I should have to put my future plans on hold or feel guilty for prioritizing my education.

Am I being too focused on the future and not giving the relationship enough room to develop naturally?

This is honestly so ridiculous that I can’t believe I’m even asking this, but here we go.

My mom just wanted to print out a HUGE portrait of me and my brother on a wall near the entrance. The problem? It was AI-generated.

She showed me the picture, and it was one of those painfully obvious AI pictures with the dramatic sunset lighting and that overly perfect, uncanny look. It didn’t even feel like a real picture of me.

I told her I didn’t want it hanging on the wall and asked her to please not put it up. I even suggested that if she wanted a big portrait of us, we could just take an actual picture of me and my brother instead.
I also explained that it would honestly be
embarrassing to have guests over with a massive, obviously AI-generated portrait of myself hanging right in the middle of the wall. I don’t have anything against AI in general and laughed along with her whenever she generated some weird pictures of us for fun, but I personally don’t want a giant, fake-looking version of myself displayed in my own home.

She immediately got defensive and started arguing with me. At some point, she literally told me that I AM the most embarrassing person she knows.
For context, this isn’t an isolated incident. Whenever there’s a disagreement with my mom, she has a tendency to turn it into a personal attack instead of actually discussing the issue. Throughout my childhood, I’ve been told that I’m weird, embarrassing, that I’ll amount to nothing, and all sorts of other things that have stuck with me.
So, after she said that, I snapped and told her that she’s sick in the head.

Obviously, I could have chosen my words better, but I’m honestly exhausted by how every little disagreement turns into an attack on my character.

We were literally arguing about a freaking AI portrait, and somehow it became another opportunity for her to insult me personally.

Now I’m wondering if I was wrong for insulting her back, especially considering that the whole thing started over something so stupid.
I feel like I should be allowed to say I don’t want a giant AI-generated portrait of myself hanging on the wall without being personally attacked for it.

So, AITAH?

The other day, while we were in the ER because my mother’s kidney function was declining due to her cancer, my eldest sister, A, went on a rant about how she is the only one who takes care of our mother and how we should all be thanking her. She was hysterical and screaming at my other sister, B.
I heard the commotion and went over to de-escalate the situation. I told them both that their behavior was inappropriate and asked B to stop responding. I then pulled B away to another area of the hospital.
A followed me and started screaming at me. I ignored her and responded with only one sentence: “Do you take care of Mom for people to thank you, or do you do it because she’s your mom?”
Mind you, A doesn’t even live with us. B and I are the ones who take care of our mother.
A ended up physically attacking me. I am not a violent person, nor did I want to engage with her physically, so I asked the nearest nurse to call security. I also told A that if she laid a hand on me one more time, I would not hesitate to have her admitted.
I left the hospital afterward because I didn’t want my mother, who was already in pain, to find out what had happened. However, A went to my mother crying and told her everything anyway.
My mother then called me and told me that I was inconsiderate, that I was cruel to A, and that she didn’t know how I had turned out this way. She accused me of causing a scene by calling security and said I was cruel and horrible for even considering having A admitted, rather than making sure I was okay when I was the one who had been attacked.
I tried to explain myself to my mother. I told her that I never wanted her to pick a side, but that I was the one who had been harmed, and she had somehow still found a way to make me the bad guy.
I told her that I loved her and that I was praying for her recovery, but that what had happened wasn’t right. She told me to save my prayers for myself and accused me of being jealous of A.
A few days later, I sent my mother another text, hoping she would have calmed down by then. I tried once again to explain my perspective, but she told me to stop playing the victim.
Later, she sent a message in our sisters’ group chat, saying that B and I were horrible because we hadn’t stayed in the hospital with her, unlike A. She said she couldn’t believe how heartless we both were.
I responded by explaining that she had been the one who didn’t want me in the hospital in the first place. I also reminded her that she had explicitly told B that she wanted A to be the one staying with her. When B had tried to coordinate shifts with A so that we could all take turns being with our mother, A had refused to let anyone else stay with her.
B and I explained all of this to our mother, but she continued to send voice notes of herself yelling at me, calling me cruel and heartless. She went on a long rant about how I needed to stop bringing A into every conversation, even though she was the one who had brought A up in the first place.
In the end, I told my mother that I was praying for her recovery, and I stopped replying.

Hi all long time lurker first time poster here.

I 39f saw an art post on fb with a guillotine, some flowers and the words "Dead men don't rape". As a victim of rape myself I saw this and laugh reacted to it because to me the thought of a dead rapist is rather funny.

A little while later I get a notification, I'm being called out by the post author for laughing at rape and supporting rape culture and being a mysoginist. I explained my view, my personal experience and why I thought it was funny. She goes on to laugh at the fact that I was raped, called me a few undesirable names and continues to spout that I'm in support of rape culture.

So am I the AH or is she nuts? I honestly don't know at this point

Hi. To give you some context, I, am the branch manager at the company I work for. A very good friend of mine, works in another branch, in a different country, for the same company. He is not part of management. Whilst at work, heading to my branch, he came in contact with a customer. With whom he flirted with for 3 and a half hours. He did not get the name of the customer. He then texted me to ask if it is possible for me to check the customer lists and seats, for that customer’s name. I immediately refused and told my friend that it is not possible, as this of course is a huge breach of personal data. He got upset. I am seriously considering reporting this. AITAH?

moved in with a roommate from Facebook Marketplace in April. Over time, she became passive-aggressive, changing the Wi-Fi password, locking the thermostat, and making me uncomfortable using shared spaces.

I have ADHD and struggle with procrastination, so I know I haven’t always been consistent with chores, but I’ve made an effort to contribute. As she would do dishes and slam them aggressively or take my stuff out the dryer to put her clean dry clothes in it and would complain if I took it out while she was at work bc they’d get wrinkled

My new place was available on the 24th. I told her I’d aim to move then but might need more time. She expected me to be completely out and return the keys that day, but I assumed I had until the 31st. She also wanted to move her belongings into my room so she could clean hers, but wasn’t making much progress packing her own things. When I said I’d like to have until the 31st…She freaked out and said I wasn’t following her schedule. My room is empty except for I need finish cleaning.

My best friend thinks my roommate may be rushing me unnecessarily and suspects she might be staying in the apartment herself. She also thinks I may have been overcharged for rent, though I’m not sure.
AITA for not being fully moved out by the 24

My friend, Kate and her boyfriend, Issac, have been together for about a year. I actually introduced them, and I’m friends with both of them.

This summer, I went to Issac’s mom’s pool with them. Almost a month later, Issac texted me saying my butt looked good that day. I’m engaged, and the message made me uncomfortable. He later told me he was drunk, didn’t mean anything by it, and thought it would be funny.

I told my fiancé, who said I should handle it however I felt was appropriate. I texted Issac and told him the comment made me uncomfortable. He apologized, and I thought that was the end of it. I had other things going on at the time, so I took a big step back from the friendship.

About a week later, Kate called me because Issac had deleted our texts and she wanted to know what happened. I told her everything. She said she was going to break up with him, but ultimately that never happened.

Now, Kate hasn’t said anything to me directly, but she’s told a mutual friend that I owe her an apology for not telling her sooner.

Here’s where I’m conflicted. Earlier this year, Kate drunkenly confessed to me that she was in love with her guy best friend. She later said she didn’t mean it and specifically asked me not to tell Issac, but I’m really regretting not telling him considering all of this.

I understand why she might be upset that I didn’t tell her about Issac’s message right away. However, I was uncomfortable with the comment and addressed it directly with him. I wasn’t trying to hide anything or protect Issac. I was UNCOMFORTABLE.

So, AITAH? Should I apologize to Kate for not telling her immediately, or was it reasonable to handle the situation directly with Issac? Do I tell Issac about Kate’s drunk confession?

I’m genuinely looking for outside perspectives because I’m not sure if I should keep these friendships. They’re clearly toxic

Edit -
Thanks for all the fast replies. I’m going to cut these people out. I look forward to being an adult after it’s all over
I’ll provide updates if there are any

Hey guys,
Question - I had planned on going to a concert with my friend for 2 months and her sister is going too. My aunty died the night before from a heart attack on the steps. I feel so guilty it was unplanned and I'm worried she might think I'm lying as an excuse because she knows my boyfriend won't let me go but that's genuinely not it. Thoughts?

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hii, i 14F parents have been separated for years, and I currently live with my mom. Recently, they've had a disagreement because my dad occasionally wants to stay at my mom's house when he's in town driving trucks. My mom doesn't want him sleeping on her couch because he's not the cleanest person, and she doesn't want him staying in her home. However, she never said he couldn't visit altogether.

My dad apparently interpreted this as her not wanting him to visit anymore. He texted me saying he wasn't going to visit anymore because my mom was mad at him and he didn't have the energy to deal with it.

I asked my mom about this, and she explained that she wasn't mad at him. She simply didn't want him sleeping on her couch. Those are two different things, but apparently my dad took it differently and decided he didn't want to visit anymore.

Now, here's where the actual problem starts.

My dad knows I'm transitioning from online school to in-person high school. He said he was happy about it because it would help us work on our communication skills. I told him I was already good at communicating, and he replied with "Yeah, right 😂."

That genuinely annoyed me because he isn't around enough to know how I communicate with other people, especially when it comes to expressing my feelings. We don't have a particularly close relationship, and he isn't very involved in my everyday life, so I didn't appreciate him making that assumption. I left him on read because I was irritated.

Fast-forward to today. My mom told me to let my dad know that she'd texted him. I texted him, "Hey, my mom said she texted you."

He replied, "Whatever she wants to tell me, she can tell you."

I responded by asking why I had to relay the message when he could simply open her text and read it himself.

About an hour later, he replied something along the lines of, "I'm sure she'll tell you whatever she wants to tell me. If not, then 🤷‍♂️."

At this point, I'm honestly irritated.

First, you make a comment implying that I'm bad at communicating, but now you're expecting me to communicate on your behalf because you don't want to open a message from my mom? How does that make sense?

Second, my mom is literally trying to communicate with you directly. Instead of reading her message and responding to her like an adult, you're trying to involve me in the situation.

I'm 14. You're 45. Why am I being put in the middle of a disagreement between two grown adults who are perfectly capable of communicating with each other?

I understand that my dad might not want to deal with my mom if he thinks she's upset with him. That's his decision. But I don't think that gives him a reason to use me as a messenger, especially when my mom has already contacted him directly.

I'm not interested in relaying whatever she wants to say, finding out what she wants to tell him, or carrying messages back and forth. They are both my parents, and I don't want to be caught in the middle of their disagreements.

What frustrates me even more is the hypocrisy. He makes a sarcastic comment about my communication skills, yet he's the one refusing to engage in a direct conversation and expecting me to do it for him.

I also feel like his ego plays a part in situations like this, although I obviously can't know exactly what he's thinking.

I believe my mom should be able to communicate her own message to him, and he should be able to respond to her directly if he wants to. I'm not responsible for managing their relationship.

So, AITA for refusing to relay the message, or am I being unreasonable?

I am 18M and have just finished school. I work two jobs: Bunnings (basically the Australian version of Home Depot) 3-4 times a week & with an Electrician once a week.The electrician job was part of my schooling; I'd go three days a week to school, then one day to TAFE (Trade School) and one day with the Electrician. There is a possibility that this will lead into an apprenticeship but my parents don’t seem to care too much about that job comparatively.

The problem is that the steel processing plant advertised an apprenticeship recently. Many people that my parents know work/ have worked there. The applications have just finished last week and my parents are still annoyed that I didn’t apply.

I didn’t want to apply because in the past when I have applied for jobs my mum always ends up doing most of the application. I write a draft and she proofreads it. But she always gets frustrated at how I have written things, takes over because she thinks she is more experienced and ends up doing most of the application. I don’t want to do this again.

Also I want to do something on my own in the next few months, like travelling alone. If I committed to an apprenticeship it would be hard to find the time to do this as it does go over the full work week. Additionally I would have to drop my current jobs that I do enjoy.

I’m not against the idea of doing a trade, especially as I have experience with the electrician and there is still hope that that job could become something. However, I don’t want to jump into something because my parents think it’s the best idea. I have other things I want to do. My parents seem to think that by not applying I have missed a great opportunity. Whereas I think I just want to have some control over my decisions.

so, AITAH?

I’m a 45 year old female. History of SA as a child and I have an autoimmune disease called lichen sclerosis that makes sex very painful and causes ulcers and vaginal fissures.
My husband 60 year old male and I have been married almost 14 years. His kink is thigh highs and BDSM. When I first met him, I was only 31. I did whatever he asked for sexually.
Now that I am hitting middle age, I’m tired of doing sex his way. I’ve hit perimenopause and am working on hormone replacement therapy. I’m unfortunately just not in the mood most of the time. I still put out.
This weekend we went away and I ran a half marathon. He wanted me to put on my thigh highs right after my race so we could come back to the room and have sex. I complained about it. He threw a tantrum and stormed out of the hotel room, leaving me alone for several hours.
I cried on the way home, explaining that I’m tired of his fetish. Sex is painful right now and I’m tired of him only being able to get off if I’m wearing thigh highs. Every time we do a “dress up date” I have to wear thigh highs. He does not give a fuck about anything but his thigh highs.

AITAH for not wanting to wear thigh highs?

TLDR this is going to be a long read Hi I’m i’m not the best at explaining stuff like this so I’m gonna type out what was said between me and my friend who is the Dm for our dnd campaign. I am Me/R the dm/my friend is J and the other letters are just friends that are either watching the campaign or playing the campaign

J: Hey were about start soon are you able to come?

Me: Yeah, I’m able to come

J: Ight bet!

Me: Just let me know when you’re starting. I’m just taking medicine for my throat

J: Were about to start now

Me: Oh ok give me 50 seconds

J: Are you not able to speak at all?

Me: Yeah, it’s really bad. I didn’t think this would happen to my voice. I’ll see if I’ll be able to talk next time

We were a little bit into the session

Me: Hey, something kind of popped up and I might need to go cause it might be an family emergency so maybe in the next 10 minutes I might have to leave

Me: OK after my turn, I need to go cause it is a family emergency.

Me: J, I gotta go I’m so sorry

A few hours after they finished

J: Hey R I can kinda feel you being a bit nervous during everything and I know you still want to be like present during the campaign. How does becoming a spectator sound like T is?

Me: Oh, it’s not that I was nervous that much. It’s just I kind of couldn’t talk or really say anything I wanted to say. I was kinda iffy at first, but then I started to get OK. I’m better a bit.

J: Alright yes we can talk about this later

A few days later

Me: Hey sorry about the last time we talked all I’m gonna say is nephew is in hospital and I wasn’t doing too hot so sorry about how I was acting

J: But that’s not the issue that we have rn. The issue that we have is that you were untruthful to me and that deeply hurt me. And for that I am going to have to have you be a spectator for the time being. This isn’t something that’s permanent, but I need for that trust to be built back up again.

A day later

Me: What are you talking about saying I’ve been untruthful I wish I could’ve talked, but I don’t wanna damage my voice anymore

J: Ok well for starters this right here, you say you wasn't nervous. But at the same time you say you couldn't talk/say anything. And then went on to say that you was iffy but was getting better. That kinda tells me that you was nervous. Next it was the first time you back tracked. When you said you strained your voice when you texted. Now it you ruptured your voice? Two totally different things ngl. Then the second time you back tracked when you said you strained it a few days ago. Then later on you said you strained the night before we was going to start. Not to mention everything happening very last minute.

Me: Not being able to speak, doesn’t make me automatically nervous. yes there are people there that I don’t know. I’m also doing a lot of get out of my comfort zone i’m literally becoming an extrovert and also helping people forcing myself to use my voice more

I use words strain and rupture all the time I usually mean them as the same thing do I know the difference no, but I know that was not able to speak without it hurting

And my fault things have a last minute I wish I could control certain things that happened, but sometimes I can’t for example I can’t control if my nephew got hurt was sent to the hospital. I didn’t know screaming that much would rapture/strain my voice that badly. i’m also doing a lot of projects for people and personal projects at the same time so I’m sorry that some of the stuff is not going as planned every single time.

J: Ok well if you was taking on all of these projects and knew that you were straining/rupturing your voice why didn't you say something earlier? Why wait to the last minute to say anything? You knew weeks in advance that we was going to have this. And despite knowing this you decide to hold it off 1 hour before we start? If you had said anything I would have worked around it. But you said nothing making me think everything was fine when it wasn't.
In the end I am serious when I say this, you have been untruthful I gave you my reason why I think that. Again you are more than welcome to spectate but I'm not letting you be a player until I can trust you again. And that's by being truthful with me and valuing my time.

Me: Because I have the memory of a goldfish J and some things I just forget about and forget to tell people if I don’t talk to people for a while. I tend to forget they even exist sometimes. Like I sometimes forgot that you and M exist cause I haven’t talked to y’all in a while. Hell I forgot that the DND thing was that Saturday. Even F and E forgot. I’ve also been figuring out a super important life shit. that I just don’t talk about. Also, if I’ve known that I had symptoms of that stuff happened to my throat it doesn’t mean I know how serious or bad it’s gonna be I just thought my voice was gonna be a little raspy(I also didn’t know that the campaign was starting that day, cause I forgot). If you don’t believe me then ask someone who’s been through my mind and knows that I forget a lot of shit. J no offense, but you just went on a touchy subject for me because I hate that I forget things, but I’ve been trying ever since I could remember and I’m slowly getting better at it and it’s something that I hate talking about to people who don’t know what’s going in my mind. The only reason i’m still going on about this it’s because that if I didn’t say anything I would feel like I’m getting punched into a corner, forcing myself to say sorry to things I can’t control. So sorry if I’m a bit irritated rn.

J: I'm going to say this one more time, I know your being untruthful and again I gave my reason why i think that. I'm not saying your gone. I'm saying can watch until you build up that trust again.

Me: Look I know as a dm things that change last minute are stressful and it’s hard to make adjustments but we both need to know we’re playing a game to have fun and some life just happens and we both need to clear our heads and realize where we’re both coming from

J: I’m not going to say it again I made my decision and I’m not changing it until you gain my trust and I know you value time. Now we can talk and anything else but I am not going to repeat myself on this topic anymore.

Am I the asshole?

There’s a house around the corner from me that is very near a side entrance to our local park. There’s a security camera on the eave that whistles (almost like a cat call but not quite) whenever it detects movement. It whistles at you while you’re walking in the street near the gutter.

I’ve been flipping that thing off for a couple years now because I find it very rude. Today, the homeowner was in the garage and caught me. Not verbatim but here’s the gist of our exchange:

Neighbor: (With attitude) Was that finger for me??!?

Me: It was for whomever or whatever whistled at me

neighbor: So it was for me

Me: Not for you, for your camera. Did you find my finger rude? I find that whistling rude

Neighbor: (escalating)You can’t flip people off.

Me: Look, you can have a camera pointed out here, but when I’m walking on a public street that whistle to make me look at the camera crosses a line. If you don’t want me to flip it off, turn off the whistle.

He continued to spout off as I continued on home…AITAH?

Hi everyone, I have a cousin who is literally like my twin brother. We're EXTREMELY close, to the point where people actually think we're siblings. We're always the first to know about each other's plans, especially birthdays, and we've never had anyone come between us. I also have a boyfriend of 5-6 years who is good friends with my cousin.

Around 4 years ago, my boyfriend and I broke up for about a year. During that time, a girl (let's call her Suzie) developed feelings for him. They went to homecoming together, but he made it clear they were ONLY friends because he still had feelings for me. Apparently, she didn't take that well because she's seemed to have a grudge against me ever since, even though I had never met her.

Fast forward 2 years, we're at prom with our own dates, and I kept catching her giving me nasty side eyes. I brushed it off because I didn't even know her personally.

Another 2 years later, present time, I see her at a college party and smile and wave at her TWICE, only to be completely ignored both times. At that point, I figured she still had some issue with me, but I didn't care enough to confront her.

A week later, my cousin FaceTimes me asking about the supposed "beef" between us. I told him there was no beef on my end, and if she had an issue with me, I genuinely didn't know why. Since they go to the same college, he spoke to her and explained that he couldn't be friends with someone who hated me because of how close we are. She denied having any issue with me, and he believed her. I didn't, but I let it go.

Now here's where the actual issue starts.

A month later, I receive an invitation to my cousin's birthday party, only TWO weeks before it's happening. I noticed everyone else had received theirs over a month earlier, which was weird considering we're ALWAYS the first people invited to each other's birthdays.

When I casually asked why, he told me he'd gotten really close with Suzie and had to ASK HER PERMISSION before inviting me.

I was confused until I found out she was hosting his birthday at her house. That made more sense, but I still found it weird that my own cousin had to basically get approval to invite me to HIS birthday.

What really bothered me was when he admitted he couldn't invite me earlier because my presence could've caused the ENTIRE party to be canceled. Mind you, I've never once said I had an issue with this girl.

He was actively telling everyone to save the date over a month ago, including friends he met THROUGH ME, while I wasn't even told about it.

I tried explaining why this hurt me, but he keeps shutting down the conversation. My best friends and roommates think I shouldn't even go because they see it as him prioritizing a girl he recently became close with less than a month ago, over someone who's practically his sister.

I understand it's her house, but I can't help feeling disrespected that I was treated like an optional guest at my own cousin's birthday.

Am I overreacting for feeling this way, and would I be wrong for not going?

For pictures of Dio so you all can see his immortal beauty.
https://www.reddit.com/r/dogpictures/s/tggJSlpo1Q

So context my dogs name is Dio Brando if ya know ya know. He is a beautiful dog and for some reason every time we go to a dog park there are at least two or more male dogs that will try to hump him. We always joke that it’s his pure bisexual energy that turns the boys gay, and I made this joke to a guy who’s dog was trying to get on Dio and he looked at me with pure disgust and said “my dogs not gay” and “it’s gross that you give your dog a sexuality”. I was completely caught off guard because in the past this is how I met other JoJo fans. AITAH?

Edit: the conversation went like this
Dio is a large husky mix this dog was half his size

Me:”your dog seems to be very interested in my dog”

Him:”yeah it’s weird he’s never done this before”

Me:”Dio tends to have the effect of making all the boys want him, his bisexual power could turn a priest lol”

Him:”my dogs not gay, it’s gross that you think your dog is bisexual”

Context - It's fall break weekend and my wife and I took the kids (5 and 10) down to St Louis for a long weekend/short trip. We started off with the zoo on the first day, and then went to the Renaissance Festival, and the Gateway Arch at night on the second day (they were doing a pretty sweet public event where they set up really strong telescopes and everyone got to look at the moon close up and even Saturn, which was pretty sweet imo).

Come Sunday though, there was something very obviously up with our youngest - was definitely acting like he was sick... So that morning I only took our older child to the Botanical Garden while he slept in (which was freaking awesome btw, 10/10 extremely cool botanical garden, do recommend to anyone to visit) -- so before we got back we picked up a home flu test and sure enough the kiddo tested positive for Flu A.

Sucks - but nothing you can do about it right?

Well this morning his fever was MOSTLY back to normal, down to 100.3, which is not technically a fever according to whatever standard... So, unbeknownst to me the wife was planning on continuing our original plans of going to the aquarium this morning before continuing our drive back home.

When I found out she was planning on still going (we had stopped to grab some breakfast) I first tried privately texting her "You're not seriously considering taking him to the aquarium today right?" -- to which she said - Yep. Because he's not technically running a fever he's in-theory not contagious anymore.

So once we got in the car she set the GPS for the aquarium, so I got loud and made it clear that I STRONGLY opposed doing this -- and she was still being resistant and wanted to do the aquarium anyways, and "I could just stay in the car"...

So I went full lecture mode, talking about how it's extremely selfish, inconsiderate, and just plain wrong to take a knowingly-sick kid into a public place like that -- especially a 5 year old who touches everything.

Eventually she relented (literally as we pulled up to said aquariums parking lot)... ... And now I am sitting in the car with two pissed off/disappointed kids and a fuming wife, because now I'M the bad guy that ruined our plans... and we still have 4 hours of driving left to go.... ... Oh Joy