I live on the East Coast but travel to SF very regularly for work. I'd love to find someone local to spend time with when I'm in town. Trying new restaurants, exploring interesting places, checking out events, or just enjoying an evening together.

A little about me: I'm in my early 40s, tall, with a lean, athletic build. I enjoy travelling, reading, creative hobbies, and a whole host of nerdy/geeky things. I tend to have a wide range of interests and enjoy learning about new things.

Ideally, we'd get to know each other and develop a genuine friendship, and maybe something more if we hit it off. I'd also love to keep in touch and chat between trips, rather than only talking when I'm in SF.

Mostly just looking for someone I click with, so we both enjoy spending time together and look forward to hanging out whenever I'm in town.

If you're open to chatting and seeing if there's a mutual connection, send me a chat!

I really should be asleep since I have work tomorrow but can seem to turn off my brain. I’m browsing Reddit and going down all kinds of Reddit rabbit holes. What am I looking for here? I guess someone else who is looking for company who can’t sleep either.
Let’s chat about anything or nothing… what bizarre or interesting Reddit posts have caught your eye tonight?

DM me and tell me your guilty pleasure subreddit. :)

Hi r4r. I'm 26, from Mumbai, living in San Francisco.

About me

• Software engineer at an early-stage startup. Math degree, CS master's.
• Introvert. I'd rather have one long conversation than a loud night out.
• I sing. Eight years of Hindustani classical, and I lose my voice at metalcore shows. Bring Me The Horizon is my number one band.
• Black holes, number theory, anime (Steins;Gate forever), Pokemon, philosophy.
• Blunt and honest. I can't lie to people.
• Dark sense of humor.

Looking for

• Someone curious who can argue about ideas and stay kind about it
• Emotionally intelligent, listens as much as she talks
• Comfortable with heavy and dark topics
• Long-term

I'm also open to someone to go to a metalcore show with, so if that's your thing, say hi.

So we don't waste each other's time: I don't want kids and I'm not religious.

DM me what you're into. What's one thing you'd happily argue about?

I’m married but currently in an emotionally draining relationship. I want to be upfront about my situation from the beginning so there are no surprises or misunderstandings.

What I’m looking for
I’m hoping to meet an Asian woman between 24 and 45 for a discreet, in-person connection with genuine chemistry.

I’m not looking for just a random encounter. I’d love to meet someone I can have interesting conversations with, laugh with, flirt with, and genuinely enjoy spending time with.

Physical attraction matters, but so does feeling comfortable around each other. I appreciate someone who’s affectionate, easy to talk to, and enjoys a little playful banter.

A little about me
I’m 30, Indian, 5’7”, 170 lbs, with a fit, medium build, brown eyes, and black hair. I like to stay well-groomed and take care of my appearance.

Personality-wise, I’m easygoing, understanding, and respectful. I value personal space and boundaries, and I believe that any connection should develop naturally rather than feel forced.

What you can expect from me
I’m not someone who puts pressure on others or comes with a long list of demands. I respect your time, privacy, comfort, and boundaries, and I appreciate the same in return.

Discretion, good hygiene, honest communication, and mutual respect are important to me. No pressure, no unnecessary expectations, and no obligations beyond what we both feel comfortable with.

Ultimately, I’d like something where we can relax, be ourselves, enjoy each other’s company, and see where things naturally go.

If this sounds like something you’d enjoy, feel free to send me a DM. Happy to exchange pictures once we’re comfortable.

You “order” an uber, I pick you up, drive to a quiet place instead. Overpower you, force you in the back of my van. Strip you naked, tie you up, explore your sexy body and use you.

All limits respected. Meet in a public place beforehand if you want to.

Experienced tall athletic hung Dom.

I enjoy to take control, make you feel helpless, exposed, vulnerable, over power you, use you.

50, 6’5”, 200#, 8 inches.

Good with beginners, Start as slowly as you need, go as far as you want. Nice collection of toys and gear.

Clean, drug and disease free.

Hello! 32 year old from San Francisco (close to Daly City) looking for a muff dive. I’d ideally like a consistent partner I can eat out once or twice a week, but open to this being a one-time thing, depending on the vibes. There is zero expectation of reciprocation, and no pressure for anything beyond me eating you out.

I’m white, 5’8, 160 lbs, and ddf. I have my own place and can host, but open to talking at the lobby downstairs before you come up to my apartment if it makes you more comfortable! Scented candles and mood-setting lights will be included.

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34 Asian, 5'9", around 180, in the Bay Area.

Getting back out there after a long-term relationship and figured Reddit might be a fun place to meet someone I normally wouldn’t run into.

I’m pretty laid back, independent, a little sarcastic, and usually down for good food, random weekend trips, movies, travel, or just wandering around somewhere with no real plan.

I’m not trying to force anything. Dating, something casual, a fall cuddle buddy, or just seeing where the chemistry goes all sounds fine to me.

I’m pretty straightforward and definitely more dominant once there’s a vibe, but otherwise I’m easygoing and don’t take myself too seriously.

Would be nice to find someone I can actually look forward to hearing from, grab food or coffee with, maybe steal a hoodie from, and see where things go from there.

If you message me, tell me something random about yourself where you’d go for a spontaneous weekend, your current food obsession, or something you’ve been way too into lately.

I am a 37-year-old man, 6'1", 265 lbs, with a broad, burly build, hazel eyes, and tattoos. High energy, good stamina, and attentive to my partner.

I am in San Francisco for a conference through Friday, staying at a hotel near Fisherman's Wharf with full hosting capability. Looking for an attractive, sex-positive woman who wants to meet up for drinks and casual fun with no strings attached.

Clean, DDF, and generous in bed. Happy to grab a drink downstairs first to see if the chemistry is there, or head straight upstairs if the vibe clicks. Send a DM with a quick intro if you are interested.

I’ve felt really pent up and horny recently and I think it’d be fun to try a RAOBJ type meetup.

Description of me: 25 M, white, 5’10 170 lbs, muscular/stocky build, curly brown hair, conventionally attractive. I can verify with pics as well.

Hi Ladies, thanks for stopping by!

I’m 42, white, fit, blue-eyed, well-groomed, and according to reliable sources...engaging, funny, and reasonably handsome.  I live in Foster City, work in San Francisco. I enjoy cycling, playing pickleball, building stuff, and hunting down the best local tacos and dumplings. I’m attached (in a DB situation), so I’m discreetly looking for a FWB to bring warmth, passion, and genuine fun back into life.

You’re cute, fit/petite, value discretion, and are missing those same "warm-fuzzy" feelings. I'm all about great banter, natural affection, and zero drama...starting as friends and letting things flow naturally.

I’m always happy to handle the planning, whether that’s going on a fun adventure or a cozy afternoon together. Drop a quick note with a bit about yourself! Let’s swap photos, chat briefly, and if the chemistry is there, skip the endless texting and meet up over your favorite drink.~

Hi there, thought I'd try this out instead of the dating app treadmill. I'm 28, athletic, and attractive. I recently moved back to SF and I'm looking for a FWB I can connect with both in and out of bed. I have my own place and am sane (lol)

In bed I'm on the dominant side and pretty kinky. Giving head is my absolute favorite. I also have a big breeding kink so it'd be awesome if you did too; I test regularly.

Outside of bed, I love to be outdoors, whether it's backpacking, picnics at Dolores, or stargazing at the beach. I also love to cook and bake for all my friends so perhaps you can be my sous chef, expect your tastebuds to be spoiled :)

If any of this interests you, shoot me a message!

["moronic inferno" = San Francisco, America, the world]

Verbal but introverted; mildly eccentric and weird; determinedly uncool and got no game.

Looking for friends first; anything romantic needs to evolve out of that. (When it comes to romance, I'm only interested in monogamous relationships with women.)

I have lived in San Francisco for 14 years and I've had deep families ties to this place all my life. I have very mixed and complicated feelings about it, incidentally.

Hoping to find locals (preferably people who also live in the city) for talks and walks.

I like to talk about myself but I also like to talk about not-self, and I hope the same is true of you too. Here's a nonexhaustive sampling of my not-self interests at this time: true crime, forensic psychology, literary and genre fiction (including crime and horror fiction and some fantasy and sci-fi), poetry, movies (including horror) and actors (screen performance), sociocultural analysis, political philosophy and the history of ideas (including theological ideas), etc.

If you want to strike up a conversation, please introduce yourself and make sure to include some info on your interests. Thank you.

35 male from South Bay Area , Seperated looking to start dating again. Have kids, but not full time. Looking for a normal mature woman for a little physical and emotional connection.

I’m educated and work in a field with majority males ( don’t worry, not a tech bro) so I don’t interface women often. I’m 5’8, full head of hair and told that I’m handsome often. Short black hair with slight scruffy beard. White mixed, olive skin. I’m weight and height proportional, muscular but not a total gym rat. Don’t have a body type but do require weight and height proportionate, slightly chubby is fine. I am a sucker for super pretty faces. Any height is fine including taller.

I’m a nerdy gear head that loves machines as well as food and coffee. I’m a man’s man but very emotionally intelligent. I also love to be in the kitchen, whether it’s cooking or making lattes, I love coffee and matcha. 

Hoping to take it slow and swap pics, and if there’s a connection, meet for coffee. 

Use me as you wish, at your service. Love to please a sexy women or couple. Get you wet, excited, to orgasm.

Clean, respectful, drug and disease free.

48, 6’5”, 200#, 8 inches, BWC
advanced degree, from Europe , well travelled.

Hi there, I’m a single Dad who works from home as a lead engineer in the video game industry. I have my kids 50% of the time.

I would love to find someone to go on dates with. I’m open to romantic love should it present itself to me. I also have a lot of physical affection to give and I have my own place that’s empty half the time, it’s a shame it is so underutilized!

Physically I am 6’1”, 190lbs, I workout and run regularly. I have LONG Jesus type wavy blonde hair and still have all of it. I have blue eyes and I wear glasses and I usually have a clean shaven face. Imagine a cute nerd crossed with a surfer.

Personality wise, I am quietly confident, intelligent, stalwart, laid back, introverted and a little bit neurospicy. I also tend to operate like a clock, a clock that likes to have fun!

Sensual and sexual touch are super important to me. I have a great capacity to give and receive sensual pleasure. I am not a casual sex person. Revelatory, lusty and loving explorations of a partner who is present as themselves and wants both of us to feel good. I am not kinky. I have had a vasectomy.

For fun I like to go dancing (industrial/goth or EDM), go to concerts, I love going to Niners games, I also like to hike, bike, camp, and take road trips. Around the house I enjoy video or board games or an occasional movie.

I use alcohol and weed in moderation and would appreciate if you are open minded about that. I am open to conscious use of other substances as well (combine with dancing???).

I like women who are smart, sweet and sensual. Physically I really enjoy size difference. I enjoy feeling large compared to my partner. Some people react weird to this preference. It’s not about any weird youth fantasy, it’s about feeling masculine and big, I enjoy that a lot.

Thank you for reading this far, I hope to hear from you!

I’m from the North Bay, heading into San Francisco on Saturday, October 31st, to celebrate my birthday weekend with some friends.

I’m looking to meet a fun woman who’d be up for grabbing a few drinks, checking out the Halloween celebrations, and maybe hitting a club for some dancing. I’ll be out with a group, so I thought it could be fun to meet someone at a bar or club, strike up a conversation, and see if we hit it off.
I’m easygoing, enjoy a good night out, and appreciate a woman who can flirt, laugh, and go with the flow. Ideally, there’s some chemistry and mutual attraction, and if we’re both feeling it, I’m definitely open to seeing where the night takes us.

I haven’t settled on a costume yet, so bonus points if you have suggestions or want to coordinate something fun!

If this sounds like your kind of Halloween, send me a message! Tell me a little about yourself, what your Halloween plans look like, and what costume you’re thinking about wearing.

Let’s make it a fun Halloween night.

I am single, never been married, have no kids, and bring no extra baggage. I am looking for something long term.

White, 6’1” tall, big mountain man beard, and a dad bod I’m working on making a beach bod. I go to the gym regularly and while not on a diet, I do try to eat healthy.

I have a good career, but physically challenging blue collar work. I still love what I do. Might come home feeling beaten and bruised, but I’m good at what I do. I am considering finishing my degree and transitioning out of the field and to the office. More stable work, far easier in the body.

Big softie for animals. Pet owner my whole life. Absolutely spoil them and go extra.

I’m all for light hiking, parks and trails. I like camping, but heavy mountain treks are not my thing. Much prefer to stay by the fire. But just as happy to stay in and watch a movie in pajamas.

Not much of a reader anymore these days, but recently got my library card to get back into the habit of reading before bed. Project Hail Mary, and dungeon crawler Carl are next

I tend to be quieter. But I’m a great listener. I cook, I clean, I do laundry. I smoke weed and do enjoy the occasional drink.

I lean far left. Do not support ice. Do not support Israel. Do not support maga.

So many ways to begin ...but for me it begins with admiration...the sight of her most beautiful and glistening center of our mutual gratification. Every sense involved as I lower my head slowly, feel the first electric touch my lips to her skin, and enter inside with my tongue, soon sweeping over the lips with my lips, tonguing labia and clitoris first slowly, and soon more intensely, to bring about the shudders and quivers and moans and quakes of release, joy, and ultimate togetherness.

My tongue going to its work, flicking and rounding, flattening full tongue licks and lip surrounding clit gentle sucking, tickle tracing and tingle penetrations, location jumps from the top to the bottom, or lingering moments in a favorite place as time freezes for both of us. Lip sucking and gentle teeth grazing, rapid runs and side to side wiggles ...fingers involved and not ...juices leaking on me and the sheets ...butt squeezing and thigh massaging...anus stroking and encircling and tongue elongating to plunge as deeply as it can to twirl her walls and deepen our intimacy beyond expectations.

I am in it, around it, on top and underneath my lovers vagina with my mouth and tongue, introducing my fingers, thumb, and palm ...my grip and massage ...my control and release of control ...my complete and total devotion to oral pleasure in everything I've learned in experience with others, and everything I am learning moment to moment of her special needs..

Interested???

I am a fit, mature, intelligent and very sexy guy in my 40s who has had his run with neglect and dead bedroom situations and knows what it’s like. I’m white, I’m an athlete and work an intellectual job and I’m a sane, safe, normal person. 100% ddf healthy and very recently tested. I look good, my body is very well trained and I’m a conventionally attractive.

I’m looking for those who are also in the camp of having unmet needs and want to meet someone who can take care of them and everything else and be spoiled and have some amazing experiences to break the dry spell and maybe develop something regular.

I’m not terribly picky about looks but of course attraction matters. I don’t care much for age or race but I favor women in the normal-smaller sizes. I think alignment, personality, communication and reliability go a long way!

Hi! I am an experienced bull looking for new/experienced couples along with single females. I travel to the bay area pretty regularly and can host or come over during my trips.

About me : I am 32, 5’9, DDF, dom, straight and enjoy kayaking, watching sports, finding treasures at Costco and traveling in my free time.

Looking for chill humans who value mutual respect, consent and discretion. I have a couple of posts on my profile with some of my recent experiences with other hotwifes and single women. Bonus points if you are Asian!

PS: not interested in men looking to sext about their wives

I know that title might be a bit blunt but hey sometimes it’s good to be a little blunt. Maybe you’re busy, stressed, or whatever the reason is and just want to sneak away for a bit for a release. I’d like to provide that release for you. I’m not looking for any kind of reciprocation and I’m ideally looking for someone ongoing and local to San Jose that I could meet a couple times a week or whenever you need it. Bonus points if you’re fit and want to sit on my face. Curious at all? I promise I don’t bite

I’m 39, 6’ tall, 190 lbs, fit and workout regularly. Semi nsfw pic on my profile. I’m located in San Jose and have a nice apt. Std free and vaccinated. I’ve got a college degree and personality wise I’m really easy going and easy to talk too. I like to cook and go hiking on the weekends and travel whenever I can. I also really love music and watching Bay Area sports.