Before everyone immediately yells "run for the hills, serial killer", please hear me out. He has been nothing but kind, funny, and respectful. We’ve been out three times and the chemistry felt totally effortless.

Last night we were at his apartment picking a movie on his laptop. He opened his browser and for three seconds while clicking between tabs, his Notion workspace was right there on full screen.

There was a dedicated database page titled with my first and last name.

I swear I wasn’t snooping, it was just right in front of my face in bold text. Underneath my name were actual subheadings: "Key Interests", "Dietary Restrictions", and then a section called "Potential Friction Points" where he had typed: "talks fast when nervous, doesn’t seem to like hiking, monitor communication cadence between dates."

He clicked away quickly and didn't realize I saw it, but my stomach dropped through the floorboards. On one hand, I guess it’s kind of sweet that he wants to remember details about me? On teh other hand, I felt like a quarterly business review or a specimen under a microscope.

Am I crazy for finding this deeply unsettling, or is this just how people with ADHD or tech jobs date now? I genuinely don't know how to act on date four knowing I’m being graded.

So my birth name is Jai-Lynne Marie (lastname) and I have never liked it and it causes issues with paperwork all the time so I want to change my name when I get married in a few years my new Last name will be 3 syllables, start with an N and end with a k, let's just say Nikoleck as a stand in. I kinda want to keep the J initial and I do love a capital L in cursive. I'm open to any ideas and the initials don't have to be the same. I wouldn't use the first initial A though, to keep distinct initials from my fiance.

Edit: there are lots of J names in my family already so I'm not using anything with Jess, Jen, or Julie. I am open to other initials though. I'm just not dead set on anything, hence why I was getting some opinions

I'm a lesbian about to marry the love of my life next year and neither one of us wants to keep our current last names. So we've decided to choose one together, but neither of us really knows where to start. I have significant religious trauma (and homophobic parents), so when I came across the name St. James, it felt delightfully irreverent. My fiancé isn't totally in love with it, however, and worries that the abbreviation will be a hassle on legal things. What are your thoughts on that? And if you have any suggestions, please send them my way. Something with sapphic or femmenist significance might be fun, so go crazy. She's a big Wonder Woman fan if that helps. My first name is Stephanie and hers is Michelle, which I'm including here because I think it's important for understanding how the surnames might flow.

ETA: We're also crazy outdoor adventurers if that stirs up any new ideas.

What’s the most beautiful Arabic or Hebrew girl’s name you’ve ever heard that would also fit naturally in your country or culture?

I’m looking for something feminine, elegant, and international a name that wouldn’t feel too unusual where you live.

I’d love to hear your favorites! **And please mention which country you’re from. 😊❤**️

i saw another post about this name looking like “gasoline“ and I agree completely. it baffles me how people say “I think Donald was always an ugly name even before Trump“ but now people are like “This is such a beautiful name, but it’s ruined”

How is Donald even a LITTLE worse than this...

Ghislaine.

how do you even pronounce it, anyway.

(For those who dont know a hot take is an opinion not many will agree with.)

I feel like whoever had the child should get the ultimate say in what the baby is called. No im not saying the father cant also have baby name ideas, just the person giving birth should have the ultimate say.

Hi all! I’d love help changing my name. My name is a normal, ordinary, regularly used name. However I’m just ready to start over with a new name. (Long story but I want a new beginning) I thought of a list of names that people have recommended I could pull off and narrowed it down! Curious on your thoughts on these names! Baylor is my favorite and the one that everyone says they choose for me so just curious what you guys think? I like unisex names if you couldn’t tell but my regular name isn’t a unisex name. It’s very girly and normal. I am a girl and identify as a girl in case that’s needed.

If you have others outside of this open as well but would love thoughts on this list!

I’ll see if it will let me post pics of me in the comments

-#1. Baylor
Peyton
Hunter
Cohen
Whitley
Hollis
Holland
Lowen
Grayson
Bailey
Bryer
Spencer
Hayes
Holden
Lennon
Lennox
Taylor
Alex
Preston
Sutton
Chase
Logan

My name is Lady (sometimes spelled Leidi), and I'm trying to decide on a username and here are my options:

1. @ leidibug
2. @ dear.lovebug
3. @ dear.leidibug
4. @ love.leidibug
5. @ dontbugthelady
6. @ hey.leidibug

If you had to pick just ONE, which would it be?

Looking for your thoughts on the name “Domenico” / “Dominico”…both positive & negative!

What does it make you think of? Do you picture anything in particular? ((Vibes))

Does it inspire any assumptions about the parents? 

Thank you for your help! 

So I realised my 2 year old sons initials spell COW. It’s been bothering me lately, but not sure it’s worth the hassle of changing or adding another middle name. Are COW bad initials? Funny thing is we own cattle lol

My boyfriend and I aren't even engaged yet, so this is pretty preemptive, but it'd rather think on a decision for a while before I have to actually make it. (We've talked about engagement extensively, so I know it is coming in the somewhat near future).

So let's say my name is Jane Mary Doe, and my boyfriend's is John Smith (His last name actually is Smith, which is part of the reason I'm so set on keeping my birth last name as part of the equation)

I'm thinking I could start using my first and middle name as a two part first name, and make my maiden name my middle name.

So it would become
First: Jane Mary
Middle: Doe
Last: Smith

I've been using "Jane Mary" informally for a long time, and things like my Facebook and license have my full name opposed to just my middle initial. I also have been using "Mary" as my name for pickup orders and such because it's easier to pronounce and I get a lot less spelling errors (usually) than my first name. (First name isn't super unique, there's just a lot of individual possible variations).

One thing to note is even though me and him both have very short last names, my current first and middle combined is 13 letters.

I have thought about making my middle name "Mary Doe" but then I would become "Jane Smith" and that is way too common for me. I feel like I would be losing my identity at that point. Regardless of my slightly unique first name, I've checked and there are multiple other people with the same first/last name combination.

What are people's experiences with having a two part first name? Is there anything I would have to be aware of before making this change, legally? (I am in America) I appreciate all input and thoughts! This is still very much me testing the waters, but it's my favorite name change combination I've found so far!

Looking for feedback on my current boy name shortlist, as well as suggestions for other names that might fit our style! 😊
The siblings, in age order, are Felicity, Augustus, Gideon, Phoenix, and Elodie.
We try not to repeat first initials between our children (middle initials can repeat), and all of our children’s middle names are more familiar, established names.
Ideally, I like boy names that fall somewhere around the 300–600 range in US popularity. I prefer names that feel established, a little old-fashioned, and recognizable without being overly common or trendy. I also try to avoid names that are rapidly rising in popularity, although I made an exception for Elodie because I loved it too much to pass up, even knowing the Ellie-name trend was gaining momentum.
I love names that feel distinctive without sounding invented or like we’re trying too hard to be unique. My current favorites are a little more unusual than my other children’s names, so I’m looking for an outside perspective on whether they’re wearable as first names or might be a little too out there.
My top four contenders (the more unusual options):
Nazareth(is this too weird?)
Laszlo / Lazlo
Wilder
Calloway / Callahan
Calloway and Callahan are a little outside my usual naming style, but I’m considering them partly to honor a family member, Cali.
Some of the more familiar options I’m considering:
Jasper
Declan
Malachi
Sullivan
I’d love feedback or suggestions for names with a similar feel: established, sturdy, a little uncommon, and preferably with some history behind them. Ideally, I’d like to avoid anything too trendy or anything that feels like a made-up spelling.
We’re in the US, so US popularity and naming trends are what I’m interested in.
Thanks for reading! 😊

Question for both men and women: What girl’s name immediately makes you imagine an intelligent, elegant, confident, and successful woman?

I’m looking for something international, timeless, feminine but not overly delicate, and professional enough to suit a doctor, lawyer, CEO, or journalist.
For example, Nora sounds soft and feminine to me, but not too soft. It still feels mature and professional.

What names give you that impression?

Thnx! 🤍

I think it's a funny name. Not in a bad way either.

First names : Fiona, Katherine, Rhea, Victoria

Middle names : Colette, Olivia, or the other three first name options

Last name : Rhymes with Herald

Full List :

- Fiona Colette, Fiona Katherine, Fiona Olivia, Fiona Rhea, Fiona Victoria

- Katherine Colette, Katherine Fiona, Katherine Olivia, Katherine Rhea, Katherine Victoria

- Rhea Colette, Rhea Fiona, Rhea Katherine, Rhea Olivia, Rhea Victoria

- Victoria Colette*, Victoria Fiona, Victoria Katherine, Victoria Olivia, Victoria Rhea

(* "Victoria Colette" means "victory victory" so it's the only certain no-go)

If it's not too much of a hassle, I'd love to know which middle name you like the best out of each of the four first names, even if you aren't crazy about the first name, thank you so much!

Also note: We will be using the traditional pronunciation of Rhea which is RAY-uh. It's a very common way to pronounce it where I live, and it's a family name. We know some people will say it REE-uh too, but that's alright. Just when picking your favorite middle name for Rhea, please consider both pronunciations

I’m writing a fantasy book, and I am stumped on names. Think Lord of the Rings / GOT Aesthetic… parts of the book take place in royal castle, and other parts take place in the woods, rustic market places, cottages, magic ruins, etc.

I made myself laugh today.. I can’t name my main character Jared or Susan lol😂 so I came to this thread.

Any fantasy names come to mind? And when you think of that name.. what attribute do you think of?

Example: Atticus —> Strong, Bold, Solider, Handsome

Thank you so much!

Me and my partner (uk) are struggling with girls names and are due in the next few months - so far we have the following,

Olivia
Betsy
Faith
Thea
Liana
Liliana
Alma
Blossom
Phoebe

Surname is double barrelled so trying to keep first name short
Any recommendations would be appreciated 🙏

Thank you

Hello, I have loved the name Valentine/Valentin (val-en-teen) for a boy since I can remember. Tremors 1990 Kevin Bacon was named Valentine.
What are more names like this that I can use instead?

I’m not sure if we have a specific name style we like, but just something not in the top 100 would be nice. Our first son has a very uncommon vintage name and second son has a more common (top 200) surname ending in er. We like soft sounds in the name but still want it to be strong.

Names we like:

Benson (maybe too trendy with Benson Boone)

Russell (we like but it’s a neighbors name)

Jasper (maybe a little too popular for us)

Atticus (just not sticking)

Lewis (maybe too simple)

Arthur (too common)

Edsel (too out there and don’t like Ed nicknames)

Wells (doesn’t go with W last name)

Timothy (don’t like Timmy)

Tommy (don’t like the full Thomas)

Sheldon (too much big bang theory)

Nelson (just isn’t right)

Hello! Could you please tell me if the initials AJNL (L is the family name) sound okay? I’m asking because they would be the initials of my child’s name, and I want to make sure they don’t have any negative connotations. I know I’m probably overthinking it, but I just want to be sure.

Current list of name from my baby’s infant classroom. No tragedeighs!

Ashton
Weston
Vera
Rose
Spencer
Asad
Nora
Jacob

Just found out I’m having another boy and I’m worried my husband and I will never agree on a name!

for context, baby is half white/half Hispanic. My in-laws are Spanish speaking and struggle with pronouncing a lot of names (mostly super “American” sounding names if that makes sense). We need a name they can easily pronounce or make a cute nickname out of.

The only name we both like is Rio (river in spanish) but I don’t know if it’s too “out-there” and I don’t want people thinking I named my kid after a cartoon bird.

names I like but husband doesn’t: Tobias, Santiago, August.

help!

Pre-K class:

Seraphina

Ahmed

Luul

Mary Lou

Lovlie

Malachi

Amir

School-Age class:

King Nizire

Say

Lawrence

Patrick

Rickey

Kehlani

Mishka

I have a daughter named Rosalie and am having another baby girl. I want to know some names that match the essence of Rosalie - timeless, elegant, smart, maybe a little vintage, and have the options for nicknames.

I absolutely love the name Violet, but don’t want to have a floral or nature theme. Florence, Cordelia, and Valentine are three others that are on my list!!

Currently going through a divorce and heavily considering just picking a new last name after it is finalized. I don't plan to change my name again if I were to re-marry.

I took my (soon to be ex) husband's name when we got married, and I don't like it. It's a color (such as: brown, grey, black, etc)​ and makes my name 1 letter off a famous adult film star whom I also bear a small resemblance to. Coincidence, but still not something I am fond of.

My maiden name is a complicated German name that no one is ever able to pronounce, and I despise being associated with my dad. I have other family whom carry the surname so i have no reason to keep it. It will not die with me.

Thoughts on Moon?

Also open to suggestions for short surnames. 3 syllables or less. Uncommon without sounding made up is the goal. I also considered Sinclair for a moment but it didn't feel right.

Initials would end up being AGM.