After a few years of marriage my wife has zero interest in me and does nothing to work on our relationship.

We dont go anywhere as a couple unless I arrange, unless its a family day out. Even then its mostly/nearly all the time me arranging things.

Sex is very rare and normally before it starts I am told to hurry up Which has totally turned me off her. I dont want to be intimate with someone that is going through the motions. Not an inkling of physical interaction ever really. She gets dressed in another room behind a locked door. Our kids are teens and even on weekends when they are off on sleepovers, if we go for a pint and come back to an empty house I sometimes think maybe tonight will be the night! She goes straight upstairs and puts on massive PJS and a huge housecoat and basically thats the signal! Not a shred of interest in anything remotely romantic or intimate. Its soul destroying.

She keeps telling me she loves me but I am now starting to think she just loves the security provided for her by my salary. She makes the dinner and does the house stuff and I chip in with that at the weekend when I am not working. Most of the time she is in her little office doing her bit of work - she is self employed but she only makes about 10k per year. Enough to keep her going but I pay the mortgage and all of the bills and I pay to keep two cars running for us. When she is not in her office or doing house stuff she just doom scrolls. I slept in the spare room last night - I got up early to go to work. She came down the stairs as I was getting ready to leave and went and made tea then sat down and started doom scrolling. 7am. Barely said bye to me!

Is this normal for early 40s women? I am similar age and I am quite fit, have all of my own teeth etc - watch what I eat etc.

Is this the end?

I've just handed in my notice this morning. I've been at this job for 7.5 years and whilst there has been some downsides, I overall have loved this job and I have a great relationship with my Employer and everyone that works here. I am literally bawling my eyes out now because I feel so many emotions.

I am scared of regretting moving on, I am scared that the people wont be nice where I am going to. I am scared I'll miss my coworkers.

The move makes complete sense as regards career progression and increase in salary. It is also a massive difference in commute time.

Not sure why I am even posting this. Just want to let my emotions out and for someone to tell me things will be fine!

I'm curious about peoples go-to 'hacks' or clever tricks for day to day stuff! Ive a few cool ones that save time and stress and would love to have some more up my sleeve!

The two great ones that work every time for me are:

Unblocking nose: Pinching nose, and while holding bend head down towards ground and then up towards ceiling, and repeat for and 10/20 seconds at a steady pace. Always opens my stuffy nose!

Cooling a warm can quickly: If you have some ice and cheap table salt handy, fill a pot with enough water to immerse the can, and chuck in an generous handfull of ice cubes and few tablespoons of salt, and stir rapidly. The salt forces ice to melt rapidly which requires a thermal exchange and it pulls heat from the can to do so. Takes about 2 minutes

I’m from Asia and moved to the Ireland for what I hoped would be a better quality of life. So far, quality of life is soooo much better apart from weather.

So I find it strange when I see Western men talking about booking a one-way ticket to Asia and staying there indefinitely almost as though it’s some kind of paradise.

I understand the appeal of sunshine, a lower cost of living and a different pace of life. But sometimes it feels like dating work and getting attention or validation is a big part of the appeal too. I wonder whether some men imagine they’ll have more success with women there than they do at home and that makes me uncomfortable.

I can understand a young person wanting to travel and experience something different. But when it’s an older man who seems particularly excited about going to Asia to meet women, especially much younger women, I find it more alarming. I wonder what he’s looking for and whether he sees those women as individuals or has a fantasy about them.

Obviously, people move for all sorts of reasons and there’s nothing wrong with moving to Asia or dating someone there. But I can’t help wondering how realistic or sustainable some of these plans are, especially when it comes to work, visas, healthcare and building an actual life.

Said something very stupid today, need to feel better 😢

My MIL is very much the stereotypical Irish mammy to four sons. We get on well. However, she does things quite a lot that I find a bit rude.

I’m not Irish, and have no other family here, so I very much consider my husbands family my family too.

At a dinner out with my MIL, my husband and his three brothers, she turns to everyone and says, "wow, it’s just so nice being here with my sons".

Me: the only other one at the table 💀

She does this kind of stuff all the time. I guess it hits harder because my parents treat my husband the exact same as their own kids. For example, my parents always get him a nice birthday gift even though they are overseas, and yet I never get one from mine that are here. That’s just one more small example.

Am I being too sensitive?

Why do we all accept this in ireland, €6.15 per item for anything arriving from 1 November. That's the €3 customs duty plus the €2 handling charge, with 23% VAT on top.

There are some other rules Ireland does not follow under EU law but we do these two! Why don't we protest like the farmers did on fuel.

Enough is enough, we have expensive fuel, houses, rent, food and now just top this on for the Christmas shopping. What is wrong with our government!

How can we organize a protest?

Sometimes after work if im going for a nap ill take a quick 5min shower then shower later that night.

When parents brought the dog for a walk at 6pm in Dublin. Ring literally staring him in the face.

Got a bag of tools on him too, perhaps.

https://ring.com/share/236eb3f7-8e54-41cd-8f90-fb9690705c7d

Wel for me what makes my life easier is, hanging my keys up in the same place when I'm home, packing the car the night before for work so I just have to get in and drive off. Having my work clothes ready the night before. I know I have more just can't think at the minute. You ?

Long story short. It snapped during sex. Is this something you’d see your own GP about or a sexual health clinic? Slightly panicking here.

I am a 25f (short, curvy, red hair) and have never been in a serious relationship. I’ve had short term relationships where I have been the dumpee and not the dumper, constantly being told ‘you’re funny, kind, beautiful but…’ and I am honestly wondering what’s the point anymore. Or I get hounded by men who pursue me and then when things start getting a little serious it’s ’I’m not ready for a relationship’. I’ve put myself out there, even joined a yoga club during the summer to see if that would help in anyway. I don’t get approached often on nights out (which are rare because what do you mean it’s €10 for a drink?!) I work for myself (started up my own at home business this year), I go to the gym 3 times a week, I look after my health and I’ve done a lot of work on sorting myself out with insecurities and mental health.

All I seem to be attracting is men looking for casual things, and once I shut it down because it’s not what I’m into I’m being told I’m ‘too much’. A lot of my friends are in relationships and have been for years, Christ I even have married friends! It’s made me look at my own life and wonder what in the name of all that’s holy is wrong with me.

Is anyone else feeling like this or has anyone felt like this?

As title says, curious to see others perspectives, I’m not big on the mad flavours they have nowadays but I love a good rip of menthol, as someone that used to smoke 20/30 fags a day moving to the vape has helped me get off them but now i’m wondering what will happen when this comes into law and what everyone’s thoughts are on this :)

As the title says What items do you bulk buy and where? Share yours to help people save money.

I know theres a lot of negativity around halloween with people getting up to all sorts of trouble but we actually have some lovely/hilarious memories in my family/friends group of halloween

So please share some nice memories of irish halloween 🎃

Hello!! I’m always interested how people make a living from unusual careers or jobs that wouldn’t be the norm😊It’s interesting that people can make a living from being creative or finding a niche to make income!

Do you or anyone you know make a living in something that isn’t the norm? Or have you a business in something that is different from average job?

20 year old male. I told myself i would never give into dating apps but i dont seem to have any luck elsewhere. If i go to nightclubs or pubs ill meet someone instantly but it never goes further past the night. Dont have time to be joining random clubs to meet someone. And i never want to be the guy trying to pursue a woman when she is innocently going about her day either. Is there a trick to master here😂 Looks or personality doesnt seem to be my problem, its more getting a chance to meet someone new.

Recently moved into a new build estate after living abroad for close to a decade. There's a good few families with small kids around. Don't have kids ourselves and haven't been kids for over quarter of a century so would like to know what's expected nowadays?

Fully appreciate this is entirely optional but see it as a good chance to meet the neighbours etc.

Can we just open the door from 6-8 or similar? Do we need to decorate? Do you distribute something to each kid or let them pick 1-2 bits from a bowl? How much stuff should we buy in?

We got some mini bags of Maltesers, Squashies, Swizzels in but looking at it now it's hard to gauge how long it will last (4-5 variety bags). Any advice welcome!

My daughter was born on the 27th and I didn't get a chance to save any papers from the day and none of my family has any left from that date

Hi lads, rescued a puppy over the summer and the fact she’s from a drug den is adding up, she’s a crack head. We’ve fine hikes around us and I guess I kind of dropped off on them once my other dogs started getting too old for long walks but now I’ve a fresh spring chicken. I’m looking for a decent rain jacket in particular that’s not roasting and that I can layer underneath. Also pockets are very important, we’ve lots of training to do and that means tons of treats! I’ll pick up a nice pair of walking boots local rather than from a large retailer but I still need an actual Ireland friendly rain jacket.

Hello all, I live in new build. Can you share tips about winter usage of heat pump? What's the temperature to set? How do you reduce your energy consumption?

Hi everyone,

I’m trying to become a Business Analyst, no prior experience in that industry, no college degree just ambition. Yes it might be saturated and competitive to get into and the job market is tough but I’m still going to go for it.

My first move is to learn Excel/SQL.

Does anyone know any good courses I could do ? I checked E college but heard mixed reviews on it so thought I’d ask here

Thanks !

I wouldn't dare to climb a tree now, I feel like the branch would break instantly

I've been with laya for years, never an issue. Just looked into level health and their prices etc are very good. But the cover in some private hospitals and for scans looks a bit light. I think a lot of it is pay and claim rather than layas direct payment service. Can Anyone share experiences with claiming back from level health and their experience in general.

There is a park in our community with drug dealing activity.

Dealers causing issues from driving motorbikes on one wheel past babies, making parents feel unsafe to use the park playground, users are now going to the park to buy. It's a disaster.

The community is ringing the local Garda station regularly.

We're not seeing any action by the gardai in response to these calls. It's a 2 minute drive from the station.

Is there any way to check these reports are being logged rather that somebody in the station just saying whatever gets the person off the phone?