r/rape • u/Emotional-Peanut8699 • 1d ago
i feel guilty
Hi, im 18 now but when i was 14 i was raped by my older sisters ex boyfriend (had broken up before this). he was in my tutor group at school and it happened next to my school in the woods (relevant)
we were in the middle of a conversation and i walked through those woods to get my bus every day so he walked with me and i didn’t think anything of it then did that. when i came forward a good amount of people said they saw me walking into the woods with him so clearly i knew what was going to happen, wanted it, then regretted it (which is very much not what happened).
after it happened, i had to take a week of school because i couldn’t talk properly, and by then hes told everyone i came onto him.
i got made to think i was absolutely crazy by everyone, got slutshamed and bullied over it, and that’s why i never reported to the police.
a couple of weeks ago he got arrested and has been put in jail for 4 years for the same thing to other underage girls.
if i had reported him they would never have been hurt and ive been feeling so fucking guilty every day for it. i’ve talked to my bf about it but he doesn’t really get it. i keep wishing id have done something and i cant help but blame myself
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u/Beautiful6-Concert 1d ago
You actually did say something and the people you told fought you on it. There's no reason to feel guilty.
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u/TheWaspsRInside 11h ago
I'm so sorry you had to experience that. I've, thankfully, never had such an experience, so I can only empathise with you, but I hope you understand now that it is and never was your fault. No matter what those lunatics, who said you asked for it or believed that filthy man's lies, said, I truly hope you know that you are incredible and not deserving of that.
Obviously my words can reverse whatever happened, and I can only hope that over time, and in time, you've healed and not let it cloud your life. Have a good day darling, wishing you everything blissful and sweet 🍬♡
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u/gnagy9411_CNC 22h ago
What you remember about that? your memory deleted everything?
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u/Emotional-Peanut8699 20h ago
i remember all of it
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u/gnagy9411_CNC 20h ago
may you feel it is your failure because you were wet maybe even had an orgasm? lot of victim tell that this is huge part of the problem
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u/Tactical_Something 1d ago
I hope you know fighting in court is the hardest thing you can do when its his word vs your word. youll be put in a different position where they try to defame you and make you sound crazy or just horny and vindictive. you weren't in a position to protect others when you should have been the one protected
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