Please stop telling us to relax. It’s not helpful.

Also please stop saying “well maybe it isn’t meant to be, you need to prepare for that” like no crap it’s not a gurantee? Is anything in life a guarantee??

Would you tell a women who recently got pregnant, “You know you might have a miscarriage, they are really common in the first trimester, so prepare for that” NO because that’s cruel.

It amazes me how people think they have such original thoughts. You don’t think everytime my period comes I think if it will ever happen?

Stop offering your kids, “Oh you can have mine!” no I don’t want them.

And stop suggesting adoption or surrogacy.

And if it was easy for you to concieve AWESOME! But why are you telling me this as I just told you in struggling?

Where’s the empathy people.

SHUT THE FUCK UP SHUT THE FUCK UP SHUT THE FUCK UP

There's nothing wrong with using trendy terminology and expressions, but oh my god, stop with this type of shit. It's every fucking comment section, every goddamn website. SHUT THE FUCK UP. Just say something original, from your soul, your own mind! None of you grew up using these fucking terms. Be a genuine human being, stop putting on affectations and regurgitating stupid internet speak like a fucking seven year old robot child.

I don't know why it pisses me off so much. It just reads as pure inauthenticity and makes me feel like everyone else on the internet is a stupid teenager. I'm stupid too, but it's so isolating and just feels like everyone's repeating the same asinine shit day in and day out. Have some variety! Stop trying so hard to fit in. These expressions were funny for like a week. Please do something else.

this is the lowest stakes bitching of all time but why do cute guys just not exist in this country?? why must everyone take no care of themselves or be obsessed with being muscular to the point of it being gross?? like maybe i just wanna hang with a cute twinky guy who puts in a tiny amount of effort to look nice??? literally the worst place for finding cute guys to hang out with 💔💔💔

edit: i think people think i’m a woman. i’m a man. i like men. i want to hang out with a cute guy as a guy.

This is such a dumb and stupid thing but as an adult (26f) this Is also just very annoying to have to worry about.

When my best friend (28f) and I were getting closer, we on occasion would do “group orders” on online websites just so we could get to the free shipping threshold or for some stores “she” had a higher status so she would get better benefits and would ask me if I wanted to do a group order with her. A

In the beginning I used to because it was a little more convenient and sometimes an additional 10% off is nice. So I would do that and then obviously Venmo her for my portion. But then she started to let it slip that these accounts were her mom’s accounts. I started to realize that my best friend wasn’t paying for a single thing she was ordering because she was using her MOMS CREDIT CARD. Of course I pay for my stuff because it’s my stuff I’m ordering but for some reason it feels so off for my best friend to then take my money and pocket it for herself. I know she isn’t giving the money back to her mom. So my best friend is getting all free product while making extra money off of me.

When I realized this, I just stopped doing group orders with her. It really is as simple as that but now that I’ve stopped she’s been extra pushy and is constantly asking if I want to do an order with her. I haven’t told her I knew what she was doing but I think it’s so Intresting how my own best friend wants to “scam” me for my money lol.

Most ambiverts like myself consider themselves to be extroverts until they meet real extroverts and see how difficult it is to form any meaningful bonds with most of them. I used to say "Man, i wish i had an extroverted friend that would be up to do anything with me." But looking at some of my friends now, i realize that i DO have extroverted friends, its just that they cant hang out with me cuz their next 14 days are booked by other people.

I've had two friends like this, one of them i dont talk yo anymore and the other, well im kinda growing tired of the other one too. These two, despite having completely different lives, circles, locations and backgrounds act the exact same way.

You call them to talk about something, they cut the call short because they gotta do something and tell you they'll call you back which they never do. Why call and not text? Cuz they respond to their texts once every full moon. They will cancel plans as late as possible, have zero empathy and hurt you without realizing.

Another thing i picked up on is that extroverts, most of the time, have zero self awareness, cant read the room for shit and on the rare occasions that they do show up to meet you, they will ruin the hangout by bringing some other people unannounced. Sometimes they will literally meet new people on the go and try to include them in the conversation!

I dont know, maybe this is my personal experience, but to this day i've known only three true extroverts, two being my friends and the third being a mutual, and they all consistently share these characteristics, literally not one difference in the way they act.

Imagine your neighbor installs a bright light that shines directly into your bedroom at night. He tells you it's a ward against evil. When you complain that it's keeping you awake, he responds, "I don't have to justify my personal beliefs." You don't care what he privately believes. You care that you can't sleep.

Another neighbor was the first on the block to install one. His light only illuminates his own yard. "I'm just following what the brochure says," he explains. Your neighbor says the same thing, but they can't agree on what the instructions actually mean. Meanwhile, the second neighbor's light has never bothered you.

At what point are you entitled to question their beliefs? Are the beliefs still purely personal when their consequences affect you?

Now imagine your neighbor starts lobbying the HOA. Soon, everyone in the neighborhood is required to install these lights. The entire policy rests on his testimony about their evil-repelling properties and a sales brochure from 1991. When evidence emerges that the lights may actually cause headaches, the HOA refuses to reconsider.

The second neighbor asks if he can keep his light as he had it before so that it only illuminates his yard and doesn't disrupt the local insects too much.

No. The HOA president is friends with your neighbor, and most residents have already been convinced that the wide-angle lights are essential and find his interpretation of the brochure most sensible.

You point out that the lights don't seem to do anything.

"They provide a deeper kind of protection that can't be measured."

Then how can you prove they are working?

"You can't prove they aren't though."

If they ward off evil, why has the neighborhood had an uptick of break-ins and maulings?

"Perhaps their protection works by allowing bad things to happen for reasons we can't understand."

Could we at least demand better evidence before making these mandatory?

"Why are you discriminating against people who want to ward off evil? My wife's boyfriend has used these for decades, are you calling him a liar?"

Meanwhile, you still can't sleep. Your kids get headaches. You can't understand why your neighbors are so convinced, and you just want the light out of your window.

Bonus after-credits scene - The lights become so entrenched that better lighting technology is dismissed as incompatible with the neighborhood's sacred traditions. Research stalls and innovation is discouraged. The insect population, already on its knees, plummets further due to light pollution.  generations continue living under an inferior system because questioning it has become socially unacceptable. This is a caricature, but there are ripple effects.

Your neighbors are free to believe in spiritual protection and install whatever lights they want on their own property provided they respect others' rights.

When you try to impose rules on everyone else while treating the beliefs underlying those rules as exempt from scrutiny, that isn't going to work.

This should be obvious, but your right to believe in something without evidence is not everyone else's obligation to live by it.

My adult son has ADHD and autism. He can’t seem to shower, clean up after himself, or do anything without being told or reminded millions of times. He’s had many years of therapy and skills sessions. He’s had far more opportunities and education that I’ve had and constantly makes excuses on doing the bare minimum.

He moved out and stiffed his first roommate and was forced to pay an excessive cleaning bill on his second roommate. He moved back home after we had to tear apart his room with how disgusting it was left (kept that video). Nothing has changed. Always an excuse and it’s just quite frankly just selfish and entitlement at this point.

So I also have a myriad of neurodivergence that I had to learn to navigate on my own. I had to create my own coping techniques because no one else was going to diagnose me or give me support in the 80s and 90s. Hell, I didn’t even really have parental guidance because I was left to my own devices young and had to take care of myself and the long ass list of chores to have done everyday.

I’m just tired that all the coping techniques in the world and all I hear are excuses from people of “sorry I’m late, I have ADHD” or “sorry I can’t clean up after myself or wipe the 💩 and pee off toilet because I’m autistic” or “taking a shower is too hard so I don’t care if my stench bothers you”.

It’s just selfish and entitlement at this point. I’m ready to be the AH parent and say “I’m sorry, I no longer can parent you. I have my own crap to deal with and I don’t have time to keep parenting you at 22”.

(He has no developmental delays or actual impediments to being a functioning adult. He’s made his own LLCs, built his own businesses, taught himself many things and did very well in school. He just can’t be bothered to basic hygiene or clean up after himself or help around the house without being told. He will watch people struggle and he just does the dead eye stare)

I tried to go eat lunch at a park, but I have a tiny bladder and have to go to the restroom very frequently. I passed by three different parks that all looked very nice with lots of picnic tables and space, but not a single one had a restroom!

I'm not asking for much. It can be a shitty porta potty. But parks should have restrooms! So many kids go to the park. And guess what a 3 year old potty training needs? Fast access to a restroom! Kids often don't remember or recognize the cues until they're about to wet their pants. At bare minimum all popular places that kids visit should have a public restroom

I'm not gonna freak out at the city or anything. I'm just frustrated because I just assumed the parks would have a place to go to the bathroom and was very disappointed that I was wrong. I wish that this would change

With everything going on in this world I was hoping autumn would give me respite. I'm in Ohio and it is late October and it still is hot. I can't do anything outside because mosquitoes are still active and at this time I should be outside exploring and doing the things I want. October is my favorite month and I feel robbed of it. I want my cool moody days but all I get is bites and isolating myself indoors. I just want some relief and being able to enjoy myself.

me: I like the gym, arts, culture and history my settings is 35+ . why would you swipe on me if you don't like working out. I had girl say "I can tell you have great body, I'm big", my reply was "I like thicker girls just be healthy that's all I ask." her: "no lol, I'm fat I'm deffiently not healthy" 🤦 why would you even swipe on me if that's where your at in life.

I clearly have history stuff in my profile, "I don't really like learning" is going go real far with me.

Also made 100% clear not sports fan, I don't have a team.

what are you people hoping for with me? I love sex, from the get go ive said over and over, I'm grown man I want sex. but yet we act like we are part of the church purity club. we are in our 40s I'm not waiting 6 months, and I'm deffiently not waiting for marriage .

people just stay in your lane on the apps, please. don't make other feel like jerks because there them selves.

Today I feel is a chaos day. There's so much stuff happening and everything is confusing. Maybe it's just because I'm getting old but wow. I just feel like I'm stumbling through life and my joints are getting sore so it's hard to go too fast

I asked a family member for a minor favor, that would have helped me out a lot, but only a minor inconvenience for them, and they acted like they were too busy even though I know for a fact they weren’t. Today is one of the most important days of my life, I have something really huge and personal happening today, and this favor would have been extremely helpful. I’ve helped said person before when they needed me but when it comes to helping me on one of the most important days of my life, they don’t feel like it. I’m writing this on the train trying not to cry with tears stinging my eyes. Why is life so fucking hard?

Over the weekend I was on an overseas flight with a coworker. I travel quite often and have pretty much everything I need in a carry on. He told me he started to feel ill and felt cold.

We’ve traveled together before and he knows I keep a hooded sweatshirt in my carry on. He asked if he could borrow it. I said yes, but unless something serious happens please don’t wash it and definitely don’t put it in a dryer.

I wash it by hand with cold water and Woolite Dark detergent. Then I air dry by hanging it up and use a fan. Since it is usually worn over another shirt it rarely gets too dirty.

Well he just returned it to me. It is now a size smaller and the deep black color now has a white film to it.

I said, you washed it in hot water and dried it in a dryer didn’t you? He said yeah I wanted to give it back to you clean because I was sick. I’ve had it for years and it still looked new. I told him to keep it because it doesn’t fit anymore. He sorta stared at me confused and I insisted he keep it.

I left my office to go meet with someone who was waiting.

I’ve had this hoodie for over 10 years. People really piss me off.

Rant over. Thank you for hearing me out.

Stop asking people what they do for a living within 5 seconds of meeting them. Being unemployed for an extended period of time made me realize that this question comes up an insane amount of time. It’s also arguably insensitive because of the current state of the job market where I live. It’s exhausting having to explain yourself over and over again to random strangers. Allow people to disclose what they want about themselves and stop prying when you know that you’re not gonna be of any help to them in the end😬😬. Ask neutral questions and allow people to share as much or as little as they’re comfortable with. Having to switch topics is exhausting. And now I’m rude for straight up walking away from the conversation when the question comes up. This applies to many other questions too, ask yourself, is this too indiscrete to ask someone I just met 5 seconds ago?

I rent. The place comes with a large yard, and I want it to be green with life, so I buy the hoses and spray nozzles to do it.

Large yard, large hose. Hoses are expensive, and the nozzles wear out yearly and need to be replaced.

Why do they need to be replaced so often? Well...

Maintenance. Painters. Concrete guys. Guys being paid by the landlord to do who knows what. About eight years, completely different people, but in the end they're all the same: they just can't help themselves from throwing the nozzle straight down to the concrete when they're done using it, and CAN'T STOP LOSING THE FUCKING GASKETS.

This year has been particularly bad. Landlord is renovating units so tons of people have been coming through. I started the season with two new nozzles. I'm ending the season with two busted-ass nozzles that leak uncontrollably and look like they've been dragged behind a truck. When I was home I'd hear it; the solid 'clink!' of weighted metal smacking the concrete.

You can always tell it's been used, because the hose that was once a neat roll is either half-assed back or just left in a pile.

I gave up saying anything. These rude bastards don't want to be corrected; say anything, and they'll just drop it from even higher when you're out of sight. "Normal wear", riiiight. We can all enjoy the leaky nozzles together I guess.

But the gaskets. The FUCK-ING GASKETS. Why is it so FUCKING hard to keep track of the gaskets when they decide to link hoses or switch out the nozzle or whatever the fak. I can't even tell you how many times I've turned the water on to discover it gushing out at the connection and - surprise! No gasket. Poof, gone. Sorry sucker.

I have more gaskets, I could easily put in another one. But it's the end of the season. Tonight I unscrewed the last bedraggled nozzle and put it away. They still have work for the rest of the week, and it involves water.

But now, no nozzle for you, my guys. Hope you brought your own.

You’d think given that one has a curved C shaped snout and one has a narrow A shaped snout, the obvious choice would be to give the one with the C shaped snout the name crocodile BUT NO, THEY GAVE THE ONE WITH THE A SHAPED SNOUT THE NAME CROCODILE AND ITS JUST NOT OK

So i am 27 as I said in the title and I absolutely hate meeting people online. No offense to the people online it’s just I prefer things to happen organically.. having said that I am only at work and that is off limit. So what would you suggest?

And before anyone suggest going to cafés or bookstores, I’ve done those things, I went to work in a café and in a library once, but despite being “conventionally attractive” I’ve never been approached except for one time and it was weird because I’m pretty sure that guy stalked to me from the coffee place and then tried to gaslight me into thinking that I just bumped into him accidentally at this bookstore a few blocks away from the coffee place. And I know I could be paranoid. That’s what my sister told me, but I just felt iffy and I trust my guts and now i have diverted from the original post. Excuse me, I tend to do that sometimes.

Anyways, any help guys?

Js a short rant

Idk if this is because people comment on her that she does it to me but sometimes it's frustrating but talking about it doesn't help because I'm not smart enough that I don't have the right words to use

Sometimes she comments on my acne and why I'm so lazy and messy,why I'm upset and moody and everything must have a reason on why I am the way I am

Maybe that's how she cares but it's eating me alive and maybe this is the reason why I am indesicive but idk

Hi,

I had a best friend till 7th std, and she moved to another city in 2013. We talked initially and then we lost contact and I have been trying to find her since then. I am good with finding people on internet. Along the years I had contacted my old school, her father's workplace archives to find his number, any profile on insta or facebook with her name, old school records, toppers of different schools in her locality, everything, but couldn't find her.
In last desperate attempt I posted on insta, and got to know she hu*g herself after one year of leaving, and I can't thinking about it. She was so ambitious, the smartest person I knew. She made me who I am today, I am doing really well in career. You know the last gift she gave me while leaving was a study lamp so I could study during light outs, the prettiest gift I had, I was living in a village. She would call and remind me to bring books and I wanted to be as smart as her. Her cousin and friends said she was acting out, she had mental illness, she was just 13, she felt she was burden on her family. How could a 13 year old feel that. I don't know who to talk about this, because people seem to not care at all. I tried to talk to my classmates and they are like ohh okay. I am not able to process this somehow. I can't find anything about her anywhere. I always imagined I would meet her someday and she would be doing so well in her life by now. Out of all the possibilities I never thought she would not get to be an adult at all. I just feel so sorry, and somehow can't stop blaming myself if only we had continued talking maybe she had someone to talk to.. maybe she hadn't felt so lonely.

“lEaRn A tRaDe BrO!” I did. I went to trade school to become an electrician.

“u NeEd ExPeRiEnCe!” OK, then how can I get experience if every position requires experience?

”jOiN ThE uNiOn!” I tried, I am perpetually on the waitlist.

In 2026, there is no shortage of tradesmen. There are TONS of us trying to break in. There IS a shortage of intelligible tradesmen that are willing to pass their knowledge on to the next generation.

Ever since like march this year I've been feeling less myself. I don't enjoy playing games, talking to new people, or just doing anything in general. And then at the end of the day I feel upset that I didn't do anything. At the same time it feels like time is going faster and I am not experiencing it the way I should.

Last like 3 months I've been drinking lots and playing games and while it was fun in the moment, ultimately it gave me no solid friendships. With alcohol I can slightly enjoy games more but I was drinking so much to the point where I got at least tipsy almost every night. Obviously that's not a good thing so I stopped. I just feel numb now though and don't even want to touch my games.

My mum constantly belittles my father. Calls him worthless,tells him that he is disgusting, tells him that she never loved him and only married him because of his job. When I tell her he will feel hurt she says that he doesn't feel much.

My father on the other hand, keeps telling mum he loves her and treats her gently. He's emotionally unavailable and has never been very present , but he has never belittled her. Usually when they fight he keeps apologizing. Recently this has turned into him punching walls and other objects, while my mother usually ends up screaming in a very shrill way.

I think my mum is quite depressed, she has been showing most signs of depression. My father is very emotionally disconnected with himself, so it's difficult to tell what he's feeling.

Over time, I have stood up to my mother for behaving the way she does, and told my father to stand up for himself more. Usually this ends in both of them scolding me for not understanding that this is their way of "loving".

I don't think this is going to end well, and they seem to become worse as they age. I don't know what I should do, or if I can even do anything atp.