So, I have been living with my girlfriend for 5 years now.

I am 31, she is 38.

When I first started dating her, she had a big sex drive, one that matched mine! (I'm horny a fair amount 😂)

We would be out on dates, and she would be dieing to get home to... well y'know 😏... she constantly complimented my figure and turned on...

After about a year, I noticed she stopped wanting sex as much, but I persisted and kept trying... but then it ended up being the dreaded "im too tired", "I need a shower" or "darling no, I need to be up early"...

She then stopped kissing like we used too, no more proper kissing...just pecks and quick kisses...

Nowadays she is still the same, I still try for two weeks every month...before defeat overcomes me, and it genuinely makes me numb, so I have to stop...I literally will get ontop of her, try get her to kiss me seductively ( I get a peck kiss back), I kiss her neck? ...she then laughs and makes everything into a joke and ruins any sort of mood.

I don't know what to do now, I think I've given up?

Am I just her housemate at this point?

I also pay into her mortgage, and I'm not even on it... the lads in work (my best mates) are telling me this is a red flag and I shouldn't contribute to her mortgage, the other bills yes, but her mortgage? No? (They only know about this, not the lack of sex parts)

She just sits on her phone every night, and is oblivious to me 😂😂

Gosh I just need some leabian friends to help me through this 😂 she won't even answer me when I ask her "why don't you want sex anymore?" Its always just " I dunno"

I am on TikTok quite a bit and have seen several videos from the founder of a new lesbian app, Found. I downloaded and joined, it allows you to see who else is going to events so you can just tell people you’re going too rather than have to match individually, which I think is a great idea. Or would be if more people were on it. It started in LA so maybe that’s the problem, I’m in Boston.
I’m sure the dating app thing has been discussed to death, but just throwing it out there again.