Dear brothers and sisters,

for a long time I wondered why I keep falling into lust. Sooooo many times I've failed. I can't even count how many times I failed. Why was I failing? My connection to Jesus wasn't strong. I rarely prayed and I went on with my life. I tried to beat this addiction on my own. I couldn't. In July this year, I was so exhausted because I kept falling into sin, I mastrubated to porn even tho I wasn't horny. I fell on my knees and I asked the lord :"Jesus, why are you letting me suffer so much??? Why do I keep falling into this sin so often?? WHY???? ... Please help me Lord, please take over my flesh and fight for me, I can't do this on my own... Please..." And I bowed my head to the ground. I remember that I felt a very warm presence... Something like a hug... Jesus told me in that moment to make him my priority and to surrender my life to him. I did that.

All the times that I tried to fight this battle and asked myself why I kept falling into this sin, I found out that jesus made me fall into lust so many times because he wants me to fully rely on him. He wants me to surrender to him, to depend on him, to make him my priority. And now I shed a few tears while I typed this 🥲.... And the almighty Jesus Christ is my priority, he's my light and he's the way, AMEN ✝️🙏🏼.

PLEASE, if you keep falling to lust, PLEASE give your life to Jesus, fully depend on him, please 🙏🏼✝️ Jesus made me fight this battle so often to make me realize that I fully need him and that I need to make him my focus to fight this battle. You're not alone guys, please, pleaseeee give your life fully to Jesus 🙏🏼 I was such an ignorant fool in the past and I wish I'd have given him my life much sooner 🙏🏼

Don't ask yourself, why do I keep falling into this sin? Ask yourself : What is Jesus trying to tell me?

In Jesus name, may y'all be healed from this sin. Amen 🙏🏼✝️

But something interesting happened when I started saying. I'm Healed in JESUS Name. I can feel my mine and Nervous system being calmer and healed.

It's day 1 chat

Felt compelled to write this out. I will preface by saying that i am unfornatley still struggling with this BUT i am making alot of progress and hope to one day be free of this with God's help. hopefully this can help some of you

anyways this took place years ago. I was very down bad, and so in a moment of weakness decided I would go to a massage parlor, im sure you all know the reason why. Anyways i was ready, i had the cash ready and everything. Once i get there i park nearby and walk up to the building ready to go in. Suddenly something in me compelled me to "take a lap around the block first". it wasn't audible words more just a feeling. So I did just that. the walk was mostly uneventful, i think i was just asking God to help me not do what i knew i was about to do. I turned the final corner of the block, the last stretch of the block after which i would go into that building. As im walking i hear something, something that makes me pause.

now God speaks to us in many ways. Through his word in the Bible, through other people, and even in our hearts if we listen. One way that God has communicated is signs, though not often as far as I'm aware. But what I got that day, I could only attribute it to a sign from God. Because the noise that gave me pause, was laughter.

now it wasn't laugh out loud kind of laughter, but quiet laughter. As i kept walking i soon found the source of the laughing, and what I saw shook me. A mom, a dad, and i think two kids. They were in their front yard playing, a small happy family playing. the mom and dad were laughing with their kids as they spent a warm afternoon as a family. In that moment I knew clear as day what God was trying to tell me

"which do you want, choose" choose what I wanted. did I want to keep living a life of misery and darkness, falling down a rabbit hole that may have lead me to more ruin. Did I want to give myself over to this sin. Or did i want to have a family. Did i want to step into the light, to become a man worthy of being a husband and a father. To this day I cant think of it as any other way but a sign from God, a visual of the choice i had to make. I was standing at a fork in the road and i had to pick. I passed by that little family.

Once more i stood at the front of the massage parlor, facing the choice I had to make. So I walked back to my car and got in, driving away from the massage parlor. I had chosen. Now i still unfortunately struggle with porn and lust but I have been trying to get better, and for the first time in years i have made some real progress in that goal. I know that i am slowly being forged into the man God wants me to be. So I extend this invitation to you. Whoever you are reading this. lets make that choice today. Lets make the choice to be the person God wants us to be.

God showed me a family, but for you it may look different. but the end result is all the same, choosing to be better. If you feel you chose wrong, don't loose hope, because we may be lost but God knows all the trails and he can get us back to where he needs us, we just gotta let him. If we relapse, if we fall, then we get back up. Trusting in our loving father to guide us. I ask that you please pray for me. We are all on this journey together, and every new day is another chance to make the right choice.

God bless you all. remember with God, all things are possible

Hey Reddit!

Is anyone here looking for a partner to stay consistent with NoFap?

I'm working on quitting porn and masturbation, and I figured it might help to have someone working toward the same thing.

Nothing complicated. Just checking in with each other every day, talking when things get tough, sharing wins, and offering some encouragement along the way.

We don't need to have everything figured out. I'd just like to find someone who's committed to making a change.

If you're interested, say hi in the comments or send me a message! 🙂

This year, I've made much more of an effort to stop. It's been the most successful I've been with this battle. There's been some notable success. But there have also been a lot of downs. I'm going through one of them now. I'm sitting here feeling exhausted and numb after multiple relapses. It'd be more appropriate to call it a binge. I feel horrible and I realise how badly my conscience has been seared.

I can't allow the devil and my own flesh to ruin my life. I can't. So I'm going to take some drastic measures. Things that I'll "hate" or struggle to do/let go of. The bible talks about that. Taking ourselves out of comfort and sacrificing things to follow God. And so while I've done it little by little, it's time to be drastic and "cut it off" (Matthew 5:30).

The plan:

Only 2 hours a day on the phone for entertainment uses (replacement that time with hobbies)

Pray and read the bible every morning and evening

Wake up earlier to spend time with God (8:00-7:30)

Delete reddit for the foreseeable future

Excersize 3-4 times a week

Finish book reading pile

There might be some more things I'm missing. But I think it'll be better to start small and not overwhelm myself. I'm going to write this down on a piece of paper and stick this on my wall. I'll also write down some bible verses that'll help me and also stick this on my wall so that I can recite them every morning and evening. I'll start this tonight. It's time to kill this. Wish me luck.

God bless

I hv been struggling with lust since I was 14 now I'm 17 I don't know what to do I feel lost there's a period where I went 6 months without it then I relapsed ever since then I hv just been in a constant loop pls what can I do I need to.break this addiction so I can move on with my life

So I'm not quite sure i have the right flair but here we go. For several years a genre of porn I've consumed is the specifically howife fetish the masochist genre. A little background i am unmarried and singele 27m and for some reason this type of porn is the one that gives me the strongest orgasm. This isn't something I'm looking for in a relationship at all, in fact one of my greatest fears is getting cheated on.

Has anyone else, especially single guys, had an attraction to this genre, and why do you think you did and how did you overcome it?

Happy to fellowship with y’all over Reddit!

I'm looking for an accountability partner for the next 90 days. I'd like to check in daily with someone who is also serious about NoFap and wants to stay consistent.

The goal is to encourage each other, be honest about our progress and setbacks, and help each other stay accountable throughout the 90 days.

I'm looking for someone who is committed to daily check-ins and is willing to give and receive encouragement. We can communicate through Reddit DMs or another platform we're both comfortable with.

If you're interested, feel free to comment or send me a message. Let's work together to overcome this addiction by the power of Christ!

It’s been 2weeks since sex, a month free of masturbation with light slips into porn. I’ve been stressing, I’ve had several erections today and I so want to fap tonight…. Someone please help me not to sin!

I feel like this doesn’t get talked about enough. Getting saved doesn’t automatically take away your urges and horniness especially when you’re are single. I could really use a bud to talk to about this please be over 20.

30M - when laying down after work, because of anxiety and depression, motivation runs out and there is nothing fun to do. why should i go workout at the gym again by myself if my body is so heavily exhausted and fatigued with little mental strength from the suffering & circumstances I’m dealing with? how are we supposed to change our environments if those environments are not financially responsible to enjoy?

i know that the emotions that get numbed first are sadness, anxiety, and then eventually anger. I never really felt anger because I always used porn and masturbation to stop anger before it even began.

Maybe we all have to eventually embrace the withdrawal symptoms, the crashing out, the fear or anxiety that overtakes us and makes us think there is no way out. It’s the enemy creeping at the door. It’s all lies. Isolation is not our friend, but everyone has to deal with some lonely nights.

it’s so easy because it’s free - and the pleasure numbs the anxiety and emotions just enough to make you believe it was worth doing to feel loved/attractive by someone who wouldn’t unconditionally love you in real life. but we don’t care because the real people failed us or didn’t like us back, the only time we feel valuable is in a fantasy right? perspective. but the rejections pile on, and made me feel disqualified after all the mistakes, how i’m wired, that i didn’t have enough grit like other men.

i guess ill try spending time in the secret place instead. the bible doesn’t make dopamine, it makes disciples. Lord help us be disciples. Let our brains heal. If our energy and focus is gone. Let the word just be spoken over us as we rest. Many of us just beat down by life.

if I knew I would be meeting my wife a guaranteed year from now, it would be much easier to stay free. but in reality with the circumstance I am in, it will likely be in 8 years. Lord help us to be strong and courageous even still.

I found what I was missing; this verse sums it all up.

Este es mi testimonio: Seré breve.

Hace solo unos días atrás sentí la necesidad de instalar una app para contar los días sin porno. Motivado por la disciplina y buenos pensamientos, di por hecho comenzar a contar los días con la ayuda de esta app. Tuve bastante recaídas frecuentemente, y tan solo estaba empezando.

Hasta al borde del colapso:

Al ver que solo llevaba "1 día" y volvía a mirar porno y el ciclo se repetía, estaba decepcionado y frustrado. Hasta hace unos pocos días que llevo sin ver porno como muestra la captura de pantalla.

Mi historia:

Soy hombre, jóven, soltero, tengo 22 años y casi 23. Desde que tengo uso de razón empecé a ver porno desde la secundaria. Al pasar de los años fui viendo porno con más frecuencia y sentía la necesidad de verlo todos los días y masturbarme. Nunca vi el problema hasta que empezó a afectarme.

El problema:

Recuerdo que a los 17 empecé un noviazgo con una chica (Cristiana). Lamentablemente solo duró 1 año de relación, el ser joven, inmaduro y tener tanto que descubrir desde la sexualidad hizo que hiciéramos cosas que nos desviaron de la fe y de la santidad. Rompimos y ese no fue el problema en sí, sino lo que me pasó un tiempo después.

Me aparte de Dios y seguí mi propio camino. Al ver que seguía viendo porno y no poder hacer nada al respecto empecé a sufrir ataques de pánico y ansiedad (me sentía el hombre más sucio y culpable del mundo). Gracias a Dios puso ángeles en mi camino que me ayudaron a superar esa etapa.

Conclusión:

Supere las crisis de ansiedad y seguí adelante, ya no me culpaba porque sabía que Cristo me había perdonado mis pecados y restaurado mi vida. No desapareció el porno de mi vida aún, pero si aprendí a confiar en el proceso y a valorar cada oportunidad aprovechando bien mi tiempo. Todavía tengo mucho por aprender 😃

Gracias por leer.. Dios te bendiga 🙏🏻☺️

Hello everyone,

I am a student on holidays and I benefit this time to get rid of my porn addiction that is ruining my life and my studies.
Indeed, my studies are hard, I have to be commited to it but when I am tired, I had bad grades, I am quite weak : then I watch porn. It makes me feel better on the moment, but I know it destroys my future.

Indeed, I do loose time watching porn or NSFW content on app like this one... During school, I sometimes watch porn or NSFW when I am outside of school. The week-end, instead of be prepared for the week incoming, I wacth some porn telling me : "I will have time to study later", but the later never arrives, and I end up beeing stressed on sunday afternoon...

Nowadays, I am on holidays : I do lack discipline as I watch NSFW content almost all day, between watching inspiring movies, or videos... For example, this morning I did a bit of engineer science but when the exercise I was doing was a bit too hard, my brain wanted to watch a "Jerk off instruction" video (something about virtually giving up control...) (and I did watch it...) It stole about an hour and a half of lurking on my phone or my computer...

I do want to change because this lifestyle isn't aligne with who I am and who I want to become : I want to find peace but I do struggle to remain alone with my thoughts, sat alone, (and without nything except me)

May you help me ? With this question I mean : may you ask me question if you have anything you would like me to develop.

Thank you for helping me if you have any advice on how to become a better me. Feel free to discuss, exchange with me too. (Is it possible to find a mentor here ?)

Pmoed for the millionth time 

I pmoed yet again idk what to do I was wondering if any advice cause I tryed to kick this monkey off my shoulder for a long time I just feel weak in this fight

I’m starting to think that I’m no worth being a follower of God, I keep falling into this trap of lust every day and it’s killing me badly. I want to quit this lust and I don’t want to be a monster of this either.

I’ve been very distant from God for months, I tell God I want to change and become a better son for him but I keep lying to him by failing him over and over. It’s like I’m never getting out of this to be real. It’s like whatever I try to do something productive, lust kills my energy.

I feel like I’m not a follower of Christ if I can falling back into this lust, I don’t know what to do if I keep going in this wrong path when I know it’s wrong.

I think the only thing I need is someone to keep me accountable, like reminding me not to fall back into this habit.

I have struggled with this STUPID thing for over a year now and I’ve tried everything and anything but I genuinely cannot do it it my own strength. Please pray for me that God will sustain me and help me climb out of the grave I have dug for myself.

Went 4 months.

I was struggling with a combined use of cocaine and pmo at this time, soul crushing stuff. Hours upon hours of cocaine use and pmo, and when the drugs ran out, and I inevitably blew the beans, well, I think its the most effective hell to want to get your life In order. Think hellraiser vibes without the gore I guess.

This went on for the better part of 2 years, I severely damaged every facet of my being. Lost my social life, no job, no third level education, I was always just trying to recover from the deplorable shit I'd been doing the few days before. Just a nightmare of a life.

I decided enough was enough, and that I'd go to a residential rehab. I'd get to stay sober and pmo free during my time there. And I did, for 4 months, no drugs (obviously because I was in rehab) but also, 4 straight months of pure retention, with like 3 wet dreams in total.

And during this time, I prayed every night (the rosary) and went to mass and took communion every day (christian rehab). A rosary at 8pm for all residents was also mandatory. I was doing everything right. Or maybe I wasn't? Because for those 4 months I felt like absolute shit, man. No energy, no confidence, none of these so called 'superpowers' that people report on this practice.

And listen, I wasn't doing it purely for 'the benefits' I was doing it to try to build a foundation to fix my shifty life. But even then, no foundation came. I felt so cheated, I'd read stories about how good people started to feel after only 30 days and I'd say to myself "well maybe its just gonna take a bit longer" but then another month would pass, then another, and I'd still feel like the same puny little worm that crawled up into rehab only 4 days off the drugs and pmo.

I was doing the inner work, being honest with myself and others by way of group therapy, and on top of that I prayed non stop. Even outside the mandatory times. The people I was in there with held no such convictions about the importance of this practice. I felt seriously alone, and weird, the guys would have extremely explicit conversations and I'd just have to either not show interest, or just remove myself. This made it hard to connect with anyone, people who think like we do really are in a serious minority, and that sucks.

Well after the 4 months was up, I left, and relapsed after 4 days. 4 fucking days, what even is that? After months of dedication, prayer and purity, it was just gone, like waking up from a good dream that you try to so desperately get back to by closing your eyes again, praying you'll enter it again. This devastated me, and to avoid the pain I went right back to my old ways, although not nearly as frequently. But knowing I had the potential to keep going, and the fact that I threw it away, just broke me.

I've done it maybe 10 times since I left, that being the cocaine and pmo, but pmo maybe 15 times. I left rehab in April of this year. And I've been playing catch up ever since. Decided to finally try again when I started college, I went from the 17th of September to the 19th of this month. So 32 days, and again, just fucking doom man.

None of these so called benefits, no solid foundation, just pain, but in a different form. I know for any long term practitioners, all this might sound ridiculous. Any advice on what to do after trying for years and years to get this, even to the point of going to rehab?

I don't believe God made me aware of this practice, knowing I'd never get it, otherwise what on earth would be the point? I'm just so frustrated, and confused.

Thanks for reading guys, love you all. I wish you all the best of luck in your own journeys. Because I know I sure as hell could use some.

Peace!