(I've always wanted to voice this out and see if anyone can relate and I think this is personality-related so I post this here)

Despite claiming to prefer masculine style and dark colors, I still find myself enjoying dressing femininely even in pastel colors. The thing is I have a persona oc but I could never draw her wearing overly girly outfits and pastel colors even though she's supposed to be my self-insert character. I thought maybe because my Muslim identity influences the way I dress irl as a girl, but I can definitely dress a little masculinely without cross-dressing yet I don't. I still invest in cute clothes instead of cool-looking clothes cuz it's just easier to find cute clothes for me especially when my favorite thing to wear is knitwear cardigans there are so many cute knitwear cardigans to get I just can't resist 😭. I don't put effort in finding nice masculine clothes that go well with hijab at all. Maybe it's my childlike look that others describe as cute is what influences the way I dress irl? I don't understand myself 🤷🏽‍♀️

How much autonomy and alone time do those that consider themselves ISFP need with a relationship? My husband works from home and rarely leaves the house and it drives me insane. I love him so much and he is actually my favorite person, but sometimes I just need to be alone with my thoughts and not have the energy of another person around. Can anyone else relate?

I don’t know why but i relate with all the ISFP meme but internally I don’t like the idea of introvert portrayal of isfp. I thought i was ISFP but seems i am questioning it. I might be an ESTP since i like being an extrovert. And F and T seem to be switching based on my mental health for the day. But I just wanted to tell you guy. I like your mbti type but I don’t think you guys are introvert as portrayed right? I might be wrong.

I took a test and it gave me ISFP. F was at 60% so it could be T on my calm days i guess. I have mistyped as INFJ and i think i am ESTP. But I kind of liked the meme out there on isfp. As an ISFP I don’t feel much accepted out there guys. I have been cornered so much i am probably running on my Ti demon. Idk if i am an ISFP. I am quiet an extrovert when i want to yk. I was quite moral but world fucked me up big time with their immorality. I feel people are stupid. Idk i might be an ISFP but I feel I am am extrovert more than an introvert. But then again idk shit

Guys I have lost spark in life and trying to find purpose. Need help from mature ISFP. Life seem boring to me

Dating: Went from nerd to dating girls each month
Gym : inconsistent. Got better and left
Spirituality: thought i found god and art of detachment and left
Money : Earning

The more i am reading i feel i might be ISFP only. Guys give me a hug ig. I can’t do this shit called life. People are shitty. 🤧. I really got so much trust issue in me. And I don’t give a shit about anyone anymore cause no one choose me in the end. And what do you mean i am acting childish ? Bro why should i grow up and pretend to live like you? I mean tf. Any ISFP relate ? Or am I an ESTP only idk . Feelings for me was 60%. So I don’t know on my calm day F turns to T for me i feel

About 6.5 months ago, my ISFP boyfriend and I broke up while he was at a very low point in his life. We were long-distance (3 hours apart), and he’d lost his business, didn’t have a car, and was struggling with clinical depression. He seemed to have lost hope in just about everything and was pushing away most of the people he cared about, including me.

Before all of this, he was absolutely head over heels for me. If anything, I always felt like he loved me a tiny bit more. He was affectionate, intentional, and talked about our future together. But as his mental health declined, he became increasingly withdrawn and started pushing me away.

During our breakup, he cried and told me he didn’t need to be in a relationship with ANYONE. He’s remained single since.

He’s always been a brutally honest person, so the night we ended things I pressed him about whether his feelings had changed. He admitted he still had feelings for me. I then directly said “Do you still like me?” and he repeatedly said, “I didn’t say I don’t like you.” He also kept saying, “I need a lot of help,” and the cliché, “It’s me, you haven’t done anything wrong.”

I asked if he’d ever reach out once he was in a better place. He hesitated and said, “That’s not fair to you.” I said, “Please? If you want to?” He paused again and eventually said yes.

I haven’t intentionally been waiting for him, but the truth is, I still love him desperately. It’s been over six months, and no one else has even come close to catching my attention.

I’ve heard through mutual friends that he’s gotten a new job, moved, and is slowly getting his life back on track. We haven’t spoken in about six months. I reached out a couple of months after the breakup, and he read my message and didn’t respond. He also doesn’t have social media, so there’s no way for us to casually keep up with each other.

My questions for ISFPs:
Have you ever gone back to an ex as the dumper? Would your feelings be completely gone after 6 months of not seeing each other?

And if you did still have feelings, would guilt, shame, or fear of rejection stop you from reaching out?

Would you hope your ex contacted you first, even if you were the one who ended things? I want to, but don’t want to push him further away.

I’m just really interested in hearing from ISFPs who’ve been on his side of a situation like this.

Or any traits from general ISTPs that makes you dislike them.

What are the personality types of your closest friends.

I got 2 INFPs, ISTP, INTP, and an ESFP.

What about you guys?

I’m (44f entj) going through some grief about an ISFP friend (42 f ISFP) but my mom was also an ISFP and I had similar experiences: I suspect they almost make themselves think they are sick when set plans are approaching? I can’t tell if they just flat-out lie or if they dread plans so much they genuinely make themselves feel sick? Or is this a coincidence of my friend/mom and not an ISFP thing?

Edit: I’m only talking about optional plans, not obligation plans as someone helped me clarify below.

I'm wondering what to choose...

I know this really pertains more to unhealthy individuals, but I still wonder a bit...

In case if you're wondering what NFC means, it's Norwegian Forest Cat.

You just KNOW when you see us >>>>

My 42F ISFP best friend of 22 years doesn’t seem to ever care about seeing me (44F ENTJ) in real life. She has always been strangely precious to me. Ive never had someone make me feel so safe, accepted, and amused. After 16ish years of mutual behavior, she began seeming reluctant/burdened/too-tired to see me in real life very often over the last 6 years.
 
We live compatible lives. Children of similar ages who get along, same incomes, live 30 min away from each other, mutual friends, etc.
 
She still would text daily and say things like “everyone makes me crazy but you” “we should try to go on a trip together this summer” “you should come over to watch that movie soon” but never follows through anymore. I see her only at group events a few times a year. She seems so exhausted and burdened by absolutely any upcoming event. She never wants to plan anything. I can’t help but take it extremely personally at this point.
 
Ive explained this to her a few times now. In 2022, 2025 and two weeks ago. Both times she said she sucks and is awful and she hates herself, and then we barely talk for a few months and then go back to normal. We will see what happens with this time.
 
She does see mom friends but she says she has to or her son will be excluded from events. She also has a work good friend that I think she sees a lot more often than she lets on.
 
Ive never been jealous in any way. I always had too many friends and overcommitted myself and ive never been needy of anyone in my life, but here I am, middle-aged, and so mopey and sad that this friend doesn’t prioritize me.
 
Ive tried holding back on how much I talk about “why people are the way they are” and other abstract things that were never that interesting to her.
 
She very often talks about being unhappy in her life, but when I begin talking about ideas to help, or just processes of acceptance, she goes silent. So then I switched gears and tried to be like “lets do crafts with our daughters and have movies playing in the background” and all light-hearted, creative stuff—but no. I also tried to just help her run errands or organize her basement, but no.
 
Does she flat-out not like me anymore/moved-on from me and I’m not getting the hint? Or is her capacity for friendships/events truly so low she can’t fit me in for years? I really do not understand ISFPs at all so I’m struggling so much here.

Dear ISFPs,

Supposed you have a temporary work situation where you are in a toxic environment, no weekends, working 56-70 hours/week for 3-6 months. You are burned out, stressed, overwhelmed, overworked.

You then ghost a person you like, and whom you did not inform of your circumstances (other than a general 'work is tough'). That miscommunication caused that person to spend time, money, and be confused - and ultimately, step away.

At the end of that work situation, and after some recovery time, would you reach out or let the person just go?

If you do reach out, would you try to fix the misunderstanding or sweep things under the rug as if nothing has happened hoping just to move forward?

Are you experiencing every waking moment through smell, taste, touch, sound and sight?

I am learning to cultivate a more sensory practice in my life and work and wanted to learn from those who
Live this way.

To all isfps, do you struggle with choosing career?, i find it hard to know my passion, i’ve done a business administration major but still hesitant on deciding where i fit, and i doubt my skills alot :(

so i had a isfp friend that i met through work.
we knew eachother for basically two years and got pretty close, but ill admit it was sort of awkward at times to do activities. her favourite thing to do was talk about what’s happening or has happened and showing me her camera roll of said events. i tried bringing up my interests like mbti, movies, art, or music but it fell flat. despite this we had a good sense of humour and talked about life and deeper things. i was there for her and helped her out a lot with transport and her house, maybe i should’ve given her an opportunity to do the same but i was guarded.

but then it all went to shit when she was promoted to work alongside me. it became weird like none of the bond we had meant anything and she was resentful of me. i’m not sure why because it’s not like i was messing up or anything she just didn’t like communicating and would freak out over very fixable things. she started yelling about the weirdest things like not using the same pen and me asking her if she’s hot in a jumper. and when i told her to calm down she yelled at me and got in my face.

this continued for half a year until i stopped hanging out with her completely and almost everyday we’d fight at work and genuinely i tried my absolute best to smooth things over, and said “what can we do to not fight”. then she’d say it doesn’t matter because she was leaving the job soon. i felt like none of the time spent together mattered to her or all.

i don’t think i’ve met enough isfps to know if it’s related to mbti at all, but my hunch is it’s related to Se and Ne differences. i want to understand what happened and thought maybe you guys could share your opinions.

What do you guys get? Well i got 'Patient, OutSpoken, Dramatic, Passionate'. Strangely soon after the 4th finding i got a 5th one, 'insecure'👁️👄👁️