I took a test and found out I’m an INTJ

I thought the description of it was pretty cool but when I looked up this subreddit to meet my fellow INTJs

I find out it’s a cesspool for egomaniacs whose entire personalities revolves around being an INTJ.

Seriously. I saw a post that said smth like “can an intj ever get along with an infp”

Most of the INTJs here are most likely low IQ, lacking self awareness, and not nearly as remarkable as they picture themselves in their head

I don’t want to be an INTJ anymore

I had this insight just now.

I have this soft spot for shy, quiet people, those soft spoken folks that have lot to say but struggle to find the place to people to connect. I would think it’s because I relate to them, which partly I do, but when I realize how I behave in a group… I’m not shy. I might be quiet, but I speak my mind when I want to, I might be too blunt or too harsh sometimes, I have this matter-of-fact tone that I don’t like. And that creates some kind of invisible barrier between me and the people I mentioned first.

I’m realizing stuff as a write, lol, but the thing is that I’ve tried befriending that sort of people all my life. I think most of them were/are INFP. And usually I get this sense of respect from them, they make positive comments about how I am, some even have told me that they’d also like to befriend me, but I can’t shake this feeling of unbalance? Like they look up to me, while I see them with some kind of tenderness that, even if I don’t want to, might come off as condescending. It’s not condescension, not at all, I’m just struggling to find the right word.

I compare that to my actual friends, those who have been constant in my life for at least ten years. And they’re all intense in their own ways, the kind of people who have shown up in local news for doing something unhinged or bold, eccentric artists, people who enjoy the spotlight. Then I think of the kind of feedback about my personality I sometimes get, and it’s in between “you’re so cool” and “you’re so intimidating”, while I’m here, being neither, just feeling like a quiet shy weirdo in a corner, until… I engage with the real world and notice I can’t stay in the corner doing nothing. The Te is strong 😭

i really enjoy how different types articulate themselves.

me personally, i'm extremely detailed, voluble, and can be very long-winded at times. i speak in a relatively flat tone with minimal intonation. i'll always look up and away to tap into the stream of thought and I LOVE when other people do this, too. i enjoy receiving a well-thought response. giving and receiving truthful and thought-provoking responses is of utmost value to me. i typically use words that other people have never heard before because i am concerned with being as accurate as possible.

tell me all about the way you speak. the more detail the better.

They can be random, big or small things that have improved your life or made it easier

I'm a software engineer, which is one of the top recommended careers for INTJs. Overall, I think it's just okay. I like the amount of learning that is involved (getting paid to learn), and the high-level architectural decisions with many tradeoffs. However, I don't like the nitty gritty, detail-oriented act of actually writing the code, fixing bugs, etc.

If pay were the same, I think I'd prefer being an author, an urban planner, or something like a military strategist instead.

Then again, this may just be grass is greener syndrome, as I can guarantee that I like this profession more than 95% of the other choices out there. I'd much rather do this than be a police officer, doctor, lawyer, or any role that deals with the general public on a daily basis.

Interested to hear from others here on their takes.

Everyone now not only knows you’re in love with someone and that you experienced romantic feelings, but you’re also the center of attention for it. I would feel so exposed, I hate it. The thought alone makes my skin crawl.

Like many of you, I am a very observant person. Do I see negative things about people? Sure, but I never say them, and I'm actually more likely to see the good in people- the positive observations. Now, my question is? When you all get your intuitive insights about people, if it's positive, do you say anything?

I'm blunt, intuitive, and DON'T care; when I see something I like about a person, whether it be physically or personality-wise, I say something. I am equal opportunity; I compliment men and women, and I haven't upset anybody yet; it's all about how you say it. Does anybody else not care that they have a big mouth that can put people off when giving their observations?

Question for you all.

I'm an INFJ and expecting a child with my INTJ bf. Due quite shortly.

I'm at the same time very independent and this is the thing my INTJ admires about me the most, buuutttt I'm also the velcro type at the same time. Want to cuddle, kiss, hug. Not constantly, but at least once per day/two days.

Given how private you guys and girls are, what would you say, do you enjoy more clingy types or no? My INTJ is a "secret", kind of covert romantic type, writing me a letters but jokes about marriage, for example. 😅 I guess this romance stuff gives him the ick, but does it when it feels alright for him.

Otherwise we are a great pair, but we probs couldn't make it if we weren't mature, that similar in lifestyles and life values. From the beggining we had some clashes, I didn't express my emotinal needs and was annoying, and he didn't have a clue what do I want and was overwhelmed. Over the time we both learnt to be more patient and trusting to eachother.

I really hate receiving calls specially unimportant calls from relatives or friends... I've an anxiety to call someone. I really don't like it... But I've to call to maintain good relationship. The thing is people do enjoy talking to me so they wanna talk more . Any cure of this ??? Somebody save meeeeeeeee

And if so, which type(s)?

Any advice or tips or tricks you guys have?

I'm curious what other people want to achieve or experience in their life.

Mine is pretty boring so far:

• Multi‑day solo hiking, or living alone in the woods for a few days/weeks.
• Learn to play electric guitar.
• Travel across a few countries.

I have met a very toxic intj and we talked for a month and it was HELL for me, he was very immature and those traits include (controlling, disrespect, no boundaries, manipulation, overly secretive)

However, the only other INTJ guy I have met was at work, and we have mutual respect and love for each other (platonically), even though the interactions are a bit awkward and not very deep.

I think my question is, I have seen many successful INTJ - INFP couples, what makes it work ? Weaknesses? Cause i don't wanna define a whole group based on one bad experience, hoping to turn this into a positive outcome for me.

I have read a few threads and worked my way through and have been able to scrutinize a lot.

I think one thing I definitely noticed is this ingrained feeling that some characters here have that life is a game of criticism and blight.

But then they reject the accusatory or well created justifications to even be that way. And rather, I am proposing that this is possibly because of lacking purpose.

Be it a job that does not fulfill your mind, a relational struggle, or an inability to get a grip over your own mind that you let stray too long.

I think the ultimatum is Purpose.

Now I find this a rather interesting subject for INTJ because INTJ as you would think in this subreddit, do not lack any drive when discussing everyone else, right? And think that the purpose of this sub is to uphold themselves to a standard.. ? INTJ?

So the label INTJ has a purpose, yet people wander through here like they have no purpose outside of it, and the label now supports that missing part.

Not going to bother over analyzing more; I will leave this for others to ponder.

So u can say what u want.

Crossposting here for any trolling. 😉

Fellow intp asking for your advice.