r/coparenting • u/Low-Winter460 • 3d ago

Schedules Placement schedule WI

I need advice on what others have for their placement schedules. I left my abusive ex this year with my two children 4 and 5. We currently have 50/50 custody and placement with a 2-2-3 schedule that I hate. I would like the days (during the week) to be uniform so that I can have a work schedule that is earlier on days that I have the children and later on days that I do not. This isn't possible when I have the kids Monday Tuesday one week and Wednesday Thursday the next. I also hate that weekends are so long. On his weekends, I drop off my kids at daycare Friday morning and don't see them again until I pick them up Monday evening. If we did consistent days during the week and alternate weekends, we would essentially have a 2-2-5-5 schedule which I do not want. I feel the 3 days are too long as it is. My kids come back extremely dysregulated, throwing things, and punching each other.

What have others done for placement schedule that has worked well?

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u/always-outrageous 3d ago

I don’t know how you get consistent work week schedule with 50/50 unless you don’t alternate weekends.

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u/Imokifurok2 2d ago

It’s either not 50/50 or you do Mon Tues Wed and then Thurs Fri Sat with rotating Sunday.

There’s no other way around with 50/50.

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u/sockpuppetborzoi 1d ago

Every other day with alternating Sundays, so you have the kids M/W/F and other parent has them T/Th/Sat. Or you could alternate entire weekends, so one week you’d have them M/W/FSS and the following week you’d have them M/W. Or break the weekend in half on Saturday afternoon so you have them M/w/f+sat 2pm one week and M/W/Sat evening+Sunday the next.