ive seen this happen countless times where a girl and her friends will be together and a man passes by and one of them starts staring at him. usually her friends will join in or just ignore her.

so when your girl starts looking at a man, do you notice?? do you care? does it feel weird? or is it eh and normal? is it like a 'fun girl bonding moment' where you gals are just in sync looking at the same man?

There’s this shy, reserved guy I’ve known for a few months. He works in a different department, so we are not coworkers.

Yesterday we briefly greeted each other as we were leaving work and I was walking with a male colleague he doesn’t know, while he headed towards a bus stop. A few minutes later, his bus passed us, and I noticed him getting off further ahead.

Here’s the odd part: normally, passengers getting off at that stop walk sideways, perpendicular to the road, towards the nearby station.
Instead, he walked for several metres in the direction we were coming from, with his whole body facing towards us, before making a roughly 90-degree turn and heading towards the station!
There was nobody obstructing his way, and the detour seemed completely unnecessary.
I could clearly see his face, so I’m certain about the direction he was facing.
I found it rather funny because he could potentially have spotted us from the bus beforehand but I can’t be certain about it
Why did He did that?

Also, today, I bumped into him but He ignored me and didn’t say hello back. This left me confused. It breaks the routine of always saying hello to each other when we cross paths.
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Some context:
I work in a male dominated field and I am usually quite sociable. Me and this guy attended a course together. After some interactions initiated by me, there were times where I caught him staring at me when I wasn’t looking and He instantly looked away. Weeks later, his close friend was also observing me with curiosity when they were together, until the day He introduced himself and striked up a conversation with me. He already knew my name, revealing me that his friend had talked to him about me.

Actually, this thing has been happening for almost a year. I don't want to assume things but I also don't want to "overlooked" something again.

For context, I've known this guy for years and he also knows me ofc. We barely exchange conversation during those years except when we were younger, lets say in our school decade ago we were around 9-10 years old back then.

Anyways, so our interactions around 2025 was something casual.. he'll ask me to join him in a specific schedule and because I'm free I'll join him. It's like a loop, everytime he gets the chance to ask me, he'll ask me.

Then around july, he became more persistent, really going as far as messaging me just because I left the choir prac too early. This month, he became more casual with me. He'll ask me some questions, random questions, ask me for some favours, tease me or other stuff

The thing is, my friends noticed all those things before I even tell them about my interactions with him.

The thing is, I told them "it's probably nothing" and "oh, he's just like that" but a friend of mine said something like "no he's not, he doesn't even ask me to join him or strike conversation with me. He's just like that with you" and more and more and more

But again, they might be just overthinking it or Idk, maybe I'm overlooking stuff again

For context we were at a work drinks, everyone went home and we stayed on together. We walked through the city talking about life at 3am. He gestured me to link his arm while walking, and kept placing his hand gently across my front protectively at crossings etc. we sat on the concrete at a service station yapping and he kissed me on the crown of my head mid conversation while we were kinda huddled beside each other.

I know he has sisters, and he’s very comfortable expressing his emotions.. so it could just be his personality. But I’m wondering are these subtle queues that he’s interested in me, or is he just being affectionate?

I (21F) have a close male friend (30M), and something happened recently that I'm still trying to make sense of.

I went to approach him to a gathering and the very first seconds while we were talking, he looked me up and down (face - waist - knees) before looking back up and repeating it yet again! It wasn't a quick glance or a subtle, fleeting look. It was a very noticeable, repeated scan of my appearance and particularly to certain parts of my body. Not "look quick and return to her face" type of look. Each glance had a significant duration more than just a fleeting stare.

What made it even more confusing was that it almost seemed like he wanted me to notice him looking. He didn't appear to be making much of an effort to hide it, and he also seemed to struggle a little to get his words out as he began speaking before i got to say a word to strike up a conversation.

After the "suspicious" stares, while we were talking, he seemed unable to look me in the eyes for more than 3 seconds straight. He would look away, left or right, and back to my face only to repeat that. And the thing is, it was his first time acting this nervous. He always looks me in the eyes and can maintain eye contact when we're chatting. But today something shifted.

I'm curious about two things:

1. Would you interpret the repeated, deliberate up-and-down glances as him checking me out?

2. Has anyone experienced someone looking at them this way, particularly when it seemed like the person wanted them to notice?

I'm not trying to conclude that he has feelings for me ofc. Only he knows about that and time will tell.

I'm interested in whether this kind of behaviour sounds like checking someone out (i think im not being delusional lol), and what other people's experiences have been with similar situations.

Edit: word corrections

So there’s this guy who I like who gets very happy to see me every time and we hang out in the same social circle, but he ignores me and talks to another girl most of the time, he is polite and answers my questions quickly but doesn’t talk to me freely.

He often compliments my clothes or has said that I look good, but he also makes fun of me sometimes.
When I try to make plans with him, he invites more people and never just hangs out with me.

He gets very bashful when talking to me or very happy or completely disconnected, and avoids eye contact, pretends not to listen when I say something in his vicinity but makes a remark after.

He talks in a sweet, happy tone to me mostly and is very gentle. Is he just nice or what is it? He constantly talks to another girl from the group though and hangs out with her comfortably. What does this all mean?

I just started a new job as a Christmas casual last Monday. There was a guy that caught my attention who a permanent. I didn’t think much of it just thought he was cute. We got paired up on my second day. We didn’t really talk much and I didn’t catch his name. He only really talked to guide me through the process and the job so I didn’t strike a convo because I didn’t think he wanted to talk to me.

From then to now I’ve been catching him looking/staring at me. We make eye contact a lot but haven’t talked since last Tuesday and I still don’t know his name. He is very reserved. Sticks to himself. Idk. I wanna introduce myself but at the same time I feel like he doesn’t wanna talk to me.