r/beyondthebump • u/PsychologicalBoot636 • Jun 04 '26
Baby Sleep - all input welcomed The concept of capping naps feels wrong
FTM - baby boy will be 11 weeks tomorrow. For the first 8 weeks we flew by the seat of our pants as you do, eating sleeping pooping on repeat. He has always been a good sleeper (as long as it’s contact during the day lol) and as a sleep lover myself I truly find it SO important so I make sure to prioritize it for baby even if that means Ive pretty much sat in my rocker all day everyday for the last 2.5 months. He loves a good 3+ hour nap. Around week 8 friends of mine and my social media algorithms started talking about over tiredness and wake windows etc so I started tracking his sleep in Huckleberry. It’s going fine, I’ve noticed it’s easier to get him down when I abide by the wake window which is great but the one thing that I can’t seem to get on board with is capping naps.
Can anyone explain what the reasoning behind capping daytime naps is? It feels wrong to me. If his body needs the 3 hours, why should I wake him up at 1/2 and keep him awake for an hour? It feels like I’m forcing so much “wake up put down wake up put down”. I don’t know. There must be a science behind it I’m not aware of.
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u/themaddiekittie Jun 04 '26
The only nap I've ever really capped is the last nap of the day to make sure they're tired enough for bedtime. If what you're doing is working for you, then keep doing it. Following your instincts and your child's cues about stuff like this is a good thing!
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u/BusyPickle97 Jun 04 '26
Exactly! If nighttime sleep is working then there's absolutely no reason to change or cap daytime sleep!
My daughter was a terrible sleeper, even at almost 3 she still doesnt sleep through the night. I tried all the wake window and nap capping advice in those early days. None of it helped. However, as she got older (over 1 year old at least) I would try to cap the nap/make sure she didnt sleep past a certain time so she would go to sleep at a reasonable hour.
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u/StasRutt Jun 04 '26
Yup exactly the same because that’s the only nap that could potentially mess things up
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u/InviteTechnical1353 Jun 05 '26
Likewise and that only started when he was several months older and the combo of longer wake windows and late naps were pushing bedtime close to 10/11. Even ghen i exlerimented a bit to see what worked for my son because some babies need more sleep than others and your baby is still so young OP. Sleep needs will also change based on development. Son is 18 months old and sometimes will sleep 4 hours during tbe day and still be tired enough for an early bedtime if hes teething or going through some kind of spurt.
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u/DumbbellDiva92 Jun 04 '26
I will say that as a concept, there is some logic to simply building enough sleep pressure for them to be tired enough to sleep more at night. If they need a total of say, 14 hours of sleep a day, most people would rather the split be 4 hours daytime sleep/10 overnight, versus 6/8 or 8/6. But, for one, babies can vary in the total amount of sleep they need. And two, the split of time in terms of number of naps, and daytime versus nighttime sleep, that works best for each baby can also vary.
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u/annedroiid Jun 04 '26 edited Jun 04 '26
I felt the same at that age. It's more of a thing for older kids. By the time my son turned 2 if we didn't cap his naps he'd be up till 11pm and then wake up at 5am because he went to sleep too late and then be wrecked the next day.
You'll find yourself doing strange things to protect their sleep. Sleep deprivation is a killer.
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u/juhraff Jun 04 '26
We don’t cap and our baby sleeps great at night. Trust your gut!
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u/VelvetAstronautica Jun 04 '26
We do cap and our baby sleeps great at night. She sleeps terribly if we don't cap her naps.
I agree OP knows her baby best and should trust her gut! What works for someone's child won't work for someone else's.
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u/phoeniixrising Jun 04 '26
Another nap capper here. If we don’t cap, baby will have a split night, without fail. He will party for at least an hour in the middle of the night if he does any more than 2h45min of day sleep.
But that’s MY baby! Everyone’s baby is different!
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u/WillRunForPopcorn Jun 04 '26
Yeah my son is 19 months old and if we let him nap however long he wanted, he would nap for 4 hours. And then he would stay up way too late and not get enough sleep at night. Then he’d be miserable the next day and completely knock out at nap time because he’s so tired, continuing the cycle. So we cap his nap at 2 1/2-3 hours and don’t let him sleep past 3pm.
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u/wavinsnail Jun 04 '26
If it ain't broke don't fix it.
We now only cap naps with my almost 2 year old.
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u/sweet_baby_tomato Jun 04 '26
Lots of people like to talk as if they know something about baby sleep, when in reality ... They don't. Not really. I've not managed either of my boys sleep as babies (outside of getting ready for bed). It wasn't until closer to a year that I started to notice trends in daytime sleep vs nighttime sleep and put a limit on naps.
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u/Eastern_Elephant3790 Jun 04 '26
With my first I capped naps, followed Huckleberry to a T, and did ALL of the things the sleep “experts” say to do. Nothing worked for us. She wanted her long naps and no matter what she’d only sleep 10 hours at night. Once I finally accepted that not all babies are the same, life got so much easier. I now have a 12 week old and life is so much better just following her queues rather than trying to make a science of it.
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u/AnonymousKurma Jun 04 '26
You’ll start to learn what works for your kid. both my kids would wake up in the middle of the night ready to party for hours if they had too much daytime sleep. My friend has 3 kids, her first was the same as mine but her second two kids are little bears and the more sleep they get, the more they want.
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u/Intrepid-Ad-391 Jun 04 '26
At 11 weeks, there isn’t much of a need to cap naps. Baby is sleeping as much as their brain needs to sleep and their circadian rhythm/day/night schedules are still developing.
My baby was a great sleeper, sleeping 6-8 hour stretches over night since about 6 weeks old, with only one wake up to feed and straight back to sleep for another 4-6 hours. His bedtime was also consistent without even trying: 9/930pm every night.
Once my baby hit his first sleep regression at 3.5 months, he was harder to put down for the night and started waking every 2-3 hours. This is when we started experimenting with nap durations. He would naturally have 3-4 short naps, about 20-40 minutes long and then one long nap about 2-3 hours long. I found when he would have a 3 hour nap, it was harder to get him down at night. I started waking at the two hour window and saw an improvement. Now, this doesn’t mean I always wake him at 2 hours. Sometimes his nap is only an hour. Sometimes I let him sleep past two hours and he’ll wake up around 10 minutes past. I use my own discretion based on how he slept that night and how many day time naps he’s had.
I will point out that I am not sleep training and do not believe in CIO Methods. I also did not read anything about nap capping when I first started experimenting. It was all done based on my own observations and instincts. Baby boy is 4.5 months now and we’re getting back to a good night time routine and overnight sleep is improving with 5 hour stretches now.
Just do what feels right to you! But I wouldn’t say it’s something you need to consider at this stage. Enjoy all the naps!!! Longer wake windows = more entertainment needed hahaha
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u/Wild_Philosopher_552 Jun 04 '26
Our pediatrician put it as “they have to eat and sleep at some point so if they do all the sleeping during the day don’t be surprised when they want to do all the eating at night”
I’ve only capped when not capping wasn’t working. Like when we were dropping from 3 naps to 2 sometime third nap would turn into early bed time but also not really so then we had a late party and not great sleep. A couple times of that and capping the third nap was instituted
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u/-aqueoustransmission Jun 04 '26
The way i understood it was that too long of a nap during the day may release too much sleep pressure and cause baby to confuse days and nights
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u/Hour-Temperature5356 Jun 04 '26
Do what feels right to you! My 15m old still has 2 naps, and we get some pressure to drop to 1, but I've always just taken his lead. No need to control everything. Let the kid nap if they are tired.
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u/Commercial_Flower_49 Jun 04 '26
I would say that the first 8-12 weeks, let that baby sleep as much as they want. But if you’re trying to give them more awake time during the day so they get the rest of their needed daily sleep at night, I will gently wake my baby after 2 hours (only after 3 months). I know there are so many books and experts that recommend putting them on a rigid eating and sleeping schedule and I agree with you - it seems to be going against the natural biology of the baby. I see it more as guiding the baby toward the end goal that you want. If you’re totally fine with their naps and nighttime sleep, leave them be! But I have to go back to work soon and want some structure so my baby isn’t waking up all night long. In the end, do what works for you and your family and what you feel is right
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u/Zestyclose-Life9813 Jun 04 '26
You don’t have to if you don’t need to or want to. I started to cap naps when my baby turned 4 months old and we got her on a schedule. If she slept too long during the day she would wake up more during the night. She’s almost 10mo now and I don’t cap naps anymore because she just wakes on her own around the 1-1.5h mark.
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u/Franzy48 Jun 04 '26
I didn't cap naps until like 10-11 months, when I started clearly noticing length of naps affecting the rest of the day/nighttime and I wanted to be able to plan around baby's schedule more reliably. Don't worry about it, I say.
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u/notorious_ludwig Jun 04 '26
Have you ever gone to have an hour nap then suddenly you accidentally slept for 5 hours and now cant sleep overnight? Then if it continues the day/night is switched and your baby is up all night and asleep all day. It’s basic understanding of human sleep needs. Not all babies need their naps capped, just like with people sleep needs differ. Baby sleep just gets very intense with people, especially with the rise of social media.
Every baby is different. Find out what works for you and do that. A newborn will never need a nap capped though, newborns need more sleep than wake time.
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u/Adventurebug87 Jun 05 '26
Honestly it depends on the kid. With our daughter I was obsessed with wake windows and capping naps. The one day I absolutely did not do that and just let her sleep however long she wanted was the worst night of sleep we'd had (like up for 2.5 hours straight in the middle of the night). She very much was and still is the kid where too much day sleep means far far less night sleep and split nights. With our son I just followed his routine. If he slept I let him sleep (unless it'd been more than 3.5-4 hours since he ate). His day sleep never affected his night sleep as long as he had a decent stretch of play time before bed.
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u/Whiskeymuffins Jun 04 '26
It is all baby dependent. Is your baby a “sleep begets sleep” one or not? My baby definitely was, and slept so much better at night if I let her sleep as much as she wanted during the day (within reason of course. If it reached 3 hours then I woke her up). Once we really settled into 2 naps, I capped the 2nd one at a certain time in order to preserve a decent bedtime. Her naps typically ran for 75 minutes and she woke up herself, but if it ran longer I just went with it. I also need those breaks to myself.
The only time to really consider shortening the naps if there are consistent sleep disturbances at night, like split nights (awake for hours).
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u/Bramble3713 Jun 04 '26
I use Huckleberry, I don’t recall starting to cap naps until just recently and she’s about to be a year old!!! 11 weeks I was still letting her dictate how much sleep she needed.
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u/Independent_Nose_385 Jun 04 '26
I didn't cap naps until my daughter was like... 11 months? Something like that. I didn't want her sleeping past 5pm. I would never do it for a baby only a few months old.
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u/Purple_Grass_5300 Jun 04 '26
I've never limited my kids naps outside of when she had jaundice and legit would not wake up to eat lol but once she was past birthweight I never woke her up.
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u/bigmac_69 Jun 04 '26
It’s less of a thing when they’re little little and more once they’re on three naps or less.
The idea is that you have 24 hours in a day and your baby will have a maximum they can sleep. For each bay this differs and obviously changes as they get older. Let’s say a baby naturally sleeps for 14 hours out of 24. If you have three two hour naps that means you can only expect an 8 hour night. If you put them down expecting more sleep than they can physically do, then you’ll end up with split nights and a lot of crying.
You don’t have to cap naps (especially when they’re super little) but to some it will make sense to “distribute” their sleep differently.
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u/StasRutt Jun 04 '26
At 11 weeks I wouldn’t stress about it. Just continue what’s working for you and bay
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u/honeybubee Jun 04 '26
Our baby is 19 weeks now and I never cap naps. I’m so glad when he sleeps over an hour in the day!! The only time i would wake him is when he’s way too long over his feeding time and his feeding schedule gets too messed up. Our baby sleeps pretty well during the night (9pm til 6.30/7 am mostly).
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u/torchwood1842 Jun 04 '26
There is logic to capping daytime sleep overall to encourage more sleep to happen at night, rather than having more sleep happening during the day. Like, if 4 month old baby is getting 10 hours of daytime sleep (or whatever; I forget how much sleep they are supposed to be getting over all at that age), of course they are going to be a terrible nighttime sleeper. They could still be a terrible nighttime sleeper even if they were doing normal naps during the day, but allowing the majority of sleep to happen during the day pretty much guarantees bad nighttime sleep.
What that looks like is going to be different for every baby. Yours might do well with two 3 hour naps per day with slightly longer wake windows in between. Another baby may not be able to deal with a longer wake window no matter what, so capping the naps to be shorter so that the baby can have shorter week windows but still not too much daytime sleep would make sense. For my first baby, 2 hour nap cutoffs were usually the magic number for the wake Windows she could tolerate versus encouraging nighttime sleep, although I let it go to 2.5 hours plenty of times if she seemed like she needed it. With my younger daughter, 2.5 hours seemed to be the magic number, and I would let her go to three if she seemed like she needed it.
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u/LydiaStarDawg Jun 04 '26
I very very very rarely cap a nap and usually only the last nap of the day if it's running toooo long and may completely mess bedtime, or on the rare occasion we have somewhere to be (but she'll just go back to sleep in the car).
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u/pi_inthepan Jun 04 '26
I never capped naps that young! I only started capping naps with my older one when he would refuse to go to sleep at night or was really hard to get down for naps, but I basically just let my kids dictate how much sleep they need. Sometimes they need more because they are growing. Don’t listen to random social media folks or Reddit users telling you how to parent your kid! If you have questions about literally anything involving your baby, including sleep, you can ask your pediatrician. Other than that, go with your gut or look things up on a reputable website like the AAP!
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u/katethegreat4 Jun 04 '26
I didn't start capping naps until they started to interfere with bedtime and overnight sleep...my daughter was 2 or so before I even considered it. I can't see any good reason for capping the naps of an 11 week old.
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u/hpnut3239 Jun 04 '26
My baby is 11 weeks today and I've had the same thoughts. I've also had a million people recommend dream feeds and when we tried them all I did was break up her sleep into even shorter stretches. I get the longest stretches just letting her do her thing.
I'm having to remind myself that I (and my husband) am the parent and make the decisions. It's tough being a rule follower when you're responsible for another life and the internet is full of "rules." But the vast majority of them, if they don't work for you then don't do them!
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u/Suspicious-Switch133 Jun 04 '26
If it’s not a problem for you, it’s simply not a problem!
Tbh I think that a lot of capping naps has to do with maybe both parents working or needing the evening for themselves.
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u/Takemebacktobreezy Jun 04 '26
There is no science. It's all bullshit. What works for some babies like a dream doesn't work at all for others. I have 5 kids from 19- 7 weeks and I've tried it all. What seems to actually do something is capping the last nap of the day ONLY if it looks like they'll wake up too late to go to bed at a normal for them hour. My mom always told me never wake a sleeping baby and it's something that has proven true so that's what I do.
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u/tokyodraken Jun 04 '26
my boy is 3 months and still wakes up every 3 hrs at night. i started following “wake windows” and putting him down for a nap every 60ish mins because that’s what i saw would help him sleep through the night online, it went terrible! he stayed up later and was really grumpy/screamed every time i tried to get him to nap. the last 2 days he basically just falls asleep when he’s tired, once he wakes up i leave him in the crib and wait to see if he goes back to sleep or fully wakes up. it’s been so much less stressful! do what works for you guys
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u/_elysses_ Jun 04 '26
I only started capping naps once baby was around 10m old because that’s when they started seeming to have more trouble getting to sleep at night.
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u/Charming-Link-9715 Jun 04 '26
Everything is about making parent’s life easier and not necessarily normal for the baby, esp at 11weeks!! In modern world, we all need to work so mom/dad need to get that full night of sleep which can only happen if babies sleep full night, which isnt the case for vast majority of babies. So we try these methods to ensure they are tired enough to sleep through the night. I never had the courage to wake up a sleeping baby to do this. Even now at 3yrs of age, I cant wake my toddler up if she is sleeping soundly. Sleep is so important for their growth - mentally and physically. Best I can do is have her go to sleep at a consistent time. When she was a baby though it was out of question. She ate and slept based on her body’s demand.
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u/XOXaubs Jun 04 '26
I don’t cap naps and I never have. My first will be 3 in a few weeks and if he’s tired he naps. He wakes up on his own time. I feel like all the apps and stuff push to cap naps or stick to strict schedules etc but it was always so much easier to follow his lead and I plan to do the same with this baby once they arrive too. If what you’re doing is working, don’t change it!
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u/Sweetshopavengerz Jun 04 '26
At that age, let the chaos reign and embrace it.
Huckleberry is great for later, when it helps recognise patterns, e.g. when the time is to go from 3 naps to 2, 2 naps to 1 or so on. It might help you become aware of things like emerging patterns before then (my daughter fell into various routines naturally and it was helpful to help recognise those) but not really during the fourth trimester!
I would only cap naps MUCH later if it started to impact night sleep.
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u/sarlarsen Jun 04 '26
We never had this problem because our child took 30 min naps until he turned 1 and went down to one nap. I am so jealous 🤣
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u/QuixoticMindfulness Jun 04 '26
I don't cap naps. My baby is 4 months tomorrow. I let him sleep when and however long he wants to and he seems to sleep even better at night because of it. He is also mainly a contact sleeper, though apparently that is partially a me thing because he sleeps in a crib just fine at daycare lmao. For me, he will either not sleep at all if I try putting him down first, and when I transfer him after, he wakes up within 15 minutes, then passes back out as soon as I pick him up.
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u/Dottiepeaches Jun 04 '26
Don't track anything if you don't need to. Don't cap naps if you're content with your baby's sleep situation. Ignore your algorithm. I was into all that stuff with my first. With my 3rd, I'm just winging it and it's so freeing. 3 month old baby sleeps when he's tired. I have no idea what his wake windows are. My toddler on the other hand is down to 1 nap a day and she could nap for 3 hours easily and then will be up all night. With her, I'll cap her nap at about 2 hours. It's all intuitive. We do what works for us. No tracking apps necessary.
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u/megkraut Jun 04 '26
I didn’t cap any naps until my daughter was over 18 months. I did panic a few times about 4 hour stretches during the day when she was under 4 months, but it didn’t really make a difference in her night time sleep.
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u/cardinalinthesnow Jun 04 '26
I never capped naps.
I think this firmly falls under “different hints work for different families”. Try it and see and experiment. The one thing that’s certain is that everything will keep changing no matter what you do.
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u/essdee06 Jun 04 '26
Please just do what works for you! I fell into the trap and my whole mat leave felt like it revolved around baby sleep and it truly drove me insane.
If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.
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u/AlbatrossKitchen4969 Jun 04 '26
I’ve never ever capped my kid’s naps and they’re both great sleepers for the most part. I’m a firm believer that sleep begets sleep. Some days you’re just more tired than others, babies are no different.
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u/TelephoneActive9923 Jun 04 '26
I think it’s about weight gain and having enough frees to comfortably go to sleep. Those are the only two reasons I would purposely wake. If it’s getting long though I normally don’t wake her. I just don’t tip toe as much and she quickly wakes up herself
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u/Bold_Silencer_1966 Jun 04 '26
I have never capped my babies naps ever if he’s sleepy I let him sleep because he’s a baby so he obviously needs it it’s not like an adult bed rotting and sleeping all the time so I never listened to the Instagram moms or anything I let him do him it’s not like I’m working so I can be up later if needed if he takes a long nap in the evening and he’s perfectly fine he sleeps through the nights and creates his own sleep schedule he takes 2-3 naps a day depending on what we’re doing and then sleeps well at night I never sleep trained or anything I just let him sleep when he wants to and I think that’s the way it should be
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u/shelbabe804 Jun 04 '26
I didn't cap naps. My LO is currently 21 months and we just followed her signs. Although, now she might be needing a nap cap because we've been getting random 2-3 hour wake up at 2-3 am and I can't take it anymore. She doesn't do them when she wakes after 1.5 hours, but anything longer than that makes for a nighttime wake.
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u/Chelesto Jun 04 '26
I felt this same way and then my baby started suffering when under tired at night (around 4.5 months). I decided to split the difference and try to transfer him to crib after enough time has passed for him to get a sufficient amount of sleep. I’m not familiar with the research in this area, but as a mental health specialist who works with adults, sleep hygiene is established for multiple types of symptoms. Pretty much it’s awareness and intentionality behind sleep behaviors. The baby stuff seems to be an extension of that for me.
My son will go over 2 or 3 hours if not capped. A few times when he was around 3 months his naps merged into super long over night sleeps (4pm-6am) which I assumed he needed at the time (?).
I am very supportive of following his cues, with balancing it against the idea that I understand societal constructs and biological realities like sleep hygiene, night/day, and melatonin/circadian rhythms. I guess it’s more like we’re working in tandem and I’m giving him a springboard for his cues rather than him leading with his cues, if that makes sense
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u/Majestic-Raccoon42 Jun 04 '26
We started capping his last nap so that he would go to bed at the same time to create a routine for him. But at 2.5 months his last nap ended at 6pm so he was tired again around 8/9pm for bed.
Then he started have split nights. He would wake up at 3am and be up for 2 hours before falling back asleep until 7/8am. We had to cap his naps to help him consolidate his night sleep. I think we started doing this around 5 months.
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u/Affectionate-Net2277 Jun 04 '26
I’ve never heard of waking a sleeping baby, unfortunately you got to wake toddlers sometimes but you’ve got a while before worrying about that
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u/Same_Moose5598 Jun 04 '26
I am following no schedule. It’s my second one and I am totally led by her.
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u/cece0692 Jun 04 '26
If things are going well for you, there's no need to fix them. Besides, 11 weeks is still young.
Like many things, it's going to be baby dependent. When my husband and I decided to focus on independent sleep with our daughter at 5 months, we noticed that if we didn't cap naps (we focused on night sleep so naps were still contact), she wouldn't sleep at night. For example, if she was getting an average of 14 hours of sleep per day and she used 5 - 6 of them to nap, she'd fight bedtime hard and wake up multiple times a night.
We were told by many family members that we were ridiculous since "you never wake a sleeping baby" but, for ours? It worked.
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u/Alarmed_Witness_7931 Jun 04 '26
I didn’t start capping naps until 2, before then I just adjusted bed time. My oldest has to be up and out for school by 6:30 so making sure the youngest gets enough night sleep is essential, when she was younger I could transfer her to the car without waking her.
I’m going to be that person that admits I bought the pampers sleep app for my youngest and it was amazing. As long as I put the information in the nap/sleep predictions were spot on.
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u/One-Willingness-3681 Jun 04 '26
I didn’t start capping naps until around 9 months, I’ll let him nap for as long as he wants during the day but make sure they don’t really go past 4pm so he can go to bed at 7.30pm, unless we have evening plans and then I’ll let his nap go as much past 4 as he wants so that he can stay up with us & enjoy socialising without being tired! It’s worked so far and he’s 11 months & a still a great sleeper!
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u/sleigh88 Jun 04 '26
Never heard of it and expecting my third lol I don’t think it’s necessary at all. Social media influencers are wild!
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u/label_this Jun 05 '26
We didn't cap naps until our daughter was over three years old. She's always been on the upper end of sleep needs, but she was getting to the point where she'd take one 3-hour nap in the afternoon and then stay awake for hours after bedtime because she wasn't tired enough (this would only happen when she napped at home, though, because she always took crap naps at daycare).
I don't think I'd worry about capping naps in an infant, though.
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u/scupdoodleydoo Jun 05 '26
I do it so my baby sleeps through the night and has enough awake time to eat enough during the day. After he was born I had really bad PPA and lost the ability to nap during the day, so if he wasn’t sleeping at night I couldn’t ever catch up. He sleeps great at night and is very cheerful in general so he seems like he’s getting his rest.
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u/kangaskhaniscubones Jun 05 '26
Currently going through this with my 2yo. He likes to sleep from 11:30pm-8:30am (or later) with a 3 hour nap during the day. I’d like his bedtime to be earlier but waking him up early from his sleep or nap just feels wrong. I’m more inclined to deal with the inconvenient schedule just so his body gets sleep when it wants.
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u/ExhaustedSquad Jun 05 '26
I was a very go with the flow parent with my first.
I truly believe sleep is baby dependent. All those parents with unicorn babies that sleep well think it’s something they did. And then they have a second that doesn’t sleep and realise is temperament dependent.
The only nap I ever really capped ( and not until around 6m) was the last nap. We just accepted that sometimes she would go to bed at 7pm and sometimes it was 9pm. She’s been a crap sleeper her whole life, very low sleep needs compared to what is expected. Radical acceptance of this made my life so much easier. I went about my day and if she slept she slept and if she didn’t she didn’t and we just got along.
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u/anxious_teacher_ Jun 05 '26
I didn’t cap naps until I had to. And I don’t cap them all because sometimes she wakes up. But it does allow her sleep pressure to be more balanced.
There actually is science behind it— it’s called sleep pressure (adenosine). Everyone has 24 hour sleep needs so if you exceed it well, you’ll just be awake. So as they get older, capping their nap allows them to not use all their sleep pressure up during the day.
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u/karingtonleann Jun 05 '26
I don’t cap naps. My 13 month old has always been a good night time sleeper, technically sleeping through the night at around 4 months. He used to fight naps a lot, and still does some. He’s typically down to one nap a day, even though advice says this is early for that, but his naps are loonnng. Today he napped nearly 4 hours, but I still expect him to likely sleep at least 8-7 tonight. Unless you’re worried about being able to feed them, let them sleep.
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u/TheIronMatron Jun 06 '26
“Friends and social media algorithm” do not equal science. It’s very dangerous to assume this, about anything, ever. Take health advice from recognized sources, like the Academy of Paediatrics, Mayo Clinic etc.
And for child-rearing, there are doctors and accredited child development experts with lots of information backed by research.
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u/Melodic-Command-1866 Jun 07 '26
Capping naps helps ensure theyre still eating on a decent schedule. Also, it really helps with sleep training for overnight and ensuring a good nap and sleep schedule. If they’re eating well, and do sleep feeds okay, don’t need to worry about it until closed to 5months/20 weeks.
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u/AspectGlass4115 Jun 07 '26
I didn’t cap naps until 3+ years old when my son started having trouble going to bed at night if he napped too long during the day. I let my 2.5 year old still sleep as long as she needs for her midday nap. I always went by wake windows when they were really little, and sleep cues. Worst case they stayed up a little later if they napped a long time. So what? It was no problem for me because I wasn’t going to bed until 11pm anyways. I don’t believe in waking sleeping babies or forcing them to sleep. They will sleep when they are tired, and wake when they are ready. They need that sleep to grow!
IMO, you’re just throwing them off their internal rhythm when you try to force them on a schedule. Unless said baby-led schedule completely interferes with your life, in which case you can try moving it around by 15 minute increment intervals. But don’t fix what isn’t broken! Both my kids slept so much as babies, I was low-key concerned, but they’re now both thriving at 2 and 3 and huge for their ages. My husband and I are both high sleep needs so I think it might be genetic.
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u/AspectGlass4115 Jun 07 '26
Adding that I think my babies were sleeping some insane amount like 18 hours a day as newborns through 3ish months. Both started sleeping 12 hours through the night once I stopped waking them up to nurse to get back to birth weight, both exclusively breastfed. Both hit all of their milestones early or on time! I wish I had never come across the horrible internet advice on sleep schedules early on because it caused me anxiety. With baby #3 I will definitely embrace taking their cues and letting them sleep as much as they need with zero guilt.
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u/FantasticPin3481 Jun 08 '26
I would not be capping naps for a newborn. The idea is if you don’t cap certain naps baby’s night schedule will be thrown off. Tried it once with my baby and he was such monumental grump I resolved never to do it again.
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u/Infinite-Willow-6255 Jun 09 '26
If you let them nap too late in the afternoon/evening, they will likely be harder to get down for the night.. this will become more important as baby gets older and into a routine, when they do get into a two nap routine you don’t really want them sleeping 3hours+ in the morning and then it becomes a major struggle to get them down for a nap in the afternoon.. just my thoughts from experience, no science behind it! Enjoy those long naps though, but do try to break away from the contact sleep sooner than later, we made that mistake and it took a long time for baby to adjust, it was only when we reduced her to 1 nap at 14months approx that we managed to get things right, from 3 months to 12 months was really tough, every nap time a struggle, although she was a poor sleeper from day one
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u/PhoenixFreeSpirited Jun 04 '26
I'm with you through and through, including loving sleep myself lol. I let my boy set his own rhythm. It's insane to force it on them and feels like its only about control. He's 14 months now, happy, healthy, 8 months ahead in milestones, and normally a super sweetheart. I regret nothing ♡.
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u/AngryPrincessWarrior Jun 04 '26
Haha it feels wrong until you aren’t sleeping at night. (If it applies to your kid). At 11 weeks you’re still a month or more out from trying to push a schedule anyways, you’re in survival mode. You shouldn’t be remotely thinking about this yet, they’re too young for sleep training.
I only did it once my son was closer to 18 months-2 though, and only because we could see the difference for ourselves. Mostly listen to your baby.
We cap at 2 hours, unless he’s fighting something and then it’s as much as he wants. If it goes over that bedtime SUCKS for all involved or he’s up and down all night.
We cap the nap? Happy wind down and he snuggles down in his blanket and is out-for the entire night 8PM-7AM.
We rarely need to though, kid is a watch. He’s usually stretching and waking up on his own right at the 2 hour mark, sometimes 90 minutes.
But that’s MY kid. Yours will be different. Trust your instincts and go with the flow of your own kid.
I cannot stress “trust your instincts” enough. You have them and they’re usually right. Trust them.
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u/Baberaham_Lincoln6 Jun 04 '26
I never have. At home our 2 year old naps 3 hours during the day regularly and still sleeps 12 hours overnight.
At daycare he naps like 1.5-2 hours and still sleeps 12 hours overnight.
Every baby is different and if yours is doing well now, don't change it because an app says so
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u/Sweetshopavengerz Jun 04 '26
I would have loved a kid that napped at that age. My daughter (now 6) gave up naps at just turned 2; she clearly has low sleep needs as she refuses ro sleep until almost 9 now, and wakes up at 6.30 full of beans!
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u/Baberaham_Lincoln6 Jun 04 '26
It's a blessing and a curse. Like my friend (who has two kids) invited us to something that started at 4pm and we were going to be about an hour out of town that day.
So I was like "we'll have to see with Gideons nap" and she goes "oh my kids would just nap in the car"
Okay girl like same but the drive is only an hour and he needs at least twice that. So either we have to pack up and leave camping by 11 to get home for him to nap by noon at home, or we'd have to hope he wakes up early so we can pack up and get home before 4pm. It really takes up a lot of your day lol
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u/Any-Race258 Jun 04 '26
We always let out baby sleep when she wanted to. She's been a wonderful sleeper from 8 weeks. The only time when sheay struggle more is she's had a sneaky danger nap too late in the day, which can happen exceptionally. I think it's too harsh to have a strict schedule. A routine? Absolutely. But being too rigid will likely only result in frustration for all parties involved.
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u/Plus-Nectarine1893 Jun 04 '26
I’ve never woken my 11 month old from a nap except to go to a doctor’s appointment. He has always slept great at night since 3 months. I’ve always just listened to my child and what he needed. Most days we have a 2 hour nap in the morning with maybe a hour nap in the afternoon, some days if he missed the afternoon nap the day before because he wanted to play or wasn’t tired he might take a 3 hour nap in the morning the next day. Don’t worry about capping naps, let that baby sleep. It’s so important especially now.
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u/DumbbellDiva92 Jun 04 '26
“There must be a science behind it I’m not aware of”.
There’s…really not? In fact, a lot of these social media baby sleep rules actively defy the scientific research. For example, a lot of these sleep consultants will tell you that an older baby who sleeps 7:30-5:30 is waking up so early bc of “over-tiredness”, and to put them to bed even earlier. Meanwhile, the average overnight sleep time from studies is closer to 10 hours than 11-12, and this will likely make it worse if you want them to sleep later!