Hey everyone!
I’m a 25-year-old woman, 62 kg and 164 cm tall. I recently joined a gym and would love some advice from women who’ve been in a similar situation.
I’m slowly getting comfortable with leg workouts and cardio, and I can manage those without much support. However, I’m struggling a LOT with upper body workouts.
My form is often incorrect, and even lifting 10 kg feels really difficult for some exercises. It gets a little disappointing when I compare that with my leg workouts. For context, I can leg press 50 kg, but upper body exercises feel like a completely different story.
I also have a wedding coming up in January, so I’d love to look more toned and feel confident in my outfits by then. I understand that it takes time, and I’m not expecting drastic changes overnight. I just want to make the most of the next few months and build a sustainable routine.
I have a few questions:
1. What does your weekly workout routine look like?
2. How do you split upper body, lower body and cardio?
3. How did you learn the correct form, especially for upper body exercises?
4. Should I reduce the weights significantly and focus on form first, even if it means lifting just 2–5 kg?
5. Would you recommend hiring a personal trainer (PT), even just for a month to learn the basics? Or is it 6. possible to learn everything on my own?
What should I focus on to look more toned by January — strength training, cardio, diet, or a combination of everything?
7. Any tips for building upper body strength without feeling overwhelmed?
I’d especially love to hear from women who started out as beginners and gradually became confident working out independently. Please share your routines, what worked for you, and any mistakes I should avoid!
TL;DR: 25F, 62 kg, 164 cm, recently joined the gym. Legs and cardio are manageable, but upper body workouts, form and even 10 kg weights are challenging. I have a wedding in January and want to look more toned by then. Should I hire a PT to learn proper form, and what workout routine would you recommend for a beginner?