The title is EXACTLY what you're expecting.
Have a student who seems to think that life is a joke without even realizing he's making himself a slow building punchline. This kid has flat out BRAGGED about going to Juvie 5 times and finding it funny how "yeah haha they got tired of me and let me go!" (he isn't even 16 yet btw)
A few of the common issues we have with him:
Making sexual sounds/comments in classes and public areas around other students. A BONUS for this being how he talks about female students and teachers teeter tottering between "damn she a bad taaaang~" and "Bruh all women be the same dawg..."
Caught him writing a slur on one of the whiteboards and erasing it right as I was calling him out on it. Same thing with his music. You can listen to whatever you want off school campus but I should not be seeing multiple slurs and descriptions of intercourse on your school purchased laptop. (Don't know if he found some kind of way around the security we have on them or if he just flat out doesn't care.)
Destruction of a bathroom (You can guess how bad it was.)
Being an obvious bad influence on other students and getting normally great kids into trouble.
Unacceptable dress. His pants are always falling off to where staff and students can see his underwear. He HAS a belt and just refuses to tighten it, even when teachers have LITERALLY made him stand in front of them while they pull them up and adjust them they'll be sagging nearly off of his hips again by the next class.
When getting punishment (Typically confined to the office and taken off of any reward or fun events for the rest of the school) laughing at the situation or sleeping through it seeming unphased no matter how many times it happens or what gets taken away.
Myself and almost EVERY other teacher has reported, documented and giving complaints to our principal but it always comes back to "he's had a rough home life, he's doing SO much better than last year, where ELSE is he gonna go?" essentially telling us all 'feel bad for him and let it go.' I DO feel bad.
I recognize that the attitude of someone who doesn't care often comes from a place of either already thinking you have nothing left to lose or believing you have nothing you could potentially gain from your efforts. (Certainly had a moment or two like that with depression growing up before I got a diagnosis.)
You have my prayers and compassion for whatever you have gone through or are going through. If you've had a rough life than you have my empathy but NOT my pass.
What makes it even more painful is that I've had genuinely GOOD moments with this kid! He's the FURTHEST ahead in my online class with the best grade showing just how smart he truly is and how when applying himself he can accomplish genuinely PHENOMENAL work and achievements!
He's also extremely athletic and can run circles around almost every kid on the field in my PE class.
In my STEAM class (Science, technology, engineering, art, math) We're disassembling and rebuilding our own life sized Mario Kart! While in the process of taking it apart, this student would catch any spiders that would come out of the old equipment and be gentle and kind with them, murmuring that they were safe and cradling them until he could place them in a bush outside. The level of compassion was genuinely astounding to me coming from a kid who LAUGHED when another student had to take time off of school due to severe family drama.
So then it just leaves me wondering; what DOES this kid actually care about?
Is there any consequence that will ACTUALLY effect him or make him think about his actions or is this just a 'he'll learn the hard way/realize he isn't as cool as he thinks he is when prison keeps him as an adult' situation?
I know that life just HAS some people like this but aside from it just being hard to watch, I want to GENUINELY know as a teacher that I've done everything I can to guide him on the right path.
I know it's not my job to fix someone either, but it IS my job to lead within the guidelines/slight enabling of my boss.
Thanks for reading!