Kept my word ✅💜

i've noticed that a lot of content is made for transfems, by transfems, and while i absolutely don't have a problem with this (and support it, of course), it's been really difficult to find other trans men.

i've tried looking for transmasc-centered spaces, but the gap between transfem vs transmasc communities is huge, and it's been much more significantly difficult. on top of this, if i do find a transmasc space that looks good, there's this underlying feeling of toxic masculinity just to ''blend in''.

i've also been feeling this cultural divide of sorts, since a lot of the trans people i see in general are white. because of this, i merely feel like a peering spectator who's grasping for any sort of resonation.

I used to be part of a trans sub meant only for black people, but it got archived by the owner a while back so I left

ever since then, I haven't really tried looking for other servers because in my experience, most trans subs on the English side of the Internet are very white. I tried staying in the server for a while but I just couldn't really relate to anyone there. people would actually be shocked when I mentioned I'm black

so now I would like to know if there is a discord server for trans men of colour. if not, would anyone be willing to create one?

It feels impossible to pass with non-eurocentric features…

Every.single.white.person. EVERY SINGLE ONE. Has always told me to shave my head or cut my hair short. Every single POC has complimented my hair yet every HwiteTM person I meet or would slide into my DMs just to tell me I should get rid of my hair. Why do you hate my hair? Why does it bother you? Why do I need to be bald???

Looked good today 💅🏽✨ planing to do green and purple next.

I got a good education, I got a good job, I wore straight wigs to work, I learned how to play office politics, I lost a bunch of weight and went high femme, I made myself helpful and agreeable and blah, blah, blah.

And now I'm almost two years on T, and I don't care anymore. I'm tired of having to make money, of my stupid transphobic doctors, about worrying if my job/friends/family/community support accept me, of the racism, of the classism, of everything. These were all problems pre-transition but now it's worse. I don't want to detransition. I just want a part-time job with fair wages so I can focus o. making my art. I'm exhausted.

As far as I know, I've never dealt with any racial prejudice while shopping. Being 5'1 makes me unassuming as heck, or so I always thought. I also live in a predominatly working class POC heavy part of my city.

But, recently, someone I knew teasingly said I must get profiled in stores. The people keep an eye on me even if I don't notice.

I'm on T but don't pass as a man or even a teen boy. My voice has barely broke and I can't grow actual facial hair. But, I do have long locs. I'm part-black and latino.

I laughed the comment off, but it bugged me.

I've been trying to simplify my wardrobe so I buy monochrome colors. Mainly black and grey, rarely white (it's just too easy to dirty up). I wear a lot of baggy clothes, joggers, sweatpants, and dysphoria hoodies. I always worry in the back of my head about respectability politics, but comfort is my main factor. I can't care if random aunties on the street profile me. As long as my clothes are clean and look good, who cares?

Feeling beautiful this morning.

Obviously it‘s working in my favor, I just find the thought interesting and wanted to share. I‘m guessing it‘s because when you don‘t have Eurocentric facial features, you are more likely to be perceived as less feminine. Now this isn‘t always the case and i‘m guessing it heavily depends on your ethnicity as a poc! My roots come from Western Asia, I’m guessing it could be different for someone with other roots.

I feel like that‘s one of many reasons why my family struggled to believe me / see me as a male, because their idea of femininity differed. Meanwhile at the same time, others couldn’t imagine me being something other than male. (Obviously my perception may be false. Especially since transphobia and unaccepting parents don’t have to do with the way you look).

I don‘t think it‘s the only reason, since I pass in front of poc people now. However even before I cut my hair short, I had white people call me he/him.

Lula won the elections in Brasil guys!!!

Of course the Senate is a mess! But my God. This relieves me. I was desperate to change my documents and I was feeling really bad the last few weeks, but now I can breathe.

It feels like being trans has placed another layer of disconnect between me and my culture. Has anyone else felt like this? Is there any way of overcoming this?

I'm an Australian-born Chinese guy, and my parents are both first-generation Chinese immigrants. My first language was Mandarin, but outside of my immediate family, I lack any real connection to Chinese (Teochew) culture in Australia. I'm scared that as I grow up, my trans-ness will prevent me from ever truly reconnecting with my cultural heritage. It doesn't help that most of the trans communities online are incredibly westernised, so I never see people like myself anyway...

I realise I've become more and more disconnected from my culture as I've grown up. My Mandarin is horrendous now; I can't even form a full sentence without throwing in an English word. Every subsequent trip back to visit my hometown, I feel more and more like an outsider, looking in.

Regarding being trans... I've tried coming out to my parents, twice, (in Mandarin, too!) which went horribly: denial of my experiences to my face, silent treatment for a week, and then going on pretending like nothing had happened, like I'm still their daughter. I don't blame them for their lack of awareness, but I blame them for never truly acknowledging what I've told them. I've been binding, I've cut my hair, my friends use my name and pronouns in front of them, but they just don't acknowledge it.

I'm lucky enough to be going on a 2-month family trip to my hometown at the end of this year. I guess I'm just scared this trip will feel like saying goodbye to my heritage. Of course, I'll still be closeted, but that's exactly the thing: none of my experiences will feel authentic.

Next year I'll be 18, and I plan to get on T as soon as possible. I have no idea how this will change my dynamic with my parents, and my relationship with my extended family is threadbare enough as it is.

I hope this came out sort of coherently. I don't really know what I'm expecting out of this post, maybe just finding commonality in shared trans POC experiences?

^{I guess what I'm trying to get at is that I'm really grateful this subreddit exists :'-})

(CW Transphobia/allegations of pedohilia towards trans people). I'm transmasc, about 18 months on T.)

Hey all. I'm a tutor. I've been working with kids my whole life. Used to be a speech therapist and I worked with kids of all ages. I've always wanted to adopt.

My mother told me that my father's best friend saw a status I made on WhatsApp for a group class I hold at my home. Part of the deal is that the learners can use the swimming pool after the lesson. I tutor seniors in the local area and have been doing since for four years at the end of their school year every time.

So the best friend told my dad that mentioning the swimming pool meant I "wanted to see children half naked". I am blind with rage. I've worked in NICUs and held dying babies. I had a miscarriage and my sister is naming her soon-to-be child the same name. I specialised in working with neurodivergent kids. I would die for children. They are the reason I get up everyday, they're the reason the world feels less shit to me.

Please stop me from calling him. Please stop me from falling for the bait. I am so tired of everyone somehow finding ways to pull me back into their rhetoric. This man is a pussy, but also a white MAGA member and the most disgusting kind, since we're not even in the US. He's a white supremacist and has said as much.

Please, someone stop me. I'm so angry I'm shaking and crying. I was afraid of this very thing happening as a trans man in an educational field. It's the one thing that they know would hurt me. I could call him and confront him on this, but what would it achieve?

Hello. I'm not entirely sure how to phrase this, so please hear me out. Do any of you struggle to identify with your masculinity in a "healthy" way due to your cultural standards? And, how do you grapple with that?

I'm a ftm person who is Salvadoran-American. I lived a couple years in El Salvador and have lived most of the rest of my life over in the US. However, my parents are both Salvadoran and I've gotten a... somewhat emotionally harsh upbringing, to say the least. Coming from a heavily religious + conservative little country plagued by war, poverty, and corruption, it's unfortunately unsurprising to note that my parents have backwards views on mental health, and gender roles/norms.

Living in this house, despite being born female, has been tough, and I've known that being born male would've been even worse for me. I know right now that pushing more on me being ftm will make my home situation worse. But I am a man, regardless. However, I know that both parents look down on me for being emotional and trying to take my mental health seriously, and doubly (if not more) so when claiming to be a man.

When Salvadoran society is so entrenched with sexism and poor mental health conditions, I know a lot of what's pushed in the culture is unhealthy. But at the same time, it feels like I'm failing to live up to it, in a sense? (Or even erasing my culture, in some messed up way...???) I guess the insecurity is supposed to be what propels me forward, but I don't want to be a man like that. That's, like, the epitome of toxic masculinity. But I wonder if a man like me would be well respected over there? But I know if he isn't, that's not his fault, but of the people around him, so... I dunno. I just feel a little lost on this. I know it's probably internalized transphobia and sexism from my parents going off at me endlessly for who I am, so if anyone could offer their own perspectives it would be great. Thank you.

Almost 6 months ago, I realized that I may be trans masc, Non - Binary person and I came out to my mom and my friends. And it went well.

But I was thinking while I was doing something today, that maybe I'm mistakening everything that I may just be cisgender woman because I realized I was comfortable being a woman when I was younger, up to my college years. It only wasn't till few years ago I watched trans masc content in the internet, but I still thought I was cisgender woman despite being exposed to the trans community. Only after having some bad relationship with this man, did I wanted to cut my hair really short for first time, and I really liked presenting myself masculine.

But from there, It went down weird and I begin to not like my female body anymore and feel more masculine. I don't feel masculine 100 percent all the time. It fluctuates [this is why I think I'm also genderfluid as well.] but I just wonder,

Is it necessary that I need to have a gender - related dysphoria from the early age to be trans?

When I was fine being a cisgender woman for rest of my life till now? [I mean I did not LOVE my body but I was okay with it]

Dysphoria has been hitting me pretty hard lately. I was planning on waiting for winter break (mid December to late January) to go on T because I figured that would be more financially responsible— it’s so close to the end of the year, and insurance and deductibles and all that would probably have me spending less money if I just wait for it all to reset— but I’m honestly starting to consider just biting the bullet. I would be doing it through planned parenthood, so I’m pretty sure my insurance wouldn’t cover *everything*, but enough that I can do it out of pocket without my mom knowing lol.

I guess I’m asking: is it really worth it do get ahead of this for like.. 2 months? Or should I just tough it out? Or is there like… a secret third option I’m unaware of? If that makes sense.

My hair pre-T used to be straight then fluffy then wavy on T then it just got curlier from there!

Dude, is anyone else in the subreddit FTM_selfies? It’s kinda like that other subreddit with trans men, where they absolutely DOG on you if you’re a minority, plus size, and disabled. I just came across a post of this handsome guy doing a photo shoot, and they’re downvoting his post like a mf (and the supportive comments). Why are predominantly white subreddits like that?

One thing that has made me feel better is hearing from you guys because I know that I'm not struggling alone and I'm super thankful for online spaces like this, and I watched some fun new movies and shows. What's brought you guys joy this week?