r/Miami • u/biggesthoss • 6h ago
Discussion Dating in Miami- Men and Women both, feel free to contribute
Now I have lived in the mid west before for about 10 years but have lived much longer in Miami.
Living in the Midwest made me realize that if the average person is friendly, the entire city is a much better place to live in, which was a stark difference from Miami.
I say that to ask this. When it comes to dating and let’s say there was a bad communication issue or a situation where there is a minor annoyance or disrespect which may be indirectly.
you have the option to give the person reasonable doubt, always in both cities. But where should you be less forgiving about it and where should you be more forgiving about it?
In the Midwest I felt pretty comfortable with it because where I was living was the friendliest people I’d ever been around in general (this is still a large city, not a small town). So I feel like giving them a second or even a third chance depending on the severity of what has happened, is less risky when the average person is nicer then they are in Miami.
I have by default been giving people the benefit of the doubt in Miami but after experiences throughout my life I wonder if I should be much stricter BECAUSE of the quality of people in Miami being much lower.
Should I be playing this tighter as in if they communicate bad and you talk to them once about it and they do it again they’re out? Or if you just notice they communicate bad move on without even saying anything and then if they reach out tell them hey the way you communicate it’s just not for me.
It does mean you will burn through people quicker in general, a lot quicker. But what I’m wondering is does that mean you’ll get to the quality person faster than giving people more then the benefit of the doubt?
I only question this because it’s been my default, to be kind and optimistic but I’m beginning to think it’s not a good idea in Miami. It feels like it’s not as good an idea as it is in Denver.
What do you all Miamians out there think? I want to hear from both women and men.