I need some advice and help

[u/Revy_s]

I am friends with a girl, and honestly it started okay as a new server member, we shared interests on studying and coding, and we were talking and interracing. At some point it seems like she gets ignored, after she was less active as usual. I figured out that she had problems in her life based on only that, i went in her DM and told her my thoughts and i just said that if you want, you can tell me what happened and I'll just listen, she said that was nice of me and i told her that i am serious, and then she opened up to me and said everything, i kind of relate to her after i heard everything and we talked it out, she just started her second year in university and she's exhausted from people and life in general, at the same time she's a leader of a club so she is expected to look strong and stuff. I gave her some tips that i think it will reduce her stress but i still want to help her. I shared my face reveal with her and after we talk even more on weekend, also i keep reminding her that I am here whenever you feel like telling me something, she also said that she didn't want to drag me in her life because she was scared that I might be broken after that, but i insisted that I will stay on her side and from the looks of it she liked that. On school day she's busy and exhausted as usual, sometimes she doesn't have energy to talk. I relate to her very much because I am introvert, very very introvert and I don't like socialising. In this process i feel some connection from me to her, and i don't know if I should call it love or not, but what I can say is that I have the savior complex. The concept of dating didn't occur to me because I oppose to it (relationships tend to end badly) I have bever been in a relationship and I intend to stay friends. I don't really know how to comfort her and I don't want to let go of her because I want to help her.

[u/CarelesslyPerpetual]

Man when you said savior complex you meant it. Going into someone's DMs because you noticed they were less active and deciding they must have deep life problems is a lot. And now you're worried about how to fix her whole situation when she's just a busy college student doing normal busy college student things

You already did the good part. You offered an ear and she took it. That's where your job ends unless she asks for more. The constant reminders that you're here for her start to sound like you're waiting for her to break again and that gets weird

The fact you're even asking if this is love when you've said you oppose relationships is kind of telling. Might want to sit with that