i have quite the collection of sa experiences and some which i have dissociated from and/or dont remember. theyve recently started coming back to me in the form of emotional flashbacks or some visions in nightmares etc

my body kinda trembles and shakes during those episodes however i am not sure what they exactly symbolize. it might be my body reliving the experience, while releasing the pain of the past. at least thats what it feels like, i think

now whats weird (and has been very fun at the same time for me and my bf) is that the past week, after those episodes, i have been abnormally horny (like ik i get horny horny but this is like horny^100) and i literally can’t stop being feral asf.

is it normal for my body to feel like this after experiencing flashbacks?

i’m really anxious and need some advice. i’ve attached my flo calendar showing my period dates, predicted ovulation, and the days i had unprotected sex (marked with hearts).
my last period started on september 30, and flo predicted ovulation around october 10, with my fertile window being october 6–12. i had unprotected sex on several dates, but my partner never ejaculated inside me.
on october 13, he ejaculated on my butt cheek, and i felt semen running downwards. i panicked and touched the area with my finger, but i don’t know if any semen reached my vaginal opening.
i took an ultrasensitive pregnancy test 13 days later, and it was negative. today is october 27, and my period still hasn’t started. flo keeps saying “your period may start today” instead of marking it as late, and i don’t know what to think.
my breasts feel swollen and sore, i have lower back pain that feels different from my usual pms, and i’ve been nauseous and extremely anxious. i can’t tell if these are pms symptoms or if my anxiety is making everything worse.
could i have tested too early? when should i test again to get a reliable result? i’m really scared and would appreciate any advice.

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Hi everyone 👋
I’ve been dealing with some forcyde spots somewhat near my vaginal opening for a couple of weeks and it’s been pretty frustrating.
They’re not painful, just a bit tender if I push on the area.

I’ve been using Hibiclens soap once daily and a very small dab of Eucerin eczema cream every once in a while with no improvement. They are the same size, if not slightly bigger.

I’ve been considering putting a PanOxyl Hydrocolloid (pimple) patch on the biggest one that’s bothering me the most but I worry that’s a horrible idea and may make things worse. I’ve also considered getting a skin tag removal kit and trying that? I don’t have insurance nor do I have a lot of money to get them frozen or lasered off so I’m looking for some home remedies that may have worked for others.

Any and all help is appreciated!

Hi, so a few days ago I was kinda itchy down there and checked and realized my skin is white. Especially the labia majora but everything except the inside of my vagina is either completely withe or super light pink. I know for s fact that it wasn't like that before. About the itchiness, it's just on the labia majora and it isn't suuuuper itchy, just a little, could be because of some tight pants I've been wearing to work. I also add there are no weird skin patches o anything odd in texture, just color

DISCLAIMER: I am not a health care professional. I am not giving any medical advice. This is what worked for my body.

During May-July I was getting yeast infections back to back. Fortunately I knew what the cause was (my sexual partner at the time.) I tried lots of things to prevent them before they started.
- encouraging him to wash before I came over
-showers after being with him
-stopped wearing underwear completely
-making sure I was always dry after peeing
-washing sheets & nighttime wear every 3 days

there was a few more like adjusting my diet and other things but I would always get a yeast infection after being with him. I decided I was done going to the clinic and was going to do something at home.

I bought boric acid and organic apple cider vinegar.
I tried the boric acid pill first and the next day my
symptoms were almost all gone, the next day everything was cleared. Didn’t need the apple cider vinegar

Last week Friday, I got a yeast infection, how? not sure. I tried the boric acid pill again, did it at night then saturday night I checked to see if things were looking better, nope. Saturday night, took another boric acid. I decided to try to apple cider vinegar bath Sunday morning before my busy day. I didn’t measure just poured with my heart, sat in there for about 10-15 minutes because I was in a rush and ended up taking a shower (some say it’s better to let the diluted acv sit on your skin & recommend to sit for 15-25 minutes.) Something else, I was washing vagina/shower when I woke up and before I went to bed while always making sure I was dry. Honestly Monday I cba to even check, just washed up morning and night and went on about my life crossing my fingers everything was okay. I check today, everything is back to normal and I’m just really happy especially since Halloween is coming up.

I think the acv bath really did the trick for me, even though boric acid is a huge factor as well. I also did not wear underwear at all even with the discharge,yes call me crazy. It was a bit weird sometimes because the discharge is very very liquidly but I wanted my vagina to breathe as much as possible. I changed my sheets and washed my nighttime clothes as well.

My boyfriend (20m) and I (20f) were playing around, and at some point penetration happened for a few seconds which I realised and pulled away since he wasn’t wearing a protection.

so say his dick went inside me for a few seconds maybe 10 but he didn't come at all inside me, we grinded but his dick was just rubbing on my vaginal opening and clit and went in for only 10 seconds. no protection was used. given that my last period was on 7th and im in my luteal, is there a chance for me to get pregnant?

My cycle for the past few months is: my body ovulates at perfect time. so my period in June was on 21st to 26th, then 18th to 22nd July, 14th to 19th August, 10th to 14th September, 7th to 10th October. So I'm currently 6 days into my luteal phase.

I simply cannot do pads anymore after this event. I usually wear tampons when I’m out and about and period underwear when I’m home, but my two pairs unfortunately ripped. I was sitting on the patio on the day after my period technically ended, but I was playing it safe. I felt something irritating me between my thighs, sliding down my leg. I have very thick thighs, and I wiggled on the sidewalk by my porch. It was late at night and I was heading to my car to grab something before heading to bed. So I wiggle and loosen whatever is irritating me. I honestly thought it was a stick or paper towel or something. I was honestly so dry I didn’t even remember I had a pad in. Anyways. I have work early in the morning, so I headed to work at 4am, pad unseen. I get back at 11am absolutely mortified to see my pad on the sidewalk tangled and squished into a tube, lying right by my porch.

I’ve made this decision after years of my pads ending up across the room the next day. But this takes it to a new level.

That’s all.

Hi,

I hope you are all doing well.

I am hoping you might be able to offer some insight into a difficult situation I have been experiencing for several months.

I am a 28-year-old woman living in France. Before all of this started, I had never experienced this kind of persistent vaginal pain.

My problems began several months ago, when I was treated with metronidazole for a suspected vaginal bacterial imbalance. Shortly after the treatment, I started experiencing burning sensations deep inside my vagina. I was prescribed metronidazole a second time, and my symptoms seemed to become even worse afterward.

Since then, I have been experiencing persistent internal vaginal burning for approximately four months. The burning can sometimes occur even when I am resting, but it becomes significantly worse during and especially after sexual intercourse. Sometimes, the pain continues for several days afterward.

Over the past few months, I have consulted several gynecologists and undergone multiple vaginal tests. Some tests identified bacteria such as Mobiluncus and Ureaplasma parvum. I have also received different antibiotic and antifungal treatments, including doxycycline and econazole, but unfortunately, the burning has never disappeared.

I have tried several products intended to restore or soothe the vaginal environment, including vaginal probiotics, moisturizing treatments, and lactic acid-based products. Some soothing treatments have provided temporary relief, but nothing has resolved the underlying problem.

What concerns me the most is that these symptoms started after antibiotic treatment, and I wonder whether my vaginal microbiome or vaginal mucosa may have been significantly disrupted.

Despite seeing several gynecologists, I still have no clear explanation for my persistent pain, and I feel that the possibility of a microbiome-related problem has not been thoroughly investigated.

This situation has had a significant impact on my daily life, my intimate relationship, and my emotional well-being.

I would be extremely grateful to hear your professional perspective.

In particular, I would like to know whether a significant disruption of the vaginal microbiome following antibiotic treatment could potentially contribute to persistent vaginal burning, even several months later.

Are there any specific microbiome analyses, diagnostic approaches, or research-based treatments that you believe might be worth discussing with a healthcare professional?

I understand that you may not be able to provide individual medical advice, but even a few suggestions or references to relevant research would mean a great deal to me.

Thank you very much for taking the time to read my message.

Kind regards Allison

Like the title says. I used a suppository for my yeast infection the day before yesterday and today I got a lot of dark discharge. It’s a light brown color. Is this normal? My period is 8 days away but I don’t usually start getting spotting until 2 days before. Could the suppository start my period early?

Hello to all that have vulvas to wash. I've been having the worst time with vulvar irritation. My skin around my labia has become so dry and sensitive and I'm not sure what to do. Yeast and other infections have been ruled out so I'm thinking it is just a matter of skin irritation. It's so bad that my go to Dove Sensitive seems to even dry and irritate things further. I have been working out more regularly and new work uniform pants are not as moisture wicking as I would like. Sweat and friction seem to be causing the irritation and then my skin becomes chaffed and try. Currently, I'm using La Roche Posay Cicloplast 1-2 times a day as a barrier and moisturizer but I'm up for any suggestions on how to get things healed and supple again. I'm considering ditching soap completely and just washing/rinsing with plain lukewarm water. I also keep seeing suggestions for using coconut oil.

For those that only use water, do you smell and feel clean enough after? TMI, I also am very pro pubic hair so take that into consideration too as far as possibly holding onto sweat and odor.

Love and appreciate any feedback or personal experiences.

Hi guys, so I’m currently in full panic mode. Before I even start, YES, I have already scheduled an appointment with an OBGYN to get tested for everything under the sun. I have been having unprotected sex with my boyfriend, and I’ve noticed that I get yeast infections sometimes after sex. I did end up getting what I felt what a yeast infection again due to the thick white discharge and itching recently but this time, these small bumps appeared and now I’m panicking. I had been scratching myself really hard because it was definitely itching really baldy. I used Monistat when I first felt like I had the yeast infection to help with the itching. After about 2-3 days of using the Monistat I no longer feel any irritation or itching at all. I clean daily and have been drinking plenty of water. I’ll try and upload some photos too (I’m still trying to figure out how to do it without getting it taken down by the mods). Has anyone experienced this before?

Again, I am scheduled to visit an OBGYN. Also, just in case it’s important, he doesn’t finish inside of me or anything. I just felt like maybe he was throwing off my PH balance. I’m praying that it’s nothing serious but I’m really panicking and have been internet giving for dayssss and only scaring myself more. My appointment isn’t until next week so I have too much time on my hands.

Botched labiaplasty 18 years ago

My life has been like living in a nightmare since a doctor amputated my labia and stole my sensation from me as a 15 year old child.

As a teenager I thought I needed fixing, no one taught me that women were all different shapes down there. Thought I needed surgery to be loved.

Now I can never ever know the feeling of connecting with someone sexually without trauma and pain. I had so much pleasurable sensation before the op. That loss and the ability to feel whole as a woman is unmeasurable grief. My vulva isn't my own.

There is no fix as they amputated me completely. Living with the loss is unbearable.

Now my body is broken and all I feel is numbness or pain there. It's taken my lust for life as a whole, life feels meaningless without desire and the drive that makes us human. Am like a zombie.

Life is driven by sex and creation. I'm a shell of a person.

I love my family and friends but it's exhausting living for other people when I am in a mental hell every day.

Hello, all!

Just a bit of a warning, my post is going to be a bit about everything, so I apologize if it feels everywhere. I'll try to bullet point my main questions. You don't need to answer them all.

I'm 30 F and have been a chubby/fat girl all my life. Yes, all my life. Never been skinny, never had an inkling of a skinny phase, just been straight up fat. I had never been given hygiene tips growing up and I don't know if it was because my mom was uncomfortable or to her (cause I know how she is), hygiene should come as common sense and naturally to me.

Growing up, probably past my first period, I noticed I began to develop a smell down there. I washed as good as I thought I did, but sometimes the smell lingered and I'd get embarassed because I could literally smell it on myself. Around middle school - early high school, I began to notice that I'd have urine stains throughout the day on my underwear. So, I began to wear panty liners. Which I did suspect it's because of my weight.

I also began to explore myself down there and noticed that my external labia is fat. Like, huge? It covers the entirety of my inner labia, clit, urethra and my vagina. Just a slit from top down to my crack. One lip is longer than the other, it's dark down there and honestly, I was pretty disgusted with it for a long time. Of course, at the same time, I had been watching porn and seeing such pristine, picture perfect hooha's made me WILDLY insecure. In retrospect, as an adult, I realize how phony most of them were but I guess, seeing that as a young teen really messed with my view of my own body.

While in this exploration phase, I noticed that my inner labia, clit and urethra regions seems to be sensitive to the touch. Ultra sensitive. In "inspecting" myself deeper, I noticed white, hard bits clinging beneath the hood of my clit. After much research, have come to find that it's smegma and it SMELLS. I remember being so relieved that now I knew where the smell was coming from (aside from the sweat that naturally occurs around the folds and maybe even the slow leak of urine on top of that). But trying to pull everything back, including the hood feels kind of painful. Again, sensitive. I don't know how often these bits of smegma form and honestly, it's annoying that I have to keep finding time in my days to sit down and dig for buried treasure.

Because of this smelly nuisance, I never done anything sexual with anyone. The thought of sex and oral pleasure actually makes me so horrified and devastated, I just never approached anyone. In fact, the thought of other people seeing my hooha actually puts me into a state of severe panic. On top of that, I had NEVER visited a gyno ever, up until recently.

I did actually see them a month ago for abnormal bleeding causing anemia and they wanted to do a transvaginal ultrasound and a pap smear in the same day (for a seperate appointment date). I said no. A hard no. But for some reason, my Gyno kept slyly and soft pressuring me into doing it but I got annoyed and stood firm in not wanting a pap smear. I knew the risks. I know. As for the ultrasound, I asked for an abdominal but because I'm overweight, they said it might not be effective. I even told them that I'd be willing to pay for an pelvic MRI instead, but they ignored(?) me.

I am in the process of switching my care over because I truly did feel uncomfortable during my first ever gyno appointment. Also, I told them I had never had any sexual activity with anyone and they seemed to have not believed me??? I actually had a pcp a few years back scoff and laugh at the fact that I never had sex.

But, I digress.

Most of what I learned on my own has been through forums, youtube and reddit all throughput my life. I feel like I'm not doing enough and honestly, I've gone the stages of grief that I know I'll never allow anyone to see my hooha but me and even I'm repulsed by it.

Here are my questions:

1. How are you cleaning the clitoral/hood region if it's so sensitive it hurts?

2. Are most gynocologists this pushy or did I just land on a bad one?

3. What are the best soaps for the external regions? Unscented soap? Soap at all?

4. Are you guys cleaning the inner labia parts with soap or just water?

5. Is darkness down there truly normal? I'm fair skinned, so it makes me feel like I'm dirty or something.

6. Do wipes help throughout the day?

7. How do you deal with incontienence issues?

8. What is the best hair trimmer that's knickless and for sensitive skin?

I know, it's a lot. But I'd rather ask all my fellow hooha's on than continue to just do nothing about it. Again, no need to answer every question. If one question stands out to you, that's more than enough for me.

Thank you all so much! 🩷

For context my bf and i are in an ldr situation, yesterday we decided to celebrate our monthsary on an airbnb and ofc we did the deed, he accidentally came inside me but it was the last tiny bit. I was 4 days away from my period and i felt really dry during our intercourse.

I monitor my cycle by using flo and based from it i was supposed to ovulate 11 days ago. Also, my cycle is normal around 25-28 days.

Would it still be possible that i could get pregnant from it?

Context: I completed 5 day treatment of metro gel(2 nights ago), then the next day I did the vagibiom probiotic suppository(yesterday), and have also been taking azo mini chews everyday.

1- I know that it’s common to get yeast infection after, at the moment I have no symptoms of that. If I was to get a yeast infection would it be by now or can it come days after?

2- During metrogel treatment I had the common white clumpy discharge, but not an excessive amount. The last day I have been off it I have had little to no discharge. How long until it all flushes out? I know you have to wait 7 days to have sex, so since i haven’t had much discharge I’m paranoid that white clumpy discharge will still be in there after the 7 days then come out during sex… would they be any way to “clean it out” I guess?

3- I know you can’t have penetrative sex for the 7 days, would it be safe to do external touching prior to the 7 days? Like 3 days after last treatment?

Hello everyone. I'm 26 (no pregnancies, not on birth control) and never before had any issues regarding my menstrual cycle. No abnormal menstrual pains, never skipped a period, didn't even feel when it'd be ovulation time, also no history of any other type of infections/stds etc.

However 3 months ago I've felt this strong pain in lower right side of the abdomen..since it didn't go away all night I went to the ER the next day thinking maybe it's apendicitis (it wasn't). Long story short the pain lasted about 24 hours then stopped. Only later did I realise it was ovulation day.

Okay I thought, maybe it's a one time thing, whatever...but for the rest of that month I would still feel slighty sore in my right ovary.
Now it has been 3 months, ovulations are always way more painful (never as that first time though) that they should be, but the worst thing is that the pain is there before and after ovulation day (I feel as if my ovaries are sore - both sides). Now don't get me wrong, it's not paralysing or anything, but I shouldn't even feel my ovaries existing!? Let alone be uncofortable for so many days of the month..

I've been to the doctor, everything seems to be fine. She did the ultrasound, didn't see anything wrong with the ovaries, so she tells me "it CoUld Be endometriosis"🙄 or maybe I'm just "one of those women who have painful ovulations" (but this lasts for days and days??)

Idk what to do now, do I go to another doctor?
Anybody dealt with similar issues ?

Yesterday i got a positive test for a yeast infection i took the med for it, last night in my sleep i probably woke up 2-3 times to go pee and while awake this morning another two, i haven’t had that much liquid intake, could the medication be causing me to pee more? Or is there something going on

8 weeks ago I got a UTI, 5 days of Keflex later and I got a yeast infection. Used monistat for 7 days. 2 days after that, I got my period, 5 days into my period I noticed the burning/irritation/itching I had during my yeast infection was back. OB prescribed diflucan, did nothing. Went to urgent care- negative vaginitis panel and negative urine. Went back to OB- another negative vaginitis panel, rx’d diflucan. No improvement. Went back to OB again, another negative vaginitis panel. The OB has noted that the opening of my vagina is red, raw and inflamed. I have since tried Allegra, Zyrtec, Vaseline, Clobetasol, Lidocaine, aquaphor.
The lidocaine cuts the pain down but not by much. The Clobetasol is definitely not working.
The pain and itching flare up BAD every couple days but between those days it’s bearable. All my products are fragrance and allergy-free. Cotton underwear only.
This is affecting my mental health, my work, my marriage, every aspect of my life. I am at a loss. Why did this suddenly come up? What caused it? Anyone gone through something similar?

Basically I bought a dildo cause I wanted to go a step further from fingering but the issue is that I can only get it in when sitting and with my knees bent. And that’s literally the only way, I’ve tried trying to sit on it I can’t, lying on my back knees bent I can’t, sideways can’t, like literally nothing but sitting down on my butt with my knees bent.

And what I don’t understand is that it doesn’t hurt at all, it doesn’t feel tense or nothinggg when I’m sitting, like it literally slides in and out easily. Zero issue since the first time I tried it.

HOWEVER, as soon as I try to do anything else like laying down it’s impossible, like there’s a wall blocking and the pain is SHARP and horrible.

If anyone has any help I would be so thankful lol

For as long as I can remember I’ve had a REALLY bad odour down there. It’s a horrible musky smell but it can be strong to the point I can smell it when I’ve got clothes on.

I’m F29 this started in high school. I shower, good diet etc. I’ve been doctors more times than I can count, I’ve been tested for so much and always come back negative!

My partner has never said anything about it but if I can smell it I know he can.

I’ve had BV once but every other time nothing, after I shower the smell is gone for like an hour and starts coming back! I really hate it and and I don’t know what to do. The last time I spoke to a nurse she basically just said that could be my natural smell😭😭

hello everyone! i had potentially unprotected sex around 20 days ago and it was my first time. i took a morning after pill 6-8 hours after and got my period 10 days early. my period finished on the 18th, and i havent had any symptoms untill a few days ago.

my urine is a little cloudy, and i have burning around my vaginal opening, but not while i urinate. the burning is not persistent, it is there sometimes and i feel like it got better over the past few days. i suppose that this might be due to dryness or irritation. i **need any kind of advice on what you think this might be.**

also, if you are wondering how on earth i have no idea if the sex was unprotected, it was not consentual. i have no idea how on earth i made him use a condom at some point at all, and i have no idea if the penetration happened without it.

My period is 29 days late its pretty much been on time especially this whole year its had perfect timing. i did get very minimal blood in discharge for like one day but it wasn’t even enough for a liner or anything i also had some bleeding after sex. now on day 29 i have this thick creamy lotion consistency discharge (no smell) still no period either… whats wrong with me?!? im on the waitlist to see the obgyn that take my insurance close to me but idk how long that going to be. anyone else experience this?

Also ive taken a pregnancy test on day 14 and it was negative not to mention i don’t really have any pregnancy symptoms anyway

Any advice is appreciated

Just got my birth control taken out and I have started getting my first few periods after 4 years of not having them… although I used to be able to handle them before I hate tampons so I opt for pads, however… I also prefer to keep either a bush or a heart shaped shrub. However the pads keep trying to give me a wax so last night i just decided to go bald i couldn’t take it anymore it was constantly pulling at me. MY PUH LOOKS NAKED AND I HATE IT😭 all confidence flew out the window I have rough razor bumps and now I would literally have to wait 4ish weeks until I can even remotely get back to how healthy my skin in the area was. Now for my questions… HOW DO WE PREVENT ANY SORT OF RAZOR BURN DOWN THERE??? and secondly is there anything I can do to not get a wax every time I wear a pad???