I’m tired of seeing gay men diminished or demonized in conversations about gay liberation. These men faced criminalization, police brutality, and discrimination, and many fought courageously for the freedoms we enjoy today.

Stonewall was a collective uprising. Gay men, lesbians, people of color, and gender-nonconforming people all participated and deserve recognition. But there’s no definitive evidence that trans people started the uprising, or that any one person did.

Why can’t we celebrate everyone’s contributions without turning history into an identity competition? Gay men were revolutionaries, and their contributions deserve just as much recognition.
Let’s celebrate our history instead of rewriting it to serve today’s political narratives.

*Not multi-level marketing. Sorry, gay Amway Bros.

I quite like the colors. They're cooling, cohesive, masculine, and aquatic.

And when you compare it to the cacophony that the main rainbow flag has become, I'm not surprised that younger gay men seem to favor it. Thoughts?

El mundo gay tiene un problema ahora y es la falta de hombres competentes, hombres sin inseguridades, con inteligencia emocional, con ambición, astucia y liderazgo, pero sobre todo con valores, principios y una ética acorde a nuestra naturaleza como hombres gays que somos.

Hemos estado demasiado tiempo dormidos por culpa de la sociedad heteronormativa, que ya no vemos las problemáticas reales que estamos afrontando…

Una gran parte del los homosexuales ven el mundo desde la cosmovisión heteronormativa, sin siquiera saberlo, y mucho menos sin saber que eso nos hace daño. La verdadera cosmovisión que debemos tener es la nuestra, nuestra cosmovisión homosexual, es la forma correcta en la que debemos ver el mundo, y por qué?

Porque la cosmovisión es la forma en la que percibimos el mundo que nos rodea (la realidad) y en base a eso tomamos decisiones en la vida y la acosas nos afectan de maneras distintas lo que a su vez motiva muchos estados de ánimo en nuestra vida, por eso ver el mundo desde la cosmovisión heteronormativa, nos afecta de manera negativa, constantemente, por eso enfrentamos altas tasas de suicidio, drogadicción, trastornos, traumas, entre otros.

I recently came across an organization called Genspect that raises some interesting questions about gender identity, sexuality, and medical transition.

It got me thinking about gay boys growing up. Many of us struggled with masculinity, gender expectations, and internalized homophobia long before we understood our sexuality.

I wonder how some of us might have interpreted those feelings if we’d grown up in today’s conversations about gender identity.

I strongly support trans people’s dignity, safety, and civil rights, but I also think we need to be able to ask difficult questions about the experiences of gay youth without immediately being accused of transphobia.

Are we doing enough to help young gay boys become comfortable with their sexuality and gender nonconformity? And how do we make sure we’re supporting both gay and trans youth without confusing their distinct experiences?

Curious what everyone thinks, especially older gay men who grew up under very different expectations.

https://genspect.org

As gay men and women, we do not affect other people in any capacity. All we asked for is to simply ignore us if you don’t like us and don’t restrict our rights. Thats it. You didn’t have to affirm anything or change your whole mindset or ANYTHING like that.

Trans ideology at its core involves making people do things they don’t want to do, believe things they don’t believe, and pretend that everything they knew before was wrong for the sake of affirming their identity.

Trans ideology and its backing hit a SHARP and SIGNIFICANT decline and it’s a no brainer as to why…

Advocating for putting teenagers on hormones and puberty blockers for years as if its easily reversible (its not), forcing people to validate you through disciplinary actions, trying to enter sex protected spaces, trying to enter sex restricted sports, thinking a parent should endorse their children hating their body in the most vulnerable time of their life (puberty) and this list goes on.

Even among left leaning movements its support is sliding back. The sheer amount of progressive movements we’ve had to abandon for trans ideology to make sense is absurd.

“We need to get rid of gender stereotypes. Oh they use those to affirm their identity? Doesn’t that just reinforce those stereotypes?? Well never mind then i guess.”

“Women are recognized as a sex protected class under the law? Oh anyone could be a man or woman whenever they say so? I’m sure this wont be exploited to get rid of protected rights for women”

“Homosexuality is observed in many species. It’s completely natural and uncontrollable, it’s not a choice. Oh this is transphobic because it doesn’t recognize someone’s gender identity? And that a female simply saying she’s a man doesn’t suddenly allow her into homosexual mens dating pool, as she is still female? Oh well I guess we need to change what sexuality (and by extension sex) is too”

Very recently there are arguments being made that Democrats are moving away from trans ideology and support, and honestly, they should. They are a losing battle and they don’t make sense to the vast majority of the population while also demanding said population to change for them. Its simply not going to happen.

According to a recent Gallup survey, 31.4% of young women and 11.4% of young men identify as LGBTQ+. That’s a pretty remarkable difference.

But it makes me wonder, how many of these people are actually exclusively homosexual? How many are bisexual but primarily heterosexual, living predominantly heterosexual lives?

The article points out that much of this increase comes from bisexual identification, particularly among women. But identifying as LGBTQ+ doesn’t necessarily tell us much about someone’s actual sexual attraction or relationships.

And that raises a bigger question for me. If an increasing percentage of our community consists of people who are primarily heterosexual, what happens to the political power, cultural institutions, and distinct needs of gay men and lesbians?

I’m not questioning anyone’s right to identify as bisexual or participate in the community. But I do wonder whether expanding the umbrella indefinitely risks making the people it was originally organized to protect a smaller voice within their own movement.

At what point does inclusion become dilution? And is this expansion actually working in the interests of gay men and lesbians?

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Okay so I'm a gay man and I have never been attracted to female *body parts (yes I know it's obvious, wait.) I have been talking to this person a while ago and they were a trans man (who uses they/them) and when I told them it was a deal breaker for me if they are not *cis male, they called me transphobic and how sexuality is fluid and I should unlearn my biases...I respect how other people feel, but for me women and female parts have never been my thing nor do I think it will change for me. I don't think it means I am a hateful person towards any group just because I don't want to date someone to whom I'm not attracted to??...so this is basically AITA

Timothy Goodrich owns Aloha Tattoo Hawaii in Waikiki. He is wildly homophobic, please be careful if you are in the area.

I’ve been increasingly questioning the strength of the LGBT coalition, particularly after repeated debates with trans activists online.

I want to be absolutely clear: I strongly support trans people’s dignity, safety, freedom, and civil rights. I want our coalition to thrive. But solidarity requires more than simply agreeing to stand together.

In the vast majority of my interactions with trans activists, I’ve encountered the same troubling pattern: emotional appeals, accusations of hatred, deflection, and demands for censorship rather than evidence, reasoned arguments, or genuine engagement with opposing perspectives.

I’m not suggesting every trans person argues this way. But the frequency of these encounters has seriously shaken my confidence in the intellectual strength of this part of our coalition.

Every member of a political coalition should be capable of defending their positions, responding to criticism, presenting evidence, and engaging with uncomfortable questions. We cannot build a strong movement if disagreement is automatically treated as violence or hatred.

I’m beginning to wonder whether this culture of argumentation is becoming one of the weakest links in our coalition. Not because trans people are inherently incapable of defending their positions, but because some activist spaces seem to reward moral condemnation over intellectual rigor.

**If we cannot defend our ideas through reason and evidence, how can we expect to defend our rights in the wider world?**

I genuinely want to hear from trans people on this, especially those who believe open debate and intellectual honesty are essential to our shared liberation.

OUT Magazine published an article about a straight woman using Grindr to connect with gay men.

Grindr matters because it’s one of the few spaces specifically created for gay and bisexual men to connect romantically and sexually, without having to navigate heterosexual expectations. Historically, gay men have had limited spaces where they could openly express their sexuality without judgment, rejection, or explanation.

I have nothing against friendships between gay men and straight women, but why does that require entering a space designed around gay men’s sexuality?

When even our own LGBTQ media celebrates repurposing these spaces, I think it’s fair to question whose needs are being prioritized.

Is this harmless friendship, or another example of gay men being expected to share the few spaces created specifically for us?

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Has anybody else noticed this trend of dubiously "queer" women trying to insert themselves into conversations about gay males? Or act like some authority where they know more about gay men and our sexuality than we do?

I don't even think most of these "queer women" even have any same-sex attraction. In the past, they'd just be Allies.