not my photos, these are taken from TikTok

I had a follow up checkup today and told my doctor I had been depressed recently and had a history of it. She recommended some medication and said "this one won't affect your libido", and I said "it's not like I have ever needed it anyway". And when she asked why, I told her I had only had sex twice in my life at 29 and it was 10 years ago. And that I had never been in a relationship. She seemed baffled and it made me feel kind of weird to say it out loud. Surely it can't be that uncommon. I mentioned it was because I was ugly to which she disagreed. But I have never had anyone want to be in a relationship with me while everyone else gets into them easily. So that must be the only reason. As I am successful in every other way. It just feels really crappy.

Fuck getting a girlfriend. Fuck going out.
just go to work or school, eat shit food, play games, watch movies.
lets just waste our lives in peace.

The amount of times people make me feel unlovable and unfuckable for things I can’t control and then turn around and blame me for it is fucking maddening. I hate that shit!!

Hello. I am a 19F college student and I have unfortunately been single my entire life. Yes, it is embarrassing as I feel left out. I just hate it. But I have had multiple crushes (around 22). I wish I had a boyfriend. Every time Valentines Day, August 1 (National Girlfriend Day), and October 3 (National Boyfriend Day) comes, I get jealous that people have found someone they love. Yes, I get so fucking jealous that I have never had a boyfriend in my life, but I could never ruin anyone’s happiness all over that. Yes, I have seen my some of my crushes liking other people but I am not ruining their happiness all over that. I fell so deeply in love with one of my crushes even though he did not like me back. But I did not hate him for that. I obviously cannot force him or anyone to like me. And from what I have seen on social media, I think he has a girlfriend and a small part of me did feel jealous, but I am not going to ruin their happiness all over my jealousy. I even have this one best friend I trust work all my heart and when I did tell him that I kind of liked him, he said that he only sees me as a friend but he was perfectly fine with talking to me and we chat everyday. A small part of me did feel sad about it but I am still happy I have him in my life. Also, he was 22 and I was 18 when I fell in love with him. Like I am just losing hope in finding a guy. When I find the perfect one, I would probably be dead by then. Like it is so impossible. Listen, I do love social media but social media makes it look so easy to find the one because it is everyone has someone except me. And some have moved on from one person gone to the next. And I am shocked. Like I am struggling to find a guy and somehow, these people have found more than one person that they love while they are under 22. And how are people like Richard Ramirez getting all the female attention. Yeah. A serial killler. RICHARD FUCKING RAMIREZ somehow got married while on death row, while I am an idiot but not a serial killer and somehow I have to drown in the sorrows of being single. Even Pazuzu Algarad somehow had two wives while being the dirtiest man in the history of mankind!!!!!!!!! I ABSOLUTELY FUCKING HATE GOD!!!!!!!!!!! Being single is making me miserable. I hate myself for it and I am trying to work on myself but that it is going to take forever and I will probably be dead by then.

No. Seriously. Thank you Reddit for showing me this kind of BS when I've done everything I could and nothing changed for me. You already know what OP in that post said. The usual "I wasn't searching for a relationship but I've been lucky for finding this guy after he messaged me. And if it was possible for me, it's also possible for all of you". Bullshit... All DMs I got from women here were from girls trying to promote their 0F or trollls insulting my appearance and hobbies. Nothing else. Sorry for my bad English.

I know I'm a complete late bloomer or may never ever bloom at all and find love or experience being in a relationship and I'm somewhat okay with that like if I've stopped believing in Santa and other make-beliefs I can stop believing that I'll ever find love🥀

If people ever find out that you haven't ever been in one you're either judged harshly that something must be inherently wrong with you or treated as a baby lol. And don't get me started on the empty platitudes that "you shouldn't lose hope since you're young", "there's someone for everyone", "you'll find love when you least expect it" like seriously stfu 😭

I’m tired be the “good guy”, but don’t having any relationship, maybe because my attitude to relationships, or not, I don’t know maybe not the time. I want loving, caring, and be loved and cared. I’m tired of this shit. On photos my day and city called Irkutsk. Sorry for my bad English, I am 15-years old guy from Russia, good luck in life guys.

I'm not sure how to start this, so I'll just say it straight.

I'm 29, from Korea. About two weeks ago I said goodbye to my dog after two years of round-the-clock care. vet visits, surgeries, nights where I didn't sleep because I was watching him breathe.

He was the one relationship in my life where I never had to wonder if the love was real.

I grew up mostly raising myself. My mom died of cancer when I was young, and things at home didn't get gentler after that. I never finished college, which in Korea more or less decides your whole life before it starts. I got diagnosed with ADHD and bipolar disorder a few years ago. it explained a lot, but it didn't make people easier to hold onto.

For the last two years, almost everything I had went into keeping him alive. I did work I still can't say out loud to most people, just to cover the bills. I didn't mind, because he needed me, and being needed by something was the closest I got to being loved.

Now the apartment is quiet and I'm realizing I don't actually have anyone else lined up behind him. My sister and I are polite strangers. I don't have close friends here. I've had relationships, but nothing that stayed long enough to matter.

Everyone says "put yourself out there," but I don't know how, when the only bond in my life that never came with conditions is the one I just buried.

Not really looking for advice. I think I just needed to put it somewhere outside my own head. I miss my soul dog. It was a rescue mutt.

I'm autistic (diagnosed about 3 years ago). It's ruined any chance I might've had to date. Women all think I'm a freak, especially the neurotypical ones. I don't even have the kind that makes me super smart or good at math, I have the shitty kind that makes me obsessed with pop culture.

How tf can actual criminals and murderers and people who have done countless people wrong always have love or friends?

Me being helpful, empathetic, loving, caring is still somehow worth less than a selfish, narcissistic person? I can't be that repulsive.

There is no justice in this world and there is no value of the word deserving and karma.

I hate the fact that I'll die without ever knowing who it feels to wake up next to your partner and kiss her good morning. I hate it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I would give away everything i have just to be loved like this

I decided to go to another singles event after failing at a previous one. This one was just awful and it makes me feel really shitty about myself.

I dressed up nicely, tried approaching. The ladies would say hi back and then just turn around and talk to their friends. Others just turned their noses up. It felt so crap to see how they just went up to all the other guys when I had to put in the work.

The ratio was also horrible, with about 3 women to 1 guy and many women were 40 plus. I'm 29.

I think I just need to give up now. It's humiliating. I wish I could just give up all my success and intelligence to be good looking.

Edit: I meant 3 men to 1 woman ratio

I swear, landing a six figure job is way easier than finding a relationship lmao

That is all.

Each rejection you get from a pretty girl raises the perceived value of pretty girls in your mind. So as you interact with them in the future you act in ways that will continue to cause them to reject you and the cycle just keeps getting more ingrained. Brutal.

I feel all alone in this. I always wanted to have a family and kids, but it seems like a fantasy at this point.

I can’t comprehend how sex is such a naturally occurring and casual experience for most people to the point they can have it whenever they want

Anytime I was at a job I could sense sexual tension between coworkers and others, mostly online, would think I was delusional by mentioning how I could tell they were fucking

Then I always had my suspicions confirmed by someone else or directly from the people involved about how they fucked so many people at our jobs or how the people at my jobs were taking turns fucking each other

Which made me feel like shit because no one has ever shown interest romantic, sexual, and hardly social in me and it just feels so annoying having to pleasure yourself when you want it with someone else

Another truly depressing aspect of being ugly

I have been depressed and suicidal ever since I turned 30 because of never been in a relationship, never had a kiss or sex. No man wants to give me a chance despite being physically fit and attractive. Most people around me are taken and I have even lost friendships because I feel out of place and a complete loser.

It's impossible to attract any women at all because of my racial background. I always feel like I am being judged because of my race, and I can tell that women really hate seeing my brown face. It feels like I am fighting gravity just trying to get a woman to treat me like a human being for even a second. All of this rejection has resulted in severe self-hatred. I feel like an actual sub-human because I have never been treated like a complete human being in my entire miserable existence. I am automatically a sexual and social pariah because I happened to be born the wrong race.

Being a brown man is an absolute death sentence in the dating market.

Being a South Asian man is functionally a disability that turns you into a social and sexual leper. If I could choose my race, I would pick absolutely anything over the one I got.

"If I have any advice? It’s to get out and socialize. Meet people and get to know people. From my experience, you find your girlfriend when you least expect it. If you’re always looking for a girlfriend, you’ll never find one.” — Erling Haaland

Ahhh yes. The 6'5", blonde haired, blue eyed, multimillionaire, viking built sweetheart of the World Cup just says you need to go outside bro!

Great player, great guy. But honestly, hearing this shit from people like this....the jokes just write themselves. You're literally in the upper fucking percentile of men. What are you talking about? 😭

And now every normie looking to give out their brand of "advice" is gonna reference this shit like it's an absolute truth.

"jUSt soCIAlize brO! haALand iSnt evEN goOD loOking"

Yeah. Let me just spin the slot machine on my genes and try again.

When I browse internet forums (particularly Reddit) and see people who seek advice on how to find a gf/bf, advice givers always tell them to download dating apps, put nice pictures, write a good bio. I've been using dating apps since 10 years and I barely got any matches after a decade. When I mention this to friends and family and also ask for advice on Reddit, I always get told that dating apps suck, that people find a relationship in real life, that I shouldn't use dating apps.

I actually asked out/confessed to many girls I like in real life that I was in the same friends group with. I always ended up rejected by these girls. Whenever I tell this to friends and family, I get told that it's normal that I got rejected because relationships in friend groups don't work, that I am wasting my time and I should go to bars and clubs to meet women.

I cold approached many women in places like clubs and bars. I only received rejections from these women. When I mention these horrible results to advice givers, they tell me that night clubs and bars are the worse places to get women, that I wouldn't like to date women who go to these places and I should rather join hobby groups to meet women.

So I also end up getting rejected by all the women I've met in hobby groups and this time people tell me that dating in hobby groups doesn't work because women go there for their hobbies, not to get asked out by men. I have a friend who recently told me that dating through hobby groups is almost impossible, everyone uses dating apps and I also should use them if I want to find a girlfriend.

So I am really confused by this situation. I feel like whatever method I am using to get a date and find a girlfriend will be labeled as wasting my time by advice givers.

I have loved so many people in my life, but I’ve never received that love in return except from my mom. I’m 36 years old now, and I feel like I’ve never truly lived. I constantly worry that I will die without ever experiencing simple human affection. Inside, I feel like I am dying. No, worse I feel like a dead man walking.

Today, a painful realization hit me: I have never truly been loved by a partner. It feels like there isn't a single woman in this entire world who cares about my existence. It makes me feel pathetic, like I’m not even human, but an alien completely disconnected from everyone else.

All I want is to hold someone in my arms and hear them say, "I need you," "I worry about you," or "You don't have to do this alone." But I get nothing. I’ve spent most of my life seeking answers from God and searching for love, and now that half my life is gone, I've received nothing but silence. The emptiness inside me is so heavy right now that I can barely move.

I just want to hold someone's hand. I want to hold someone in my arms, to kiss, to love, and to actually live. Instead, there is nothing. The world feels incredibly cruel.

I don't understand why people find me so unlovable. I find myself desperately looking for a connection in the eyes of every woman I pass, but no one looks back. Even when I try to dress well and present myself nicely, I get no attention. It’s as if I don’t exist to anyone but my mother.

I feel like I am dying inside. I don't know why this is my reality.

All this talk about how dating is easy for women makes me think that there's something really wrong with me. I must be so ugly and grotesque looking that i can't even achieve something that easy.

I can't even get ppl to admit that FA women are real. If i make a post about being an ugly FA woman, the comments would be full of empty words like "Every women are beautiful!", "Noone is ugly🥺", "I bet you are prettier than you think.", "You don't need a man in your life". It seems impossible for ppl to recognize that ugly women do exist. The "advice" i would be getting is to lose weight or wear makeup, which would be useless because i'm ugly DESPITE being in a healthy weight, and i do wear makeup. But those two doesn't fix my bone structure.

Even if i want to get advice on youtube by youtubers like dr.k, almost every one of these videos talk about FA men, and dating struggles of men. Ppl can't fathom not every women has men lined up to take them on a date.

There are a few subreddits that i do relate to, but alot of those subs are extremely bitter. Some of them feels more like a misandry sub, or a sub that hates one attractive women rather than a place to share struggles with. Also i'm east asian, so even some women in those subs can't accept that ugly east asian women exist, since i'm one of the "preferred race" in their eyes.

I've completely given up on dating due to my looks. I don't wish to find someone because i know it's too unrealistic. But i still hope that at least my struggles can be acknoweledged.