r/energy_work • u/Advanced_Work6260 • 8h ago
Need Advice I was a victim to an extreme energy vampire nine months ago, I’m traumatized and still feel like I need protection from her
I met an energy vampire nine months ago that genuinely terrifies me and I feel like she still has a hold on me somehow. Before cutting her off (she was only in my life for maybe 3-4 weeks) I tried to kill myself, and looking back I’m convinced that’s what she wanted.
She quickly made herself one of my close friends. It felt like she just invited herself into my energy and made herself at home. She started off making me believe we were uncannily similar, that we had similar upbringings and everything (we did not, and I quickly found out she was a pathological liar). But the thing is, her lies were so insane and I somehow believed them at the time. She knew immediately once I figured her out then switched her method. She made me think I could trust her and so I opened up to her about a lot of things, especially my trauma. I was in a very dark place during this time and she took advantage of that. I would tell her really messed up things that happened to me, and she’d repeat it word for word to others, making them believe it happened to her. She pretended to have my trauma and my mental illness.
The part that scares me about her in particular (three things).
When I met her she looked drained (in hindsight she literally looked like she was in desperate need of energetic supply). Then over time she started to look like me. I don’t wear makeup and it wasn’t like she just started doing her makeup/hair like me or dressing like me. Her face literally started to look like mine.
It took me a few weeks but once I figured out what she was doing, I still couldn’t get away from her or cut her off. Every part of me wanted to get away but it was like there was some external force pulling me towards her. So I was just hanging out with her and others while having full awareness of what she was doing.
The worst is she would repeat things I told her word for word to others, sometimes WHILE I WAS THERE. It felt like everyone was under some sort of spell. I tried telling someone what she was doing and they did not believe me, she convinced everyone that it was ME who was lying. So not only was she taking my energy and roleplaying being me, but she had everyone convinced that it was me who was doing it to her. There was nothing I could do about it because I quickly realized the more I tried to get people to help me and see the truth, the more I was antagonized and she was sympathized with. It’s insane because she was not a good liar at all and there were so many inconsistencies. And the inconsistencies weren’t minor, it was things like people close to her being dead, then somehow being alive three weeks later. But no one ever questioned her and I could tell she got a lot of pleasure from repeating my life story to others in front of me, knowing I wouldn’t be able to call her out.
I ended up trying to kill myself. I was that desperate to get away. I somehow survived and while I was in the psych ward, she was telling everyone that me and her were so close and that she’s checking in on me everyday etc etc. I got out and had to get away from her. I blocked her from everything.
I think she was more than an energetic vampire and I’m not sure if I believe in full destiny swapping, but that’s what it felt like.
Why I think she still has control over me: I never had this problem before I met her. But ever since knowing her and cutting her out of my life, I am having an issue of everyone I meet thinking I’m a pathological liar. I do not lie at all unless I feel unsafe (basically people like her, anytime someone seems too curious about learning about me/my life I’m now hesitant). But doesn’t matter the environment (work, new friends, roommates, etc) I am noticing that everyone thinks I’m a pathological liar. They’ll ask me questions and I’ll answer truthfully, and these people will constantly try to catch me in a lie when I’ve done nothing but be truthful. It feels like I’m constantly being interrogated and the conversation topic will be something dumb like how I make my coffee in the morning. What do I get from lying about that? I thought it was insane that no one ever questioned this girl and her insane lies, yet everyone i run into since then is thinking I’m lying about anything and everything, even really basic things where it’s like why would I even lie about that? I really need some reassurance or ways to make sure she really is completely cut off from me energetically. With the lying accusations from everyone now, it feels like she’s somehow turned the world against me despite being far away and having no access to me. But in general it feels like I’m being silenced against my will. It’s not just that no one believes anything I say, it’s that I feel so scattered now too and unable to communicate anything properly. Just writing this post was very difficult to me and I hope it makes sense.
I just want my life again. I want to feel safe again.