recently, my ex of almost 1 year ghosted me without a word. And what hurt the most was that at a point we went through a tough time together, but he started getting the help he needed and he came to me telling me that he wanted to do his best to fix it because he truly loved and cared for me. I thought it was a sign that this really could work. So of course, I felt hope and we “fixed” it between us, or I thought we did. That week I felt so loved, and I prayed hard that if the relationship was meant to flourish, God would help us. Everything felt so right, like maybe things could be better. My ex wasn’t the strongest catholic, and I know I can’t fix anyone, but at times I almost felt like the bridge that guided him back to the faith.

Well, he ghosted me and deleted all his socials. And I feel like it’s killing me slowly. I’m trying every distraction, setting my goals on different things, learning and taking care of myself. I pray harder and go to adoration, I watch and listen and learn more about my faith. And yet, I still find myself searching for him and begging God to bring him back. My brain tells me every reason why he won’t come back, and every voice is telling me that I shouldn’t either, but my heart just wont budge. Its stuck, and there’s a void in me that I can’t seem to fill. I’m growing in every way, and I’m proud of myself, but my heart hates that I couldn’t share it with the boy I loved. I know our relationship was flawed, but I had so much love and trust poured into him. At times it feels like he stole it because I can’t seem to even give a portion of that to anyone from how empty I feel. I pray to God that he’d forgive me for not being able to accept the blessings he’s given to me or yet to gift, because trusting that he has something better planned for me just feels to heavy. And I struggle taking that next step, no matter how hard I try, I yearn for the person that broke me. I want so badly to get out of this mindset, I keep disappointing myself every time I check my phone and wait for him. if you ever went through something similar, what’s the best advice you would give?

Someone who I’ve known for about a year just appeared on Catholic Match and has viewed my profile. We were hanging out with a group of friends last weekend and I felt like there was a shared interest between the two of us. I want to ask her out over the phone instead of Catholic Match because I’m not sure if she’s paying and I’d rather not wait 10 days for a response, plus I feel like it’d be a little weird texting her through the app if I have her number.

My question is… should I just call her and ask her out or should I text her? I know women like confidence, but I know people are weird about talking on the phone.

Has anyone read this book with the person that they are discerning marriage with? I just started doing this and it totally blew my mind (in a good way). I've read some books on ToftB before, and I watched some of the YouTube content, but reading it with someone you love is totally different.

Why isn't this taught in the Parish to young people? It gives such a wonderful insight into the Sacrament of Marriage.