Technically nothing can be gayer than gay sex or sexual attraction towards men, even if it's purely physical and involves no attachment or emotions

Does anyone else love lounging around hanging in skimpy underwear?

Its like the ultimate level of comfort. Hanging out wearing a thong and over sized long sleeve. Felt so cute and cozy, smooth legs

Once again women gate keeping haha

I'm 25, and I finally admitted to myself a year ago that I'm bisexual. I knew it at 14, but I was so afraid of how people would treat me that I buried it. Told myself I'd just been curious and that it was a phase, that I was obviously straight because I'd only ever been with women. I got married at 22, and I love my wife dearly. But I've been feeling a lot of self loathing, because when I finally accepted this part of myself, I realized that I have this whole other side of me that I'll never get to explore. My wife is also bisexual, and she's been out for as long as I've known her, so she's very supportive. My friends have also been supportive (A close friend literally jumped around and hugged me and said "Dude thank you for trusting me enough to come out to me" and I cried), but I just can't stand that I denied myself for so long. That I will never get to explore this side of me, never have a real experience with another man, all because I was afraid. I've never been afraid to be myself in any other way, no matter what. But for some reason, this is the one thing I denied myself. I don't know how to get past it, how to forgive myself, and it's eating me up inside.

So the issue is that im bi and everytime it comes up it seems to pivot (more with female partners than male but not exclusively) if i would let another guy fuck me while they watch. Im very comfortable with who I am, but im a monogomous person so it's always a hard no. Im not interested in any outside party in a relationship.

I dont go out of my way to bring it up but I dont hide it either so I guess how do i navigate someone else's expectations without making doing things that id do under different circumstances.

I’m M19 and I have just started getting comfortable with my sexuality and I recently came out to my two girl best friends at college. I’m still closeted from the world and everyone else around me and it is very scary. I guess my question is how do I even like exist in a world and find someone or people to connect with not even on a sexual level. I am truly just looking for someone who will just hold me and actually love me. I always catch feelings for straight men and I can’t even tell if they are actually straight but they don’t even know I’m bi. I’m seeing the predicament i’m in as i’m typing this out lol. My best friends told me try and test the waters with strangers from different states but I don’t even know how to do that. ANY advice is helpful thanks.

Is a male bisexual truly considered a bisexual if all they desire to do is have oral sex with other males ?

I'm not in a relationship and I've never had a boyfriend before, but I lost my virginity last year and I still talk to the guy that took my virginity. He's 14 years older than me, and on text messages, I call him daddy, but not even in a joking way, but in a genuinely, I wanna be submissive to him way.

But it got me thinking, would any of you older men feel the ick if a guy did that to you ? I've always wanted to be submissive to an older man, and I know that lots of guys call their older partner daddy as a joke... but I be real serious about it too. Like idk. I like calling older men that because I want him to know that he controls me in the situation. But... how do the rest of you feel about it ?

I know this is not a region specific group, but I figured there must be some fellow Long Island bi guys on here. If so, Lodge NY just announced a Long Island gay sex party creatively named "Lodge Long Island."

The party is every Sunday 2-5pm at Medusa's Playhouse in West Babylon. You can visit the party's website at https://lodgeli.com/

I can't attend this weekend, but definitely will soon. If anyone wants to meet up and go together, just let me know.

Would love to build a community and get out more! I feel like this city is so huge and I have yet to meet any bisexual men looking for new friends! Where are y’all at?

I’m Jeremy Spiegel, the author of Mirror Boy, and while an overarching theme of my newly released coming-of-age psychological novel is simply that a boy needs a father, while depicting the frantic search for a solid male role model, I wrote the book, in part, to normalize all aspects of a young man’s sexuality almost incidentally, matter-of-factly and without the usual fanfare. Reviews to date confirm my intention was realized: “Mirror Boy explores the messy experience of growing up before we fully understand ourselves—when attraction, shame, and our emerging sense of masculinity are raw and confusing. Emotionally honest in its portrayal of trauma and resilience, the novel is a beautiful reminder that our deepest wounds often become portals to our greatest self-understanding and, ultimately, transcendence." -Robert Brooks Cohen Life coach, writer for Law & Order: SVU, and author of Bisexual Married Men: Stories of Relationships, Acceptance & Authenticity

Needless to say I and others around me hope the book takes off because bisexuality in men can take many, many forms, and often its outward expression may be subtle and hence confusing to others. As in all aspects of living a human life, psychology might influence the depth and character of the expression of masculinity, identity more broadly, and sexuality over the course of a man’s life.

I’d like to add that the book is raw and uncensored so geared towards a mature adult reader despite a nearly 17 year old protagonist. Also thanks to award-winning actor Fred Berman’s performance on the Audible audiobook, it’s a singular thrill to hear the innermost thoughts of the teenage character as he navigates the vexing circumstance of living in a chaotic, highly feminized household with his sexually prolific single mother and her revolving door of unsavory men.

I sincerely hope that at least some aspect of this sad/funny heartfelt and at times intense labor of love will resonate with you. Thank you for your interest. The book’s website with links to the audiobook and all retailers: Mirror Boy Book

Salut, je me retrouve avec plaisir sur ce sur Reddit et après en avoir lu pas mal, je post a mon tour pour avoir vos avis/conseils.

Déjà je suis un homme hétéro de 40 ans, peu de relation de couple en nombre mais deux longues relation. Toujours avec une sexualité "classique" ou a côté je prennait aussi mon temps en solo avec mes sextoys anal et autres.

Je sais pertinemment mon attirance pour les femmes amoureuse et sexuelle. Ça c'est ok.

Pour ce qui est des hommes, une relation amoureuse ne me dit rien du tout, en revanche j'ai vraiment envie d'essayer le sexe,donner comme recevoir. Problème je n'arrive pas a trouver d'homme attirant comme ça pourrait être le cas avec les femmes, je ne suis pas a l'aise avec la séduction ou autre. J'ai mis grinder en application et j'envisage d'aller en sauna gay (ouvert au débutant) pour une première expérience. Seulement je bloque a l'idée d'être une proie. Bref je sais pas comment m'y prendre, je vais faire les test ist et j'aimerais les avoir de la personne aussi pour que tous le monde soit tranquille. Et ça me paraît délicat de dire salut , t'a un test a jour ? Pour une rencontre d'un soir ou deux.

Voilà le tableau un peu vrac désolé. Si jamais vous avez des conseils ou retour d'expérience similaire je suis preneur.

Et détails peu être je suis en France.

I feel like I need a place to start showing off my toys and stuff I use. Are people still subscribing to that anymore?

https://youtu.be/KAhBIuIrxN8

Both men and women

Im 49 year bi man, i was married 18 yrs and my previous wife didnt exept my bisexuality at all, now im living with a woman for who i told from the start that and im bi and she is fine with it, but to actually have a threesome with a man, she has sayd no, that she loves me and dont want nobody touching her, me to go alone, or in secret, dont seem ok, i dont want to hurt her, or bring home surprises after, how other manage, or feed their bi needs ?

Why do you sexualize Femmes(naturally feminine-featured, petitie androgynous males)..then discard us like we're nothing?

To those that say "Women are wired for romance, men are primal, and biologically wired are for sex" is absolute BS. I'm a "biological male" and I deeply bond and get romantically attached immediately when having sex with a masculine man. I love to be pursued, cherished, protected, submitting to a man in every way, etc. Not to mention(to those that genuinely believe this...and use this as an excuse to do xyz)...why are there masculine lesbians who behave the exact same way as F-boys and womanizers? That's all gendered, learned socially conditioned programming. For both men and women. I'm a femme whose deeply romantic and has the exact same expectations in a relationship with a masculine man as a woman does. Such as him being a protector/provider. And me being the nurturer, etc. It's all conditioning but that's innately who I am effortlessly. Most gay men are inherently feminine(in psyche)...and supress their femininty due to fearing society's reaction. Even when it's painfully obvious lol. Different from a Femme. I'm proud of my femininity(looks and psyche) and embrace it in every way. But truly Masculine-psychied gay men are in the minority...so it's almost exclusively Bi men i attract/date. As i'm attracted to masculine men(be it bi/gay/etc.) who are attracted to femmes.

So i'm trying to understand the mind of said masculine men...the same way that a frustrated woman who's tired of being mistreated...and wants to know the game.

Feminine individuals who are often on such apps as Grindr...simply because they're trying to date and establish healthy social capital. But this doesn't only just happen on Grindr, it often happens on Tinder too(with fetishists literally having "straight" on their profile), and even Hinge. Where many masculine bi men showcase the gentleman image...the all-american, fun loving, craft beer-loving hearthrob image towards a women that they intend to be with long term. But with Femmes, TS, NBs, or Twinks...it's almost always sexual comments from the start. Such as "Heyyy Sexy", (random unsolicited emojis mimicking horniness instead of inquiring conversation), etc.

This is directed at the Bisexual guys who are attracted to feminine guys but refuse to date us. I just want to understand why because often the sexual intercourse itself is deeply sensual and romantic, not just curious "straight" men exploring and dipping out once the PNC hits. And also there's romantic manipulation tactics beforehand similar to players trying to bed women. But often after- it feels like many of the bi men(*especially if they are completely masculine, accomplished/successful and revered in society) come to the reality of their private attraction...and just how shattering/life it would be to their reputation- and they go ghost. But it's wayyy more shattering psychologically to the person that is often marginalized and unprotected in society, yet hypersexualized privately on apps. The femme.

I really don't believe it's solely because of them being truly heteroromantic. Because there's always an element of shame and denial involved in these encounters. With them often having a cropped pic on apps, them refusing to shake your hand or touch you until you go inside their house. But doing the exact opposite once the door closes. Among so many other things.

I've had other instances with true heteroflexible/heteromantic men who are genuinely into women...but lifelong porn consumers...to which their porn consumption has escalated into femmes & TS. It's such a different dynamic with these guys. And yes- I know there's a spectrum when it comes to this that is very nuanced and complex.

I'm in a happy, loving, monogamous relationship with a masculine, muscular protective man now...but it pisses me off thinking about all of the time + social capital wasted and the lonleliness dealing with so many bi men who fit this archteype. Everyday(and several famous ones I've dated in LA) masculine men of every race/background/profession/socioeconomic status who blend into society. Men that even other bi men would have no idea they're bi...because of them being exclusively into fems.

I have a good idea but I think it'd be good to hear directly from the source...

I'm asking this as someone who's very attractive and as someone that's been sexualized on apps by thousands of bi men. Who's used reverse AI image searches, and was STUNNED to see how they live their public hetero lives...versus how they treated me privately.

Do you really think being with us feminine men is that shameful in 2026 when no one(especially young millenials and younger) truly care in the western world? That we're not worth having relationships with as opposed to having relationships with women?

Any insight into the the mind of a masculine man attracted feminine-looking, petite androgynous males would be invaluable!

To ensure i'm never played again in this lifetime...

Not sure if I got that right. In other words, two guys who have no romantic interest in each other or guys at all but have sexually attraction for guys and just stick together as FWBs, how common are couples like that?

I was talking to this girl and we have great chemistry, we talked on the phone for 2 hours and have been texting a ton and we were very into each other. Then I got the dreaded text today, rejecting me solely because I’m bi. I don’t get it, why reject me for a label? And she even said she’d be insecure about me looking at other guys and girls. So she’s okay with being with a straight guy because he can only look at other girls? It’s just straight up biphobic bigotry 😡

Texts:

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