r/Assistance • • 10d ago

MOD ANNOUNCEMENT Reminder: Christmas gift requests are BANNED on r/Assistance

103 Upvotes

Since the rule breakers are already here, just a reminder.

If this is your first holiday season at [r/Assistance](r/Assistance), here are some things to keep in mind:

We do not allow requests for Christmas gifts (or Hannukah gifts, or Kwanzaa gifts, or Yule gifts...)

There are subreddits dedicated to these requests so that our subreddit can remain focused on essentials. Which brings us to our next point...

r/RandomActsofChristmas is opening for the 2026 season on November 1, 2026!

This is the only subreddit we recommend for folks needing help making Christmas bright for their kids. They do AMAZING work every year, and they have the capacity to handle everything Christmas so our subreddit can focus on other more urgent situations.

Links to other Christmas gifting subs are forbidden and will be removed automatically. Efforts to bypass this will result in a ban.

Requests for Christmas travel and Christmas meals are allowed.

This year we want to put some focus on the heart of the holidays -- people rather than presents. Requests for travel to see family for Christmas, requests for a turkey dinner with friends -- these can be requested without issue.

Christmas/Holiday Offers

While we don't allow requests for Christmas/holiday gifts in [r/Assistance](r/Assistance), we will continue to allow **offers** of gifts, meals and other holiday-related cheer so our givers who want to give here in [r/Assistance](r/Assistance) can do so.

Some examples:

- "Help me buy Christmas gifts for my family" -- not allowed

- "Want to go home to X for Christmas" -- allowed

- "Let me order your family Christmas dinner" -- allowed

- "Will buy a Christmas gift for your child up to $20" allowed

A reminder that unless an offer is explicitly for Christmas requests, **the same rules apply.** If you are posting an offer over the holiday season, please help our mod team out by letting us know if it's essentials only or if folks can request gifts.


r/Assistance • • 3d ago

MOD ANNOUNCEMENT Updates to our NSFW content policy

41 Upvotes

Hello all,

About a year ago we made a change to our rules that accounts which post, solicit, and distribute sexually explicit content may not participate on r/Assistance.

Our mod team has recently come together to review this rule and how we can better implement it.

Our focus going forward is to only restrict accounts which are currently and actively using their accounts in this manner.

r/Assistance’s definition of sexually explicit content includes not only photos and videos but also OnlyFans/Fansly links in profiles, sugar arrangements, findom/paypig arrangements, and in person/hookup/phone sex invitations.

Rule changes:

  • Accounts which have only posted, solicited, or distributed sexually explicit content older than 3 years ago, and otherwise meet our posting requirements, may now post and request.
  • Accounts which have deleted sexually explicit content completely from their accounts, and otherwise meet our posting requirements, may now post and request. Mods will be checking how recent this content has been posted and deleted to ensure this isn’t abused.
  • Accounts which have hidden their sexually explicit content to conceal it will be required to unhide it and will be allowed or restricted based on the age of the content as per above.

Case examples:

  • User with OnlyFans/Fansly link in profile — not allowed. If the OF link is the only evidence of content selling on account, they will be asked to remove it and may then request.
  • User actively selling, posting, or soliciting (looking for) content (within last 3 years) — not allowed.
  • User has content from 2020 on profile, however has stopped and is now posting in other subreddits frequently — allowed
  • User has deleted content from 2021 from profile, meets all posting requirements even with that content deleted — allowed
  • User has hidden recent content (within last 3 years) — not allowed
  • User has hidden old content from 2021 as they no longer do it — will be requested to unhide profile before allowing
  • User has deleted content from 2 months ago — will be confirming purpose of account with poster

If you need further clarification on a particular situation please send us a modmail.

Thank you.


r/Assistance • • 7h ago

REQUEST FULFILLED Asking for $75

19 Upvotes

Today is my birthday, and I was hoping someone might be able to help me out with cat food, cat litter, and some groceries. I start work on November 2nd, but it'll be a little while before I start getting paid. I'm just trying to get by until then. I am also an open book so if you have any questions or need any proof of anything I’d be glad and answer them or provide proof.

I have made an Amazon wish list and that the reason for the edit. Hopefully I did this right as it’s my first time ever doing it.

https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/115Z6WMHKVD5X?ref_=wl_share


r/Assistance • • 5h ago

REQUEST FULFILLED [request] grocery help

14 Upvotes

Hello I’m new here. I have 4 kids, 2 are special needs…
We’re really struggling after my husband was hit in a hit and run. Luckily he wasn’t hurt too bad, but our car was totaled, and he last his job as a result. He’s been a chef for over 15 years, and he was at that restaurant for almost 2 years (since it opened), so he was so hurt and disappointed by this betrayal.
We live in a very small town, so everything is a commute. It’s been very difficult to find steady work with no vehicle. My husband has started doing as much work as he can in any area (mainly construction and his art), but it’s been hard to get by with 4 kids, especially since we fell behind. We just barely payed our electric bill the day before our power was to be shut off, but that hasn’t left much money for food.
We have applied for food stamps, but they didn’t call me for my interview at my appointment time, so now I’m stuck waiting for the new appointment. In the mean time, our bank account is sadly negative and we have maybe $10 left in my cashapp to last us until then…
I made an Amazon list of some grocery items. Since we’re in a small town, the grocery options are more limited, but I tried to go for affordable things that would last while trying to get some nutritional value, especially for my medically complex child.
If you have any questions, please ask. Thank you so much for the consideration!

https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/RJ4IUDHO36RC?ref_=wl_share


r/Assistance • • 1h ago

SURVEY [Academic] Travel Planning Habits & Wanderlog UX Survey (3–5 min)

3 Upvotes

Hello, I'm a senior UX design student at Drexel University conducting research to better understand how people plan trips and use digital travel-planning tools, such as Wanderlog!

The purpose of this survey is to understand travelers' planning habits, challenges, and platform loyalty to help identify ways to improve the overall usability of travel planning tools like Wanderlog.

Note: You do not need to have used Wanderlog to participate. Everyone is welcome to respond!

Survey Link: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfxilUphxrQLWwvqugzJU8c0xRwuTmoFc-Ydknja4wK-DattQ/viewform?usp=dialog

The survey takes about 3–5 minutes. Your answers are anonymous and will be used strictly for my non-commercial, student UX research project. The survey will not collect any personal identifying information or sell any products.

📌 TOPIC OF STUDY: Travel planning habits
👉 TARGET AUDIENCE: Adults (18+), with or without experience with Wanderlog
⏳ DURATION: 3-5 mins


r/Assistance • • 5h ago

ADVICE Free birth control options?

4 Upvotes

Hi I just turned 26 and no longer have access to health insurance and was wondering if anyone knew of resources I could reach out to to possibly get free or low cost birth control? My pharmacy quoted me $220 to fill my 3 month prescription and that’s just not feasible for me at the moment. I’m just trying to get some while going through the application process for Medicaid


r/Assistance • • 7h ago

THANK YOU Thank you SO much!

11 Upvotes

I wanted to thank everyone who helped me with cat food, cat litter, toilet paper, and food for myself.

I am more thankful than you'll ever know and am so overwhelmed by everyone's kindness! 💜


r/Assistance • • 1h ago

ADVICE Has anyone gone through the SER/SDA process with MDHHS while living in a hotel?

• Upvotes

I’m trying to understand how others’ cases were handled. Whether they’re similar to mine or not. I recently applied and got conflicting explanations for my denial, and I’m curious how common that is and what other people’s experiences or outcomes looked like.


r/Assistance • • 13h ago

REQUEST Looking for any assistance. No way I’ll have enough for rent and I have 3 kids. Just a mom trying to make ends meet. Their father helps but he doesn’t make enough right now

7 Upvotes

Their father helps but I just can’t make ends meet. I’m at my wits end this is the last thing I want to do honestly. I’m not sure how much I’ll need at least a few hundred dollars help. I live in Texas have food stamps and the kids get free lunch so at least food is covered. As of now I need $200 I have PayPal and Venmo


r/Assistance • • 41m ago

VOTES Please vote for Kai, my tiny Ewok! 🐾

• Upvotes

My Shih Tzu, Kai, is in a Halloween costume contest, and we’d love your support!

👉https://www.facebook.com/share/1EMb9HfP8F/

Voting requires a Facebook account.

Click through and LIKE his original Facebook photo to vote. Voting ends November 2.

Happy to trade votes also. Thank you! 🧡


r/Assistance • • 5h ago

REQUEST I need $11 for dinner

1 Upvotes

Hi looking for $11 for dinner


r/Assistance • • 11h ago

REQUEST $30 for food

2 Upvotes

Hi, I’m requesting for $30 for a quick meal as I don’t get paid till Thursday. I also have a Amazon Wish List here: https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/9F1XM7GQ7DQW?ref_=wl_share


r/Assistance • • 8h ago

REQUEST FULFILLED $10 dollars to get home

1 Upvotes

I am out funds and in need to get home.. Im also out of options cause my family have already asked me for money yesterday for an emergency, and I gave them my last funds. I only have paypal which requires that minimum amount so I could withdraw the money.

Thanks in advance


r/Assistance • • 1d ago

REQUEST FULFILLED I really need toilet paper...

23 Upvotes

Edit: i just checked and everything on the list has been gotten!! Its so amazing i cant believe how much yall have been able to pitch in! When im able to, ill definitely be giving back to this great community! Thank you

Hey, ive been struggling for a really long time. I should have better pay by next month but at the moment i have -10 bucks and one roll left for me and my household.

I made this wishlist. I also put trash bags and some shelf stable foods. If you can comfortably spare 15 bucks id greatly appreciate you taking a look.

Thank you

https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/27Y4MQFHJK38P


r/Assistance • • 14h ago

REQUEST Help with my car repair fundraiser

0 Upvotes

Hi everyone!

I don't normally ask for help like this, but I've recently been hit with an unexpected $600 car repair that I just can't afford right now.

I'm a university student working part-time, and between rent, groceries, school, and everyday expenses, I simply wasn't prepared for something like this.

I've started a GoFundMe to help cover the cost of replacing my fuel pump. If you're able to donate, even a few dollars would genuinely mean the world to me. And if you can't, sharing my fundraiser would be just as appreciated.

Thank you so much for any support.

https://gofund.me/29f033efa


r/Assistance • • 8h ago

REQUEST Are there any souls out there who would help keep a grown man's dream of a new life alive?

0 Upvotes

Hello,

I am a 34 year old man in Canada who is in need of financial assistance.

In my hometown, I went through some traumatic stuff at age 19. I stayed in that province for 15 years trying to establish myself and make sense of what happened to me, until my friends across the country reached out and insisted I needed to get out of there and that I could come stay with them in this new part of the country. So in July, after some planning, I packed my car, took what I had saved, and hit the road. I made it to my friend's, and felt like I had just escaped a burning building. I really felt liberated and so excited to have actually made the move, and to be here with my long time friend again. But then, the area received historical flooding, the basement where I was staying had to be torn up, and I became abruptly stranded.

I was able to find a room. It is $850 a month. I was expecting to have the room with my friend for a month or two at least to save up money for my own place. Unfortunately, being forced out soon caused me to dip into any backup funds I had left from the journey. I had a job here that ended in August, with the locating of a new place and readjusting to that unexpected dynamic hindering my ability to find another job yet.

I am just now facing a rent payment on the 1st of November of $850. After that, my costs include the fees for a new I.D, vehicle inspection/registration, and finding new auto insurance.

I hope this isn't too long, and I hope I have left my pride out of it completely. If you even read this far, I appreciate you.


r/Assistance • • 8h ago

REQUEST $95 For Rent

0 Upvotes

Hi, I'm a self employed person with a small business. My main source of income has come mostly from two clients who have worked with me monthly, and occasional students.

One of my clients is taking time off from doing healing work (I am an energy healer) and the other is travelling. This has left me scrambling to pay my October rent.

I've come up with most of it. But I still need $95. My landlord has given me until the end of the month.

Can anyone help me with the $95? I can show you the information from my rental portal if you need proof of the $95 owed.

TIA!

Edited to add: I have PayPal, CashApp and Venmo.


r/Assistance • • 1d ago

REQUEST FULFILLED Requesting $30 for gas

8 Upvotes

Recently started a new job however my first paycheck isnt until the end of next week. Asking for $30 to get gas so I can get to and from work until my paycheck hits. I only have paypal available


r/Assistance • • 1d ago

REQUEST FULFILLED in dire need of food (running out)

31 Upvotes

https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/2CFP6N7HF8UCG?ref_=wl_share

Hi everyone. I’m currently in a really difficult financial situation and I’m hoping I can get some help with groceries.

I’m a college student and I’ve been having a really hard time finding a job. Right now, the only thing helping me get by is the small amount of money my parents are able to give me, but it isn’t enough to cover my basic food needs. I currently have very little money left, and I’m struggling to afford food until I can find a job.

I made an Amazon wishlist with shelf-stable foods and other groceries that I would actually be able to use. There are a variety of different price points on the list, so please don’t feel like you need to buy a lot or spend a certain amount. Anything at all would genuinely help me.

I did add some soda to the list because it’s something I personally enjoy, but it is absolutely not a necessity, so please don’t feel obligated to get it. Please just choose whatever you feel comfortable purchasing from the list.

I’m really grateful that communities like this exist. I know everyone has their own financial circumstances, so even just taking the time to read this means a lot to me. Thank you so much to anyone who is able and willing to help.

also I will add pads to this list because I need some too. really running out

EDIT: FULFILLED 🩷
Thank you so much to the person who helped me! My pads, ramen, and mac & cheese have been purchased, so my essential needs have been fulfilled. and cheezits by another person was purchased.

Pepsi are still on the wishlist, but neither of those are necessities, so please do not feel obligated to purchase them. I’m incredibly grateful for the help I’ve already received. Thank you so much! 🥹🩷


r/Assistance • • 21h ago

SURVEY Final SCHOOL Project Help! (Quick Survey)

0 Upvotes

I need 100 participants for a Final Class Project, the survey will be less than 5 minutes to complete! Thank you if you decide to participate! :)

Survey Link: Click here


r/Assistance • • 1d ago

REQUEST FULFILLED Single Father in Need

10 Upvotes

Hello Reddit Family,

My name is Nicholas, I am 28 years old, and I am a single father to a beautiful 8 year old girl, Chloe. We live in New York, and I went through hell and back with family court to get custody of her. She was forcibly removed from her mother’s home by CPS, and by the grace of god, I was able to save my daughter from her abusive environment.

I made the mistake this week of not budgeting well this week. I am used to living paycheck to paycheck as the sole provider to my daughter and I, but this week I had to pay the remaining balance of her birthday party on November 8th (209$) as well as her Halloween costume (45$). No, her mother does not pay child support and she has abandoned her visitation and parental rights as well.

I was hoping to ask for 50$, just to fill my gas tank. I had to call in to work today (thankfully I have PTO) because I only have 30 miles in my car and 2$ in my account. Any money would go straight into my gas tank so I can get back to work Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday, until payday on Friday.

Cash App would be the easiest as I have a physical debit card with them, but Venmo or Apple Pay would also be helpful if an alternative is needed.

I hope that everyone in here has a blessed day and an even better week. God bless 🙌

Updated to remove personal information / tags.


r/Assistance • • 1d ago

REQUEST Going for work.

4 Upvotes

I'm 19 and need a little help getting to the Netherlands to work

Hi everyone,

I'm 19 years old and from Romania. I was kicked out of my apartment, my parents no longer speak to me, and I'm currently staying in a community that has kindly given me a place to stay until I can find work.

I've tried finding a job in Romania, but unfortunately, I haven't managed to find one in time. I want to go to the Netherlands to work and build a better future for myself, but I don't even have enough money for the bus ticket.

I'm asking for help covering my travel costs and basic food expenses until my first paycheck. I'm not looking for an easy way out; I just want a chance to work and support myself.

Any donation, share, or advice would mean the world to me.

I started a fund raising for this too.

https://4fund.com/46z9ch

Thank you for reading my story and giving me a chance.

You can either help me or donate on my fundraiser, it's urgent, my bus reservation is on 30 of octomber.


r/Assistance • • 21h ago

VOTES [Vote for Vote] Free daily vote for my friend in the Maxim Big Game Contest — happy to return the favor!

0 Upvotes

Hi everyone,

My friend Crystal is currently competing in the Maxim Big Game contest and is trying to maintain her #1 position in the final voting round!

Voting Details:

Link: https://creators.maxim.com/t/UBFCY5U6

How to vote: Click "Free Daily Vote" (requires a standard quick Facebook/email login to verify you're a real human). This takes seconds and there are less than 3 days left in the contest!

Cost: 100% free!

Vote for Vote: If you have an active poll, contest entry, or survey you need support on, leave a comment below with your link once you've voted, and I’ll gladly return the favor!

Thank you so much for the support!

https://creators.maxim.com/t/UBFCY5U6


r/Assistance • • 2d ago

REQUEST FULFILLED Need help with groceries and a bus pass to make it to Thursday.

10 Upvotes

Hello, it’s my first time posting here and I’m a little bit nervous and hopefully I followed the rules properly.

I am currently in Saskatchewan and have been on Saskatchewan Income Support for a few months due to mental health issues. I receive a food bank hamper every 2 weeks normally, but was unable to make my last food bank hamper last until the 29th of October when I receive my assistance income, due to the contents of the hamper (it varies).

If anybody is able to help me with groceries and a bus pass, (I receive a discount for a bus pass, it is $25CAD) and about $30 for groceries to last until Thursday I would appreciate it so much. The bus pass will allow me to get to and from a couple of appointments I have this week, as well as get to and from the grocery store, as I do not have a license.

I have to admit I feel a bit ashamed asking for help but I don’t speak with my family any longer and figured I would give it a shot here.

My amazon wishlist for groceries is Amazon if that is the preferred method.

Thanks,
J


r/Assistance • • 2d ago

REQUEST FULFILLED Embarrassed and never thought that I would ask strangers for help, but I'm hungry

28 Upvotes

I live in Alabama and am self-employed as a therapist and have fallen on hard times recently due to missing work due to illness (and not getting paid) and also unexpected car repairs, the cost of ongoing health issues (breast cancer and liver issues related to the hormone blocker that I have to take because of the breast cancer), and related medical expenses.

I owe my mortgage payment for October, and am a month behind on the power bill and water bill. I also owe my car payment that was due at the very end of September. Unfortunately, I "make too much" for any kind of assistance with my bills. I don't qualify for assistance with my mortgage because I would have to let it go 60 days past due.

I have negative $404 right now. I get a payment from Blue Cross (for claims submitted for counseling sessions) on Wednesday, and I am hoping to pay all but the car payment, which is $450 and will be paid off in 8 months. I won't have anything left after that, though. I'm seeing over 55 clients a week trying to catch up, but life keeps kicking me when I'm down.

I am open to any kind of assistance, but I would really appreciate a Target gift card so that I can get groceries and cat food/litter for my cat. $40 would be great. I'm really hungry and haven't had anything to eat all weekend. There's nothing left in the pantry, and my refrigerated food had to be thrown out a couple of weeks ago due to not having power for almost 24 hours because of the recent hurricane that hit the Gulf coast.

Thank you for your kindness.

ETA: Thank you to everyone for the kind words and for letting me know that I can add an Amazon list. 💜

https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/2SS6NTUQV7EFV?ref_=wl_share

I hope I did it correctly!