I truly feel like I am going crazy while bra shopping. I have always had a larger bust and a smaller frame, but for some reason, it is getting increasingly hard for me to find a bra that fits.
For context, I am in the United States (Oklahoma).
Measurements:
Underbust: 30
Overbust: 39.5 - 40.5
EDIT:
I used the calculator before posting but provided general measurements in the post. The calculator tells me a size that doesn’t consistently work so I was hesitant to post it. Here are the measurements without a bra:
Under bust tight 29
Underbust snug 30
Underbust loose 31
Standing 39
Leaning 43
Laying 40
I have naturally low-sitting breast tissue that makes me look saggy, and I have fullness at the bottom. I mean, I do sag a bit, but it’s made more dramatic by where my chest actually sits on my torso.
All that to say… according to my measurements, I should be around a 30GG in UK sizing (or a 30J in US sizing), right?
Most of the time a 30 band feels too tight, but sometimes a 32 is too loose. Other times a 34 fits just right. I’ve had luck with an occasional 32H, but a 32I gives me immediate quad-boob. I also tried a Freya 32J which seems to accommodate the tissue, but the band is so loose I have to wear it on the tightest hook, and the side wires go all the way up into my armpits, making it incredibly uncomfortable.
I used to wear Chantelle and Freya until Chantelle discontinued my favorite bra. I then gained weight which increased my cup size dramatically (I was a 30G in US sizing before). I know there are different cup shapes, and I feel like my breast tissue fits one that protrudes a little more. Soft cups seem to accommodate my tissue better because there is a little more stretch, but I don’t love the shape they give me or the lack of nipple hiding and smoothing. 😅
I wish I could try stuff on in person, but local stores don’t carry anything that works. The constant buy, try, return, refund cycle is taxing—both mentally and financially—and I’m sure it looks suspicious as hell to my bank.
I wish I could just chop 'em off and go back to a modest US 32G cup 😂 (in all honesty, probably smaller), but surgery is not something I can afford, nor could I take care of myself right now during recovery.
I’m just done and ready to not settle for “good enough, I guess.” I’m tired of wanting to cry after bra shopping and hating my chest.
Any help, suggestions, input, or even “you’re not alone” messages are genuinely appreciated.