Since almost a month ago, I believe, me and my best friend are in a QPR. Thankfully she was just as enthusiastic as me about it. I love her terribly and she loves me as well. The issue is that she's a lesbian, and I'm a man, interested in men - and even with that and with the fact that neither of us harbor any romantic feelings at all - the problem is that I'm terrified of her getting the wrong idea. I adore physical touch and often go non-verbal, and to express this sheer amount of love that I have for her through a kiss (a literal one, on the lips, most people misunderstand) would be liberating. I'm unsure what her stance on such a thing is and if she sees it as platonic. I'm terrified of making her awkward or uncomfortable or misunderstanding me. I tried twice before to express this need to her but she didn't really pick up on what I meant, I wasn't too direct anyway. Question in the title, cause how the hell do I approach this, if at all? Am I just selfish?

I don’t think I’m ace but I am definitely somewhere on the aromantic spectrum, my bsf is ace and not aromantic and has ,in previous conversations, made it clear they do not want any sort of sxual relationship with another person. I have never had s3x in any form before and so would like to experience it at least once, I also know this person is monogamous and would not be ok with me having that kind of a relationship with someone else while being with them. I’m not sure what to do I really love them and I haven’t even asked them about getting in a qpr with me yet, but I’m pretty sure they’d say yes if I asked. My point is I’m not sure how to approach this, has anyone else had a similar experience?

I'm so happy to finally find myself in a QPR with someone I love so, so much.

Romantic relationships never worked for me, as someone who found out a little too late they were aroflux... Too much pressure, too much rules and standards, I always felt like I was playing a part in romantic relationships, putting on a type of performance to fit the "role" of a romantic SO. Even when I did feel romantically for my other at times, when I didn't or it waived, I felt so guilty. I couldn't conceptualize why I felt the way I felt. I thought something was wrong with me and ended the relationship with many people I otherwise loved and cared about.

Now, I'm in love with my best friend, and someone I can call my partner. Someone who understands, doesn't judge, or feel entitled or expectant of any romance between us. I can see the world in her, I can feel the burning of passion between us, the way our hearts melt whenever we're together, but with the acknowledgement that the way our relationship works is the way our relationship works, and it doesn't need to change. I no longer deal with possessive, needy, or insecure feelings in my intimate relationships like I did when I was "playing a part". I no longer feel guilty when the passion or interest between us dies down for a day or two. We always come back together in a love I thought I could never ever experience.

I am so happy and so in love with my best friend.