r/hiking • u/IcedTea-Drinker • 5h ago
Discussion Am I a loser for giving up on a hike?
My partner and I (27F) had planned to do the Bhandak Thatch Hike in the Parvati Valley of Himachal Pradesh. It is a pretty difficult hike with some steep elevation and climbs through a very dense and isolated forest, and can take around 4-5 hours for someone without any prior trekking/hiking experience (aka me). We were 2.5 hours into the hike, pretty high up, and 2-3 folks on the way were concerned that it’d get too dark by the time we decided to hike back down and we didn’t even have the proper gear to walk through such a dense forest at night. Additionally, we were also down to only one bottle of water, limited snacks, no torches apart from our phone torches, and no camping option since it’s too cold to camp at the thatch, so basically, we were really unprepared. Around 2.5 hours into the hike, I panicked because it could see how treacherous the descend would be in the dark and also was getting dehydrated because we couldn’t use up all the water we had (there’s also close to no sources of water up there). I decided to call it quits and walk back down because things stopped making sense and I just didn’t have a good feeling about it anymore. Initially, we were ok about it and thought that it was a rational decision, however, once we got back to our stay the folks told us that we were nearly almost there basis our description and if we had walked an hour more we’d have reached the end. This is when the feeling of being an absolute loser and failing to do my first trek really hit me. Maybe I should’ve powered through? Maybe it wasn’t that bad and I was just scared? A part of my brain says that it was a rational decision because of the lack of proper resources and gear to be confident but another part of me feels like maybe I shouldn’t take up hiking as a thing i want to do and that this just isn’t for me because I’m not brave enough.
Just wanted to hear everyone’s thoughts on this.
















