Hi all. About three weeks ago we had a team meeting about AI tools, and my manager asked for opinions. I mentioned that I'd been testing ChatGPT for drafting client emails and found it kept giving confident-sounding but wrong numbers when clients asked about coverage limits
(we're an insurance brokerage, small to mid business clients mostly). I said we should double check anything AI-generated before it goes out, especially for anything withactual dollar figures attached.

one of my senior coworkers laughed and said I was overthinking it, and brought up a time she used ChatGPT to answer a client's question about a specific policy exclusion because she "didn't feel like digging through the file." I said, kind of defensively, that the exclusion she described wasn't actually how our policies worked and that answer could genuinely cause a problem if the client relied on it. Another coworker jumped in saying I was being uptight for a policy I probably hadn't even read that closely myself. My team lead ended up pulling up the actual policy doc on the spot and confirmed I was right.

We moved on and I honestly forgot about it. Yesterday my team lead pulled me aside and said our director had looked into it further after that meeting and found the same issue in at least a dozen other client files going back months- wrong exclusions wrong limits, stuff that was AI-generated and never double-checked
Now three senior coworkers are being required to redo a compliance training, and I've been asked to help draft a "quick reference doc" for policy basics that people can check before answering clients (I have my licensing and background in underwriting, they don't)

The coworkers involved aren't hostile exactly, but there's definitely a "well look who's the favorite now" vibe from a couple people. I didn't say anything to get anyone in trouble, I was just answering a question in a meeting. But I feel weirdly guilty that this snowballed into a whole review, and I don't know if I should say something yo smooth things over or just keep my head down and do the doc

Recently started my first internship as a finance major... On my first day I went over to my manger's manager (a director at said firm) and introduced myself. He said something like "you must be the new intern" and I replied "that's right and I am the best decision this organization has ever made" (just what tom brady told the team owner before winning 6 super bowls) but instead of being impressed he just replied something like "yeah... I can tell... anyway I need to take a call see you around".

Later that day I saw the HR Manager who hired me walk into his office, not sure if that's out of the ordinary. Also, the first year analyst came over to me and told me "You're a legend mate, want to grab a coffee"? Not sure why he talks like that, he's not even british.

Did I screw up or did I make a good impression? I am really not sure how to read the situation.

In my (30F) office, HR decided to change everyone's place due to new hires.

My new desk neighbor (27F) is a genuenlly nice person that works in a different area. A few days ago I felt a strong pee smell, and at first I thought it might even be me or someone else.

Today, the smell was worse than ever, and I confirmed everything whem the person who is in charge of cleaning the office told me that this girl leaves the outside of the toilet full of pee.

Going with HR or approaching this with her directly is no option. HR and her boss already talked to her in the past about this, and she did nothing about it.

Do you guys have any advice for this? Tomorrow I'll be using an oil diffuser, because the smell is really strong.

Edit: Thank you all for taking the time to respond. Pooping my pants is tempting, but I'll talk to HR about a possible change of place, also I will approach this topic in particular because she might have incontincence issues and maybe she needs to be near the bathroom all the time (our current places are far away of the bathrooms). With the cleaning person we found some pee near the sinks today, so this mighg be related.

Update: Today the smell was worse than ever, so I went with HR. Apparently other people already complained during this couple of days about it. They'll be changing everyones places again and talk to her about this topic in particular.

By the way, oil diffusers don't work in this kind of situations. I tried, but it smelled like mint with pee.

Thank you all for your comments.

Final update: Yesterday, with other 2 ladies at 7:00 a.m we found one of the toilets completelly clogged and full of pee all over the floor.

I think HR and her bosses had enough, and she got fired a few hours later.

After that, everything smells great and I hope I won't have any similar problem again.

I am doing an internship as a recepcionist, I started like two weeks ago. My manager approached me today and said that a customer told her l smelled very bad. The customer was very apologetic about it and my manager was very kind. I'm mortified, I had problems with hygiene before but I thought I was doing pretty good. The fact that all my coworkers could smell me stinking up the place is fucking me up. I'm going to up my higiene obviously but I can't bring myself to look them in the eye again knowing that they think of me as "that intern who stinks". I'm overanalyzing every interaction I had here. If I didn't still have 11 months of contract I would've probably quit on the spot. I was actually really liking working here and benefits and pay are good, but IDK how I can force myself to act normally after this.

Occasionally, older people in the office ask for help with various computer tasks because of the constantly changing UI, browsers, and other tech that can sometimes be confusing for those in their late 60s. I’m always happy to help, and that’s not really what this post is about.

A guy who sits near me, a couple of cubicles behind, is 65. He was having trouble printing some documents for his bank, so I said, " Let me take a look. " He agreed and said, " Come on over. " When I saw it was his paycheck sitting there, I just ignored it and printed the documents for him on the closest printer, and he went to pick it up.

He earns about $5000 less than I do annually, and I’ve only been here about a year. This guy has been here since 1999.

So I don’t know if I can stay somewhere where they’re going to keep me within 5K of what I started at after 26 years. What upsets me is this guy is a really nice guy. He has several kids and I can barely get by. So I know I’m not gonna bring this up and the only difference could be is maybe our education. I have a bachelors and terminal degree?

Why do some people like to take a 2h lunch break in the middle of the working day, while they can skip it, and leave the office 2h earlier, i still can't understand

So. I am an intern. The girl who wrote the fanfic is also an intern. If ages matter, I am 19, other intern is 24 and manager is 43.

She had commented a lot before that she thought me and my manager would be “cute” together and I thought it was weird but whatever. Today she showed me and a bunch of other coworkers fanfic she wrote about me and him.

I am very uncomfortable with it, especially since the fanfic gets pretty graphic, is very weird about both of our ethnicities and in my opinion is a bit ableist about manager’s wheelchair. Both of our partners also die horrible deaths in the fanfic which I know isn’t that big of a deal but made me even more uncomfortable.

Later, I said to her that I felt that it was a very odd thing to do and asked that she please delete it. She told me that I needed to lighten up because it was a joke, that I should take it as a compliment and that she wanted to write a whole book about it to publish it. I said that I would go to HR about it and she said that I should be careful because she was here way longer than I was and it would be very easy for her to point out that the 19yo that actually featured in the fanfic was probably the one who wrote it. Two of my other coworkers saw and heard this whole thing.

I guess, is it worth it to go to HR over this? I am very uncomfortable with her showing it to a lot of people and claiming that she wants to keep doing it. But at the same time, it’s true that she has been here for longer and people seem to like her more than me. I kind of fear career repercutions if she actually manages to make it seem like I did it? And I am just an intern so I’m worried about causing trouble so early on my career?

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I recently made a huge career move in my early 40s to a top-tier company. The pay is almost double what I was making before, which has been life-changing on paper. But socially and mentally, I’m struggling to adjust.

My entire team is in their mid-20s. They’re super smart kids , some with Ivy League degrees and impressive resumes but every time we’re in a team meeting, I am undeniably the oldest person in the room. To make matters worse, most people my actual age at this company are already VP-level or high up in executive management.

At my old job, the pay was pretty mediocre, but my teammates were in their late 30s and early 40s. It felt like I was working with actual peers who were at the same life stage as me. Now, I feel like the adult sitting at the kids' table at a wedding or worse like a total loser who fell behind the curve compared to my age demographics here.

Has anyone else experienced a massive age/life-stage gap like this after a job switch? How did you deal with the imposter syndrome and the awkwardness? Does the feeling eventually fade once you get used to the dynamics? Would love to hear your perspectives or any advice on how to reframe this in my head.

I don't think all these layoffs are happening just because of AI. I feel like there might be more to the story.

Recently, I came across a post from a PayPal employee who mentioned that after layoffs in their team, the remaining employees were expected to take over the work of the people who were let go. Even if the roles were still needed, the company wasn't necessarily hiring replacements.

I also recently spoke to a friend who works at a product-based MNC. According to him, the situation isn't just about AI replacing people. AI is definitely helping developers write code and complete tasks more efficiently, but he believes the bigger problem is the lack of new projects and clients. He mentioned that his company hadn't acquired a new client since 2024.

This got me thinking: Are companies actually laying people off because AI can do their jobs, or are they using AI as part of the explanation for broader economic problems, reduced business demand, and cost-cutting?

Another thing I wonder about is whether companies are reluctant to openly acknowledge that their business growth or demand has slowed down, especially when they need to maintain investor confidence and stock prices.

I'm not saying AI has no impact on jobs. It clearly has the potential to change how software development works. But I find it hard to believe that AI alone explains everything happening in the job market.

For those working in IT, especially in product-based companies:

• What is the actual situation inside your companies?
• Are layoffs happening because AI is genuinely replacing employees, or are they mainly due to fewer projects, reduced client demand, and cost-cutting?
• Are companies still hiring, or are they simply making existing employees do more work with fewer people?

I'd genuinely like to hear perspectives from people working in the industry rather than just relying on headlines and corporate statements.

UPDATE AT THE END

I just accepted a new offer and had a call with my manager today, he really wanted me to stay and asked me to give him a list of what I need. He also said if it’s about money he could make it happen (unlikely because new place is paying me 80% more). The thing is, I’m sick of my coworker and I have been putting up with her for a year.

She talks down to me and undermines everything I do. She regularly jokes that she should give me more work because seems like I’m not stressed (she’s not my manager, I’m just good under pressure). She usually assumes the worst about people. The team has had a high turnover rate, I’m not sure about the others but I know for a fact the last person left because she bullied them (I still keep in touch with that coworker). She’s currently stressing out another new team member, and I’m leaving. That’s why my manager really wants me to stay. He doesn’t know the coworker is the real reason why I’m quitting. Should I tell him at all?

Some more info: - Coworker has been there for years and has seniority. - I’ve witnessed her cutting other people off in meetings and generally getting pretty aggressive, it’s possible that people have complained to our manager, but I’m not sure. Either way, she has been there for years, nothing has been done to change her behavior. - I want to ask my manager to be my reference, so I don’t want to burn bridges.

Or should I just firmly decline any counteroffer without giving much details?

Update: I had a call with my manager and after some poking from him, I told him the coworker was a big reason why I’m leaving.

He immediately said that he knows lol. He sensed that some tension was bubbling up by reading Slack messages and emails, and that he has been wanting to talk to us. We scheduled a follow-up meeting earlier this week to discuss more, where I just unloaded everything. We talked for a bit over an hour.

Since our manager said he would do something about, I hope things will really change. I’m not gonna be there to see it but at least I did something.

The next day, I broke the news (of me leaving) to the coworker and she was not happy. She’s currently trying to micromanage me (again, she’s not my manager) and making my last week kinda miserable. I have told her to please keep all communication with me on common, shared channels from now on. I do not wish to have any 1-on-1 or private conversation with her ever again.

OH WELL. Happy to be moving on, and thanks again everyone who has read my post. It’s sad that so many people have been in the exact same situation as mine; I really hope things improve for everyone.

I’d like to start off by saying I am anti-AI. I think any positives that may come from AI are majorly outweighed by the negatives. To each their own, and if you want to use ChatGPT that is your prerogative. I don’t push my opinion on my coworkers EVER. I’ve never brought it up. I can also appreciate that it can be useful for some people, but I choose not to.

That being said, my issue is that my manager uses it for literally everything. I work in an office where I do marketing and graphic design. When I say everything, I mean everything.

I ask her for help with something, she shoves it into ChatGPT. When I need something in writing from her, she shoves it into ChatGPT. Our performance reviews were written completely with ChatGPT. A coworker (who she’s worked with for almost 10 years) retired and she wrote their goodbye message with ChatGPT. She openly admits this and laughs about it.

She doesn’t make any edits to whatever slop ChatGPT spits out. No reformatting or anything. It’s full of the stupid emojis and em dashes.

She just sent me something that she would like me to send to clients and it is GARBAGE. Completely, 100% AI garbage. I’m so sick of it.

I would like to bring this up to her but I don’t want to cause an issue. I think it makes us look bad because you can tell ChatGPT wrote it in the first sentence.

Little things like the performance reviews also bother me. I want to know what my manager thinks of my performance, not AI.

I try my very hardest not to let my personal dislike of ChatGPT cloud my judgement, but I literally cannot take it anymore!

My employer is moving us to 1099
No more health insurance
No more 401k matches
No more benefits really at all

I just started a year ago and all this is changing. And the kicker is my employer has told us this is all happening. But has yet to tell us how much we are even getting paid and how.

He says, hey you can write more stuff off so you will benefit from that.

But that’s all. I’m in NY if that matters. But it’s BS but it’s a tricky situation.

This sub has helped me before so im posting here, this is a throwaway and the post is long, sorry.

About a year or so ago, i got hired as an intern and then later as a full time employee by this company. To put things simply, during my time here my manager had to talk to me a few times about hygiene and cleanliness. After some time, I started hearing whispers and everything about it as well. I tried everything, but it seemed like nothing improved.

I got a second job, got everything organized and decided I was going to quit when I had enough saved up because I was so embarassed about seemingly failing to not stink up my coworker's space. It was frustrating because I never smelled anything or my friends, but people still commented, and I figured it was a losing battle. Monday, I told my manager that I was quitting.

My manager looked very surprised and she asked me why. So I explained. She got frantic and then said that wasn't a good enough reason. I joked that I was doing it for their own good. She asked me for one sec, brought two other coworkers to the meeting and then they told me.

Actually everything was them "pranking" me. They found out I was bullied for having poor hygiene when I was younger (my fault there I told them at an office party), and since when I started I was really annoying and trying to intrude in their circle, they started spreading the rumors that I smelled bad. According to them, they figured that eventually I was going to trace it back to them, I would confront them and everything was going to be good, but I never did. They showed text messages and everything.

Afterwards, my manager said they were already figuring out a way to deal with that internally and she only discovered it recently.

Well, now my manager gave me a week to reconsider. She's begging me to be mature about this, that I am a great employee and this would be a stupid reason to leave. But tbh I can't face most of my coworkers now. We are a small team and the text messages had a lot of people in it, including people I thought were friends, and I'm really hurt. I want to quit, I don't think I can carry on working here, but everyone is telling me I'm being childish and should get over it.

I guess, am I being childish? I make enough with freelance and my second job to get by and my boyfriend is okay with me quitting, but I guess I just want to know if this is a valid enough reason to quit.

I work in publishing and deadlines are really tight. We are a small team, only three people. For the past year my manager keeps taking leave right when important projects are due, which means I have to take on all her responsibilities (on top of mine) to make the deadline. This has become a common occurrence. I have to deal with any editorial issues, testing concerns etc. under pressure, when the projects need to get to print, and with her not being available for any help. I have spoken to her directly about it, and have complained to upper management as well, but things do to change. Our current project is due today, and she has taken leave again. I just received an email of a bunch of errors in the work she has done.

I have decided to ignore the email and let her deal with it when she gets back. How do I tell her in a professional/stern manner to stop doing this? She clearly did not take me seriously the first time. Would appreciate some guidance!

Our 3rd coworker in less than 2 months quit Friday. I asked him what’s next and he said “the sun and the sky”. The other coworkers also didn’t have a job lined up yet.

It’s interesting because my boss just a couple months ago was threatening to fire me, partially citing that we were fully staffed, and now we’re short staffed and she’s changed her tune with me. I’m also a full time graduate student so if I quit, I’d be just fine between student loans and landing an assistantship/ part time gig.

This great resignation movement seems to be the real deal. Unemployment data is being released on Friday and I’m very curious of the results.

There needs to be a “Great Resignation” flair on this sub lol

Edit: since I’ve posted this, another coworker quit… 4 coworkers in just at 3 months now. Small office. This particular coworker started less than 2 months ago.

How would you deal with this?

Essentially, I have worked as inside sales for the past six years, with a competitive salary and compensation bonus based on sales targets for the team. My job consists of teams calls, phone calls, and emails. I have occasionally had a trade show or two a year, which i have been ok with as its been with a co worker and I enjoy getting to see them in person. We also have a yearly team meeting which is mostly a laid back team building meeting where we meet and greet and do an activity like laser tag, escape room, etc.

The important thing to me is that travel requirements were discussed well beforehand during the interview process. <10% travel, so essentially 3 to 4 weeks of travel time per year.

For the past year we have been without a manager and we finally have a new one. So far she is awful. She is saying that the team needs to be a "face to face, boots on the ground" sales teams and that "every quote we send needs to propose a company visit". That is insane. That would essentially put me in a plane more than im in my own home. She is already trying to discuss me flying to a customer, and another customer "is only a 5 hour drive so I should drive instead of fly". Whats most frustrating is that we dont sell things that can be demoed in person, its literally fucking industrial equipment(?!) So im just going to sites and twiddling my thumbs....? I need to give her an answer this week and im panicking.

Basically my main question - do I have any protection based on the job offer I signed 6 years ago? Or can my new manager come in and make these demands and we have no choice but to follow orders? This is my 2nd real big boy job out of college so im still new to the working world lol.

There is a rumor floating around the team that bwcause our company has been struggling for the past few years, she is coming in to "soft lay off" people by making demands and forcing them to quit.

We’ve all worked with people who never seem to advance their careers despite being undeniably good at their jobs.

Highly skilled and competent people who just can’t seem to get out of their own way. People whose problematic personalities and/or lack of social competency inevitably prevents them from getting beyond a certain level.

I’m not talking about the shark-eyed, business psychos - the ones who view everyone as expendable units to be squeezed, leveraged, and dominated. No, those guys are socially adept enough to climb the corporate ladder, easily navigating the office politics and playing a fantastic ‘social game’ (to borrow a Survivor term). bad people, certainly - but socially sophisticated enough to win friends, influence people, and work their way up the hierarchy.

I’m talking about the people whose personalities are so deeply weird, awkward, annoying, and/or off-putting that they’re pretty much cooked, no matter how good they are at their jobs.

I’d love to hear your examples. I have a few to share myself, starting with…

• all consuming negativity: the inability to say anything that isn’t either a complaint, a criticism, an insult, a self-deprecating comment, or an unsolicited editorial comment. Being just a huge f*cking bummer all the time, a major vibe killer who no one likes working with.

• offensive/inappropriate humor: the compulsive tendency to make off color jokes and remarks. Insufficient self awareness to recognize how uncomfortable everyone is, and how much people hate your stupid jokes. No one trusts you to be normal and not-gross in important situations, so you’re never allowed out of your cage.

• gossiping & being a huge drama queen: always being involved in workplace drama and amplifying office conflicts. Talking about people behind their backs, spreading rumours, and never exercising tact/discernment. Lacking professional maturity and emotional regulation; crying, whining, and venting inappropriately. Making everyone’s lives more difficult than they should be, and being a gigantic squeaky wheel.

• being a huge ‘know it all’: acting like you’re smarter than everyone else, scoffing at other people’s ideas, and generally being a rude, condescending jerk. Correcting people, nitpicking inconsequential details, rolling your eyes, and/or questioning people’s ability to do their jobs. Going over people’s heads, stepping on people’s toes, and pissing everyone off.

• inability to accept accountability: blaming every single issue and problem on others, and never owning up to anything. Throwing random people under the bus, rewriting history to suit your narrative, and frequently tattletale-ing on teammates and/or managers to HR. Having endless excuses for everything, and being a spineless weasel.

Have I missed anything? What other personalities prevent people from progressing??

Sound off, xo.

I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately and wondering if anyone else has gone through something similar.
Until my early 30s, I was primarily a software developer, mostly C/C++ on Linux. I was surrounded by really smart technical people and constantly had to think, code, debug and solve difficult problems.
I was good at it too. When I considered moving towards testing, I remember people I worked with telling me, “Why are you going into testing? You’re a very good developer.”
Back then I felt sharp. I asked good questions. People sometimes commented on the way I approached problems, and I had confidence in my technical ability.
Over the years I moved more towards release/configuration management and performance testing. I still do tool development and quite a lot of technical investigation. Sometimes I’ll go very deep into an issue and eventually find the root cause in the software development or integration side.
So I know that ability is still somewhere there.
But I don’t feel like I use my brain the way I used to.
Sometimes I’m simply not challenged enough and I get bored. I’ve also noticed that in my current environment, people who communicate and present really well seem to stand out. I’m almost the opposite. 😅
I would rather spend three hours analysing something and finding the actual root cause than spend an hour making a beautiful presentation explaining what I found.
Recently during my mid-year appraisal, my manager mentioned that he’d received feedback from some people that I don’t always ask the right questions — that sometimes I ask something without thinking it through first.
That comment really stayed with me.
I started looking at some of my recent questions/messages afterwards and thought, maybe they’re right. Sometimes I could have stopped, thought for another few minutes, analysed what I already knew and then asked a much better question.
And I realised I wasn’t like this before.
I’m 40 now. I have a child and I’m currently managing work, parenting and most things at home largely on my own. Obviously my mental load at 40 is completely different from what it was at 28 or 30.
But I still don’t want to use that as an excuse.
I miss the version of myself who was extremely curious, technically hungry and mentally sharp. I actually don’t like seeing this change in myself.
I’m wondering particularly about people who have been in tech for 15–20+ years:
Have you ever felt like you lost some of your intellectual sharpness after moving away from hardcore development?
Was it age? Mental load? Burnout? Lack of challenge? Just getting too comfortable in the job?
And more importantly — did you manage to get that sharpness and curiosity back? What did you actually do?
I’d really like to hear from people who have been through it.

I've been in marketing at a tech company for 3 years and haven't gotten any raises other than cost of living adjustments. Since Jan. 2025 my job duties have increased from individual contributor to someone who helps guide decision making with managing partners and working with them on a weekly basis (meaning running the calls, getting tactics executed on too, and general internal consulting/strategy). We had a bad year last year and I'm just under $74k. I made 75k when I started 3 years ago... whenever I compare my duties to industry standards, I see that I should be paid at least 90k.

Anyway, I got reached out to by a company in an unrelated industry that was asking me if I was interested in a job - and it would be a huge bump - a director of marketing position, at $50k more. I report to the director of marketing right now.

I'm a great fit for the role and have done 2 interviews and an assignment. I have one more in person interview to go, and they're asking for my references now. They seem very interested and my background is a close match.

I wanted a strategic spread of people as my reference, one being a managing partner I've been working with since Jan 2025. He consistently has great things to say about me and I'm sure he'd give me a good reference.

I asked him to be my reference, and he said, oh wow! Sure! I'm assuming [your boss] knows?

I said no, I still have an interview to go and am keeping this private for now. He later followed up with

"Hey [my name], Thinking about this more, I don’t feel comfortable being a reference without [my boss] knowing. Given that she’s a peer of mine, I feel a certain level of responsibility to let her know, as I would want her to do the same if the situation were reversed. I would encourage you to bring it to her. I suspect she would even offer to support you in this if it’s something you really want"

I reinforced that I want to keep this private, he said let's talk on the phone. We talked on the phone, he said he feels obligated to tell her, because "what if people found out I knew you were leaving 2 weeks before you did, it would erode trust with [boss]"

He gave me an ultimatum basically that I need to tell my boss I'm interviewing elsewhere (btw this is my only interview throughout the time I've worked at the company) "so she can capacity plan" and "because she'd probably be a great advocate."

I tried to explain that in the past, a year and a half before I would start, I mentioned wanting to go to a singular highly competitive MBA program full-time. For six months she said that because I said that, she was not considering me an employee worth investing in because I would be leaving. I also explained I did not have an offer.

I feel totally betrayed by this guy. I never would have thought he'd do this to me. He is so naive and has conception of how tenacious my and my colleagues relationship is with our boss. Maybe I'm naive thinking its ever a good idea to ask anyone from the same leadership team.

We are so small we don't even have an internal HR - we have an external company we contract.

What do you recommend I do? Opinions? I have the interview on Tuesday, so I hope to know soon whether I got this job or not, but I'm just curious to hear people's opinions on this situation. Not sure if I'm overreacting.

I tapped a female coworker on the shoulder to get her attention and got Shouted at.

I was in a Hurry and i needed to ask this coworker female and of same rank a question to do my Job. She was in a group of people someone was talking it wasnt a Meeting they were Smoking and having a Chat. She wasnt actively Speaking to someone and i was facing her back and i didnt know her name so i tapped her gently with a Finger on the right shoulder to get her attention. The question was of a matter to be asked better on 1on1 but Not necessarily to be dragged to the side. Stil i didnt want the groups attention nor disturb the groups Chat. i didnt rly know her name but we have worked like 60 days together and seen each other as much and greeted each aswell, Wearing the same Uniform in a craftmanship work Environment.

When i tapped her she shouted at me to Not touch her. And she refused to help me even though she could have easily...

My question now is it rly socially Not acceptable to tap a coworker , apart from being Not permitted to do so at work?

I am starting to question myself on this one. I Sure wont be doing that again, and i usually dont but i didnt expect a Reaction like that.

Thanks for the Feedback. Definitely a big mistake from me. Seems like am lacking some stuff. Guess i better find a Job in it.

EDIT: next time i will use the end of a broom to catch someones attention. Just kiddin.

One more interesting Thing:

What if i had touched a man on the shoulder and a man would have shouted at me loudly for touching him. How would the shouting Person be Judged. Imagine biden is being tapped by Sarkozy or some otjer nations leader and He freaks out wouldnt the one shouting Not seem more weird than the one who is tapping? I am pretty Sure i have seen this.

Basically, we both have our core responsibilities, plus some additional tasks that are supposed to be shared between us. In practice, though, I’ve been doing most of those additional tasks because she simply wouldn’t do it.

I sent management evidence of this, and they later met with both of us. They didn’t mention my email, but they made it clear that she needed to start taking responsibility for her share of the work.

She agreed during the meeting, but afterwards she sent me angry, victimizing WhatsApp messages accusing me of acting maliciously and saying that she had been overworked, which was supposedly why she hadn’t completed those tasks.

I also have verbal confirmation from another colleague that they had previously tried to ask her about one of these specific tasks, and she would essentially brush them off and still not do it.

This has now happened with two major projects, both of which ended up being done almost entirely by me. The first project actually had to be shut down because I couldn’t realistically manage the workload of two people on my own. At the time, I also wrote to management documenting how much I was contributing compared with how little she was doing.

At this point, I find her extremely difficult to work with. Besides documenting my own work and keeping management informed, what is the best way to deal with someone who consistently avoids responsibility? The only way for this girl to be happy is when I am doing my work and hers as well. She also works VERY slow on purpose to create delays and look busy.

(I am quite fed up at this point so unconventional advice by DM is welcome if it worked for you)

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Edit: She also made me look bad since I had to request shutting down the first project because I literally couldn't do it alone. I know... I don't know how she always gets out of it but she didn't even get involved and no one said anything to her. Some people got mad at me for stopping the project.

For context, I’ve been at this company for a few months and this is my first full time job out of college. I was in an online meeting with about 5 coworkers including my boss. As of late, I have been thrown 100% into a particular project that the company won. Anyways, in this meeting, they were trying to delegate who could work on this other new project that the company is interested in and my boss says to me “well, OP, you’ve been bought and sold to [other project] so I don’t think you’ll be working on this one” or something along those lines. For context he is white and I am black. Honestly, I didn’t think too much about the comment, I kind of just let it roll off my back.

A few hours later, another white coworker who was in the online meeting sends me a message, apologizing for what my boss said and asking me if I wanted him to say something to my boss. The thing is, I’m very new at this company and I’ve actually never met my boss in person but I know he’s a really nice guy so I know what he said wasn’t said with malicious intent (at least I hope). I also don’t want my boss to be walking on eggshells every time he talks to me. However, my coworker thinks that he should speak to my boss so that he won’t say something like that again. I’m not sure what to do, any ideas?

I'm 31, turning 32 this year working in Marketing for a fortune 500 company. I'm a Manager with close to 8 years exp in the industry and I am 5 years older than my boss. My boss only has 4 years of relevant experience yet he's already at the director level. I went from Analyst to Manager and that took me nearly 5 years and been stuck in the Manager role ever since. Can anyone explain how this is possible?

^ Can you please give concrete examples?

For context: I’m trying to decide if I am the problem or the workplace

Location: West Europe