36, laid off in 2024, three jobs since, just moved abroad for a 2-year contract and already drained. How do I break the cycle?
Hi all. I'm looking for honest advice, especially from people who've been through something similar.
My career has been very bumpy since 2024. I'd been at a consultancy for two years when I was laid off in a restructuring. I was happy there and wasn't looking for anything else. Since then I've felt a bit lost about what I do.
After the layoff I took some time off to travel and started a new job a few months later. Looking back, I jumped in too fast because I wanted to be working again. It was the wrong fit. There was basically no onboarding and nothing really for me to do, so I felt stuck straight away and looked for something new.
After 8 months there, I got an opportunity at another consultancy. I had a great start and really liked it, even though it wasn't my dream job (I don't know what that is). It didn't feel long-term, though, because there wasn't much room to progress and the work itself was quite basic, but I like the clientfacing aspect to it.
A year after I started there, I got the chance to move abroad on a 2-year contract. It was a clear step up in responsibilities, I could learn a lot, and living on another continent for a few years had always been a dream. It felt like a now-or-never opportunity to do this, before me and my partner start thinking about kids.
The problem: since the layoff, I can't seem to just do my job, or any job, anymore. Every job gets boring after a few months and I start questioning everything. I'm six weeks into this one and two years already feels very long to do this job. Right now I have no energy to do anything.
Where my head is at:
- I really want my next job to be one I stay in for years, so I can finally find some stability. The longest I've ever been anywhere is 3.5 years.
- But I'm scared another short stint will make me unemployable if I leave now or before my contract is up.
- I'm not sure about my industry or the type of work I do. I fell into it 10 years ago and went with it. I'm not sure changing careers at 38, when this contract ends, is a good idea.
My questions:
- Has anyone else felt "broken" about work after a layoff? What helped?
- Should I push through the full two years, or is leaving after one year, or even sooner, okay?
TL;DR: 36, laid off in 2024, three jobs since, just moved abroad for a 2-year contract and already feel drained. How do I stop jobs from going stale and find one I'll actually stay in?