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Problem/Goal: I found out he is POS, what to do?

While fixing his thing, I found his daily meds, as per him, PrEP, para safe kami parehas(I started PrEP last 5 months, pretty new sa PrEP), pero iba color ng bottle niya. Lakas ng tibok ng dibdib ko, then I googled.

Teldy is only for Pos.

When we first met, I was asking him if may gusto siya sabihin. Pero wala siyang sinabi. He know na conscious ako sa health.

Hindi ko alam how to react, I was so sad. Sad ako kasi nag lie siya, we were doing perfectly fine. New ako sa ganitong setup. And he started launching me hard from his officemates, to his family, to my family, to the world.

I don't know if his friends knows his status.

Now I feel like I wanna take a break to think things over, but he is so emotional and I think just me telling him to take a break will make him hysterical or worst, the worst.

Fckk i dont what to do.

Problem/Goal: i found out na im 3 weeks pregnant after my boyfriend and i broke up

Context: para maclarify yung time line, nagbreak kami in bad terms noong end ng september pero nagusap kami noong October 5 which led to unprotected intercourse. after a few days, napagusapan namin na hindi na talaga kayang ayusin relasyon namin kaya we ended na officially. ngayon, i found out na buntis ako after taking a pt dahil late na period ko.

hindi ko alam gagawin, natatakot ako sobra. wala na kaming contact ng tatay dahil yun ang napagagreehan namin. parehas din kaming in college. ayaw ko namang isakripisyo namin pagaaral namin lalo nat last year na namin. hindi ko masabi sa magulang ko dahil alam kong hindi nila ako kayang suportahan at dagdag lang sa stress. wala pa akong nasasabihan at wala akong planong magsabi kung kanino. wala rin sa options na ipaabort dahil hindi pwede dito at hindi ko rin kakayanin. hindi ako alam ang gagawin. hindi ko alam kanino ako lalapit o hihingi ng tulong.

Previous Attempts: wala pa.

Problem/Goal:
My best friend recently confessed that he’s been in love with me for almost 8 years. I genuinely don’t know what to do because I value our friendship, but now I’m starting to question whether things between us were ever just friendship.

Context:
We’ve known each other since high school and have always been extremely close. He’s been there through almost everything in my life, including my previous relationships.
I’ve always considered him my closest friend. We’ve joked about dating before, but I never really took those jokes seriously.
A few days ago, we were hanging out when he suddenly brought up how he’s never really stopped having feelings for me. At first, I thought he was joking, but he eventually admitted that he had been keeping it to himself for years because he was afraid of ruining our friendship.
Now I’m looking back at certain things he’s done for me, and honestly, some things make a lot more sense.
The confusing part is that I’m not completely sure how I feel about him. I care about him deeply, but I don’t know if it’s romantic or if I’m just overwhelmed by what he told me.

Previous Attempts:
I tried asking him why he decided to tell me now, and he said he was tired of pretending that his feelings didn’t exist.
I haven’t given him an answer yet because I don’t want to make a decision just because I feel pressured.
I also don’t want to lose someone who’s been such a huge part of my life.
Would you consider giving a relationship with your best friend a chance, or would you rather keep the friendship as it is?

Problem/Goal: Sobrang anxious about rabies na it is starting to control my everyday life.

Context: I have always been anxious about health. I always overthink the things that could cause death. Recently, August 3, I adopted a 2 month old puppy and on the 1st night, nadilaan niya yung sugat ko sa paa. Because the puppy was never vaccinated with anti rabies, nagpavaccine din ako agad.

Previous Attempts: My first dose was last August 4 and I completed the 3 doses of vaccine since hindi naman namatay yung dog namin. After a month, napaanti rabies na yung puppy namin pero I think naman naexpose ako sa kitten na pumasok sa bahay namin and seeing posts online about rabies, nagspiral nanaman utak ko na baka meron na akong rabies, so nagpabooster ako ng September 19, and 22.

So after a month nanaman, Last October 21, while I was driving a motorcycle, may nafeel akong parang water na naspray sa mukha ko out of knowhere and nearby is puno ng bayabas and may mga paniki na lumilipad. I suspected na rabies nanaman like tulo ng laway yun ng rabid na paniki and baka napunta sa mata ko or ilong or bibig. Nagpabooster nanaman ako kinabukasan and my last vaccine was last October 25.

Even though fully vaccinated nako, everyday pa rin akong inaatake ng anxiety. Iniisip ko lahat ng possible scenario like what if naunang kumalat yung virus before gumana yung vaccine or what if fake yung vaccine or kulang yung mga ginawa kong pagpapainject kase sa face yung possible na exposure. My anxiety is starting to be a major problem na on my everyday life kase parang wala nako gana gumawa ng kung ano kase feel ko may rabies na ako. Sa sobra kong pagooverthink, parang namamanifest ko yung symptoms sa katawan ko and nagiging hyperaware ako sa mga nafefel ko. For example lagi kong minomonitor kung sumasakit pag lalamunan ko pag umiinom. Every hour ata nagsesearch ako about rabies and nauubos yung time ko sa kakaganito. Gusto ko na rin talaga mawala tong anxiety ko.

Problem/Goal: I caught my partner using online gambling sites and it hurts me.

Context: My partner and I were living together for 5 months now after a year of relationship. Okay naman. But on the 3rd month nahuli ko sya na nag gamble, sabi nya he as addicted before but tries not to play anymore since naging kami but di nya mapigilan. On our 5th month nagawa ulit nya, dahilan nya nappressure sya to provide for us and yung dophamine kasi. Also, he said na na-pressure sya sa lifestyle na gusto nyang ibigay for me.

Infairness to him, the first thing he did when we moved in, binigay nya sakin ang ATM nya and sabi nya i-handle ko ang finances namin and bills, ako nang bahala mag-budget. He earns pretty decent and he actually earns better than me. Ako naman, professional and have decent job with decent salary naman kaya di kami hirap masyado sa pera. Ang main gastos lang siguro namin is yung tuition ko sa masters na hinuhulugan namin monthly.

When I learned about the gambling, inamin naman nya and inako and sabi nya nahihirapan syang itigil entirely and just plays 100 to 300 weekly. The money was used sa gambling is from his part time, so pag may extra lang sya as far as i know and I handle all the online bankings for us para iwas cash in. Wala syang access and he is okay with this which I really appreciate of him kasi napakalaki ng accountability nya.

Here’s the issue. My ex used to be an gambling addict and it was my trigger and trauma as he used to abuse me and steal all my money and businesses due to his gambling addiction.

Nasaktan ako when I learned that he gambles pero hindi ko alam kung saan ba ang boundary and kung kakayanin ko pa ba. He was really great and treats me well. Kaso ayoko bumalik sa dati and malubog.

Gusto ko syang pagkatiwalaan and ayoko syang iwan kasi binibigay nya lahat for me.

Valid ba yung takot ko? Dapat ba na umalis na lang ako kasi pakiramdam ko nattrigger ko din sya. Help me out please. Ang hirap pag traumatized na gagaslight ang sarili! As of now, natatakot ako magdesisyon cause I really love him and if given na hindi ko alam na naggagamble sya I don’t think it would be an issue as of nopw kasi nasakin ang money namin and there are no debts. (I’ve been reading gambling addiction stories and based din sa past experience)

Previous Attempt: Asked him to stop and kung di na nya yun titigilan umalis na sya and sabi nya na tinitigilan naman nya and nung una tinigil naman nya, natatakot ako na baka magrelapse nanamana sya.

Problem/Goal: Ever since naglagay ng gambling ads sa GCash, na enganyo mag online gambling ang mom ko. Last year, nahuli ko sya na ginamit yung business GCash account namin pang top up, tapos non pinagsabihan ko sya na rigged ang online gambling, na house palagi ang mananalo. Now, nakita ko nanaman na nag top up sya ng ₱5k in just less than an hour.

My dad is an OFW and is still paying for our everyday needs, and two of my siblings are still in school. I'm worried that my mom will drain our dad's hard-working money and I'm also worried that if share this to my older brother or my father, things between us may not be the same. Sasabihin ko ba, or just keep my mouth shut?

I know it's their choice to gamble or not, but I'll forever despise GCash for putting gambling ads on their app.

Problem/Goal:

What are your unhinge ways of cutting ties with someone you're attached to? (idk how else to describe it but I am not romantically attached to them)

I know what love is and THIS IS NOT IT.

Kasi this feeling, it's draining and very much exhausting pero I can't get it out of my head.

Whenever a memory of them is triggered, I get anxiety attacks. Not kilig, not happy, full on ANXIETY AND PANIC.

I couldn't sleep and I've wasted months effort to lose weight because it also triggered stress eating.

I hate the way my mind works and I think I've tried pretty much every meditation thing even cord-cutting spells — because that's how fucking desperate I am.

Problem/Goal: bumagsak ako sa major subject ko, daming pre requisite na delay ako graduation. nalaman ng pamilya ko nangyare and ngayon ayaw nila ako pansinin. want ko sana mag hanap work student friendly para makaalis na ako dito sa bahay na to

context: bumagsak ako dahil hindi umabot sa passing ang grade ko. 3% nalang sana. ayaw pa ako pag bigyan ni prof. hindi naman sa bobo ako. ginawa ko lahat, ako gumawa groupings pero nung sila pinagawa ko halos walang nagawa ending kulang kulang project namin.

nalaman ng pamilya ko yun sinabihan ako ng “hindi naman prof or subject ang mahirap bobo lang talaga studyante” imagine marinig mo yun after ng ginawa mo na lahat pero kulang pa din. next day hindi na ako kinakausap. dedma na. ganon na talaga ugali ng parents ko mula una. na uunfair lang ako kasi sakin lang ginagawa yun. sa mga kapatid ko hindi. sasabihan pa akong bastos daw ako eh hindi naman kasi totoo sinasabi at mag sasabi ng “hindi naman kayo nag lilinis kwarto/huhugas pinggan ng kapatid mo” kahit yung totoo kapatid ko lang yung hindi. nakaka urat lang din kasi pakinggan kasi hindi ba na appreciate yung pag hugas ko ng pinggan, pag linis ng mga madudumi para masabi un?
ending ako pa bastos

ngayon na enroll ako ng walang pasabi, pipili pa sana ako schedule ko kasi sobrang complicated ngayon ako pa nakakarindi nung nag rarant ako sa kapatid ko kesyo lahat nalang daw problema ko di ko na na solusyunan. mag sorry daw ako kasi ako mali hahaha tangina kelan ba sila hindi naging mali? nakaka drain sobra may ganto kang pamilya. sana hindi nalang ako binuhay hindi ko naman hiniling tong buhay na to.

maayos naman sila pero pag dating sa emotional boka, nabibigay naman gusto ko, pera, gamit, needs at wants. pero sana pati yung pagiging mabuting pamilya mabigay.

previous attempts: nag try ako mag apply sa bpo, kaso initial interview mali nasagot ko:((. gusto ko nalang talaga mamatay.

Problem/Goal: Nahuli ko and Tinago ng boyfriend ko na nag order sya ng gift sa ka work nya na babae. OA lang ba ako na magalit or may something na talaga? Ano ba dapat kong gawin?

Context: Boyfriend M(25) ko sya for 3 years. Recently kasi may nagiging close sya na ka work nya na babae F(22) which is working student din pala. Tibo naman daw. Actually, na open and napag awayan nanamin yung babae due na medyo uncomfi ako sa pag add and follow nya don sa social media. Tropa naman daw sila and friends, kaso iba kasi parang na vi-vibe ko plus Madalas na nya i kwento sakin yung girl na un. Nakikita ko din naman slight na tibo yung babae pero alam mo un parang girl padin like may pictures sya na naka dress and swimsuit. Tapos nahuli ko BF ko na nag order ng gift Nacionale Tweezers sa IG (nag notif sakin, pero nag tataka ako delete na convo nung tiningnan ko) akala ko para sakanya so nag ask me, nag wow pa nga ako eh kasi malapit na bday nya/Anniversary namin so akala ko gift nya yon para sa sarili nya. Tapos nagulat me kasi bigla nya na chat if "May tiwala kaba sakin?" Syempre sagot ko oo. Tas nagulat me nag open bigla na yung order nayon ipang gigift nya sa gurl kasi daw malapit na daw mag graduation yon, di nya daw sinasabi sakin kasi magagalit daw ako. Like??? Bakit di nya ako sinabihan? Bat di nya pinaalam? Bat need itago? Bat mag bibigay sya eh ng ganong ka special na gift? Eh ilang months lang sila nag kakilala, tas may na tropa naman sya na iba sa work pero di sya nag gift ng ganon. Naloloka ako bat need itago sakin diba!

Previous attempt: None

Problem/Goal: Ang new housekeeper namin ay gusto ng kunin ang sahod niya

Context: Hindi malinaw sagot ni chatgpt lol, so ask nalang ako dito. So may new housekeeper kami. Nag start siya nung Oct 15. Nag off siya nung Oct 18 and Oct 25. Then Oct 26 nag message siya sakin sabi niya sakin nagka emergency daw sa bahay nila at hindi daw niya alam kung kaylan siya makakabalik. Chineck ko room niya at wala na siyang gamit. Nag alsabalutan na pala. Ang kwento niya sa text eh na heat stroke ang mama niya na nasa cavite at mataas daw creatinine ng tatay niya na nasa mindanao at kaylangan daw niya alagaan pareho. Paano kaya niya aalagaan ang dalawa… Cavite and Mindanao. Kaloka. So anyway, today tadtad ako ng message and call mula sakanya. Sabi niya bed ridden na daw ang mama niya at critical na daw lagay ng tatay niya at OTW na daw siya ngayon ng mindanao at hindi daw sapat ang pamasahe niya at hinihintay lang daw siya ma send ko sa gcash niya yung sahod niya ng 10 days. In short nira rush niya ko na i send ko na sahod niya.

PS. Sampo ang kapatid niya sa tatay niya kaya ang tanong ko sakanya ay….. sa sampong yun wala ni isa sakanila ang pwede mag alaga sa tatay mo? Kaylangan siya talaga ang pumunta sa mindanao from cavite? Anyway none of my business

Previous attempts: Kanina

My question is gusto ko sana i send ang sahod niya sa katapusan. October 30. Kasi usually ganun naman di ba? Every 15th and 30th of the month ang sahod. Pero ang kaso lang hindi ko na mention to sakanya bago siya mag start. Or magpadala ako sa pangpe pressure niya at i send ko na now kasi baka ako pa mabaliktad?

Salamat sa mga sasagot!

Problem/Goal: I want to learn how to drive.

Context: I still don’t know kung anong car ang bibilin ko in the future (probably early or mid 2027 pa ako bibili) but ayoko sana ng maliit na cars like sedan. I was told na mas nagkaka confidence mag drive kung bigger cars like compact SUV. I have the following questions lang po sana:

1. Ano po mas maganda aralin sa driving school po, manual or automatic? Nabasa ko po kasi na mas madaling mag automatic pag po marunong mag manual. Pero alam ko naman na automatic din yung gusto kong bilin in the future.

2. Sa tingin nyo po ba okay lang na sedan po pag aralan ko muna sa driving school (yun po kasi inooffer ng malapit samin), or maghanap po ako ng driving school na raize or SUV po? May isa po akong napag inquiran kaso toyota raize manual po yung tinuturo nila.

3. Tips on driving are also highly appreciated!

Previous attempts: N/A

Problem/Goal: How can you tell if someone has genuinely changed and is ready to treat you better this time?

Context: My ex recently contacted me through multiple IG and FB accounts after I blocked him. He said he still has feelings for me, regrets letting me go, and wants to fix his past mistakes. However, our past hurt me, especially when I felt that my boundaries weren't respected. Now, I'm confused about whether his intentions are genuine or if he's simply missing me.

Previous Attempts: I blocked him because I wanted to move on and have peace of mind. Eventually, I agreed to hear his side, but I still don't know what to do.

Problem/Goal: How do I deal with my now ex friend na may utang sa akin?

Context: Si ex friend ay ni lendan ko ng pera from my Mariloan amounting 17k+ including the interests payable for 6 months. Now, his due for the month of October is hindi niya nabayaran nag reason out siya na mag cash in lang after hours di na nag reply. 3-5 days before due date is nireremind ko na siya about his due. He completely ghosted me on all his social media but delivered messages ko sa imessage nag email na rin ako. Hindi na new na nag uutang siya sakin ng big amounts kaya may trust ako sa kaniya, nakakabayad siya but sometimes delayed and nakaka update siya why hindi siya makakapay on time. now, ako yung napilitan maghanap sa ibabayad sa utang niya. I am afraid na baka takbuhan niya ako and I end up paying every month kasi credit health ko ang maapektuhan. He is a Manager btw malaki sahod and taking masters currently sa UP, tapos ayaw mag credit card?? hindi ko alam how to deal or singilin siya since he's around Manila now working and I'm here in Cebu. Sa galit ko binlock ko siya and cinut off ko siya as a friend and messaged him para ma konsensya. I noticed a redflag before kaya may kasalanan rin ako na I lent him money again. please don't judge me. I need an advice aside sa pagpapa baranggay and posting him online baka ako pa mabaliktad. I worked my ass off for my money and nagsasave rin ako. mas mababa sahod ko compared sa kaniya yet sakin umuutang e wala naman siyang binubuhay?

Problem/Goal: Title

My Mother is still working. Loves her children. Very traditional and strict. Bale parang onting mali mo lang ay marami na sinasabi. Lagi rin ako pinapalo nung bata (pero gets ko naman disiplina haha). Tinatry niya mag side hustle habang may trabaho (pagreresell ng mga frozen foods). Maparaan siya at masipag. Kumbaga kay mama ko natutunan na maging mapursigi at kay papa naman natutunan ang pagiging mabait. Matagal na rin siyang paalis alis ng bahay tuwing gabi na walang paalam (thoroughout the years, but very rare also). IDK if this has something to do with the context pero halos lahat ng kapatid niya ay cheaters. Nevertheless I would say that she is a great and caring mother.

My father has been jobless for several years now. Hindi siya matanggap dahil 1) di siya nakapag tapos 2) masyado nang matanda for a fresh job (turning 50) 3) medical reasons i.e hypertension diabetes (tinanggihan siya ng company dahil dito)
Noong may trabaho pa siya sa factory, napaka generous ni papa sa mga anak niya. I would say he’s a very good father. Never ako sinaktan o napagtaasan ng boses. Nagkaroon ng mass retrenchment ang company niya kaya nawalan na siya ng job. Dito na nagsimula ang downfall ng pamilya. Nagkaroon ng maraming bad financial decisions, hanggang sa nawalan kami ng lupa, motor, at bahay.

Maraming beses na si papa nag apply ng trabaho. Na-interview, ginaod ang medical, tapos sa huli laging palya. Parang nawalan na rin siya ng gana at na depress. Pansin ko na lagi siyang tulog kapag tapos na niya household chores at mag asikaso sa mga kapatid ko. Rumaraket siya dati sa paglinis ng aircon, at ngayon nagbebenta ng street foods habang nag aapply parin. Sabi ko mag tesda siya, sabi niya di na raw niya talaga kaya mag aral.

Si mama laging stressed dahil nga sya nalang tumataguyod. Lagi kami nasisigawan, tapos laging sinasabihan na wala nang kwenta si papa, mamatay nalang daw sya, idadamay pa na kesyo sinasabi ni <insert name> na wala raw kwenta si papa asawa kahit di naman talaga sinabi ng tao yun. Gets ko naman hinanakit niya pero grabe talaga siya magbitaw ng salita. Lagi nalang sila nag aaway. Si papa tahimik lang mostly, pero napupuno rin siya minsan kaya nakakapag salita rin ng masasama.

Nasabi ko dati na mag hiwalay nalang. Nagsstay nalang sila para sa mga bata. Nakaraan nag away sila at nasampal ni mama si papa, bumawi si papa ng suntok, buti walang pasa. Tuluyan na ata mag hihiwalay.

Mahal na mahal ko pamilya ko at gusto ko talaga maging maayos to. I feel powerless. Ako ay undergrad palang at nag ddorm ako away from my family, doing my best in my academics, ako ay nasa tech field in UP. Ilang beses na rin mag try ng online side hustles pero wala parin resulta. And I feel like a face-to-face job would hurt my studies, and ma delay ako grumaduate.

Siguro nag hahanap si mama ng lalaki para sa pera? Hindi ko alam. I understand her side pero bakit di nalang nakipaghiwalay muna? Naaawa ako kay papa dahil wala nang kukupkop sakaniya pag tuluyan sila mag hiwalay. Ano pwedeng paraan para mahanapan ko si papa ng income na kayang tustusin pang araw araw at medical niya?

Tama lang ba na maghiwalay na sila? Kaya pa kaya ni mama mahalin parin si papa kapag nagka trabaho siya?

Should I take less units next semester to get a job? Im so lost. I want to help.

Problem/Goal:
I’m scared of wasting my time and emotional energy on someone who might eventually cheat on me. I want to know if I’m overthinking because of his family’s history or if this is something I should genuinely be concerned about.

Context:
I’m going crazy and just need to let this out, haha.
I’m currently dating a guy who’s honestly so sweet to me. He’s very much in love with me, and I know he genuinely cares about me. Even my friends and parents notice how much he loves me. I can check his phone anytime, he spends almost all his free time with me, and he constantly makes me feel loved.
He takes me on nice dates, buys me things he knows I want even when I know he doesn’t have much money to spare, and surprises me with beautiful bouquets of flowers. He would even cry when we had to say goodbye. 😭

I genuinely don’t have any reason to suspect him of cheating. He hasn’t shown me any red flags, and I even had him take a loyalty test before, hahaha. He didn’t even entertain the girl. He doesn’t entertain other women, at least from what I’ve seen, and I feel like I’m the only one he wants.

But here’s where my anxiety comes in.
I recently learned some things about his family that honestly made me uncomfortable. His dad apparently cheated on his mom multiple times, and I only found this out when I attended his mom’s birthday. Then, at his grandmother’s birthday, I learned that his grandmother also had an affair. Two of her children from that relationship were there, and hearing their stories made everything feel even more real.

On top of that, apparently, several of his uncles are womanizers and have had affairs. I’ve also heard stories about one of his cousins being involved with other women. His family seems to have a long history of infidelity, and it’s honestly scary to think about. Some of his other cousins seem to be different, though, so I know it’s not necessarily everyone.

Ever since learning all of this, I haven’t felt as at ease in the relationship. I keep wondering if cheating is something people learn from their families or if there’s a chance that he’ll eventually become like them. I know he’s his own person, but I can’t help thinking about it.
What makes this difficult is that he’s genuinely good to me. I don’t want to ruin a potentially good relationship because of something his relatives did. At the same time, I’m scared of investing my time, energy, and feelings into someone who might eventually hurt me.

Previous Attempts:
So far, I’ve been observing his actions, and honestly, he hasn’t given me any reason to doubt him. He’s consistent, affectionate, and makes me feel secure. I’ve even tried a loyalty test, and he didn’t entertain the other girl.

However, knowing about his family’s history has made me question things even when his own behavior hasn’t changed.

For those of you who have dated someone whose parents or entire family have a history of cheating, how did things turn out? Did your partner end up repeating the same patterns, or did they become completely different from their family?

Are there men who grew up around infidelity but are genuinely loyal and would never want to put their partner through the same thing?

I guess I’m looking for real-life experiences because I don’t know if I’m being reasonable or just letting fear get the best of me. I want to enjoy what we have without constantly worrying about the possibility of getting cheated on in the future.

Would you take the risk, or would this family history make you reconsider the relationship?

Problem/Goal: Every time im in a relationship, minsan kahit sa friendship, i always end up paying for dates. Pano ko ba maayos to? Now im dating this guy, after nung first date namin, ako na lagi nag babayad

Context: I know im a people pleaser so minsan di ko na tinatanong kung sino ba magbabayad or kkb ba. Minsan ako din kasi nahihiya pag nililibre. Im earning 4x this guy's salary kaya ako na nagbabayad especially pag ako nag suggest ng resto.

Previous Attempts: none

Problem/Goal: Need to find a good Orthopedic doctor who specializes in hands (if may ganon?)

I injured my pointer finger nung na sagi ko sa hard surface.. i thought na naipit na ugat lang but it’s been a month.. first time ko ulit mag hawak ng ballpen to write kanina and ang hirap. Yung thumb ko din ang sakit and this one i dont even know what happened? If i do this emoji 🤏 ang sakit. Di naman masakit when typing or doing work, depende sa gagawin pero bottom line I know there’s something wrong with the 2 fingers.

Im unsure where/who to go to at this point since never ko naisip na Id be looking for a.. hand doctor? Im from the South and Asian is my nearest big hospital.

Any leads would be appreciated.

Problem/Goal: Anong magandang gawin or next stels pag hindi na makabayad sa private hospital?

Hello po. May kakilala akong hindi makalabas ng private hospital kasi lumobo ng lumobo yung bills niya. Nagpacheck up lang for gout and then 1 thing led to another so sobra sobra yung naging bill. Alam ko hindi yun enough reason kasi they can always say no pero wala kasi silang idea talaga na ganun mangyayare.

Pano po ba yung best approach for this? Hindi daw kasi nag promissory note kasi private hospital sila tapos syempre everyday nagbabayad ng room tapos di na chinecheck ng doctor. May paparating naman ng pera pero wala talaga now.

Problem/Goal: Make my mind, sort things out

Context: bled dry financially, zero days, sexless marriage, mentally unstable

Previous Attempts: Aalis pero babalik din. Main provider since bf-gf days to now. I let him be and he wants us to “magtiis”. Am I being selfish for wanting my old life back? We got married because I got pregnant…
For those who moved on from their marriage… how? what is final straw that this isn’t going to work anymore?

Problem/Goal: For those who have experienced either arrangement, which do you think works better? Is it more convenient to serve plated meals to the entourage, or is it better to let them join everyone else at the buffet? We’re still trying to decide, so I wanted to ask around before finalizing our plans.

Context: I know the common arrangement is to serve plated meals to the entourage while the other guests get their food from the buffet. That was actually our original plan. We were just going to make sure their meals were served as soon as they were ready to eat.

However, our parents and other relatives who are part of the entourage requested to get their food from the buffet instead. Their reasoning was that this would help minimize food waste since everyone could choose what they wanted and how much they could actually eat. They also preferred this arrangement because the food would still be hot when they got it.

For context, we attended a wedding last August where my parents were part of the entourage. They were served plated meals, but the food was already cold by the time they ate. My parents also noticed that a lot of food went to waste at their table. This is why they are particularly insistent on having everyone get their food from the buffet instead.

Problem/Goal:

I have a close friend this college since from highschool until now, who came from also a broken family and poor life. During this college, as we're getting close than we are in highschool, eventually some of her weird actions towards me made me suspicious of her. Why?

Context: First, there was an educational money assistance to all college students in our town. In our group chat of circle of friends in school, we talked about it and i didn't mentioned it yet that i was on the list of beneficiaries. Then, she suddenly said that "You got on the list didn't you, (my name)?" and i said yes i am. Then she added that she was frustrated and irritated of her mom caring in other's stuff (receiving luck - i assume that's what she meant) who also do not even think about her just because her mom found out i was also on the list 😭. Then she chatted that she cannot resist to feel jealousy then she explained that because she overthink that what if she might not end up in the list of beneficiaries and others would. Then it kinda weirded me out as she said that, then i replied to her that it's okay feel jealous but she should not take it on other people. Then she haha'd my chat of it. So, i was weirded out thinking because what's the big deal of me being on the list??? and at the same time irritated of her reaction because i try to be kind but her reaction on my chat offended me. After that she said "well let's go together then?"

There's a second time that her actions made me mad af internally. While we're talking about our friend, she then goes to comment the way i dress always at school "why you always dress BASIC" just because i always wear jeans always matching it with department shirt(making it appropriate for school) and that's the only clothes i have in my inventory. That comment, made me feel she was mocking me and it kept replaying in my mind always and that made me mad. This kind of comment doesn't stop there, there are some instances that she would mock again that i would wear the uniform shirt instead of casual clothes like " You're wearing our department shirt? (smiling as she says it)yeah so it's not hard to hand wash clothes right?" that WEIRDED me because she take on a big deal of what i am wearing. Another thing when i curled my hair , when i arrived at school she insisted to brush my hair with her fingers while "complimenting my hair" but i told her not to brush because it was styled but she just 'jokingly' to be stubborn and said "no ill just brush the front side" then proceeds to brush it and i leave it just because i was being 'kind friend' fvk.

Third, what weirded me the fvk most is her insisting wanting to see my grades 😭. During our break time, she said "Actually can i see your grades" then she just forcing her way looking for the paper containing my grades in my envelope bag. Luckily i left it at home, then as i was observing her rummaging through my envelope and when she didn't find it she aggressively ask "Where's your grades" i said i left it at home then she said "Why didn't you bring it??" I said "Because i don't need it at school why would i bring it?" then she just leaves my envelope open and she just went to our friend standing on the balcony. And that weirded tf me out because my grades for me is personal and it should not be a big deal.

Fourth, this was also about the educational assistance, this time was only for graduating students and the money that was given is a huge amount for a student to spend on their school expenses especially for the OJT qnd thesis expenses. In our barangay or village i was one of the chosen receipient. When were processing our documents, the Secretary of our Village asks us to remake our certification of enrollment letter. As she was also a reciepient in the other village, she asks me if we were also had to make our letter as she wants to confirm when she knew from our other friend that we were also ramaking it. Then i said yes, but then she said "Are you sure" asking if i would lie like wtf why would i lie🫪 innocently i said "yeah it said in our gc?" and she said "can i see it what it said on your group chat ", why tf she would be concerned because they have different progress in their village compared to us wtf. Another suspicious thing happened when during our recess, she asked if who are the others in our Village that will recieve the money, i said i don't know because im not familiar with others because i don't know them. Then she replied mockingly "i don't know" and i backfired at her "huh?so?". After a few minutes of her talking about it, then she said out of the blue "yeah you deserve naman diba makareceive? fatherless right?" I was weirded out why would she take on a big deal out of me receiving educational assistance and what made me mad is she mentioned the word "fatherless". why would she be like that when she can also receive money?

Previous attempts: i'm thinking of trying to talk her out of it or excluding her in my social media radar since she takes on a big deal even on what i like. And she is not good for my well being.

What are your thoughts on her guys? What should i do?

Problem/Goal: We’ve been like bff premium

Context: Medyo mahaba-haba to but I’ll make it short. So we started out friends, alam ko na talaga from the start na red flag siya dahil sa pinapakita niya and what his friends had told me. Red flag as in babaero, kung sino sino lang nagugustuhan na mga babae lalo na pag type niya.

Naging friends kami as in super close. Pero di ko alam na parang nagiging bff premium na pala kami/situationship. Di siya naging vocal sa feelings niya tungkol sakin at ako naman tong si tnga, inaamin ko na after months na naging friends kami is nahulog ako, bale nagpapakita lang siya ng motibo pero alam ko na di talaga ako gusto niya.

Fast forward. I ended everything we had, pati friendship namin kasi parang sobrang kawawa ko na. Kasi akala ko noong una, meron kaming something na pero turns out, may iba siyang pinopormahan and nakikita ko pa talaga kasi pinaparinggan niya always, so parang tinanong ko sarili ko like “nasan ako? eh ano ako sa kaniya?” and mind u guys, before yan nangyari kasi after a year ko pa inend lahat, sa 1 yr na yan bago ko inend, ang dami niyang naging babae may naka one night - nga sya, pero that time, hinayaan ko siya kasi di pa ako attached non sa kaniya pero nung naging attached na talaga ako, dun pa sya naghanap ng iba na pinamukha sakin na parang wala lang ako.

Ngayon guys, may iba na sya (hindi ung pinaparinggan niya). Idk but willing sya maging better sa kanya, according to my friends na friend nya rin. Down bad siya sa bago niya. Nabibitter lang ako sa part na kaya nya naman pala gawin sa iba, willing niyang gawin sa iba ung mga di nya nagawa sakin pero bakit sakin para ayaw niya? parang nahihirapan pa siya?

And the worst part for me, pinagkalat niya na wala lang talaga raw kami, friends lang.

Hindi na kami nagpapansinan even though nagkasalubong kami palagi. Hindi na talaga.

Noong last year ko pa iniisip after I ended kung ano man meron samin na iblock siya pero lagi ko naman siyang makikita kaya napaisip ako anong point if iblock ko siya pero ngayon parang need ko na talaga siya iwala sa isip ko kasi mas lumala na siya ngayon.

Is it really worth to block him in all of my socials even though na lagi ko siyang makikita lalo na sa school? And how should I build myself na magiging unbothered lalo na pag makikita siya?

One year, almost 2 yrs na next year. I want to be free.

Problem/Goal: How did you guys start streaming or creating gaming content? I really want to be a casual streamer with some little earnings on the side while having fun.

Context: I love playing games, especially RPGs, and for the longest time i want to stream for fun, and hopefully earn a little on the side to fund my hobby!

For those who started from scratch, what platform did you use, and how did you get your first viewers? Any tips for a beginner?

Previous Attempts:
Haven't started yet. Looking for advice from people who started from scratch!