Heyhey, this feels akward but let's goo...
I'm a fairly new streamer (F/28), averaging around eight viewers. I’m grateful for my growing community, but I’ve struggled with male viewers who expect constant access to me outside of streams....
Some follow me on Instagram, DM constantly, call me on Discord, and guilt-trip me when I don’t respond quickly. I enjoy chatting with viewers (especially on my discord) but occasional attention often turns into expectations of constant contact. And even when I communicate that they should all write me in general on DC they keep writing me privately.
I have ADHD, work full-time, and have an active social life. Streaming is something I enjoy, not my entire life. Yet some viewers seem surprised that I have friends and plans outside of Twitch and League of Legends.
During my last stream, with 16 viewers, several guys confronted me about not replying to their messages. I felt pressured to justify myself on MY OWN stream. I’ve also had loyal viewers become so demanding/derranged that I eventually had to block them everywhere.
I worry some people watch because they enjoy my content orr because they think they might eventually date me. I want to stay friendly without giving the impression that viewers are entitled to my personal time....Before anyone asks, I tried multiple times to set healthy boundaries yet it never works.
Have other female streamers dealt with this? How do you set boundaries without making things awkward or pushing people away? Does it get better as your community grows, or is this something female streamers have to accept?
Lots of Love :)