r/OpenChristian • • May 16 '26

Discussion - General New AI Policy

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Hello all,

We wanted to make a quick announcement regarding the use of AI-generated content in our community. Many of our users have reached out voicing concern over the increase in “AI slop” posts, so hopefully this clarifies how things will work moving forward.

We have updated Rule 7 (Spam and Proselytizing) to include AI content. Specifically, AI-generated images and videos. These are officially no longer allowed. Any post which consists entirely of an AI image or AI video will be removed, so please report them as you see them.

Please note that we are not implementing a blanket ban on AI. Some people use AI to organize their thoughts, proofread their posts/comments, and help explain their viewpoint. Our goal is to judge the content of a post, not prohibit any form of AI used to help create it.

Obviously, there is going to be some moderator discretion involved here. If you feel like a post is spreading AI slop, feel free to report. If a post is generating good discussion but looks like some AI was involved in creating it, please keep in mind that this does not break the rules.

If anyone has any questions, feel free to comment and the mods will answer as we are available. God bless!


r/OpenChristian • • Mar 26 '26

Discussion - Sex & Relationships Sexual Ethics and the Question of Sin

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Hello Open Christians,

We get a lot of questions about sin. Most of those questions are about sexual sins, so we want to take the time to write an official stance on the subject of sexual sin and ethics from the perspective of progressive Christianity.

The first thing to note is that sexual sins are never held up as greater than other sins in the Bible. The Bible has a concept throughout the scriptures that being guilty of one part of the law makes you guilty of the whole law. For this reason, Judaism doesn't have a tradition of personal confession. When you would bring sacrifices to the temple, you were atoning for the whole law, not for specific rules that you broke. If you bore false witness, you needed the same atonement as if you had committed adultery or murder or eaten shellfish. Paul speaks to this in Romans 1 and 2. The Jewish Christians in Rome were making claims about the Gentile Christians being unholy and unrighteous for participating in some of the social aspects of idolatry, specifically eating the Sunday meal after the meat had been sacrificed and cooked on the Roman altars. Paul responds by pointing out the sins that Jews commit and telling them that they have no room to talk since they are guilty of the law, too. No sin is greater than any other. And no sin is lesser. All sin equally takes us away from God.

So, what is sin? Since Romans is entirely about that question, we can find the answers very easily in there. Romans 3 talks about the law because the Gentile Christians in Rome were calling the law the source of all evil and sin. They said that the law brought sin because they didn't know they were sinning before they learned about the law. Paul refutes this by saying that Adam and Eve sinned before the law existed, so it can't be the source of sin. Instead, the law reveals sin by showing us how we missed the mark. By chapter 13, Paul has spoken enough and brought the two sides of this argument together, so he sums up the Christian way of life in verses 8-10.

"Owe no one anything, except to love one another, for the person who loves has fulfilled the law. The commandments, “You shall not commit adultery; you shall not murder; you shall not steal; you shall not covet,” and any other commandment, are summed up in this word, “You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” Love does no harm to a neighbor, therefore loves fulfills all of the law."

Here, we see Paul equate sin with harm. Things that hurt other people and ourselves are what take us away from God. Paul follows this up in chapter 14 by saying that godliness is not in the rules we follow. Some people worship on the Sabbath, but other people worship on any day. Some people drink wine, and some people abstain. And so on. He tells us to each be convinced in our own minds and to leave each other alone because judgment is a stumbling block that can cause our siblings in Christ to fall away from the faith. For Paul, sin was not found in breaking the rules of the law, rather it was found in the absence of love.

Jesus followed a very similar path in His ministry. The only people that He had harsh words for were the priests and scholars who used the law to oppress and control and extort the laity. Jesus never followed the letter of the law when it interfered with loving His neighbors. Jesus worked on the Sabbath. Jesus drank wine and went to parties. Jesus had a reputation as a drunkard. When He called the priests "a den of vipers", that was the equivalent of calling them "sons of bitches" in the modern world. Jesus once cussed a tree to death. Jesus was sinless.

The example of Jesus's life is that all things are secondary to loving your neighbor. Nothing that is done from a spirit of love is ever sinful. Not even premeditated violence against those who extort money from the faithful in the name of God is sinful because Jesus did that too. Jesus taught us that love is the foundation of the law and the prophets, so love can never be wrong or sinful.

John, in his first letter, tells us to test the spirits whether they are from God because there are many false prophets. This is 1John 4:1. He then spends a lot of ink to tell us all about how God is love, and no one who hates can have God because hate and God are incompatible. Similarly, fear and God are incompatible, so anyone who preaches hate and fear cannot be from God. John goes so far as to say that anyone who claims to love God but hates their neighbor is a liar.

Peter wrote in 1Peter that love covers an uncountable number of sins.

Clearly, through the example of Jesus and the writings of the Apostles, we can see that love and sin are opposites. This holds up to logical analysis if we accept the claim that God is love. Sin takes us away from God. Love brings us to God. If love does no harm to a neighbor, then it follows that sin does harm to a neighbor.

How do we apply this to sexual ethics? That's actually very easy. Sex can be used to harm other people or to help them. Obviously, sexual assault, child molestation, and any other form of nonconsensual sex are harmful by their nature. However, sex itself is not harmful on its own. Sex can carry potential harm like the possibility of pregnancy for people who are not prepared emotionally or financially to have a child. Sex can be addicting which is harmful, but humans can become addicted to nearly any pleasurable behavior. None of those other things are sins on their own.

Driving a car can be used as a very apt metaphor for sex. Cars kill thousands of people every year. They have a very large potential to cause harm. However, if we spend the time to learn how to drive safely and always drive with the concern for our fellow drivers and the pedestrians that we share the road with, we can go our entire lives without harming anyone in our cars. There are very few people who would argue that motor vehicles are sinful to operate. If we approach sex with the same attitude, we will similarly be able to operate our bodies without sin.

Relating this to specific actions, we can talk about masturbation. This is an act that is simply not harmful at all. Unless you are doing it in front of someone who doesn't consent to seeing you pleasure yourself, which is a form of sexual assault, of course. Contrary to the concept of sin, masturbation is actually beneficial for people with prostates. It lowers the risk of cancer and helps maintain pelvic strength which important for bladder control as you get older. Something that helps a person without harming anyone else doesn't fit the definition of sin that we see in the New Testament.

Sex outside of marriage comes up a lot. First, marriage is a social contract that is recognized by the state. You can get married in a church, but it means nothing without a marriage license. This is not a primarily western idea, either. I live in Cambodia, and you can get arrested for having a marriage ceremony without government approval. Marriage is, and has always been, deeply intertwined with the social and political structures of society. The Bible demonstrates so many different kinds of marriage that we can't accurately define a "Biblical marriage." Also, there is evidence that the couple in Song of Solomon isn't married until chapter 6. Most telling to this theory is that they don't receive the blessing of their families until that chapter which would have been a large part of the wedding ceremony. They brag about how hot they are for each other and how much sex they have for five chapters prior to that blessing. This is the ur-example of a healthy, godly sexual relationship.

Porn is a big question as well. The porn industry can certainly be harmful. No one would argue that it isn't. However, it is not universally harmful. I dated a pornstar for a few months. She was decently popular in a specific fetish, and she made good money. She was self-produced and self-promoted. It wasn't harmful for her at all. Some of the biggest pornstars in the industry are similar. Many pornstars produce content with their spouses. It's actually not too hard to find ethically produced porn.

Again, porn can be addicting. If you are struggling with porn interfering with your daily life, you should absolutely seek help from a professional to learn how to control your urges. However, other than asexual humans, most people are addicted to sex in a very similar way to how we are addicted to oxygen and water and food. The biological imperative to propagate our species is one of our strongest innate desires. It only becomes a problem when we overindulge and let that desire dictate our lives. Too much water is fatal. Oxygen destroys DNA. Obesity leads to possibly fatal health conditions. But, eating, drinking, and breathing aren't sinful. Neither is a healthy sex life.

Foundational to this idea that sex isn't wrong on its own is the truth that God created sex. God could have made humans reproduce asexually. He didn't. God could have created sex to not feel as good. He didn't. God could have made us completely different from how He did, but He didn't. We feel sexual attraction because God wants us to feel it. Sex is fun because God made it fun. There was no devil who swooped in and changed God's design at the last second. There was no accident where God said, "Oops, I really screwed up that sex thing, oh well." No, God created humans and said that we were good. That included penises and vaginas and how they fit together with all manner of body parts. God commanded Adam and Eve to populate the Earth. He did that while realizing that there's only one way for humans to get that done. God created sex, thinks it's good, and commanded us to get busy. And Adam and Eve didn't have any kind of marriage ceremony either.

Where does that leave us as progressive Christians? We evaluate the sinfulness of every action against love and whether it causes harm to our neighbors. We don't elevate sexual sins above other sins because all sin causes us to fall short of the glory of God. So we look at each sexual act under the same lens as lying, cheating, stealing, and so on. We don't believe that love is ever sinful, so gay sex between loving partners can't be a sin. We believe that love always seeks consent because love never harms. We believe that ethically-minded sexual behaviors are inline with the concepts of loving your neighbor as yourself. We believe that sex is a gift from God.


r/OpenChristian • • 19h ago

These people are why there are progressive Christians who end up not believing anymore.

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r/OpenChristian • • 17h ago

Discussion - General A couple of anniversary gifts from my wife :) We’ll be celebrating three years of marriage on Halloween!

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r/OpenChristian • • 23h ago

What does the Bible Say about Homosexuality? Part 6: Genesis 1

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What does the Bible Say about Homosexuality? Part 6: Genesis 1

Soon, there will be versions in German and Spanish on the blog (https://underreconstructionproject.wordpress.com) and Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/under_reconstruction_project/).

Here are the previous comics in English about the Bible and homosexuality and same-gender relations:

You can find them also on my Reddit account.


r/OpenChristian • • 9h ago

Why wont god heal me?

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This blank mind symptom is the most saddest and hardest symptom out there. Theres no cure and theres no rule book as to how to deal with things? Its driving me insane. I just want to dissapear from here sometimes what goodness is there in living like this? I used to be be very witty can work and socialize now to be bed ridden like this. It makes me want to - - -
I prayed everyday since knowing i had this it was something gradual that happened after long period of stress.


r/OpenChristian • • 21h ago

Jesus is king 🤴

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r/OpenChristian • • 13h ago

Discussion - General Recommended reading

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Hello! I am working to explore my faith and learn more about the history of Christianity. I am working through my NRSVUE study Bible and I am currently reading The Making of Biblical Womanhood by Beth Allison Barr, and would love recommendations of books like it. Thank you!


r/OpenChristian • • 15h ago

My girlfriend is an atheist, and I'd like help on how to respond to her questions about Christianity

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She say's stuff like:

"The belief of God and Jesus and Christianity honestly confuses me. All of these things people say about God feels like another fairy tale."

She's also said that missionaries on our campus that try to "recruit" people to the religion look like cults.

I can understand why Christianity might seem confusing or unbelievable to someone like her, but I don't always know how to respond to these kinds of comments.

If you've had conversations like this with atheist friends, partners, or family members, I'd especially appreciate hearing what you've learned.


r/OpenChristian • • 17h ago

Young adults in San Diego: anyone interested in an LGBTQ+ affirming worship and prayer night? (Or know of one?)

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Anyone in San Diego area? My fiancée and I live in Encinitas and we've been looking for a group of young adults (20s-ish) who want to worship and pray together in a space that's fully LGBTQ+ affirming. We haven't found one, so we're putting out feelers.
First question: does something like this already exist around here? If so, please point us to it. We'd love to join instead of reinventing the wheel.
If not, we're thinking about starting something small. Worship music and prayer, maybe once a week or every other week, at our apartment. If it grows, we'd move it to the beach or someone else's place.
The heart behind it is love. A lot of us have watched the church become known more for who it shuts out than for how it loves, and that's not the Jesus we read about. We're not pretending sin doesn't exist or throwing out what Scripture says. We just want to bring the focus back to loving God, loving people, and actually being in community with each other. This wouldn't replace church. Think of it as something extra alongside it.
Nothing is planned yet. We're just seeing if anyone else wants this too. Let me know if you'd be interested, or if you know of something we should check out.


r/OpenChristian • • 15h ago

Discussion - Church & Spiritual Practices When did questioning church leadership become the same thing as questioning God?

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r/OpenChristian • • 18h ago

Support Thread A word to uplift Latter-Day Saints and Jehovah’s Witnesses that frequent this sub. Why is this sub a home for you?

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I don’t mean to start a debate on whether we belong here (I’m a Latter-day Saint, colloquially known as “Mormons”). I don’t mean to paint us as victims or villains. I don’t even mean to start a conversations on if ours or other religions are valid forms of worship.

All differences aside, I just come bearing an olive branch and a hug from a distant stranger. I appreciate you for being here and standing for your values. LGBTQ+ people deserve to attend whatever religion they feel called to or born into without policies or doctrines that make them feel less-than.

I know what it feels like to not squarely feel you belong in any one religious subreddit, and I know what it feels like to not have full feelings of belonging among those you attend church with.

You support LGBTQ+ having full fellowship as who God created them to be. That puts you at odds with your church. The church you belong to puts you at odds with many people. I offer you the warmest regards. If you don’t feel comfortable commenting here, you are more than welcome to DM me. You are not alone. I see the efforts you are making to make the world a more tolerant place for LGBTQ+ children of God.

How did you come to be in this pro-LGBTQ+ space? Was it an LGBTQ+ friend or family member that caused you to ponder? Did some other aspect of unfairness prick your heart and cause you to support their cause? I’d love to hear your story. ❤️

If you aren’t a Latter-day Saint or Jehovah’s Witness, or other marginalized religion, you are more than welcome to participate on this post. Just know I come in peace. I don’t mean to cause offence or stir controversy. Love you all. Love this sub. Happy Tuesday 🫂 🏳️‍🌈 ✝️


r/OpenChristian • • 6h ago

Blemish

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r/OpenChristian • • 20h ago

Christian single mom by choice

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Hi!

I am 24 and wanting to become a single mom by choice with donor sperm. I never even considered the Lord might have a problem with it and I prayed over my child, their life and my donor choice. But now I got scared of hell. I know fear of hell should never be the motivation for a Christian to do or not do something and thus, I feel very ashamed but I wanted to be honest. I did grow up without a father myself, which didn't change anything regarding my faith or my mother's. But I am also catholic and my church says no to IUI, or at least the Vatican, my personal congregation doesn't necessarily. I have prayed over the child so much and also begged the Lord to decide himself whether my insemination would be successful in the best interest of my child. If He sees suffering without a purpose or not. I also found a donor that made me cry from joy after already having given up on finding a good one. I want to raise the child in a Christian household and to teach them to love and pray. But I don't want to go to hell or make God sad and disappointed. I also know that the Bible says some will be lying to us, so we think we can do whatever we want. I don't want to succumb to this. Then again, I still believe God alone decides who comes here or doesn't, IUI or not.

Feel free to disagree with me but please be honest and kind.


r/OpenChristian • • 13h ago

Support Thread Self Hatred and Insecurity

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i have a lot of self hatred. i constantly pick out everything wrong with me. i constantly compare myself. and honestly i subconsciously always wish i was someone else. i can’t stand being left in a room with myself.

Here’s the caveat: those are all just symptoms

it’s not a sin struggle. it’s not childhood trauma. it’s not any reason i could possibly think of. i believe the reason is deep and hidden. for some reason i just can’t feel and accept gods love and image of me even if i know it to be true. i truly believe God has gifted me with the ability of emotional intelligence, and the ability to read my own thoughts and emotions, find issues, and bring them to the surface to workout. yet this i simply cannot find the deeper issue

there’s no real reason i should hate myself and be so insecure, yet i am. and for me to get help from God i feel i need to have the ability to truly dwell on the real reason and fight it with scripture and analyze it.

it often leads to problems in my relationships. for example if i’m ever in a romantic relationship, i always feel as though i could never be loved truly for who i am, this makes me strive to be someone i’m not which makes me even more insecure. and what’s even worse is the slightest mention of another man in any aspect of their life will leave me stalking their social media, comparing myself, and ultimately decided every single time that they are better in every aspect then me. Verbal affirmation from them just feels like a lie. and i never feel like enough. whether it’s that this person has more money, is stronger, has a better jawline, better hair, is funnier, is even more healthy to be around, whatever it is i will always find it. i try everything to make myself the best version of myself, but i always will find something more to be insecure about. there is almost nothing about myself that i wouldn’t change. Then if i do have a day in which i feel loved by that person, i expect to come home happy. but i still have that deep sadness. that deep wish to be someone else. that depression.

I’ve prayed about it. i’ve meditated on the scripture. anyone who thinks to reply with “God loves you and sees you as perfect so you should see yourself the same”, or “your not supposed to put reliance into earthly things like relationships” does not understand that i know that. i have read the bible cover to cover. i know how im SUPPOSED to feel, and how im SUPPOSED to handle situations. but i can’t seem to do it. my heart doesn’t know that security. my heart doesn’t know the love for myself that is based on the love God has for me. i hate this feeling. i hate being insecure. i hate relying on other peoples empty affirmations to feel ok. i want to be at the point where if a girl where to leave me for someone else i would be sad at losing them, yet completely ok and secure in gods love, my self love, and gods plan for me. yet as it is i would be destroyed, depressed, and contemplating my worth on this earth. what my mind knows and what my heart and soul experience are disconnected. it’s like a car in park with the engine running; it’s ready to drive but there is no connection to the wheels. please help. please share any resources.

TLDR: i hate myself and am wildly insecure. it leads to a lot of insecure attachment in relationships. it makes my life miserable. my knowledge of gods love does not translate practically and consistently to the love i feel from myself and from God.


r/OpenChristian • • 13h ago

Support Thread I lost someone I loved

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r/OpenChristian • • 12h ago

Support Thread Cómo es el amor de Dios?

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r/OpenChristian • • 21h ago

Support Thread How do you deal with your own hatred and anger?

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The last two years of US politics have divided us all, I would imagine. I've increasingly had whole days of anger and rage at what is happening, and people who I thought were good people support the most immoral things possible. Last week I hit a tipping point when I got banned from my state's subreddit after calling the mod a "fascist shill." Tbh, I still think that is true, but I also recognize I mostly was taking my anger out on him/her. They then reported me for "harassment" and because Reddit definitely doesn't use real people to assess reports, I was banned from the site for a few days. It was probably for the best, though.

My friends also have a chat where we dump all political thoughts and such. Generally it has been helpful to just allow people to vent about stuff, but a few months ago there was a time when I was ranting about the whole "both sides" and one of my friends who is a far-right libertarian (who claims to be a centrist) had apparently been having a bad day and went OFF on me. Apparently had recently seen some out-of-context clip on Twitter of AOC saying "we will pull up" and was insisting she was suggesting violence. And that was his whole reason for thinking "both sides." We eventually made up and agreed to disagree, but that day we did spend probably 1-2 hours saying very not nice things to each other. I eventually just deleted this chat since it was mostly me screaming into the void.

Recently I've been trying to listen to the podcast https://karintamerius.substack.com/. I am trying to apply the advice here to my life, but I am struggling with the idea of validating insane conspiracies and straight up false information. I know that "validate" doesn't mean I have to agree, but I believe their fears are definitionally invalid. Idk, it is something I am still working through.

How have you dealt with feelings of hatred and anger at those who would oppress and twist the word of God for anti-Christ purposes? How do you deal with those who would vote for such evil?


r/OpenChristian • • 1d ago

Vent Had to leave a queer sub recently

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I've seen multiple queer christian posts on the sub and every time the comments were filled with hatred towards Christians and religion. I even commented on one and people were telling me how stupid and awful I am for being Christian. I'm so tired of this shit. I know it's because they have religious trauma but that doesn't make it hurt any less. It makes me feel hopeless. How am I supposed to handle the fact that some fellow queer people will see me as a traitor for being Christian?


r/OpenChristian • • 23h ago

I'm feeling helpless and exhausted over my financial situation. Could use some Christian advice and prayer.

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r/OpenChristian • • 1d ago

Discussion - Sex & Relationships I want to bring more Christianity into my relationship

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Like the title says I want to bring more Christianity into my relationship. We're (29F & 28M) both Christians, love Jesus, and go to church but I feel like faith is lacking in our relationship. I'd really like a relationship centered around God. How can we add more Jesus without sacrificing things like sex and intimacy. Not looking for judgement or hate just ways to bring my relationship closer to God.


r/OpenChristian • • 1d ago

Inspirational Trans friends take heart. You are loved.

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r/OpenChristian • • 10h ago

Discussion - General Since Jesus is the Alpha and the Word of creation, it means he was here since the beginning. So why was he forced out of the vagina of a virgin to be born (again) around 2000 years ago?

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r/OpenChristian • • 22h ago

Christian single mom by choice

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r/OpenChristian • • 1d ago

Inspirational How to stop evil thoughts

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When those evil fleshly thoughts come first realize it and say out loud

“These are evil desires and they lead to death, I choose to not be a slave to sin but rather to righteousness which leads to eternal life”
(You can rephrase)

Bible references: Romans 6
Ive attached images of the chapter for easy reading.

God bless you