I've been liking this girl for about 6 months now. She used to be bi but she said she thought about it and realized that she was actually straight. I'm devastated because I thought we had a chance together. Has anyone else had been in a situation like this before? I just came out about 2 months ago and I don't really have any experience.

So there's this girl that I've had a crush on for the past month or so but I have no clue how to proceed with it. So I know for a fact that she is supportive of the queer community and she's a huge ally and I was talking abt how I don't get how some people can be into men because... ew... and anyway I asked her if she was straight or queer and she said she didn't know because the people at our school are lwk chopped. But, I catch her looking at me sometimes and she usually tries to be my partner in gym class and science and all and she sings along to chappell roan at practice sometime. Also, one time randomly her best friend asked me if I was dating her but like she tells him everything so like I dunno. Tell me what to do guys because I really like her but I don't wanna ruin our friendship.

Me and my girlfriend are in a very healthy but hidden relationship. We also share a lot of the same friends but are in different groups. One thing about my friends circle is we often flirt or are very touchy with each other. I have continued this—after talking with my girlfriend about it—as I don’t want to do anything that makes it obvious I’m seeing someone until we’re ready to tell them(only my bsf and her bsf know). I told her if anything makes her uncomfortable she should tell me to stop and she said “to be honest, none of that stuff bothers me…I couldn’t care less.” So I just continued as normal.

But the issue is I kind of want her to be jealous. I don’t doubt she cares about me, not in the slightest(she’s held grudges against people who have disrespect me more than she has people who have disrespected her) but SO MANY PEOPLE LIKE HER. I used to get jealous so often due to the amount of people who wanted her. Before we were dating some random girl came up to us and got her Instagram in front of me… I am way more secure now and kind of just laugh when people come up to her but part of me just wishes I could see something finally get under her skin. I was no where near her only option and while that doesn’t make me feel insecure the fact that she can stand by and not be affected by people who don’t know were together feel me up/and or flirt with me and feel NOTHING, sometimes makes me feel a little bit insecure.

It’s not that I don’t want her to trust me and it’s not like I want her to think I would cheat because I would never. But I see my heterosexual friends in their relationships and see their boyfriends complain how that should be them when seeing a pic of me giving their gf a kiss on the check(in a playful way rather than a petty way) and kind of wish I got that reaction rather than “I don’t care”

It’s also important to note that the physical affection in our relationship is very small due to us being in a private relationship and her having a reputation as being very adverse to physical touch. If someone saw me clinging onto her it wouldn’t raise an eyebrow but if someone saw her let me do that or god forbid return it then people would be suspicious.

I truly think it boils down to I have a yearning for affection, particularly physically that she just doesn’t have… especially as someone who is known for rejecting physical touch from people(not me though :p, even if only in private). It’s a difference in yearning and I just want her to yearn for me in the way I yearn for her even if only for a bit

Is anyone else scared of getting to know their crush incase they have a bad personality or they don’t match the standards you had in your head?
There’s this girl I’m completely obsessing over but I realized I don’t even really know her but then at the same time my brain is scared to talk to her because what if she’s not as amazing as I’ve made her out to be? I’m kind of scared of loosing that you could say
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im not good at socializing in general, but i got a girl's contact information today and i think she's really pretty and i don't even know if she likes girls or if she's single. i could only talk to her by relating that we play the same instrument and saying i needed more friends who play said instrument, idk what to actually say now 😭

i've never even made a friend on my own, i have a friend introduce us or just kinda hang around people until we talk and then we keep talking . idk what to do

To be honest, I'm still not sure about my own feelings. For the longest time, I thought I was straight, and to this day, I still think I am. However (and I know this is going to sound a bit contradictory), there is this girl at my school that has shattered everything that I thought was normal about my life.

In short, she doesn't know who I am. However, every time I see her walking across the halls, I can't help but feel some sort of happiness within me. She is gorgeous, talented, and does the exact opposite of everything else I do. We take different classes, participate in different extracurriculars, etc. It's as if our paths were never meant to cross. I've started changing in drastic ways where I sometimes need to take a step back and wonder, who am I?

I understand that this is some sort of infatuation, but I always thought infatuation ended after a few weeks. I still don't know how I feel but I realize that I need a place to write out all those emotions I've bottled in for the last several months. If you've ever felt something similar, please let me know!

Hai so I have a crush on a girl.
So like we are kinda close. During sports day I slept between her legs (omg that’s weird) bc I told her I was sleepy (AND I DIDNT REQUEST HER TO DO THAT). We filmed a dance video and she wrote the caption of it and she wrote “my god,my universe”
I was so happy so I told my frds about this and they say we have chance to get tgt.
But my frd asked her if she likes girls and she said she used to…
I don’t know what to do now…. Do I still have chance?

Hai so I have a crush on a girl. Let’s call them A
So like we are kinda close. During sports day I slept between her legs (omg that’s weird) bc I told her I was sleepy (AND I DIDNT REQUEST HER TO DO THAT). We filmed a dance video and she wrote the caption of it and she wrote “my god,my universe”
I was so happy so I told my friends about this and they say we have chance to get tgt.
But my friend asked her if she likes girls and she said she used to…
I don’t know what to do now…. Do I still have chance?

So I (16f) have a crush on a girl we'll call Sylvia (16f). We both just transferred into this new school, and never really talked until we got grouped together for a science project. I had always looked up to her for being an energetic, sociable, and approachable person, but I never had the guts to talk to her until said groupings. While working on our science project, we became friends and since then have been talking nearly every day, but they're usually very short conversations, started with purpose rather than just being for the sake of talking. Recently, she opened up to me about something, how she has a crush on this girl but can't do anything about it because she's incredibly faithful to God. She asked me for advice regarding what she should do, and honestly I had a hard time thinking of what to say. I mean come on, the girl that I have a crush on but can't pursue, opening up to ME about the girl SHE has a crush on but can't pursue? I told her that I didn't want her to force herself to be something that she isn't because of religion, but if she really wants to be completely faithful to God, it's her choice. The truth is she never really had crushes on any guys before, and she actually had a girlfriend a few years back, before she turned to God. I don't know what to do anymore, or what to say, I just want her to be happy, even if it's not with me. I feel like my head is about to explode, I have no idea what I'm supposed to do...

I want to speak to her and make a friendly conversation with her a little because I really NEED to. And schools are closing soon and opening next year.

PLZ, I NEED HELP!!

I think I should be welcomed here because I am a lesbian, but I’m not talking about girls for this post! My period is late and I’m feeling cramps but it’s been days late and still hasn’t started? I’m 16 and I was wondering if this has also happened to any of you before. Obviously I’m not pregnant since I’m gay so I don’t understand why my period is late but I feel slight cramping.

So I have had a bad crush on her for a while and even before that there was romantic undertones in the friendship anyway last night we went stargazing in my back yard and we talked for a while and I kept looking at her and then hiding my face under the blanket and I asked her if she had any questions for me and she in a very serious tone was was like “look at me” and are faces were really close together while laying down and I was giggling and couldn’t look and then I did she’s like “can I kiss you” and the butterflies in my stomach literally exploded and I obviously said yes so we were about to kiss and then the kitchen light turned on and my sister was in the kitchen so we closed the windows and kissed on the picnic blanket in my back yard at night and it was awesome but really scary because I have only kissed someone once before and it was her first kiss and now we are dating.

Just a couple days ago i had to end a relationship that lasted more than i year and i still cry whenever i think about it. Basically how it happened is i didn't have my tablet (which i usually texted my girlfriend on) so i ended up going to her tiktok instead to try to contact her only to see she reposted some racist anti immigration save Europe bullshit.

She said some questionable stuff in the past taht I unfortunately let slide as "jokes" because i was desperate and it felt as though she was the best choice given the area i live in. This was FINALLY past way too much for me now and i replied to her repost since her regular messages on there didn't work for me.

I told her all about how i felt about the crap that she believes in and she of course never even responded to them. It was definitely for the best because looking back she just has never been a good girlfriend to me in multiple ways even besides the racist stuff​​​​ but god it still hurts so bad.

The worst part is i feel like i dont even have a chance to get another girlfriend any time soon no matter how lonely i feel because I cant even make friends irl and literally everyone thinks im way younger than i am, not to mention theres barely any girls who arent straight at my school​​​. It felt like she was the best I'll get before and it still does now even if she was awful. ​

I feel like i still havent even accepted that we're not together any more, i still take pictures of stuff to show her before remembering. It just especially hurts so bad because of how long we were together. I was planning on moving to her country and everything when i was old enough and getting married, but i sure as fuck dont want to marry a racist.

Even though i broke up with her i still feel like a horrible person for missing her. I know i shouldnt feel bad over someone like her but ive always had a problem with not wanting to cut contact with people not matter how awful they are. ​I just really wish i didnt have to be desperate enough to want to stay with her. ​​

So I’ve been friends with a girl for about a year now, and the past couple weeks there’s been a lot of tension between us, and I started to like her as more than a friend. Last night we were hanging out at her house in her backyard and just talking. She asked me if I had any questions I wanted to ask her with no limits, and I asked her the same. At first neither of us could come up with anything, but eventually I decided to go for it and I asked her to look at me, which took a second because she was hiding her face under a blanket, but when she finally did look at me I asked her if I could kiss her. She said yes and we almost kissed but then her sister turned on the kitchen lights. We both started laughing and blushing but once her sister went to bed she closed the blinds and came back outside and we kissed. My mom had to pick me up shortly after that, but we called this morning and now we’re dating!!!

I want to kiss my girlfriend for the first time, we have been together for around 4 months and have a sleepover coming up after exams. I want to shoot my shot and attempt our first kiss(neither of us have any experience with kissing). I know Tha basics about kissing(eg im smart enough to not try shove my tounge in her mouth on the first kiss) but the issue is with the initiation.

My girlfriend is autistic and is kind of iffy about certain types of physical touch. We did have this conversation however, and she kind of just said she doesn’t know what she’s comfortable and what she’s not comfortable with. there is stuff she previously thought she was uncomfortable with but is fine when I do it(eg I often grab and play with her hands, which is something she thought she would be uncomfortable with and is with other people but for some reason is fine when I do it.)

We came to the conclusion that we would kind of just mess around and we would learn as we go.
In our talk I did briefly bring up kissing but we never focused on it.

So essentially, how can I initiate a first kiss with enough warning as possible so that it still feels natural(if I just say something like “can I kiss you?” She will psych herself out of it, I know her well enough to know that) but also with enough warning so that she can pull back/reject it if she doesn’t want it?

(I’m not worried if she does reject it, one of the perks about her more unusual personality is she doesn’t feel awkward after a rejection and I’m confident enough to not get butt hurt if she does reject it)

Edit: I made some changes to grammar bc I was back reading and OML. I see why I failed one of my eng papers

I literally don't know what to do this is the only place I feel comfortable sharing lol. So I met this girl a few months ago through a friend, and we've only met up once at a party since we go to different colleges and stuff. When we met at that party, she told me that she had a crush on this girl (who we will call M). I didn't think anything of it because at the time I didn't like her.

Fast forward to now, and I'm thinking I'm starting to have a crush on her. We were on the phone for like 2 whole hours and I asked her about M because she said that M was going to ask her out but was too nervous to, even though they've already confessed their feelings to eachother. I was a bit confused and asked her when M said she was gonna ask her out and it's been nearly 2 months and this girl still hasn't done it.

I can tell she was a little annoyed, but with her it's very hard to tell if she has a crush on someone or not. She keeps her feelings to herself a lot of the time, and only really talks about crushes when somone else asks her about it.

I don't know what to do this is so sad 💔

Hey guys :) I’m going on a date with this girl of Sunday and I DONT KNOW WHAT TO BRING!!! Like I want to get her flowers but idk if that’s lil first date acceptable. I’ve never done this before please send help and advice

Btw I’ve never written or even used this acc or reddit in general I don’t even know why i have it but since i need advice might as well use it. Basically i(16f) moved to a new high school and noticed this one girl (16f)lets call her 23. She’s my parallel (basically we’re in the same grade but not in the same class) she’s in class b and im in class d, i lwk kinda like her ig? I first noticed 23 first week of school but thought nothing of it i thought she was a senior so i was like i prob have no chance w her( not like i have a chance either) but then i find out shes in my grade and her classmate is a school president. So i ask my cousin to figure/find 23s name and last name. Boom my cousin get it done and now i get to stalking( sound and probably iss very creepy) i find her socials. first is her fb acc cuz we use that shi in my country to this day and thennn i find her ig but its private so idrk whats going on in there. Then i get to stalking her family i find her aunt and then i find her mom. But my mom has her aunt in her friend list and NOW im confused cuz wthelly? And i ask my mom about it im very nonchalant and like do u know ts person by any chance an dshe goes “oh yeahh i do i think she might be our relative(23s aunt&mom basically)” my heart drops to my ass all this stalking and love songs later i find out shes my relative?!😀💔 but thenn i ask my mom to explain how and if even are we related she explains that her gradmas brothers grandchildren are 23s mom&aunt. Man ts shi confusing ash basically me and 23 are 3rd cousins😀 sooo i came to seek help wtf should i do should i give up before its too late orr?? Sorry if this shi is too long my ass needed to tell someone other than my friends😪

really need some genuine advice because I honestly don’t know what to do so I have this friend who am really close to shes a lesbian and we’ve been friends since middle school we’ve graduated high school recently and the thing is I’ve had a crush on her since 10th grade It’s been four years now and my feelings haven’t gone away shes a really important person to me and I genuinely don’t want to lose her I genuinely do not know what I will do without her But at the same time having these feelings for so long is starting to hurt what makes it harder is that throughout these past four years she’s told me about her crushes and my stupid ahh decided to helped her with every single one of them I’ve listened to her talk about the people she likes and supported her with every decision she took even though a part of me wished I could be the person she liked that way none of those crushes worked out but my feelings are still here deep inside I’m stuck between two options Should I tell her how I feel but not text real life even if it means getting rejected because maybe finally hearing her rejected means getting slapped by reality will help me move on? Or should I distance myself from her and try to get over my feelings without risking our friendship?

so I (F) have loved this girl for two years now and Idfk what is going on

im frds with girl at school and we’re not in any frd grps cuz we don’t have mutual frds. she’s frds with another girl ( let’s call her opp) who absolutely DETESTS me to the bottom of her heart and I don’t like her as well because she talks shit and spreads false rumours abt me.

so around a month ago I found out thru a frd that my crush knows I like her cuz opp pays really close attention to me and came to that conclusion based on how I stare at her when she’s talking and laughing across the room. and after I found this information I was really scared cuz 1. I heard a lot abt how she is stalking me and she’s creepy ok and 2. I did not want anyone to know that I like my crush I go to a Christian school.

and also REALLY confused cuz my crush knew that I like her for half a year already but the time I found out. and we did quite a lot within a span of half a year that logically, you wouldn’t do with someone unless u like them back. Like going out one on one. Or sending long ass paragraphs at 4am or tell each other to eat and sleep. If u knew that person likes u but u don’t like them back romantically. And im 70% sure she doesn’t like me back

I know she’s a person who doesn’t know clearly what she wants so maybe thats her personality

after i found out this information I guess I acted kind of weird knowing that she doesn’t know I know she knows i like her so maybe I sort of distanced a bit for a week cuz usually I’m the one who initiated things and finds her first

and for some unknown reason she’s acting cold now like she doesn’t want to talk to me or like she’s embarrassed and afraid of public scrutiny. She’d chat with me in class on occasional days, but when i try to text her she appears even drier than usual. I really tried to move on because my frds think I deserve better since she doesn’t really stand up for herself but I know that deep down I still care for her a lot

What should I do in these situations 😭 how do I move on or should I try to talk to her abt this? Or anything else? Pls help a sister out

Didn’t know wether to put this under looking for advice or questions/discussion so please tell me if I tagged this wrong.

My girlfriend has yet to come out to her family, however we are starting to approach 6 months and I want to make her something for our anniversary. What’s something sweet I can make for our anniversary that won’t get us caught?? (I thought maybe something like cookies but I love making physical things too)

ааа, я не понимаю как себя вестии, мне страшно. я би, знала это и до влюбленности в неё, но была не уверена, а сейчас убедилась. (ранее у меня была мимолетная симпатия в девушку, но мы даже не были особо знакомы, и скорее всего она гетеро, потому с этим я ничего не делала). я знаю что она тоже би, так как мы говорили на эту тему, но проблема заключается в том, что ни кто из нас ни разу не были в отношениях с девушкой. мы знакомы всего месяц, живём в одной комнате, в общаге. всего нас пятеро, и одна из нас гомофобка та ещё, поэтому мне страшно. я не хочу торопиться особо, ну и как то уже хочется чего-то. в общем я не понимаю

I have no one really to talk to this about but I love this girl but I haven’t confessed cause im scared of what might happen. For one I don’t want to lose her cause she’s already struggling mentally and I don’t want to burden her with me but also cause she likes someone but won’t tell me who and if I confess and that persons not me I won’t want to talk to her again out of embarrassment. Also I don’t like how I look myself I hate my weight and how I look in the mirror. Who would like me like this man