r/InfertilityBabies • u/AutoModerator • Sep 25 '26

Postpartum Chat Friday Postpartum Thread

We understand that infertility and its effects don't go away once you have a child. This thread is reserved for postpartum folks who have questions, comments, venting, and anything else related to postpartum matters following IF.

Please do not post pregnancy announcements in this thread. Announcements should be made in the Cautious Intros/First Trimester thread.

Those with a child/children >=1yo, dialogue can also be located in the daily toddler thread.

Got a preschooler or older? Check out the daily Big Kid Thread!

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u/CalaverasTriste Sep 25 '26

Someone asked in my FB bump group who all is pregnant again already and when they’re expecting, and no judgement, but it’s wild how many people are already pregnant again and even some due before year end.

I feel like I’m at capacity trying to handle one baby, work, and still having a semblance of a personal life and as much as I’d like another baby, I don’t know how we’d manage both time wise and financially with rising costs and daycare

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u/LitigatorLIVFe Sep 25 '26

Not me trying to find time to have sex with my husband. If I can’t find that time how the hell would I have another kid.

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u/margogogo Sep 25 '26

What is this sex you speak of?

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u/Major-Art-3111 Sep 25 '26

Hahaha yes we are literally unable with a contact napper and cosleeper and 8 week peak fussiness. But even with my first who slept im the bassinet we were too exhausted for ages, I think only by 6ish months postpartum maybe even 9 we were more regularly managing. The good news is by the time she turned two we had a fantastic sex life again.. Just in time for #2. We will get there again! (infertility also wrecked us for a while in that department)

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u/LitigatorLIVFe Sep 25 '26

Same! I did so many cycles of IVF back to back where you can’t even have sex. And then I was on pelvic rest for most of my pregnancy. I know things are a season and I’ve been with Mr. Lit 2037449 years but it will be nice eventually to be out of the sex for TTC/IVF/pregnancy season.

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u/margogogo Sep 25 '26

I was going to say the same, infertility put a major dent in our sex life and then I had no sex drive when I was pregnant. We’re not the best at prioritizing it even in normal times and with the baby and the dog and the exhaustion… we’ll see!

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u/CosmicGreen_Giraffe3 Sep 25 '26

Haha. When I hear about people getting pregnant again early on, I seriously wonder when they have time for sex.

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u/rbecg Sep 25 '26

This!!! I keep meaning to try harder and then somehow it’s been another sexless week.

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u/LitigatorLIVFe 29d ago

Sleeping with my husband is better than ‘sleeping with my husband’ right now

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u/E-as-in-elephant Sep 25 '26

This was crazy to me too. One woman in my fb group had twins via IVF and then got spontaneously pregnant with another baby who was born before her twins turned 1. I couldn’t even FATHOM. Made sure my birth control was on point after that story.

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u/agnyeszka Sep 25 '26

everybody is so different (pejorative)

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u/Kitsune-258 Sep 25 '26

I’ve been so surprised by this too! 2 under 2 is a no thanks for me

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u/rbecg Sep 25 '26

There have been several announcements in my latest bumpgroups and I’m an absolute meanie mean grinch in my head about it which I know is not me being my best self and yet there you have it

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u/RegalBeagleWoof Sep 26 '26

lol 🤣 I’ve seen a few people posting that in my group. I got on birth control at my 6 week visit because I do not want to be pregnant until my baby is at least one. I’ll probably go off after then and see if I can get this mythical free sex baby. But I’m not holding out hope as my one and only pregnancy was from my FET.

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u/crescentmoon-13 Sep 25 '26

6m appointment checked off and I am sitting in our carport with little girl conked out in the backseat. I’m afraid to open the door in case I wake her but I need to peeeee. Mostly though, feeling grateful for the nap time and for a good visit. These months are flying by so fast.